Today is technically the start of my maternity leave. I had to give dates to the courts so the wouldn't schedule me, but as I'm still packing an internal baby, I've put some things on my docket. It sucks being self employed when pregnant....
I'm here! I've been MIA for a while, last week was kind of a mess, but I'm just picking myself up by the bootstraps and keep going.
@sueposa that's so funny about DS moving around in his sleep, it's crazy how they do that!
Tuesday morning, MH found out he's getting laid off November 2nd. He gets a severance package but will be competing with 599 other people in this state for jobs. He hasn't started to look yet, he wants to start on September 15th. He's taking it pretty well, I'm a mess. No longer excited about having a baby because at the end of the day it's another mouth to feed. I hope these feelings change. I feel like I already need to talk to someone about PPD/PPA which sucks. I should be so happy, but I'm dreading this. Dreading the hospital bills, day care costs, etc.
I have my scheduled c/s for Wednesday. I have a pre op appointment on Tuesday and then Wednesday Im scheduled for 9:30. My OB and I got into a tiff. She checked my cervix Saturday and it's not budging, but she was like "we can still induce but I don't know how long it'll take because you're obese. Also having a c/s will be tough because you're obese as well." So wtf do you want me to do? She kept telling me I can't just sit around after my c/s and to walk, etc. This would be my 4th surgery overall not counting ERs so I'm pretty sure I know the rules of walking and breathing. But you know, make me feel like a fat slob, thanks.
Anyway that's my week and upcoming week. I'll keep you posted of anything else
Today is technically the start of my maternity leave. I had to give dates to the courts so the wouldn't schedule me, but as I'm still packing an internal baby, I've put some things on my docket. It sucks being self employed when pregnant....
Same for me (first day of leave-not self-employed). I guess we just have to tell ourselves it will make things easier for the return to work?
youdontsay ugh to all of that. I'm sorry about your H's job. Thank goodness he got so much notice. I hope he's able to look past this for a few weeks and enjoy the new baby. A bunch of TPs to your OB. She should know better than to make those sort of predictions, especially with that attitude.
youdontsay, I'm sorry about YH getting laid off. That is an incredible amount of stress to place on someone days before giving birth. Hugs! I'm glad you have a date for your c/s! I know we are EDD twins and I'd Kill to have and end date in sight lol. Stay strong lady, soon that little girl will be in your arms
penny2103, that's what I keep telling myself. But man it's hard to physically get around these days lol, that and the overwhelming fear my water will break in front of everyone in court is pretty high... I also had to start scheduling things for when I 'return' from leave. So if she's late I'm not sure I'll get much of a maternity leave. I just keep practicing my meditations, taking deep breaths and crossing to do's off my list.
Post by remylove1011 on Aug 15, 2016 8:40:44 GMT -5
youdontsay, so sorry for YH getting laid off. I think it's totally normal to feel very upset about it and for it to cause a lot of anxiety about the future. Having a baby is already a high anxiety time, so give yourself some space to feel that. Watch for the PPD/PPA and seek help as soon as you feel like you need it. I think it many cases it's not unheard of to ask for something right away. I hope that everything goes well with your c/s. It sucks that your OB was so negative about everything and bringing up your weight two days before is just not helpful.
lennonkdc, penny2103 I'm a bit jealous of those on leave now! My EDD is today and I came to work since no baby yet. Although I have very little to do while I'm here so I'll be bored.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
Post by remylove1011 on Aug 15, 2016 8:43:00 GMT -5
40 weeks today and baby is chilling. I had an OB appointment this morning and my cervix is soft, but still not dilated. I've yet to experience any contractions or BH. They're staying positive about me having her some time in the next week, but have started to discuss things just in case. I go in again on Friday morning to check on things and if she's not here by next Monday (41 weeks), I'll be induced that day. So fingers crossed things start before then!
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
I had my baby! Little girl was born 8/12 at 4:49 pm, 6 lb 14 oz., 19 inches. everyone is doing well and we are home now.
We went in for my induction Thursday night at 8 pm. When they initially checked me I had a bishop score of 0 so they gave me cytotec around 11 pm. I was a little worried at that point about the induction being successful since my body was so not ready. When they checked again at 4 am I was 3 cm and 75% effaced, which was encouraging and they went ahead and started the pitocin. They kept increasing the pitocin every 30 min to an hour but my contractions stayed inconsistent and not painful. They also had to give me dextrose because for some reason we were having a really hard time keeping my blood sugar above 70. Eventually at around 1 pm I was 5 cm so they went ahead and broke my water which immediately made the contractions closer together and very painful, and I was starting to have the urge to push. I got an epidural probably about an hourish later and around 3:30 they checked me and I was complete so we could start pushing. I pushed for a little more than an hour. I really did not like having multiple doctors sticking their fingers in my vag pushing down on my perineium trying to get the head out, and I may have yelled at them a couple times.
Seeing DH get really emotional as they pulled her out and announce it was a girl was really sweet and getting the skin-to-skin time right away was amazing. I did have a hemorrhage so I was kind of out of it and not feeling great for the next couple hours.
Both of us were convinced it was a boy so seeing a little girl was kind of a surprise, lol. And she weighed one ounce more than they estimated she weighed at my 36 week growth scan three weeks before, so obviously that was wrong, lol.
She is perfect and healthy and passed all of her blood sugar tests. My blood sugar looked great in the hospital, but I'm getting high readings on my meter at home now, so I'm starting to wonder if my meter reads higher than the hospital's.
Baby girl is starting to get the hang of breastfeeding. They had me start pumping after feeding on day 2 because I guess losing a lot of blood can make your milk come in slower. Now I just need to convince my body to fall asleep when I lay down to nap.
I'm so sorry, youdontsay. That's a lot of bad timing. I hope things improve for you soon. And your baby will be here on Wednesday!!! That's so awesome!!!
Post by gratefulgirl on Aug 15, 2016 9:01:16 GMT -5
DH is really freaking amazing. Today I woke up after another horrible d night and realized he had slipped out and gotten the bigs and let me get 45 min of extra sleep. He has been making this manageable. I have to watch given his insomnia troubles that he gets sleep. He's really sacrificing right now even though he has all his pain and other issues.
DD3 is a freaking bottomless pit too. She legitimately wants to eat every 2-3 hours during the day and 30 min.-1 hour from 10-4. WTF? When will it end? I am doing it all "right" to reverse day-night confusion and am afraid the answer is time.
youdontsay ugh to all of that. I'm sorry about your H's job. Thank goodness he got so much notice. I hope he's able to look past this for a few weeks and enjoy the new baby. A bunch of TPs to your OB. She should know better than to make those sort of predictions, especially with that attitude.
Yes. This. Also, prenatal depression is very real. It can get pretty intense in the final weeks of pregnancy. It sounds like your OB is a douche, though. Do you have a primary care dr with whom you can chat?
youdontsay ugh to all of that. I'm sorry about your H's job. Thank goodness he got so much notice. I hope he's able to look past this for a few weeks and enjoy the new baby. A bunch of TPs to your OB. She should know better than to make those sort of predictions, especially with that attitude.
Yes. This. Also, prenatal depression is very real. It can get pretty intense in the final weeks of pregnancy. It sounds like your OB is a douche, though. Do you have a primary care dr with whom you can chat?
I think I'm going to reach out to my gyn, she only sees maternity patients until 16 weeks because she's a one-woman practice but I feel like she would be able to talk me through things and manage it better than my current OB.
Post by hashbrownnofilter on Aug 15, 2016 9:29:03 GMT -5
youdontsay I'm sorry about your H's job. I know it's hard, but hopefully you can focus on the positive and he can find something quickly. Also, that comment from your OB was totally unnecessary. I'm glad you're reaching out to your gyn.
H started coaching today and is back to work next Tuesday. I will be so disappointed if school starts and there's still no baby. He can't really take paternity leave since it's the beginning of the school year, so I'm going to be on my own pretty much as soon as we get home from the hospital. I know lots of you will be in similar situations and I'm being a complainer, but I am absolutely panicked about handling a toddler and a newborn all day by myself - especially because with coaching he's gone for almost 12 hours a day.
hashbrownnofilter I will commiserate with you. With DS, DH got no time off besides the hospital time. Also, DS was born in the busiest time of year for him - so I was alone for 12+ hours a day starting day 3. It was HARD. I am terrified for doing this again with a toddler on top of it. :/
gratefulgirl that's awesome your husband is being so great. I am honestly disappointed that my husband isn't being as good as I expected. I only wake him for one of the 5 night time wakings and he gets pissy and gives attitude.and he's Like sorry I just get easily frustrated when I'm tired. I'm like well wtf do you think I have to deal with 5 times a night?! I got pissed and spit on every two hours but you're mad that it happened to you once after your 7 hours of sleep? Fuck you right now. Lol
joy, I won't leave you lol! I don't think LO is going anywhere anytime soon anyway.
thelorax, I gave myself from 8/15 to 10/2. I have case scheduled the week of 10/3 and a jury trial scheduled for 10/12. I see my midwife Wednesday and want to talk to them about trying a membrane sweep bc if she's more then a week late I'm just not sure how I'm gonna deal...
youdontsay your ob is a dick. Is there a way to report those comments? I mean, terrible bedside manner is one thing, but I feel this may have crossed a line.
I just think her thoughts are all over the place and legally she has to explain the risks and rewards of any elective surgery. I'm aware I'm overweight but working at the check-in desk for our L&D unit, I've seen a lot bigger women come in for elective C/S. I'm just glad I'll be over with her after my PP check up.
I think she would've been happy if I said "induce me Sunday and keep me around until Wednesday and do the C/S anyway." That wasn't going to happen. If I was dilated Saturday, I would absolutely give it a go, but when I'm 0cm and 0% effaced, I'm not wasting my time here.
I'm doing some last minute running around today before I get checked in tonight for induction. FX'd all goes well and I won't get bumped! Will keep you ladies posted via eaglewife and possibly will do an update after I start the cervidil. I was so hoping to hold my rainbow before the closing ceremony for the Summer Games and looks like it may be possible lol!
hashbrownnofilter I will commiserate with you. With DS, DH got no time off besides the hospital time. Also, DS was born in the busiest time of year for him - so I was alone for 12+ hours a day starting day 3. It was HARD. I am terrified for doing this again with a toddler on top of it. :/
Knowing someone else is doing it helps. I just don't know how it's going to work. I remember how much pain I was in from the episiotomy, but at least I could just sit with DS - now I somehow have to lift a toddler too?! H's constant insistence that I'll be "fine" is not comforting either.
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