I am so tired of the broad ass comments being made here and there about the situation.
Obviously other people are not. Since the other day other people have popped in here and there to address the shit.
Why? She deleted. She deactivated. She chose how she was going to handle the situation. So why o why are you here messing with me about it? These are just other people coming in and continuing a conversation that never addressed anything anyway.
If you need to paint me as the big bad wolf so your ass can sleep at night, so be it. Fine.
I will not however stand for a bitch to just lie on me. As a matter of fact, I don't like anyone to just be lied on and if I think that is happening I will say something and it matters not to me if I am close with that person or not.
I have been posting with some of this group 6 years. Do we all get along? No. We argue sometimes. We get on each other's nerves sometimes. We will also band together for someone and help if we can and how we can.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
From an uninterested bystander's view, it feels like another person pops up each day to share their dislike of McB when it really just feels like a fourth hand continuation of an argument from weeks ago.
Yes, feelings were hurt. I feel bad about that and wish it hadn't happened. I'm sad for the people who came away wounded and feeling hurt.
Maybe it's just me, but I see things said to McB on a regular basis over a long period of time that can and certainly should hurt her feelings. To act like it's just McBenny being mean in a vacuum bothers me.
I agree with all of this. And since I feel like a lot of this is stemming from me speaking in that thread that this seems to be surrounding, I will say (again) that I don't dislike McBenny at all and was pointing out an observation I'd made.
I think, as other posters pointed out, it was not my place to speak up there but I was having that kind of day so I did - the stuff I said was based on things I'd observed or perceived, but not against me so I should have stayed out of it. Live and learn.
I know McBenny doesn't need or care about apologies from me, but I do agree that the way it went down was messy and I don't care to or plan to do that again.
Not that you care.
I didn't have an issue with you speaking up. What I had an issue with is that it seemed that there was no issue until you spoke up - just telling you how I received it. My POV.
Also I feel, there have been exchanges. A history of exchanges. That day yes it was me that made a comment. Again, I explained the reason for my comment but no one understood it until someone came in later on and said that same thing.
Also it wouldn't have mattered who made the post - I didn't get it. I asked for it to be explained. It wasn't about her, it was about what she said. But it kept being repeated that it was about her. It could have been anyone that posted the same remark.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
So my feelings about littlestjerry - I don't really have any.
Do I hate her? No. I can't hate her. I don't know her. I know bits and pieces of someone who posts on a message board.
From what I know - she is a hard working, loyal friend, loves her kids to death. I would love to give her a raise. I consider her a public servant not unlike myself.
What is my issue? Well I have said it before to Jerry - I had noticed she tends to come into threads let's say in the middle of a discussion and will dive in with stuff that was not even said by anyone.
I usually ignore. However, if it is done to me I will say something. I don't like it.
When this has happened I have addressed it right then and there with her. I would give and show specific examples. The response would normally be nothing.
We would have exchanges. Her and I. Us. Two people. There was no going after her. There was no doing something to her. Last I checked Jerry is grown and had no problem speaking for herself.
So prior to deletion I could give you several examples of exchanges.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Why are you asking me what do I hope to accomplish when a lot has been said in this thread and this thread and it is days later and shit is still being talked about.
So it's cool for you to talk about it but I can't.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Post by Cherhorowitz on Aug 11, 2016 11:59:51 GMT -5
Pickled isn't here. LSJ isn't here. This has been dragged through numerous threads. If they're not here to talk about it, I'm not sure what's left to say.
Why are you asking me what do I hope to accomplish when a lot has been said in this thread and this thread and it is days later and shit is still being talked about.
So it's cool for you to talk about it but I can't.
I'm asking because I wanted to know what your actual goal is. You say you're not mad and don't care but now you've started a whole thread about it. I'm asking because I'm curious how you don't have feeling about someone but keep talking about it? You said you've released it but have you really?
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
What is my issue? Well I have said it before to Jerry - I had noticed she tends to come into threads let's say in the middle of a discussion and will dive in with stuff that was not even said by anyone.
what is even an example of this where it would rankle you enough to care?
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Pickled isn't here. LSJ isn't here. This has been dragged through numerous threads. If they're not here to talk about it, I'm not sure what's left to say.
I would normally agree but seems like every day since there has been a spokesperson. Did you see me bring it up in the sitewide?
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I will firmly state that I do not believe a fucking entire thread should be conducted to talk about how a regular poster stepped back without that poster being here.
There is nothing to gain here because it's only going to be you presenting your side.
This is juvenile.
Sorry you feel that way.
Considering that a lot has been said about the topic despite the regular poster not being here I feel I have a right to address it.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I don't see why we can't lay it all out there. I mean a lot has been said about other people. Several post have been made about how I treated her friend. Come on, but I am in poor form?
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Pickled isn't here. LSJ isn't here. This has been dragged through numerous threads. If they're not here to talk about it, I'm not sure what's left to say.
I would normally agree but seems like every day since there has been a spokesperson. Did you see me bring it up in the sitewide?
I have no clue who brought it up. But it's been brought up. A lot. The horse has been beaten. The horse is dead. The horse's guts are sitting all over the floor and the rest of us are trying not to get blood on our shoes.
What is my issue? Well I have said it before to Jerry - I had noticed she tends to come into threads let's say in the middle of a discussion and will dive in with stuff that was not even said by anyone.
I usually ignore. However, if it is done to me I will say something. I don't like it.
I won't argue with you about liking her input or not, because that's your opinion.
However, I think LSJ is/was actually hurt by being told her contributions were of no value. That's hurtful to say to a person, even if you only intended them as a "you eat crackers for me"-type comment.
I'm trying to not get in the middle of it, because I've seen LSJ come at you from time to time, and perhaps you were making your comment after noticing a pattern of replies from her.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I don't understand how its presumptuous or whatever to not want to be exposed to secondhand smoke. Or how it indicates I think highly of myself beyond caring for my own health.
Can you read? My post was clearly about asking people not to be seen smoking. Did I comment on anyone's post on not wanting to be exposed? Did I? NO
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Ok well I actually addressed that point and said that not letting your kids see someone smoke was a little much.
Then I expounded.
Then sdfonz expounded upon her original answer by explaining that she didn't want smoke to come in her house.
Ya know, like a conversation between people about a topic often goes.
Ok cool.
And my post was in reaction to those posts. I mean maybe you bought the back pedal but the post were about being seen and not about the smoke. Again we can act like everyone is on the same page and it's just me.
I posted my thoughts on it. Ya know, like you do on a message board in a thread...when you post things it's out there for comment. So yeah, there you go.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
1) One person said they didn't want their kids to SEE it. Several others said they ask or would ask guests to go to the side of the house because of smoke coming in their house. You responded to the first person and you're yelling at anyone else in the second group for being off topic. But this is the topic.
Here is an example -
1) One person is incorrect.
2) Did I ever comment on anyone not wanting smoke to come in their home? No. My comment was about I don't want my children to see you smoking.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
1) Nobody here said they make visiting smokers hide in the bushes outside of their house. This I know for sure.
Another example -
1) This is incorrect. People have said they want guests to go where they cannot be SEEN by the children AKA hide that you are smoking. I threw in the hiding in the bushes cause I thought it was funny.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Went back and read. I don't care if my kid sees someone smoke, so that might be a little much but asking people to smoke at the side of the house seems fine to me. I don't want smoke coming into my house so the front or back would be a no. I guess I think pretty highly of my and my kids' lungs.
And yet another example -
When did I say someone should want smoke coming into their house? Never.
When did I comment on front door or back door? I didn't.
Yet you through that in when my comment was only about - the being seen by my kids.
So are you catching the trend here? Or is this another just me? Are you reading the thread? Are YOU?
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I don't have a dog in this fight so I know I should keep my nose out of it, but mcbenny, where would you like to go from here? Is this just to stop the random WKing calvary or are you hoping for some closure or something?
I think if we knew what you're wanting maybe it would go a little better.
What are the quotes aiming to accomplish? I'm not involved but trying to understand. Are you trying to prove a point about LSJ? Genuine ask, not snark.
Aiming to accomplish - no one did anything to Jerry. Nothing was done to her. We would have exchanges about stupid shit. Two people. Back and forth.
She was not bullied or harassed. It was two people.
I can't show the whole thing. Not my fault.
I don't need for days later to have someone coming at me about mac and cheese in a thread and then a day later saying yeah I don't like how she did my friend.
Your friend is grown. I addressed it with your friend. Ok.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
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