We use both. I keep the bouncer on the main floor so I have an easy place to set her down/have her nap, and I keep the rock n play upstairs where she sleeps at night. That way I don't have to move everything around.
G'morning all. So begins Venyia's crazy experiment of, will this baby stay put for 3 more days? SO left for Portland at 5 this morning. He will be there til sometime late Sunday. Sigh. At least its apparently only 5 hours away, not 8 like I thought, but still.
Honestly, day to day won't feel much different, since DD's waking hours correspond a lot with his working hours anyway, but.... I already miss him. Because the last time I saw him last night I was getting DD to go to sleep, I didn't get a hug goodbye.
I do want him to have fun, and if I had said it AT ALL to not go... he would have stayed. I just would have felt guilty if he missed it due to paranoia on my part. And I guess there is a reasonable chance if I DO go into labor, he can make it back in time. Somehow.
Sooooo.... I am feeling a bit mopey, but today is gonna be busy. Doc appt in an hour, dropping DD off at my friends house while I go so she doesn't destroy the exam room. Then my mom is coming this afternoon, and I am gonna put her to work, lol... I need to take all my blankets to the laundromat. I need help scrubbing my bathroom since we had a plumber in and got it filthy a couple days ago. Stuff like that. Install baby car seat! Ugh... can we say, nesting?
I went shirtless with a bath towel either around or folded under me for weeks with DD in the early stages of breastfeeding. I didn't want to ruin my bed, and waking up in puddles is... disconcerting, to say the least!
hannahbear - we have a Rock N Play and a swing but were gifted a bouncer. I didn't want the bouncer. I considered giving away the bouncer.
Then I decided that I have no idea what the kid will like. They're all different. So, I kept it and decided that whatever the kid hated is what I would give away.
steph I LOVE heat pads for all aches and the L&D unit had them so that's why I had the idea to use them.
@suesposa, I was just thinking about latch issues and babies getting mad then refusing to nurse...last night, I tried laid down nursing with LO when he was mad and it worked. Basically, you recline in a chair and have the baby lay vertically down your chest/belly to nurse. Then gravity kind of works on your side to get the baby to latch.
hannahbear we tried to stay pretty minimalistic with DD so she didn't have any of those things. This time, however, I got a bouncer and was gifted a swing because I thought that'd be helpful when running after a toddler AND needing to soothe a baby. It's so hard to know what babies will take to...
shanny thats our primary hold since sitting on my butt hurts my stitches. He literally will just put the nipple in his mouth and motor boat me while he's screaming. I use coconut oil on my nips and it could be a fluke, but he hasn't refused if I offer right after I apply the oil. Right now I'm side lying with him, but I try not to because I fall asleep with this one.
Nothing wrong with falling asleep while nursing if he's not at risk of falling off. Then you both get in a nice nap!
DD3 is now down 7% of body weight. Milk, you can feel free to come in now!
Found out via chatting that a friend of several friends is literally next door here at the hospital. Our babies were born the same day. She said they'd visit in the morning. How fun is that?
My milk took a few days to come in too and DD went down a lb in 4 days. Broke my heart but we got it back up! You can do it!
Post by ameliabird on Aug 12, 2016 13:35:27 GMT -5
So just went for my check up and I'm at 2.5 cm. I know other experiences have no bearing on mine but what were you guys at when you were checked before you went into labor? I was 1 cm with DD for weeks before I went into labor and was only at a 2 in triage so just curious if this means he'll be early.
SO and I have started discussing our next child. Is that weird? Too soon? Our foster care license is up for renewal soon. I think that may be partly what is driving the discussions.
SO and I have started discussing our next child. Is that weird? Too soon? Our foster care license is up for renewal soon. I think that may be partly what is driving the discussions.
I don't think it's weird. It's a discussion that needs to happen and there's no harm in starting early. Just keep in mind that either of you are allowed to change your mind later.
ameliabird I've been 2cm and 40% effaced for a week. I was 2 cm with a high leak (that resealed) for 3 weeks before having DS. I don't feel like it means anything for me lol
It looks like (unless today goes badly), we can go home from NICU tomorrow! Baby is doing well with feeding now and the cardiologists don't have reason to believe he needs his surgery until a couple months from now. I am happy to be home soon and reunite DD with LO, though I know it's going to be exhausting running after a toddler and taking care of a newborn.
Post by hashbrownnofilter on Aug 12, 2016 14:47:25 GMT -5
Just got back from the OB. Out of curiosity, I gave her the go-ahead to do an internal exam. Apparently I'm not dilated at all, but she is very low and my cervix is "softening." So...I know just about as much as I did when I went in.
There is a really bizarre situation going on at NICU. A new baby came yesterday evening and he has to get surgery today. The nurses told the parents that the baby couldn't eat because of the upcoming surgery and they were so mad. They demanded to talk to a doctor and were told the same thing and that baby would be getting an IV for fluids. The parents were not very put together people in general and a bit rude. Then they left the baby and haven't come back since. No one has been able to get ahold of them and even the social worker tried looking for them, but no sign of them. The mom did leave an overnight bag in the room. I saw them in the NICU family lounge last night, but that was it. I hope the baby will be okay...they weren't even here to sign the consent forms. He has been crying and it is so sad.
ameliabird neither did I! I was admitted for l&d at 36 weeks bc the swab was positive for amniotic fluid but then nothing happened after that and they released me saying it had resealed. I was like are you sure that's a real thing?!
There is a really bizarre situation going on at NICU. A new baby came yesterday evening and he has to get surgery today. The nurses told the parents that the baby couldn't eat because of the upcoming surgery and they were so mad. They demanded to talk to a doctor and were told the same thing and that baby would be getting an IV for fluids. The parents were not very put together people in general and a bit rude. Then they left the baby and haven't come back since. No one has been able to get ahold of them and even the social worker tried looking for them, but no sign of them. The mom did leave an overnight bag in the room. I saw them in the NICU family lounge last night, but that was it. I hope the baby will be okay...they weren't even here to sign the consent forms. He has been crying and it is so sad.
I just talked to a nurse and cried. She said they do get a lot of families here that are "rougher" and maybe families that aren't the best for the babies
There is a really bizarre situation going on at NICU. A new baby came yesterday evening and he has to get surgery today. The nurses told the parents that the baby couldn't eat because of the upcoming surgery and they were so mad. They demanded to talk to a doctor and were told the same thing and that baby would be getting an IV for fluids. The parents were not very put together people in general and a bit rude. Then they left the baby and haven't come back since. No one has been able to get ahold of them and even the social worker tried looking for them, but no sign of them. The mom did leave an overnight bag in the room. I saw them in the NICU family lounge last night, but that was it. I hope the baby will be okay...they weren't even here to sign the consent forms. He has been crying and it is so sad.
I always hesitate to jump to conclusions when presented with a situation like this. I know it looks/sounds bad, but I choose to believe the best in people (as often as I can). I hope that the whole thing is just terrifying and overwhelming and the parents needed to get out of there because they felt so helpless. If I wanted to do something for my child's well being and wasn't allowed to do it, I would probably have a panic attack. At least.
It's definitely not responsible of them to be our of contact, but it might be in their best interest emotionally to remove themselves from the situation while they collect themselves. Getting worked up at a nurse or doctor over something you can't change can make things much worse. So I hope that's all they're doing.
But hearing a baby cry...that just rends the heart. I hope the whole situation gets sorted out quickly.
Rama I hope that is the case! I told a friend of mine the story (she had a NICU baby too) and she said a similar situation happened when she was at NICU, but the parents never came back.
There is a really bizarre situation going on at NICU. A new baby came yesterday evening and he has to get surgery today. The nurses told the parents that the baby couldn't eat because of the upcoming surgery and they were so mad. They demanded to talk to a doctor and were told the same thing and that baby would be getting an IV for fluids. The parents were not very put together people in general and a bit rude. Then they left the baby and haven't come back since. No one has been able to get ahold of them and even the social worker tried looking for them, but no sign of them. The mom did leave an overnight bag in the room. I saw them in the NICU family lounge last night, but that was it. I hope the baby will be okay...they weren't even here to sign the consent forms. He has been crying and it is so sad.
I always hesitate to jump to conclusions when presented with a situation like this. I know it looks/sounds bad, but I choose to believe the best in people (as often as I can). I hope that the whole thing is just terrifying and overwhelming and the parents needed to get out of there because they felt so helpless. If I wanted to do something for my child's well being and wasn't allowed to do it, I would probably have a panic attack. At least.
It's definitely not responsible of them to be our of contact, but it might be in their best interest emotionally to remove themselves from the situation while they collect themselves. Getting worked up at a nurse or doctor over something you can't change can make things much worse. So I hope that's all they're doing.
But hearing a baby cry...that just rends the heart. I hope the whole situation gets sorted out quickly.
I'm so jaded by my job. I have dealt with many families in my line of work (licensed mental health doing developmental evaluation for children with an open child protective services case) that do things like this and don't come back or leave children in other places. I wouldn't be too shocked if they end up being reported for being out of contact. People do some crazy things.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
shanny,I also hate to judge NICU families and realize that peoplr can't always be present 24/7 due to a variety of circumstances. However this seems bizarre. Maybe their reaction is from being overwhelmed. DD spent 6+ weeks in the NICU and I saw a variety of behaviors and had to remind myself that I didn't know the full story about family circumstances. Still, how sad for baby to be alone.
hannahbear, we hadn't originally planned on a rock-n-play but with DD's severe reflux that was the only place she would sleep.
elm1214, Hoping Zantac works for your baby. Unfortunately DD went through a few different before finding one that worked for her.
AFM, at today's appt I am 2cm dilated and baby has dropped slightly but OB thinks I'll go full term or more. Not whey so wanted to hear because I am so done with being pregnant.
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The dad came back, but two hours after baby was supposed to get surgery. Hope the surgery can be rescheduled soon. He didn't seem apologetic about being gone and unreachable.
blueinred You are right. Most parents aren't here with their NICU babies...I am here partially because we live a bit away so it'd be too hard to go back and forth, but also so I can take breastfeeding seriously. The nurses are so great that I'd feel comfortable with them taking care of my baby.
shanny, I spent a lot of time with DD in the NICU because she was my only child, I lived nearby, I was able to take a decent maternity leave and it wasn't a financial hardship. Unfortunately that situation does not apply to all NICU families.
Formerly MoFree on the other board. TTC since 2008 Diagnosis of Severe MFI 3-2009 IVF#1 Nov 2011, BFP DD born @31 weeks gestation, 6-24-12 FET#1, Nov 2013,, BFN FET#2, Feb 2014, BFN Freeze only cycle with PGD August 2014 FET #3 another BFN FET canceled due to cysts FET #4 Dec 2015, BFP Baby Boy born 8-28-16 via VBAC
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