Question about napping in the crib. DS is 8w and seems to have the nighttime thing figured out - we swaddle him at night, and he sleeps pretty well in his bassinet, wakes to feed, and goes back down pretty easily most of the time. I don't think he will sleep in his crib unswaddled, but I will certainly try. (So far the only places he reliably sleeps unswaddled for naps are the RNP and carrier). If he doesn't, one option is to swaddle him for the nap, but my concern is that he will get confused and think it's nighttime. Maybe that's stupid.
Also, we are traveling for most of July, first domestically but then to Europe with a 7h time difference so I'm pretty sure we are screwed either way. lolz. #ohshit #seemedlikeagoodideaatthetime
We swaddled at both night and for daytime naps. Somehow she knows the difference and I swear she is easier and sleeps for longer stretches during the day! And good luck with traveling! At that point I probably wouldn't be to concerned with any schedule and just happy to get sleep when I could lol
When y'all pull LO in bed, what do you do safety wise? I want to but I'm scared!
I think the general suggestion is to only do what you're comfortable with. If you're really scared it might not be for you. Try some things out during a nap that you can supervise to see how O reacts. That might make you more comfortable for night time. The only thing I'm obsessed with safety wise is keeping pillows and blankets away from his face. Our LC suggested H and I use separate blankets with baby I uncovered in between us.
Question about napping in the crib. DS is 8w and seems to have the nighttime thing figured out - we swaddle him at night, and he sleeps pretty well in his bassinet, wakes to feed, and goes back down pretty easily most of the time. I don't think he will sleep in his crib unswaddled, but I will certainly try. (So far the only places he reliably sleeps unswaddled for naps are the RNP and carrier). If he doesn't, one option is to swaddle him for the nap, but my concern is that he will get confused and think it's nighttime. Maybe that's stupid.
Also, we are traveling for most of July, first domestically but then to Europe with a 7h time difference so I'm pretty sure we are screwed either way. lolz. #ohshit #seemedlikeagoodideaatthetime
We swaddled at both night and for daytime naps. Somehow she knows the difference and I swear she is easier and sleeps for longer stretches during the day! And good luck with traveling! At that point I probably wouldn't be to concerned with any schedule and just happy to get sleep when I could lol
They know the diff:) day sleep and night sleep come from different parts of the brain:) Good luck in Europe!!
When y'all pull LO in bed, what do you do safety wise? I want to but I'm scared!
I think the general suggestion is to only do what you're comfortable with. If you're really scared it might not be for you. Try some things out during a nap that you can supervise to see how O reacts. That might make you more comfortable for night time. The only thing I'm obsessed with safety wise is keeping pillows and blankets away from his face. Our LC suggested H and I use separate blankets with baby I uncovered in between us.
I think snoris pretty much summed it up. And she is also right because for me I'm far too anxious and nervous for it to be a good choice for me. I'd lose any benefits for me simply through my nerves!
My understanding is tight fitting bedding , pillows and blankets away from the baby. A friend who co-sleeps says she won't if she or her husband are on any meds that make them groggy or drowsy.
We co sleep sometimes in the early morning around 5 or so cause he will sleep in longer if we do.... I just lay on my side and his head is by my chest and like aaemommy said I like curl my body around him We don't do it all the time though
Umm E slept so bad yesterday I thought we were in for a rough night.... But 7 hours later I feel like a new person who can conquer the world (and can't go back to sleep at 5am)
We sleep with a low light lamp on so its really easy to see him in bed with us. Every time one of us rolls over or changes position we sneak a peek at the babe and make sure pillows/blankets are still clear from his face.
Also we are really comfy with our firm mattress on the floor. The floor underneath gives extra support and being low to the ground, no major injuries would happen if he ever wiggled off during a nap or something. Not likely but somehow being low to the ground feels safer to me.
My baby used to be so easy to put to sleep! Now she fights all sleep. I fed her, swaddled, red a book and put her down at 7:45 and she's still up! I keep getting her when she cries hard and re-rocking her but no luck.
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When y'all pull LO in bed, what do you do safety wise? I want to but I'm scared!
I put him so that his head is level with my chest. I lay on my side and kind of curl my body around him (bent knees, head down, arms around him.) The pillow (which is a firm memory foam so not fluffy at all) is quite a bit above his head. I usually only use a light, breathable sheet and if it's cool I'll pull the blanket up to about my waist. This works well for us. Especially on fussy nights because in this position I can pull my boob out and he can nurse without either one of us being fully awake. Once he can roll I'll be a lot more nervous about having him in there with me, but for now it is really nice.
This is pretty much exactly what I do as well. Now that B is a champ at side-lying nursing, it's hard for me to resist pulling him into bed earlier and earlier at night. Last night he was there from 2am on lol. I can sleep soooo much more this way!!
Also k3am you co-slept with your DD also right? When did you transition her out?
helloerrbody, we actually didn't cosleep with DD - I wish we had. We basically did what you do - pulled her into bed in the mornings and got a couple extra hours of sleep that way. She was in her own room starting around 7-8 weeks, and was a crap sleeper. She woke multiple times a night to eat and then for several months took a while to get back down. When she was 7-8 months old, her pedi recommended CIO, since she didn't "need" to eat in the MOTN. It was a huge failure. CIO - she could cry for 2+ hours with no hint of falling asleep, vs feeding her and having her back to sleep within minutes. We tried lots of methods - the sleep lady shuffle, the patting, the shushing, it just didn't work for her.
DH has agreed to cosleep at least until he's able to roll over, at which point, we'll reassess.
It's kind of nice to be a STM and be able to see in hindsight a lot of places that we struggled with the first time around trying to do it the "right way" or on the "right timeline" only to learn that it caused a lot of stress and we didn't really succeed. Main two being sleep and PT'ing - both of those thingsit were just on her own terms. I wish we'd just done what made life easier on us all vs. what I thought we were supposed to do.
ETA: we did cosleep with DD for the first week or so out of desperation. I forgot about that.
My baby used to be so easy to put to sleep! Now she fights all sleep. I fed her, swaddled, red a book and put her down at 7:45 and she's still up! I keep getting her when she cries hard and re-rocking her but no luck.
This is when I struggle with Ry it's the only time he fights me with sleep!
My baby used to be so easy to put to sleep! Now she fights all sleep. I fed her, swaddled, red a book and put her down at 7:45 and she's still up! I keep getting her when she cries hard and re-rocking her but no luck.
Not going to lie... This worries me. DS has been great to put to sleep but he's a couple of weeks behind O.
How long has she been fighting sleep? The last few days?
My only ideas are that maybe 7:45 is too early for her. Maybe that used to work but now that she's older not so much? And maybe try a bath? DS sleeps like a rock after a bath (usually)
My baby used to be so easy to put to sleep! Now she fights all sleep. I fed her, swaddled, red a book and put her down at 7:45 and she's still up! I keep getting her when she cries hard and re-rocking her but no luck.
Not going to lie... This worries me. DS has been great to put to sleep but he's a couple of weeks behind O.
How long has she been fighting sleep? The last few days?
My only ideas are that maybe 7:45 is too early for her. Maybe that used to work but now that she's older not so much? And maybe try a bath? DS sleeps like a rock after a bath (usually)
Just my two cents but I would go the other route and think 7:45 is maybe alittle to late and O is getting over tierd and that's why she is fighting you? Have you tried putting her down earlier? 7:15 or maybe even 7?
Not going to lie... This worries me. DS has been great to put to sleep but he's a couple of weeks behind O.
How long has she been fighting sleep? The last few days?
My only ideas are that maybe 7:45 is too early for her. Maybe that used to work but now that she's older not so much? And maybe try a bath? DS sleeps like a rock after a bath (usually)
Just my two cents but I would go the other route and think 7:45 is maybe alittle to late and O is getting over tierd and that's why she is fighting you? Have you tried putting her down earlier? 7:15 or maybe even 7?
That's true could be the other way. I was basing off DS's 8:30 bed time which is currently working (but he naps until 6 or 6:30...)
Not going to lie... This worries me. DS has been great to put to sleep but he's a couple of weeks behind O.
How long has she been fighting sleep? The last few days?
My only ideas are that maybe 7:45 is too early for her. Maybe that used to work but now that she's older not so much? And maybe try a bath? DS sleeps like a rock after a bath (usually)
Just my two cents but I would go the other route and think 7:45 is maybe alittle to late and O is getting over tierd and that's why she is fighting you? Have you tried putting her down earlier? 7:15 or maybe even 7?
That thought actually occurred to me last night. She usually falls asleep around 5:30 and wakes up at 6:30 but I think it might help to try to move that nap up and go to bed earlier.
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My baby used to be so easy to put to sleep! Now she fights all sleep. I fed her, swaddled, red a book and put her down at 7:45 and she's still up! I keep getting her when she cries hard and re-rocking her but no luck.
Not going to lie... This worries me. DS has been great to put to sleep but he's a couple of weeks behind O.
How long has she been fighting sleep? The last few days?
My only ideas are that maybe 7:45 is too early for her. Maybe that used to work but now that she's older not so much? And maybe try a bath? DS sleeps like a rock after a bath (usually)
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DS will be 6 weeks on Thursday and our sleep so far has been take it where we can get it - he naps throughout the day, on me, in his rock n play, wrapped, etc. In the eve he is fussy for a few hours and can't seem to be satisfied until he finally can be persuaded to fall asleep - usually around 10 he's out for the night. The nights are killing me and making me super anxious. Is it too early to start a more steady routine? Would it be helpful? At this point he doesn't really "play" when he's awake. At first he may be "active alert" which usually turns into crying/fussing pretty quick. I feel guilty for feeling a sense of dread when he is awake because I can't seem to get him to be calm for very long. Sorry this post is rambly, I'm definitely venting a little.
Post by helloerrbody on Jul 6, 2016 9:19:44 GMT -5
We are on a late night schedule but it works for us now so I'm not inclined to try and change it. DS goes down for the night around 10 and we don't get up for the day until 9 or so. MH works late so this schedule gives him time with baby in the evening.
We are on a late night schedule but it works for us now so I'm not inclined to try and change it. DS goes down for the night around 10 and we don't get up for the day until 9 or so. MH works late so this schedule gives him time with baby in the evening.
+1 to the late night schedule. I'll worry more about a specific bedtime once were getting anything resembling a sleeping pattern.
We are on a late night schedule but it works for us now so I'm not inclined to try and change it. DS goes down for the night around 10 and we don't get up for the day until 9 or so. MH works late so this schedule gives him time with baby in the evening.
We are on a late night schedule but it works for us now so I'm not inclined to try and change it. DS goes down for the night around 10 and we don't get up for the day until 9 or so. MH works late so this schedule gives him time with baby in the evening.
We did this with ds1. This time around I'm putting ds2 to bed usually around the same time as ds1 because that's when he gets tired. It's a bit of a schedule but not at all rigid, and there are still days where he stays up with H and I.
I would do the later schedule also if I were a SAHM. It would be SOOOOOO nice since I am not really a morning person. I think with DS1's schedule, DH's work and eventually my work schedule, the earlier is better. But I HATE dinner time for the kids. It's too early for me. So we don't do family dinners yet....DH and I talked yesterday how we may starting having 6pm dinner given the set up of our condo and how it will NOT work out for us in a few months once DS2 is sleep trained but sleeping in a lofted bedroom.
babycaps - I'm old. I get hangry if I don't eat by 6ish.
I grew up w late dinners. Smaller too. In Brazil, you eat a large meal for lunch. And a smaller but later dinner. Like 9-10pm for some! I like a 730-8pm dinner.
Welp, I think I'm the hippy dippy odd lady out here, but we're doing baby-led everything, including sleep. He sleeps when he's tired and we more or less just go about our natural evening routine. He's naturally hungry around 8, give or take, so we do that feeding in bed, but that's just because that's when I'd naturally get in bed and read or tcf or pinterest and wind down. FWIW he sleeps like a champ and we never struggle to make him go to sleep, well, because we never try to make him go to sleep. Feel free to bring this up and torture me with it when I have a toddler who is bouncing off the walls at 3am. For now I choose the path of least resistance.
Welp, I think I'm the hippy dippy odd lady out here, but we're doing baby-led everything, including sleep. He sleeps when he's tired and we more or less just go about our natural evening routine. He's naturally hungry around 8, give or take, so we do that feeding in bed, but that's just because that's when I'd naturally get in bed and read or tcf or pinterest and wind down. FWIW he sleeps like a champ and we never struggle to make him go to sleep, well, because we never try to make him go to sleep. Feel free to bring this up and torture me with it when I have a toddler who is bouncing off the walls at 3am. For now I choose the path of least resistance.
This is us except I feel like I'm constantly trying to make her go to sleep! She gets overtired so easily it seems and she just fusses when she's awake and not attached to a boob or being rocked/bounced. But she's definitely on her own schedule. It works for us since I have erratic sleep habits anyways.
E seems to be working out her own routine. She has slept from 730-9, 930-230, and 3-530/6 for the past 5 days straight. She still sleeps a lot during the day too. Mi wish I could get her on a late night scheduls. When I go back to work I will work varying shifts but mostly nights. Late night would be easier for all...
Anyone else dealing with 45 min naps? DS did and I can't remember when it started. I tried everything to no avail and then it magically stopped at 6 months. I think I am just going to accept it this time.
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