spicysalmonroll - girl, my husband did absolutely ZERO nighttime stuff with DS for the first three months and that is the same way it's going to be this time around. His logic is such: I'm on mat leave and can sleep a lot during the day to make up for the lost over night sleep. Plus, he doesn't function well without at least seven hours of sleep and he works a dangerous job where people can get hurt if he's groggy. I get it and I can function just fine on little sleep, but it still makes me rage sometimes when all I am asking for is helping with a swaddle or just holding the baby for a few minutes so I can get a tiny break.
ugh exactly! I don't want or ask him for help all might since he's working but I'm like one time out of 5 would be nice for you to get the hell up. I know my brother never did for is kids either so we're not alone
My H never does nighttime stuff either. I agree it makes sense because he works and I don't. But yesterday he told me, "You know, I'm tired too. Just because I stay in bed doesn't mean my sleep is undisturbed." I'm like..... Okay... But I am up actively doing something for hours at a time multiple times a night. ::eye roll::
My H never does nighttime stuff either. I agree it makes sense because he works and I don't. But yesterday he told me, "You know, I'm tired too. Just because I stay in bed doesn't mean my sleep is undisturbed." I'm like..... Okay... But I am up actively doing something for hours at a time multiple times a night. ::eye roll::
Seriously, what do these men think? That having babies was gonna be all sunshine and roses? That somehow their workloads would not increase even a little bit? Come on. We aren't as tribal as a species and culture as we used to be. This village consists of mom and dad and if we are lucky maybe an occasional friend or famiky member to lend a hand. Yes, dude, your sleep is gonna be impacted, too. Yeah, you might have to do some laundry or wash some dishes, or heaven forbid, feed yourself and/or your kids sometimes! Welcome to tag teaming parenthood.
I'm kinda at fml right now. Baby girl wouldn't stop crying last night. Finally at 5a I did a diaper change with the light on and her hernia was swollen and red. I had asked a few days back about it because I had a feeling it wasn't right. I packed a diaper bag and took her downtown to children hospital er. They confirmed it was incarcerated and needed surgery immediately. They scared me about the anesthesia but she ended up doing fine. We should go home tomorrow. They want to watch her for 24 hours because she isn't 2 months old yet. She won't nurse but is taking bottles ok. She has only had 1 dose of Tylenol (plus aneastesia meds) and doesn't seem to be in pain so that helps a lot. So I need to be done with medical care this year ok??? Good news is it happens to less than 1% of infants so my kid should cover the boards chances
youdontsay first off hugs about YH. Fingers crossed the right job comes up soon. Secondly, your ob is an ass. Seriously your weight is what it is, no changing it between now and Wednesday. As an overweight girl I feel your pain. Fx your csection goes smoothly. Thirdly, I know you work at a hospital so you may know, but there are payment plans for hospital bills. Or you can ask for a discount if you pay in full. I got $400 off my $1300 hospital bill just for asking. And lastly, don't be afraid to mention to your ob or pcp about PPD. I started pills the day I delivered. I would have been so out of control if I hadnt. No shame in asking for the rx early.
@suesposa second guessing is all motherhood is really about lol! I'm frazzled too so I feel your pain. Sleep is only a few months (or years) in our future
@suesposa I would let him be. Put him on his back and let him go the way he wants to go. That is what I have always heard.
Ok great. I was always told the same thing so I was doing that when he was just going to his side, but the belly made me second guess. I'm frazzled today.
My pedi always said, "If they can get onto their bellies, they can move their heads enough to breathe." My 3 have all become side sleepers within 7 days of birth. There really isn't anything I can do to stop it. So, of course, I just make sure they are on a firm sleeping surface with no blankets, pillows, stuffed animals, etc in their beds
So... if any of ya'll with inside babies still, feel like your starving and wanna eat like a ravenous wolf... I recommend a glass of something to drink first. I just ate 2.5 bowls of cheddar broccoli rice, then chugged a bottle of water. I feel like I am gonna die, but I was SO HUNGRY. Next time, water first. Water first.
Everythingvis so smushed and displaced, all the normal brain and belly signals are getting screwy. Screwier.
So I tried to build a little box around him with blankets like the nurses did in the hospital. He rolled anyway so I won't be trying that again. I feel like this is some sick competition and my kid is ruthlessly beating me.
Any suggestions? I'm sure it's just those wonky spastic newborn movements that are basically giving him leverage to flip, but I feel like I should do something? Or do I just leave him alone?
Leave him. My pediatrician always said if they get their on their own, they are protected by being strong enough.
Also it might help him sleep better in the long run.
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