Post by roseinbloom on Sept 12, 2016 13:58:52 GMT -5
I have too many randoms and feels going on. I'm at Starbucks pretending to work, but I'm so freaked out about returning to school (leaving my lads here, impostor syndrome, the headache of sorting out logisitcs, fear of failure, etc.) that I'm wasting my time fooling around and not doing work. I'm at like a 10 on the gut freezing-up scale and right now I'm stress eating. I'll totally pretend to my H that I got some work done though, because otherwise he'll be disappointed that I wasted the time he used to watch Bud. That's a really crappy thing to do.
My first attempts at making friends in our new area have been shot down, but this last time was actually more personal than the others. I also tried connecting with my closest friend who lives only 40 minutes away, but she's gotten sick every time we tried to meet up since Bud was born. And this time she's not even answering my text. If I could have a real, sit-down conversation with a friend--not H or a therapist--I think I'd be less hypersensitive.
I guess my random is I wish I had more or closer IRL friends.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
Last nite I kept watching the 9/11 documentaries. Can't believe it's been 15yrs. I remember that day so vividly.
Me too. One of them mentioned that they had helicopters sent to the towers to try to rescue people from the roof. No one was rescued and they later found out why - there were chains on the gates leading up there. They were locked because they didn't want people going up there to jump or do illegal things. It makes me wonder how many people would have been saved.
I have too many randoms and feels going on. I'm at Starbucks pretending to work, but I'm so freaked out about returning to school (leaving my lads here, impostor syndrome, the headache of sorting out logisitcs, fear of failure, etc.) that I'm wasting my time fooling around and not doing work. I'm at like a 10 on the gut freezing-up scale and right now I'm stress eating. I'll totally pretend to my H that I got some work done though, because otherwise he'll be disappointed that I wasted the time he used to watch Bud. That's a really crappy thing to do.
My first attempts at making friends in our new area have been shot down, but this last time was actually more personal than the others. I also tried connecting with my closest friend who lives only 40 minutes away, but she's gotten sick every time we tried to meet up since Bud was born. And this time she's not even answering my text. If I could have a real, sit-down conversation with a friend--not H or a therapist--I think I'd be less hypersensitive.
I guess my random is I wish I had more or closer IRL friends.
Hugs mama! That's so tough and I feel you on the friends. I am having a hard time with that too. I felt like it was so easy to meet ppl in Boston but it's much harder out in the burbs. I haven't really met any mamas with similar aged LOs that I've really clicked with yet. I only know a few ppl here at all in general so it's tough! But I am trying to get out there on the days i don't work to meet other moms, but everything is so spread out and I don't know the are super well yet.
I have too many randoms and feels going on. I'm at Starbucks pretending to work, but I'm so freaked out about returning to school (leaving my lads here, impostor syndrome, the headache of sorting out logisitcs, fear of failure, etc.) that I'm wasting my time fooling around and not doing work. I'm at like a 10 on the gut freezing-up scale and right now I'm stress eating. I'll totally pretend to my H that I got some work done though, because otherwise he'll be disappointed that I wasted the time he used to watch Bud. That's a really crappy thing to do.
My first attempts at making friends in our new area have been shot down, but this last time was actually more personal than the others. I also tried connecting with my closest friend who lives only 40 minutes away, but she's gotten sick every time we tried to meet up since Bud was born. And this time she's not even answering my text. If I could have a real, sit-down conversation with a friend--not H or a therapist--I think I'd be less hypersensitive.
I guess my random is I wish I had more or closer IRL friends.
Hugs mama! That's so tough and I feel you on the friends. I am having a hard time with that too. I felt like it was so easy to meet ppl in Boston but it's much harder out in the burbs. I haven't really met any mamas with similar aged LOs that I've really clicked with yet. I only know a few ppl here at all in general so it's tough! But I am trying to get out there on the days i don't work to meet other moms, but everything is so spread out and I don't know the are super well yet.
Hang in there!!
Have you kept in touch with any of the folks at your H's school? You had such an awesome community there!
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
Hugs mama! That's so tough and I feel you on the friends. I am having a hard time with that too. I felt like it was so easy to meet ppl in Boston but it's much harder out in the burbs. I haven't really met any mamas with similar aged LOs that I've really clicked with yet. I only know a few ppl here at all in general so it's tough! But I am trying to get out there on the days i don't work to meet other moms, but everything is so spread out and I don't know the are super well yet.
Hang in there!!
Have you kept in touch with any of the folks at your H's school? You had such an awesome community there!
Ya we have, but ppl are very spread out now. One other person from H's class took a job at the same company as him. He has a fiancée and we hang out with them, which is nice but they don't have any kids yet. I also know one person here from TCF who is super nice, she is in her third tri now. I have met a few other moms here and there at yoga and music time, etc but nothing like we had before. Hopefully as I meet more ppl I will put together more of a circle, it just takes time.
Have you kept in touch with any of the folks at your H's school? You had such an awesome community there!
Ya we have, but ppl are very spread out now. One other person from H's class took a job at the same company as him. He has a fiancée and we hang out with them, which is nice but they don't have any kids yet. I also know one person here from TCF who is super nice, she is in her third tri now. I have met a few other moms here and there at yoga and music time, etc but nothing like we had before. Hopefully as I meet more ppl I will put together more of a circle, it just takes time.
Fingers crossed that it happens sooner rather than later for you. You're getting out there, so it can't be long.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
Randoms 9/12Sept 13, 2016 6:47:58 GMT -5via mobile
Post by roseinbloom on Sept 13, 2016 6:47:58 GMT -5
I'm so grateful for the Internet. For so many reasons, but today for people who post cleaning hacks, organizing ideas, and especially DIY home repair. Someone's blog post or home video has saved me so many times from wasted resources from doing it the wrong way, paying someone else to do it, getting rid of salvageable things, etc. plus it gives me a sense of empowerment to know how things work, and to know that we're capable.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
I'm so grateful for the Internet. For so many reasons, but today for people who post cleaning hacks, organizing ideas, and especially DIY home repair. Someone's blog post or home video has saved me so many times from wasted resources from doing it the wrong way, paying someone else to do it, getting rid of salvageable things, etc. plus it gives me a sense of empowerment to know how things work, and to know that we're capable.
Yes! The internet is amazing! I've found 3 or 4 facebook groups for parents of reflux, MSPI, Laryngomalasia parents, and of course you guys! Its funny that something that can be so isolating can make you feel less alone, you know?
I have too many randoms and feels going on. I'm at Starbucks pretending to work, but I'm so freaked out about returning to school (leaving my lads here, impostor syndrome, the headache of sorting out logisitcs, fear of failure, etc.) that I'm wasting my time fooling around and not doing work. I'm at like a 10 on the gut freezing-up scale and right now I'm stress eating. I'll totally pretend to my H that I got some work done though, because otherwise he'll be disappointed that I wasted the time he used to watch Bud. That's a really crappy thing to do.
My first attempts at making friends in our new area have been shot down, but this last time was actually more personal than the others. I also tried connecting with my closest friend who lives only 40 minutes away, but she's gotten sick every time we tried to meet up since Bud was born. And this time she's not even answering my text. If I could have a real, sit-down conversation with a friend--not H or a therapist--I think I'd be less hypersensitive.
I guess my random is I wish I had more or closer IRL friends.
Hugs mama! That's so tough and I feel you on the friends. I am having a hard time with that too. I felt like it was so easy to meet ppl in Boston but it's much harder out in the burbs. I haven't really met any mamas with similar aged LOs that I've really clicked with yet. I only know a few ppl here at all in general so it's tough! But I am trying to get out there on the days i don't work to meet other moms, but everything is so spread out and I don't know the are super well yet.
Hang in there!!
I'm right with you guys. We've been here a little over two months and its starting to hit me. I really miss my friends. Everyone here is really friendly but most are from the area and already have busy social calendars or family nearby that they spend most of their time with. We're starting some fall activities (music class and dance for the toddler) so I'm hoping we'll make a couple friends.
Hugs mama! That's so tough and I feel you on the friends. I am having a hard time with that too. I felt like it was so easy to meet ppl in Boston but it's much harder out in the burbs. I haven't really met any mamas with similar aged LOs that I've really clicked with yet. I only know a few ppl here at all in general so it's tough! But I am trying to get out there on the days i don't work to meet other moms, but everything is so spread out and I don't know the are super well yet.
Hang in there!!
I'm right with you guys. We've been here a little over two months and its starting to hit me. I really miss my friends. Everyone here is really friendly but most are from the area and already have busy social calendars or family nearby that they spend most of their time with. We're starting some fall activities (music class and dance for the toddler) so I'm hoping we'll make a couple friends.
Good luck to you, too! Music class and dance sound like so much fun. Hopefully you meet some wonderful people there.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
Post by katespade on Sept 13, 2016 10:17:53 GMT -5
We have people doing work in the house, so I had J upstairs. She got super grumpy so I laid her on our bed. She fussed and flipped around and then passed out on her belly, arms and legs spread out, with her oball. It's cracking me up.
I'm right with you guys. We've been here a little over two months and its starting to hit me. I really miss my friends. Everyone here is really friendly but most are from the area and already have busy social calendars or family nearby that they spend most of their time with. We're starting some fall activities (music class and dance for the toddler) so I'm hoping we'll make a couple friends.
I'm with everyone here as well! I have lived here since coming to college, and all of my college friends have slowly moved away. H grew up here, and a lot of his friends are still in town so we know some people, but I haven't really clicked with a lot of the wives much. The one that I do get along with, we kind of grew apart because they started TTC the same time we did and their LO is 2 and so we kind of backed off hanging out with them because we hadn't quite come to terms with our infertility at the time, and I think they felt awkward about it.
It's also kind of tough, because H has been so stressed out with work and has kind of withdrawn from a lot of his friends, so even if we do get invited to do something he never wants to go, so I don't have a chance to meet anyone new
It also seems hard here to make mom friends with just an infant, because most mom groups/play date meet ups are for toddlers. The few things that I have gone to, in hopes of meeting other moms have had little to no turn out.
So, chatterbox, if you ever want to get together and commiserate over our non-sleeping babies, I'm game
This is true here as well. I've been going to playgrounds and the children's section of the library to hang out and try to meet people. Also with little turnout. I hope you can reconnect with that couple with the two year old. Or that more people show up to your current haunts soon.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
It was a rough night. I need a caffeine IV. No childcare today means I had to switch days at work this week so at least I have today off.
Ditto everyone else on making friends. It's tough. I'm introverted and socially awkward. My local board is fairly active, but we haven't had any GTGs that I could attend in a long time. The internet is my social life.
This is true here as well. I've been going to playgrounds and the children's section of the library to hang out and try to meet people. Also with little turnout. I hope you can reconnect with that couple with the two year old. Or that more people show up to your current haunts soon.
We have kind of reconnected, but they are busy people and tend to be on the go on the weekends and work during the week. But we are supposed to be getting together soon!
I'm going to start looking into new places to take S, which is becoming easier since he is getting better about being in a car seat and out in the world for longer than an hour.
When you are at playgrounds, do you see any other moms with infants? I guess I haven't really thought of that, since S can't really do much there yet.
Awesome!
As for the park, etc., I have only once saw someone with a kid Bud's age, and we were pleasant but it was a one-time thing. There are lots of people who show up with toddlers, though, and the kids are interested in Bud. I joke with them when they come up to me that Bud is learning how to play. I'm just hoping to make friends with other parents, even if our kids aren't at the same developmental age.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." -- Maya Angelou
There is a baby gym near us. I haven't attended yet because I wanted to wait for LO to be able to enjoy it. So now that he is 6 months I think I'll try it out. Classes are on Fridays at 10am for his age group.
I'm right with you guys. We've been here a little over two months and its starting to hit me. I really miss my friends. Everyone here is really friendly but most are from the area and already have busy social calendars or family nearby that they spend most of their time with. We're starting some fall activities (music class and dance for the toddler) so I'm hoping we'll make a couple friends.
I'm with everyone here as well! I have lived here since coming to college, and all of my college friends have slowly moved away. H grew up here, and a lot of his friends are still in town so we know some people, but I haven't really clicked with a lot of the wives much. The one that I do get along with, we kind of grew apart because they started TTC the same time we did and their LO is 2 and so we kind of backed off hanging out with them because we hadn't quite come to terms with our infertility at the time, and I think they felt awkward about it.
It's also kind of tough, because H has been so stressed out with work and has kind of withdrawn from a lot of his friends, so even if we do get invited to do something he never wants to go, so I don't have a chance to meet anyone new
It also seems hard here to make mom friends with just an infant, because most mom groups/play date meet ups are for toddlers. The few things that I have gone to, in hopes of meeting other moms have had little to no turn out.
So, chatterbox, if you ever want to get together and commiserate over our non-sleeping babies, I'm game
TTC since Sept 2012 M/C on 5/01/13 at 8 wks AF finally appeared 11 wks later per Provera Diagnosed with PCOS on 7/29/13 Three Failed Medicated Cycles, NTNP Indefinitely BFP #2 9/14/14, EDD 5/23/15...MMC discovered @ 9w2d; D&C 10/23/14 ***BFP #3 7/4/15, LO born 3/17/16***
My SIL just posted something on FB with her friend in labor and the hashtag #almostanauntie and I am like super irrationally butthurt over it.
She sounds like my SIL! She once posted a photo of her FaceTime conversation with a toddler around DD's age referring to herself as the kid's aunt. Meanwhile, she's never made any attempt to be a part of DD's life.
My SIL just posted something on FB with her friend in labor and the hashtag #almostanauntie and I am like super irrationally butthurt over it.
Not super irrational.. I get upset when my brothers baby momma posts pictures of my nephew with his other cousins and she won't let him come hang out with S.
Wtf!?!? That would upset me too. What reason does she give?
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