Post by ladytiffany24 on Jul 28, 2016 12:51:45 GMT -5
Passive aggressive MIL post ahead...
So MIL starts a group text about Christmas this year. Their family has a Christmas party yearly and the whole clan goes. They're in Florida. We're in Ohio. We didn't go the first year DD was born. We went last year because we had the money and managed to get off of work (it's extremely difficult for H to get a lot of time off around the holidays -- busy time for his work). Anyways, her group texts starts giving us details of the plan for this year's Christmas party. H and I had already discussed that we wouldn't be going this year and me getting knocked up solidified that for us.
Anyhoo, I text H on the side and am like, "ummm, you need to let your mother know we're not coming down this year." He proceeds to text her in the group text that we won't be making it down this year and that he hopes we didn't give the impression we'd be down every year. Her response was something like, "no, just wanted to keep you in the loop. Should I plan on sending you the information every other year?"
That text was classic for my MIL. It meant, "you guys will be coming down every other year for Christmas."
Bish, no...we'll evaluate it yearly. First, you know it's not easy for H to get a ton of time off of work (enough to make it worth while to make that flight). Second, it's hell to travel that far with a toddler. Third, it costs lots of money and DD is now at the age where we have to buy a plane ticket for her too. Fourth, even though you don't know it yet, I'm knocked up and don't wanna be flying in December. Lastly, YOU DON'T OWN MY LIFE!
I know this may not seem like that big of a deal, but it's just another one of those passive aggressive moments by her that make me want to pull my hair out.
So sure, send us the information yearly actually. But no, we won't be committing to coming down every other year. You're retired and have lots of money. Your ass can fly up here. But please, don't fly up on actual Christmas day. only like the week before or week after because I don't want you here on Christmas day.
Sorry for the novel. Clearly I have feels. And she eats crackers for me (did I use that correctly?!).
So MIL starts a group text about Christmas this year. Their family has a Christmas party yearly and the whole clan goes. They're in Florida. We're in Ohio. We didn't go the first year DD was born. We went last year because we had the money and managed to get off of work (it's extremely difficult for H to get a lot of time off around the holidays -- busy time for his work). Anyways, her group texts starts giving us details of the plan for this year's Christmas party. H and I had already discussed that we wouldn't be going this year and me getting knocked up solidified that for us.
Anyhoo, I text H on the side and am like, "ummm, you need to let your mother know we're not coming down this year." He proceeds to text her in the group text that we won't be making it down this year and that he hopes we didn't give the impression we'd be down every year. Her response was something like, "no, just wanted to keep you in the loop. Should I plan on sending you the information every other year?"
That text was classic for my MIL. It meant, "you guys will be coming down every other year for Christmas."
Bish, no...we'll evaluate it yearly. First, you know it's not easy for H to get a ton of time off of work (enough to make it worth while to make that flight). Second, it's hell to travel that far with a toddler. Third, it costs lots of money and DD is now at the age where we have to buy a plane ticket for her too. Fourth, even though you don't know it yet, I'm knocked up and don't wanna be flying in December. Lastly, YOU DON'T OWN MY LIFE!
I know this may not seem like that big of a deal, but it's just another one of those passive aggressive moments by her that make me want to pull my hair out.
So sure, send us the information yearly actually. But no, we won't be committing to coming down every other year. You're retired and have lots of money. Your ass can fly up here. But please, don't fly up on actual Christmas day. only like the week before or week after because I don't want you here on Christmas day.
Sorry for the novel. Clearly I have feels. And she eats crackers for me (did I use that correctly?!).
Edit: words are hard.
OMG. I totally understand the "you have time and money get your ass on a plane". I mean, why is it that parents can't come see you? I had to deal with crap all the time when we lived in New Hampshire.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Jul 28, 2016 13:13:51 GMT -5
@priss08 , Yup. My own mother does the same thing too. She only lives 4 hours away though. But still. She bitches up a storm that we don't come up enough. You're a single woman with a job that doesn't have a set schedule. Drive your butt down here sometimes too! It's a two way street!
@priss08 , Yup. My own mother does the same thing too. She only lives 4 hours away though. But still. She bitches up a storm that we don't come up enough. You're a single woman with a job that doesn't have a set schedule. Drive your butt down here sometimes too! It's a two way street!
My family pulls this shit and we live 25 min. away. Like, sorry I don't live in the yard like my brothers?
@priss08 , Yup. My own mother does the same thing too. She only lives 4 hours away though. But still. She bitches up a storm that we don't come up enough. You're a single woman with a job that doesn't have a set schedule. Drive your butt down here sometimes too! It's a two way street!
My family pulls this shit and we live 25 min. away. Like, sorry I don't live in the yard like my brothers?
Ugh, my IL's. This is them. They bitch incessantly every time they have to come to our house (30 min, tops), because they have to get on a freeway (the horror). But then turn around and complain that we don't go out there all the time. If it is to far for you to drive to me, why is it not to far for me to drive to you?
Question for STMs...DD loves to eat (which is great). The problem is, when I let her feed herself she puts EVERYTHING in her mouth at once. Any tips on teaching her how to take bites and finish what's in her mouth before eating more?
A bunch of bite size pieces or a little bigger so she nom on it. It's a complete shit show for a while.
mosdub 8 or 9 pm is the time of day I've been getting crazy hungry too. Last night I was craving fish (specifically pub style breaded fish) sooo badly I almost made DH drive into town to see if he could find me some.
Post by jillywilly on Jul 28, 2016 20:28:22 GMT -5
There's some kind of party or just random people being loud outside, and the baby is a bit more restless in his sleep than he usually is. I'm not going to be amused if he wakes.
Post by jillywilly on Jul 28, 2016 20:30:30 GMT -5
And sorry for you MIL saga, ladytiffany24. I actually get along really well with mine, but still would not want her in my house 24/7 for that long. I don't think I'd want my own mother in my house that long!
Post by daisylola11 on Jul 28, 2016 20:30:53 GMT -5
It's 630 here, I'm rocking my DS to sleep, I might end up falling asleep before he does. I might just go to bed after he's settled, prepare for an early morning again 😩
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