Winning (or whining) Wednesday

[katelou]

It's Wednesday! Randos, wins and whines here...

[ginabini]

I'm totally whining today. I had an OB appointment yesterday and they checked my cervix again, and there was no real change from last week. Cervix is still nice and soft, but still only a fingertip (<1cm) dilated. I was way more disappointed than I expected to be. I guess I had just been feeling so much minor cramping and things that felt different that I expected to have progressed some. I'm still just 39+2 so I know there's time... it just hit me a little harder than I thought. I think it was also compounded by the fact that my OB also already mentioned scheduling an induction for the 18th (I'm due the 10th). I definitely wasn't expecting to have to start talking about that so soon. Now it feels like some sort of deadline. I was really hoping to start labor naturally (as I'm sure we all hope) and hearing "induce" just stressed me out for whatever reason. I know a lot can happen in two weeks, but it just wasn't the appointment I'd hoped for.

[jenn83]

ginabini - I completely get the disappointment thing and I'm sorry its not what you were hoping for. When I didn't progress like I though I would I teared up right there in the OB office - darn pregnancy hormones. I know there is a lot of conflicting sides, but I was induced last time and had nothing but smooth sailing and will be induced this time as well.

Today is my last full day of work (working half day tomorrow) and my last BodyCombat workout til after the baby comes. Last time it seems like they recommended waiting a full 6 weeks to resume exercise but now it looks like you can start sooner (if you have an uncomplicated natural birth). Anyone have opinions or experience with this?

[ginabini]

Thanks so much jenn83! That is definitely reassuring to hear. I've only heard bad things about being induced like labor taking multiple days and pitocin contractions sucking the life out of you. So good to know it can still be a positive experience! And congrats on your last day of work!! Hopefully you have some time to yourself before your little bundle arrives! I'm sorry, but I don't have anything to contribute on your question. My OB hasn't mentioned it yet.

[roccobabyk]

I also have a whine. DD's 2nd birthday is mid-August and we are planning on doing a party and all that with family and close friends. The date that I originally wanted was booked so we chose the next weekend. Now the original weekend is open and my Mom is already begging us to go to a family reunion so a ton of relatives that I NEVER see or speak to can meet the new baby. I told her no because LO will only be, depending on when he arrives, about a month old. I hate thinking about all those people passing him around and touching his face. I was the same way with DD and I think my Mom thinks since this is my second that I won't care about those things anymore? He is still a newborn and I don't want people's dirty hands all over him. However, DD's birthday party will probably be the same thing, but I am actually close to all the people who will be at that. I also plan to keep him in the Ergo the whole time and they can deal.

[roccobabyk]

ginabini I try not to share my induction experience because it sucked but I know that isn't the case for everyone or even separate pregnancies. That's what I'm telling myself for this baby lol.

[ginabini]

roccobabyk, I don't blame you at all for not wanting to go to the reunion! That would make me nervous, too. I get antsy when I think about anyone else holding this LO in general (that goes away, right?! lol)... let along a massive amount of people!

[roccobabyk]

ginabini For me it took awhile for it to go away. I'm obviously less crazy about it now because DD is 2 but I am still aware of people touching her face or kissing her face. I don't like it, but people don't get it for some reason. It's the worst with family because they think the rules don't apply to them. I mean she eats dirt and puts the dog's toys in her mouth but for some reason that is different to me haha.

[willow]

I don't blame you for feeling that way, Rocco. Your baby, your rules!

We had some big storms last night and lost power. We JUST got it back about 20 min ago so we had about 13 hours total without it. That sucked. It was 90 degrees and 90% humidity yesterday so the overnight temps were terrible. Having the windows open barely helped. Sleeping in no AC with no fans at 37w pregnant is basically impossible, in case you're wondering. I'm just happy it came on before the heat started up again today.

[comicSans]

Sorry ginabini I'm right there with you, but a week ahead. It sucks. I've been doing lots of googling to reassure myself. Lots of people go from nothing to labor and dilate just fine, while others are dilated for weeks. It truly doesn't mean anything, though I understand wanting to feel like there's some progress towards the end. Last time I went from a fingertip on a Friday to water breaking Monday morning. That wasn't ideal, but things do happen spontaneously and differently for everyone. I'm working on finding ways to keep busy while I wait because that's really all I can do. You can always argue for a couple extra days if you really don't want to be induced. Medical induction isn't an option for me so I'll probably be scheduling an rcs next week if I make it to Monday without a favorable cervix. Not a choice I want to make either, but it means I'll have a baby in my arms end of next weeks at the latest.

[willow]

Add me to the list that hates how unpredictable going into labor is! I was 1.5 cm and 30% effaced yesterday at my doctor appt but I know it could mean nothing. Bah.

[beebe918]

ginabini, like you said a lot can happen in 2 weeks but I think you hear the induction horror stories more because they're more exciting (for lack of a better word). My first induction was 13.5 hours from start to finish, my pain was totally under control, I didn't feel any contractions so pitocin contractions aren't always bad. My second induction did take longer but it was mainly just 36 hours of laying around, no pain or anything. Then when labor actaully started the pitocin contractions were painful but it was so quick I would take that over pushing for an hour and a half with my first kid.

[beebe918]

DS1 is a little sick, he slept in until 9 this morning. I'm hoping he can make it until noon for a nap bc I'm dropping him off at my moms while I take the new baby to his first doctors appointment. I know my mom has stuff to do so it will be nice for her if he take a nice long nap over there.

[TheTuna15]

Just got back from my doctors appointment. 50% effaced but nothing else. Ugh. I just can't. I'm going to just whine in my corner about how much I hate being pregnant.

[katelou]

Ironically I was totally cool with 2.5 more weeks of being pregnant until my OB told me yesterday she was sure I'd go into labor before my induction on the 24th (39.5 weeks). Now I'm just in a downward spiral of trying to coax Google into telling me when I'll go into labor by searching various combinations of key words. The best I could do was a 40-year old study that says FTMs go into labor an average of 8 days after baby engages. I'm a STM so it must be sooner, right?

It doesn't help that DH and I are still arguing over whose parents should watch DD when I'm in the hospital and I ended up in tears multiple times. And my ILs solidified my hardline stance against their case by AGAIN saying they would return DD by X time, then showing up with her over an hour later with no call and no apology. I feel like I have zero control over my child once she's in their hands. DD actually felt guilty about the amount of crap food they fed her yesterday and her conscience must have been weighing on her because she felt the need to confess all she'd eaten out of the blue and said she knew it was not ok.

Arghhhhhhhhh. At least I'm off tomorrow and ILs don't watch DD again til Monday.

[tikoberry99]

At the ob for my pre op visit. I'm becoming sadder and sadder that this pregnancy is going to end because I just don't know if I'll ever be pregnant agsin. We have a perfect boy embryo on ice, but nothing is guaranteed.

[housecarder]

katelou can you just ask him to give you this so you won't be stressed during labor? I understand that he wants his parents involved but if they won't respect how you want her cared for then they shouldn't get time alone with her. Being a grandparent doesn't give you automatic rights to that child and they have to realize that.

[ginabini]

katelou, I don't blame you for being frustrated with your IL's. I would be too! Hopefully your husband comes around.

[housecarder]

Jul 6, 2016 10:49:10 GMT -5 tikoberry99 said:

At the ob for my pre op visit. I'm becoming sadder and sadder that this pregnancy is going to end because I just don't know if I'll ever be pregnant agsin. We have a perfect boy embryo on ice, but nothing is guaranteed.

Hugs. IF sucks.

[housecarder]

My win for the day is that we were becoming very desperate for child care for the girls because my schedule varies week to week so all centers were requiring us to enroll full time and still didn't have openings.

Then my youngest sister messaged me saying she was quitting her overnight job and could help. She doesn't think she will be getting a new job because her fiancé and her hope she can just stay home with her daughter who is 4. So I told her if she doesn't go back to work then I would pay her to watch the girls. It would be far less money and I wouldn't have to worry about their safety with family.

[jewelsofthenile]

katelou hugs my in laws can be frustrating in the same ways. I ask my husband what DD ate all day when she is over visiting them and he says "she snacked all day." Which means she had gummy bears, ice cream and cheese its and that's about it. At least feed her some kind of meal.

[melody330]

katelou we are going through something very similar with my ILs. We all live locally, within 20 minutes of each other. We see my parents a few times a week and they are great with ds. He stays overnight, they have a pool, and they are mindful of any "rules" we have for DS re: food, naps, sleep. We both trust them. My ILs on the other hand see DS maaaayyyybe twice a month. They feed him things like marshmallows and juice for dinner, and constantly tell dh how they feel like the second string grandparents. DS has never stayed overnight there, and MIL just had shoulder surgery and still can't drive.

She's in MHs ear about how she wants to watch DS when I go in. I shut that shit down quick.

I need to not give DS a second thought when I'm in labor. I need him to be taken care of and I need to trust they will make good decisions. Will not happen with my ILs. I told MIL that we will call her if we need anything, but we already have a plan in place.

[ellebelle]

Jul 6, 2016 10:49:10 GMT -5 tikoberry99 said:

At the ob for my pre op visit. I'm becoming sadder and sadder that this pregnancy is going to end because I just don't know if I'll ever be pregnant agsin. We have a perfect boy embryo on ice, but nothing is guaranteed.

Big huge hugs. I hate IF.

[Susan0utLoud]

comicSans, I thought induction was on the table?

It wasn't for me after a certain point and honestly getting to the point of going the RCS route was mentally so hard for me. I was really confident that I would get my vbac and then it vanished literally overnight. I hope things move forward for you soon naturally. I'm now happy with my RCS even though I didn't have much choice. I'm healing way faster this time.

[Susan0utLoud]

To all of those with Inlaw issues, I feel for you. I perhaps have the worst Inlaws on planet earth. I will spare you the details because nobody has time for all their drama (right comicSans?).

Stand your ground, though. You know where your child would be most comfortable and best cared for. Adding a sibling is a big life change for the kiddos. My main priority that ds was in the best environment he could be during that transition.

[roccobabyk]

I let my Mom know we would not be coming to the reunion, explaining I didn't want to pass him around, and she got pissed. Then said "so and so's baby who was born a few weeks ago and will be there and their Mom is a nurse and they will just pass him around. Sorry I just want to show off my Grandson." She is so immature I can't handle it. Also, my H is a nurse so I have no idea what that part means.

Oh and I had an appt this morning. Last week the NP said I was a good 1cm dilated and then today my OB said only the outside of my cervix was dilated and not the inside...I don't know what that means.

I am full of whines today. We need someone to start the labor train rolling again. I can't believe we haven't had any babies born in July yet.

[sarcaztic10]

Regarding IL issues: I agree that standing your ground is best. You are the parents and they should follow your rules and guidelines. If you feel like those conditions aren't being met then you do what you have to do.

My ILs have never watched L for any extended period of time beyond a couple hours after he was 3. They will literally forget he is in their house. They barely pay any attention to him even when we are all there together. They forget that he needs food, water, attention, etc. and just basically appear to forget that he is there unless he directly makes contact with them. Then they wonder why we don't let them watch him and why he likes staying with my parents more...

I didn't even get into how they don't believe in expired food and have tried to feed L things that have been expired for months and years... We now bring our own food to their house for L to eat.


Aside from that, I am just hanging in here until my induction date. I don't think I will go into labor before then but I would really really like to. I am so tired and sore.

[housecarder]

roccobabyk I'm a nurse and I am not super controlling about family holding the girls, but I don't play pass the baby with distant relatives. There is nothing wrong with not wanting them handled. Germs aside, it's incredibly overstimulating and can cause super cranky babies.

[rungirlrun]

Whine: Dear mom at the playground. It's rude to say that I must be due really soon bc my belly is really really big (not just big, really really big). And here I was thinking I was looking pretty good for 37 weeks pregnant :-(

[katelou]

Hugs ginabini ! The end is so hard. 18 days really is a lot of time to have something happen.

roccobabyk I don't blame you a bit! I wouldn't go either. Good for you for standing up for yourself.