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[jax1182014]

Hello GKU. I've been lurking here for a bit but after CD 1 started 2 days ago, I thought now would be a good time to intro. My husband and I have been married since Oct 2011. We welcomed a daughter in 2014, so she is 19 months now. We have been TFAS since December. I had a CP in February a few days before my birthday :/ I figured I need some extra support since each month that my period comes I get nervous that something is wrong, and I can see it in my husbands face as well. Anyway... We are both born and raised in MA and live north of Boston. I'm a nurse and love my job. Looking forward to talking with everyone here.

[easilyunamused]

Welcome! Sorry for your loss. Hopefully your stay is short and sweet:)

[Deleted]

Welcome.

It can take up to a year for a healthy couple to get pregnant. Freaking out now is super premature.

[mikaela20]

Hi and welcome! Good luck TFAS.

[kayladawn91]

Hello and welcome! I am so sorry for your loss and hope your stay here is short.

[caer]

Welcome and good luck. I'm very sorry for your loss.

[jax1182014]

@led.. How do you know I'm healthy? And how can you tell it won't take me longer than a year?

[BabyStandish]

Welcome.

[icaughtfire]

Jun 25, 2016 19:11:32 GMT -5 jax1182014 said:

@led.. How do you know I'm healthy? And how can you tell it won't take me longer than a year?

Based on the information you provide, we would assume you're healthy as you don't mention any health issues that would effect TTC. The vast majority of couples with no issues get pregnant within a year...I don't recall the exact percentage, someone can jump in with that but I believe it's in the 80-90% range. Of course, even a couple with no fertility issues can take longer than a year but that percentage is pretty low. A year is pretty much the standard time to seek testing for fertility issues. Not getting pregnant in 6 months (or now 4 months since your CP, sorry to hear about that) is not even close to indicating a problem.


ETA: and I think your intro on Trouble TFAS after 5 months of trying was super premature as well. Impatience =/= trouble.

[Deleted]

Jun 25, 2016 19:11:32 GMT -5 jax1182014 said:

@led.. How do you know I'm healthy? And how can you tell it won't take me longer than a year?

You didn't mention any health problems that would indicate a problem. And it doesn't matter at this point if it does or doesn't take longer than a year. The point is that you haven't even been trying for a year.

[jax1182014]

Look.. I'm not going to argue.. Just looking for support and to provide support to women are TTC. Sorry if I have offended anyone on this board in anyway.

[frankenboom]

Shrug. The implication that she is freaking out is odd. It's ok to feel worried or anxious. Anecdotally, my OB told me to come back after 6 months of TFAS if not successful.

Anyway, I hope you're successful soon and don't have to stay long. Lots to be learned here!!

[wannabmama]

Welcome! I'm sorry for your loss. I'm living in MA currently, love New England!

[jax1182014]

Jun 25, 2016 20:33:24 GMT -5 wannabmama said:

Welcome! I'm sorry for your loss. I'm living in MA currently, love New England!

Are you from New England? I love it too!

[wannabmama]

Jun 25, 2016 20:42:35 GMT -5 jax1182014 said:

Jun 25, 2016 20:33:24 GMT -5 wannabmama said:

Welcome! I'm sorry for your loss. I'm living in MA currently, love New England!

Are you from New England? I love it too!

I lived up here for a couple years in high school, but didn't grow up, up here. But I've been in MA for 7 years now...starting to feel like home

[jax1182014]

Jun 25, 2016 20:27:43 GMT -5 frankenboom said:

Shrug. The implication that she is freaking out is odd. It's ok to feel worried or anxious. Anecdotally, my OB told me to come back after 6 months of TFAS if not successful.

Anyway, I hope you're successful soon and don't have to stay long. Lots to be learned here!!

Interesting! Thanks for the info

[lilsneezy]

Welcome! I'm sorry for your loss.

[kaits8]

Welcome! Another New Englander here; I'm in southern NH (within an hour of Boston)

[teachermomtobe]

Welcome and sorry for your loss. I grew up in CT and have lived in MA for 13 years now. I lived in Boston for awhile and currently south of Boston.

[ceejay]

Welcome and good luck. I'm sorry for your loss.

[Deleted]

Nobody panic!! I might be drinking.

Welcome to the board. I'm so sorry for you loss. Give it some more timr before you start worrying. I know that is easier said than done; but even if you conceived your LO quickly, your body is different now and it might be take a little bit longer.

[Deleted]

Omg, I am way more drunk than I thought. Newbie don't judge me.

[jax1182014]

@wallflwr926 you'll probably catch me drunk posting frequently so no judgement here! And you make a great point.. I did breastfeed till the same month we started trying so maybe things are just trying to get back to normal? Thanks!

[Deleted]

Jun 25, 2016 22:05:19 GMT -5 jax1182014 said:

@wallflwr926 you'll probably catch me drunk posting frequently so no judgement here! And you make a great point.. I did breastfeed till the same month we started trying so maybe things are just trying to get back to normal? Thanks!

That can definitely make a difference for some people.

Good luck!

[icedtea]

Hello and welcome! I'm sorry about your loss.

I'm in the south now, but lived most of life in New England and love it.

[ladytiffany24]

Welcome and good luck! So sorry for your loss.

[bex15]

Welcome!

[moutonrouge]

I'm sorry for your loss. Welcome and good luck!

[PirateCat]

Hello and welcome. I am also in NE.

[cheezee]

Welcome! Best of luck TFAS!