I've been obscenely busy. So I've been quietly and creepily stalking you all. Hope you don't mind. Basically the long and short is: K has been on and off sick and going through this super fun rebellious stage that requires near constant supervision while she's conscious. I have to take her to the pediatrician today because she's ear pulling. I have work tomorrow night, then my mother is having another cardiac catheterization on Thursday because her condition has deteriorated. My product is coming in on Friday or Monday and I have a launch to organize.
On a lighter note, I did a little giveaway where people just entered baby names for a girl..... Oh dear lord. I know some people side eye Kennedy's name (DD1) but some of the suggestions were just plain ludicrous.
I would like to throat punch the student who is working in my lab. (I realize I complain about my undergrads a lot ) He was supposed to be working in the lab almost full time all summer and would be helping to take over a project I am working on while I am out on ML. Well, he broke it to us that he decided to take a class this summer and will hardly be available, and mostly not until August. Wut. I have so much shit to teach him and there is no way he will learn all brand new stuff and actually retain it and be able to repeat it on his own three months from now. Oh, and the best part is he got a grant to work in the lab this summer and be paid for it, but somehow thinks he will still be getting that money while only working like 5 hours a week. Nopenopenope.
I had a serious CTJ talk with my boss about this situation yesterday because I have been stressing out about it. My boss is very understanding, but now I feel like I am totally leaving him in the dust this summer with no one to work on my current project while I am out.
I like this kid who works with us a lot, so I am pissed at him that he over-promised and then backed out on us. People fucking suck.
Post by sarcaztic10 on May 10, 2016 10:31:11 GMT -5
I had to call and see when I could register DS1 for 1st grade at the public school here. It was an interesting conversation. I would really like to have everything done and ready before I give birth but it looks like that wont happen. The office person basically told me to come in and register him 2 weeks before school starts because they wont have the paperwork available until then. I told her that may not be the best time and did she know if the paperwork would come in earlier to them. She then offered to have me register him 2 weeks after school starts... Ugh, uh... no. I guess I will just have to deal with bringing an infant with me to register DS1 that day.
Every time I think about DS1 going to public school for the first time, riding a bus for the first time, and walking to class on his own etc etc I get really sad/nervous/all sorts of other emotions.
Post by littlesthobo on May 10, 2016 10:42:43 GMT -5
cocobellaf big hugs for you. You are not crazy but I'm worried for you and I really think you need to talk to someone about what you are feeling. Show them everything you just wrote. Your OB, family doctor, close friend. I'm no doctor but you could be suffering from depression and it might be pregnancy-related. It sounds like way more than mood swings.
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way cocobellaf, pregnancy is really tough and it's ok to feel all sorts of different feelings. However, I'm concerned for you and I think you need to talk to your doctor about these feelings as soon as possible. Depression is so common, I suffer from it myself, but you deserve to live a happy life. You don't have to go through this alone. We're here for you.
cocobellaf, pregnancy can really eff people up, with all the hormonal changes. This may be a part of that, or it may be something bigger. I'd encourage you to talk to your OB about it, because while this isn't uncommon, it definitely needs to be addressed to get you back on the right track. Hugs. I've been in that place before and it was awful. You need to be taking care of YOU right now.
cocobellaf, Girl, you are not weak. You've had an insanely trying and difficult pregnancy that would wear anyone down. Things have been tough, but you need to know that no one would be better off without you around. No one here thinks you're crazy and we're all here for you. Don't worry about what anyone thinks. You really need to talk to your doctor. The hormones during pregnancy can wreak havoc on you. You can start to get PPD before you even deliver. It's not weak to tell a professional that you need help and it's definitely not weak to accept help. If you need anything at all, you let us know.
cocobellaf , Girl, you are not weak. You've had an insanely trying and difficult pregnancy that would wear anyone down. Things have been tough, but you need to know that no one would be better off without you around. No one here thinks you're crazy and we're all here for you. Don't worry about what anyone thinks. You really need to talk to your doctor. The hormones during pregnancy can wreak havoc on you. You can start to get PPD before you even deliver. It's not weak to tell a professional that you need help and it's definitely not weak to accept help. If you need anything at all, you let us know.
cocobellaf , +100000 to all of this, she said it much better than I could have.
You have had a really, really tough pregnancy. Very much harder than most. Please, please talk to your OB. I know there are meds you can safely take while pregnant and I think you might benefit greatly from one. Between the hormones and the lack of sleep and the pain, there is nothing easy about what you are dealing with. Please call your doctor as soon as possible.
TheTuna15 I hope your mom's condition improves. Also, I can only imagine the names people submitted! Care to share some of the worst?
acorn99 WUT?! TP that kid, how irresponsible of him! I feel like such an old lady saying this but kids these days. Yeesh.
cavewmn thank you for the reminder, I completely forgot to look for a new pedi since the one we originally picked left the clinic! Woops!
cocobellaf absolutely talk to your doctor about how you're feeling. Like Tuna said above, PPD can start before baby even arrives, and to me it sounds like what you are experiencing. Also, don't feel bad for these thoughts, I don't know you IRL but I'm guessing that this is not who you usually are, and it's not something that you can control. I'm sure you and your doctor can come up with a plan to get you feeling back to normal quickly. We're all here for you! Also, screw your family. You're not weak at all, you've had an incredibly tough go this whole pregnancy so don't let anyone make you feel bad!
I had to call and see when I could register DS1 for 1st grade at the public school here. It was an interesting conversation. I would really like to have everything done and ready before I give birth but it looks like that wont happen. The office person basically told me to come in and register him 2 weeks before school starts because they wont have the paperwork available until then. I told her that may not be the best time and did she know if the paperwork would come in earlier to them. She then offered to have me register him 2 weeks after school starts... Ugh, uh... no. I guess I will just have to deal with bringing an infant with me to register DS1 that day.
Every time I think about DS1 going to public school for the first time, riding a bus for the first time, and walking to class on his own etc etc I get really sad/nervous/all sorts of other emotions.
I teach first grade, and we deal with this alot with the parents. They are usually so much worse than the kids with the first few days! I do have to say, the kids who ride the bus are usually much less likely to cry and get worked up than the kids whose parents walk them to the door. It will be ok! You can always call the office the first day or two just for peace of mind
They don't do K where you are in the public schools?
cocobellaf you are NOT weak. You are loved, you are important, and your life DOES matter. Please please let your OB know you are having these thoughts. This can be fixed, you do NOT need to do this alone and there are people who will help you. But you need help to fix it, please don't try and go it alone.
Again, you are loved. You are important. You matter. It will get better.
Big BIG hugs. Or hair pats, if you're not into hugs
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mcktymck, I can't even with the names. Some of the highlight girl names were: Blake December Paislee And all manner of names with extra "y"'s and "Leigh"'s.
To an extent I don't mind a lot of Liberty with names. I don't think boy names/girl names/last names are hard and fast rules. But why you gotta make it so your kid will correct whoever is spelling their name for the rest of their damn life?
Post by tikoberry99 on May 10, 2016 12:16:32 GMT -5
Blah I have to go into the field tomorrow and I'm not looking forward to the 2 hour drive there and 3 hour drive back...I also I tp drive off road on a shitty road and last time I started to get a bit sick. Counting down the weeks until my maternity leave.
Post by tikoberry99 on May 10, 2016 12:25:54 GMT -5
cocobellaf you are not crazy. I have been there before and it fucking sucks. I've gone weeks with no shower, days with barely and food, weeks not leaving the house and have thought many times about driving my car off the mountain I live on. You are not weak! You sound JUST LIKE me when I'm stuck in a bad depression. Feeling depressed and alone are the worst feeling in the world, but there is help!
I think you should talk to you OB. Zoloft is safe for pregnancy as are other anti depressants. I'm normally depresses and have high anxiety, but since becoming pregnant my symptoms have gone completely away and I think it's because the pregnancy is regulating my hormones. I'm not a doctor but it seems like you are experiencing the opposite of me and your pregnancy hormones might be causing severe depression. Please, please, please talk to your OB. He/she can diagnose you with pregnancy related depression and start you on meds so you can finally start to feel better and leave the black hole of depression.
Like I've said I've been there and it fucking sucks...pm me any time. Sometimes it helps to talk to people who have been there. (((Hugs)))
mcktymck , I can't even with the names. Some of the highlight girl names were: Blake December Paislee And all manner of names with extra "y"'s and "Leigh"'s.
To an extent I don't mind a lot of Liberty with names. I don't think boy names/girl names/last names are hard and fast rules. But why you gotta make it so your kid will correct whoever is spelling their name for the rest of their damn life?
Yep, those are terrible! haha December?! And ugh, names like Paislee where they throw in multiple Es or Ys like you mentioned are awful. I get that they're trying to be original but no. Don't.
Post by lostinfaith225 on May 10, 2016 12:29:12 GMT -5
cocobellaf Yes to what the pp said! Silas will need you and girl, you have been thru a lot. Talking to someone can help you process these feelings! I am team therapist....I have seen one on and off for 5 years.....health issues, pregnancy, my parents divorce. It helps! Talk to someone.
acorn99 I would be pissed too! Maybe your boss will come up with a better solution after the cjt.
Post by lostinfaith225 on May 10, 2016 12:34:06 GMT -5
Ps-one other thing cocobellaf My moms group social circle pretty much left me after January when I was at my worst with hg. I wasn't going anywhere, barely eating, losing weight, in a negative dark place.
After talking to my therapist, I realized they weren't understanding what I was going thru and that stereotype about anxiety.....yeah, it isn't the first thing I tell people, and they got angry because I didn't share. My therapist helped me realize they weren't true friends, nor were they sympathic to what I was going thru.
Instead, I stepped away, and reached out to others who stuck by.
Post by sarcaztic10 on May 10, 2016 12:54:14 GMT -5
melody330, They do have Kindergarten but we had him in a private program that is offered through his old daycare. We love the center he goes to and we wanted to take advantage of the private Kindergarten because they take less half days, holiday time, and snow days than the public school. We had thought about a private school for DS since we were very close to throwing in the TTC towel but those plans changed when we found out we were PG. There is no way we can afford private school and daycare costs in our area so public school is what DS1 will get.
mcktymck , I can't even with the names. Some of the highlight girl names were: Blake December Paislee And all manner of names with extra "y"'s and "Leigh"'s.
To an extent I don't mind a lot of Liberty with names. I don't think boy names/girl names/last names are hard and fast rules. But why you gotta make it so your kid will correct whoever is spelling their name for the rest of their damn life?
There is a Kynadie in my DD1's class. What the fuck is the point of that absurd spelling??
Post by sarcaztic10 on May 10, 2016 13:06:24 GMT -5
cocobellaf, I just want to echo what PP's have said. You are not weak, you are having a very difficult pregnancy and its freaking hard. You are wanted and you are important. You are not crazy. I do think that you should discuss how you are feeling with your OB because as PP's have said PPD can start before birth.
Sending you lots of love and (((hugs))) remember that we are here for you.
mcktymck , I can't even with the names. Some of the highlight girl names were: Blake December Paislee And all manner of names with extra "y"'s and "Leigh"'s.
To an extent I don't mind a lot of Liberty with names. I don't think boy names/girl names/last names are hard and fast rules. But why you gotta make it so your kid will correct whoever is spelling their name for the rest of their damn life?
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