So I was at my grandparent's house this weekend and I was complaining to my grandma about my swollen feet. Well, she told me to drink distilled water to help with the swelling and then gave me a jug yesterday to start out with. Grandmas! Of course she'd have a random jug of distilled water lying around.
Anyway, I'm on day two of distilled water and I'm happy to report that I've had minimal swelling. Grandmas have the best advice!
DH really wants to go to beerfest this weekend. He really wants me to go as well. I can get a DD ticket for $20 but I feel like that's a lot of money to pay to babysit drunk ppl lol. The people we go with are great friends of ours and all the guys have known each other literally since kindergarten. So when they get together to drink...they REALLY drink. Just doesn't sound fun for me I'm going to go bc he really wants me to, but this pregnant belly better get me free food from the drunks lol.
So this weekend was very emotional. My bf who has been struggling with alcoholism took it way to far Saturday while I was at work. Its not that he drinks a lot its that when he drinks he cant stop. I got home at 11:30pm to all the lights on, dogs loose, and empty hard liquor bottles. His coat and phone were still at home so I had no idea what happened. I spent the night calling around and driving around trying to find him. Noone had seen him and his truck was gone. I finally come back home because I don't know what else to do. At 5 am I get a call from him asking if he came home that night. He was at detox. The only story we could figure out was that he decided to drive to the bar (thankfully not hurting anyone on the way) and the bartender called him into police because bf was to drunk to take care of himself. It was a huge eye opener for bf and he cried. It was so hard to see him in that state but I am glad that he realizes what alcohol does to him. I am hoping this changes everything for him, for our relationship and our lo.
So this weekend was very emotional. My bf who has been struggling with alcoholism took it way to far Saturday while I was at work. Its not that he drinks a lot its that when he drinks he cant stop. I got home at 11:30pm to all the lights on, dogs loose, and empty hard liquor bottles. His coat and phone were still at home so I had no idea what happened. I spent the night calling around and driving around trying to find him. Noone had seen him and his truck was gone. I finally come back home because I don't know what else to do. At 5 am I get a call from him asking if he came home that night. He was at detox. The only story we could figure out was that he decided to drive to the bar (thankfully not hurting anyone on the way) and the bartender called him into police because bf was to drunk to take care of himself. It was a huge eye opener for bf and he cried. It was so hard to see him in that state but I am glad that he realizes what alcohol does to him. I am hoping this changes everything for him, for our relationship and our lo.
Oh dear. I'm really really really sorry that you have to go through all of this. As a woman who left her husband because he's an alcoholic, I can relate more than I ever want to.
With that being said, he can't drink anymore. Not on Friday nights, not on the weekend, not on special occasions. When an alcoholic picks up one drink it's too much and at the same time it also isn't enough. I sincerely from the bottom of my heart hope that he starts to go to meetings and therapy because it sounds like he needs it. You and your baby deserve better than this and I really and truly hope this was enough of an eye opener for him to realize that he needs help. If you ever need anyone to talk to, you can always message me. Do you have family nearby that you can lean on? A close friend that you can talk to? Have you checked out Al Anon?
saralynn91 Holy fuck, I'm so sorry that happened. I'm very thankful that he's ok, but I hope that scared the shit outta him to slow down or even stop. A pregnant woman should not be driving around after midnight looking for her DH.
So I was at my grandparent's house this weekend and I was complaining to my grandma about my swollen feet. Well, she told me to drink distilled water to help with the swelling and then gave me a jug yesterday to start out with. Grandmas! Of course she'd have a random jug of distilled water lying around.
Anyway, I'm on day two of distilled water and I'm happy to report that I've had minimal swelling. Grandmas have the best advice!
Is that okay to do while you're pregnant? I know some people drink distilled water because it gives you the shits real bad and so they use it to lose weight. I'd ask your doctor about that one
saralynn91 Sorry you are going through this. Sounds like a very emotional weekend! I don't have any advice, just wanted to say to stay strong and hopefully your SO will get the help he needs.
So I was at my grandparent's house this weekend and I was complaining to my grandma about my swollen feet. Well, she told me to drink distilled water to help with the swelling and then gave me a jug yesterday to start out with. Grandmas! Of course she'd have a random jug of distilled water lying around.
Anyway, I'm on day two of distilled water and I'm happy to report that I've had minimal swelling. Grandmas have the best advice!
Is that okay to do while you're pregnant? I know some people drink distilled water because it gives you the shits real bad and so they use it to lose weight. I'd ask your doctor about that one
TMI....I didn't even think of that but it would explain my explosive diarrhea this morning. I'm not drinking another glass until I go to the doc tomorrow. Thank you for bringing this to my attention!
So this weekend was very emotional. My bf who has been struggling with alcoholism took it way to far Saturday while I was at work. Its not that he drinks a lot its that when he drinks he cant stop. I got home at 11:30pm to all the lights on, dogs loose, and empty hard liquor bottles. His coat and phone were still at home so I had no idea what happened. I spent the night calling around and driving around trying to find him. Noone had seen him and his truck was gone. I finally come back home because I don't know what else to do. At 5 am I get a call from him asking if he came home that night. He was at detox. The only story we could figure out was that he decided to drive to the bar (thankfully not hurting anyone on the way) and the bartender called him into police because bf was to drunk to take care of himself. It was a huge eye opener for bf and he cried. It was so hard to see him in that state but I am glad that he realizes what alcohol does to him. I am hoping this changes everything for him, for our relationship and our lo.
Wow that is incredibly scary. I'm really glad he didn't kill someone or himself while he was out driving. It sounds like he needs a major, major reality check. I hope he will take the steps necessary to help combat his addiction. Hugs to you.
Post by lgsdesigner on Feb 9, 2015 14:17:40 GMT -5
saralynn91 - Big hugs to you. I know what it's like to be with someone who has major alochol issues (my ex-husband was like that), and I hope this eye opener helps him realize how bad it has gotten, and he gets the help he needs.
Is that okay to do while you're pregnant? I know some people drink distilled water because it gives you the shits real bad and so they use it to lose weight. I'd ask your doctor about that one
I was also thinking this might not be a great idea too. Doesn't distilled water actually dehydrate you more than hydrate you??
I don't know. According to the internet (yah yah I know) it doesn't contain the amount of vitamins and minerals that tap water would contain and that's the main reason why. I'll report back tomorrow. I'm going to see my OB so I'll ask her.
So this weekend was very emotional. My bf who has been struggling with alcoholism took it way to far Saturday while I was at work. Its not that he drinks a lot its that when he drinks he cant stop. I got home at 11:30pm to all the lights on, dogs loose, and empty hard liquor bottles. His coat and phone were still at home so I had no idea what happened. I spent the night calling around and driving around trying to find him. Noone had seen him and his truck was gone. I finally come back home because I don't know what else to do. At 5 am I get a call from him asking if he came home that night. He was at detox. The only story we could figure out was that he decided to drive to the bar (thankfully not hurting anyone on the way) and the bartender called him into police because bf was to drunk to take care of himself. It was a huge eye opener for bf and he cried. It was so hard to see him in that state but I am glad that he realizes what alcohol does to him. I am hoping this changes everything for him, for our relationship and our lo.
Oh dear. I'm really really really sorry that you have to go through all of this. As a woman who left her husband because he's an alcoholic, I can relate more than I ever want to.
With that being said, he can't drink anymore. Not on Friday nights, not on the weekend, not on special occasions. When an alcoholic picks up one drink it's too much and at the same time it also isn't enough. I sincerely from the bottom of my heart hope that he starts to go to meetings and therapy because it sounds like he needs it. You and your baby deserve better than this and I really and truly hope this was enough of an eye opener for him to realize that he needs help. If you ever need anyone to talk to, you can always message me. Do you have family nearby that you can lean on? A close friend that you can talk to? Have you checked out Al Anon?
Thank you I really appreciate it.
Ive been close to leaving before, but I can never stay away. It's very hard because he is the sweetest, most amazing man when he stays sober. And his family is finally starting to see what's happening and everyone is joining together to help him. His mother told him that he will lose what he has if he doesn't change and she wont allow her grandchild or me to go through that. I guess his father was the same way (but way worse) so she knows.
I think he realizes that he cant touch anymore alcohol. He has refused treatment currently but I am getting list of support groups that he should try going to that may help.
I honestly don't share much with anyone besides his mom. If anyone else gets any idea on what's going on they immediately jump to me leaving him instead of trying to help him and be supportive.
Hopefully this is the last event and we can move forward into happier times.
saralynn91, I know you want to protect him but you also need to protect yourself and your LO. I'm not saying you have to leave him right now, but the fact that he is refusing treatment is a really bad sign, especially if these sort of things are a pattern for him. Make sure you're allowing yourself to get support, too. You're going through this also.
Post by brittneysandra on Feb 9, 2015 14:23:55 GMT -5
saralynn91- So Sorry you had to go through something like this! I hope your SO gets the help he needs to be able to be sober and be there for you and LO ::hugs::
SassyPants150, lgsdesigner, CTri17, udubbaby Would anyone be down for a Fitness Friday Check-In or something like that? I know we did the Holiday one at TD, but I feel like that kind of fizzled. Maybe if we did weekly, especially getting towards the end, it would give some of us a little more motivation to get to the gym or to get active...
***I tagged the ladies I can remember off my head that are pretty regularly active at the gym. Not meaning to offend or forget anyone.
yep for sure I'd be down, it will be good for motivation!
I think it was really embarrassing to him too to have his almost 7 month pregnant SO come bail him out.
I thank God that the night didn't end worse.
And I would never jeopardize the safety of my LO over staying with him. I am just going to try my hardest to support him and help him till I have exhausted all resources.
Oh dear. I'm really really really sorry that you have to go through all of this. As a woman who left her husband because he's an alcoholic, I can relate more than I ever want to.
With that being said, he can't drink anymore. Not on Friday nights, not on the weekend, not on special occasions. When an alcoholic picks up one drink it's too much and at the same time it also isn't enough. I sincerely from the bottom of my heart hope that he starts to go to meetings and therapy because it sounds like he needs it. You and your baby deserve better than this and I really and truly hope this was enough of an eye opener for him to realize that he needs help. If you ever need anyone to talk to, you can always message me. Do you have family nearby that you can lean on? A close friend that you can talk to? Have you checked out Al Anon?
Thank you I really appreciate it.
Ive been close to leaving before, but I can never stay away. It's very hard because he is the sweetest, most amazing man when he stays sober. And his family is finally starting to see what's happening and everyone is joining together to help him. His mother told him that he will lose what he has if he doesn't change and she wont allow her grandchild or me to go through that. I guess his father was the same way (but way worse) so she knows.
I think he realizes that he cant touch anymore alcohol. He has refused treatment currently but I am getting list of support groups that he should try going to that may help.
I honestly don't share much with anyone besides his mom. If anyone else gets any idea on what's going on they immediately jump to me leaving him instead of trying to help him and be supportive.
Hopefully this is the last event and we can move forward into happier times.
I'm going to be very frank here. Alcoholics cannot do it alone. They need outside help from a support group and therapy. Giving him an ultimatum may be what it takes for him to seek out help. Either he gets help or you leave is a good ultimatum to make. There are free programs out there that will help him but he has to be willing to go and make the effort otherwise it's useless. Best of luck to you and I really hope it is the last time. In the meantime, you need to get a plan in place and you need to build a support system because you can't do this alone. It's too much for anyone to tackle by themselves. If you find that family and friends aren't the support system that you need then you can always try Al Anon. The people there are amazing and the program is free.
Post by lgsdesigner on Feb 9, 2015 14:36:29 GMT -5
Does anyone else have anxiety about your alarm clock going off, so you are unable to get a decent night's sleep because you are anticipating waking up? That's me. It's annoying.
Why is it so frowned upon for pregnant ladies to have pockets in their effing clothes? Maternity pants have back pockets, but not front pockets. Of course yoga pants don't have pockets. Only one of my maternity jackets has pockets. The rest are pocketless. I have to choose which pants to wear with with jacket just to make sure I have somewhere to put my phone and keys. Ugh.
YES!!!
I wear an insulin pump and I look very ridiculous with this bulge up under boobs. It would really nice to have a fucking pocket to stick this thing inside of.
I did see maternity pants with pockets but they wanted over $100 for them and I'm just not going to shell out that kind of money for clothes that I'll only wear for a few months anyway.
Post by veganontuesdays on Feb 9, 2015 14:49:08 GMT -5
saralynn91 I am really sorry you are going through this. My ex BF was an alcoholic (still is) and it is such a hard journey on both partners. I really hope that this was an eye opener for him and that he changes. I will definitely keep you both in my thoughts as I am sure it will only get harder before it gets easier, especially with a LO on the way.
Does anyone else have anxiety about your alarm clock going off, so you are unable to get a decent night's sleep because you are anticipating waking up? That's me. It's annoying.
THIS. Not all the time because my H gets up before me Tues-Fri and then wakes me up rather than an alarm but Mondays are my nemesis. Last week Monday I had a dream that I was late for work so I was up every 5 minutes for like 3 hours. UGH.
Does anyone else have anxiety about your alarm clock going off, so you are unable to get a decent night's sleep because you are anticipating waking up? That's me. It's annoying.
I check my alarm before it goes off to make sure it's on. Mind you, my alarm always goes off because I never turn it off. I'm glad I'm not the only one up before their alarm.
Post by pinkbarebear on Feb 9, 2015 14:51:21 GMT -5
I just asked to babysit an 8 month old tomorrow. So now I'm forced to clean. I'm glad though. I need the motivation and I get to cuddle with little squirt.
saralynn91,have you considered attending an al-anon meeting? I think you could use some more advice and wisdom from others who have been there about what kind of support is needed and how to protect you and your LO in the meantime.
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