Things are not working. DD3's second wake (not including gas wakes earlier in the night) is 5-6 a.m. often, 4-is hours after her first. But she doesn't eat a full feed. Then she wakes up at 7:45-8:30 and doesn't eat a full feed again. Then she cat naps, for reasons unknown. I try stuffing her whenever I can but I never know when she will eat. She is not napping well. She is a fussy mess.
So at least part of my issue is that her not really full feed in the early a.m. totally throws off eat-play-sleep. Thoughts? It is impossible to force a full feed.
I'm no help, just letting you know we're here too. Our issue isn't the eating, but she only takes 40 minute naps usually. I am just trying to recognize that I can get her to sleep, but I can't keep her asleep. Can't force it like you said.... Trying to just take it all in stride and not become too frustrated.
Things are not working. DD3's second wake (not including gas wakes earlier in the night) is 5-6 a.m. often, 4-is hours after her first. But she doesn't eat a full feed. Then she wakes up at 7:45-8:30 and doesn't eat a full feed again. Then she cat naps, for reasons unknown. I try stuffing her whenever I can but I never know when she will eat. She is not napping well. She is a fussy mess.
So at least part of my issue is that her not really full feed in the early a.m. totally throws off eat-play-sleep. Thoughts? It is impossible to force a full feed.
Different timing, but I haven't really gotten eat play sleep to work either! The timing always seems off.
shanny that's super weird and super weird that your H didn't kick her out!
He didn't take a shower right then so it ended up being a non-issue. He also told me he thought it was weird. I told him that if his mom wants to do something that I may find strange, he needs to ask me first.
shanny, I think I might be in the minority re: MIL and adult son... I don't have a problem being half dressed or naked for a shower around my mom in my apartment. However, if it made my SO uncomfortable, or it was MIL or my mom not respecting boundaries (like, not belonging in the marital bedroom or something) then I would be happy to kick my mom out, and she also wouldn't make a big deal about it.
Is it just me or is this weird? H's mom was with R in our master bedroom and then H had gotten home from playing golf. I asked him if he was going to take a shower and he said he should. Then I said that his mom and R could leave the room (bathroom is connected) and she said it was okay for her to stay because it's her son. I said that was weird because he's not a kid, he's an adult. Even if it's okay with her, I'm not okay with it and I texted H to let him know that.
I really do not want to be in the presence of my son while naked past age 10. Once he can properly and thoroughly bathe himself it is unnecessary. For a fully grown man it is definitely odd.
shanny, I think I might be in the minority re: MIL and adult son... I don't have a problem being half dressed or naked for a shower around my mom in my apartment. However, if it made my SO uncomfortable, or it was MIL or my mom not respecting boundaries (like, not belonging in the marital bedroom or something) then I would be happy to kick my mom out, and she also wouldn't make a big deal about it.
Mother - daughter is way way different than mother - son in my opinion
Is it just me or is this weird? H's mom was with R in our master bedroom and then H had gotten home from playing golf. I asked him if he was going to take a shower and he said he should. Then I said that his mom and R could leave the room (bathroom is connected) and she said it was okay for her to stay because it's her son. I said that was weird because he's not a kid, he's an adult. Even if it's okay with her, I'm not okay with it and I texted H to let him know that.
I really do not want to be in the presence of my son while naked past age 10. Once he can properly and thoroughly bathe himself it is unnecessary. For a fully grown man it is definitely odd.
Yes, Thankfully, the situation has never come up for him to see his mom naked or her to see him naked after childhood. Nonetheless, I think it's very odd that she would just think it's okay and/or tell me it's okay to do that.
Happy as a damn clam. Just bright eyed, giggly and ready to move around.
She sleeps in the Rock n Play in our room so it's quite distressing that free movement isn't a possibility. I'd move her to her crib for this festivity, but she can only handle about fifteen minutes max before she needs pacifier management. By that point, I might as well get up.
This is a new problem. I'm hoping it passes quickly. ::yawn::
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Happy as a damn clam. Just bright eyed, giggly and ready to move around.
She sleeps in the Rock n Play in our room so it's quite distressing that free movement isn't a possibility. I'd move her to her crib for this festivity, but she can only handle about fifteen minutes max before she needs pacifier management. By that point, I might as well get up.
This is a new problem. I'm hoping it passes quickly. ::yawn::
If my LO wakes up early I'll bring him into bed to cuddle with me and H. I can usually snooze for a couple more hours like that. Not sure if you're comfortable with that, but could be worth a try if you are.
My favorite part of last night was being up with Olivia from 4-5:30, put her in her bed and she slept until...... 6:07. She likes to give me a nice 40 minute snooze 😉
Happy as a damn clam. Just bright eyed, giggly and ready to move around.
She sleeps in the Rock n Play in our room so it's quite distressing that free movement isn't a possibility. I'd move her to her crib for this festivity, but she can only handle about fifteen minutes max before she needs pacifier management. By that point, I might as well get up.
This is a new problem. I'm hoping it passes quickly. ::yawn::
If my LO wakes up early I'll bring him into bed to cuddle with me and H. I can usually snooze for a couple more hours like that. Not sure if you're comfortable with that, but could be worth a try if you are.
I do this too. Or I go lay on the couch with him next to me.
If my LO wakes up early I'll bring him into bed to cuddle with me and H. I can usually snooze for a couple more hours like that. Not sure if you're comfortable with that, but could be worth a try if you are.
I do this too. Or I go lay on the couch with him next to me.
I do the same. Usually he'll get up between 6:30 and 7:30 and I'll have him nurse laying next to me and he goes back to sleep for a bit
Post by bocaburger on Oct 22, 2016 16:22:00 GMT -5
Having a rough couple days. I just feel like I'm on 24/7 and can't get a break. We are visiting my ILs and usually that means they help a lot with the babies, but so far I get handed a baby any time they cry. I got frustrated at H for not taking enough baby duty, since weekends are the only time he is around during the day. Even when I'm not holding a baby I can't relax because I'm always thinking about who's holding them, if they're ok, when they need to eat next, etc. H can turn it off because he spends time away from them during the week but I can't. Even now I finally snuck upstairs for a nap but haven't been able to sleep because I kept hearing them crying, and now I know M could be ready to eat again at any moment.
I just so badly need a break. Like a day where the only baby care I have to do is feed. I feel guilty saying that because I know my babies don't get as much attention as singletons but it's just so constant.
I'm also just exhausted because M was up every hour all night. H took half the shifts but it took him forever to get up so I was awake listening to the crying on the monitor each time. And then this morning he slept in after I got up to feed and MIL made some comment about how he was "up all night". Um, I was up at least as much. I feel like both our families value his time and sleep more than mine because he has school and work and I'm "just" a SAHM. And then H had the gall to comment about how I slept through the crying on the monitor ONCE just after I had finally gotten to sleep.
H is being much more supportive since I talked to him about it this morning but I am still so tired and frustrated and worn out. Sorry for the disjointed rant I just needed to get it out.
bocaburger caring for multiples is no joke. Breastfeeding is no joke. Doing both at the same time must be utterly exhausting. You are doing a fantastic job but you need and deserve breaks too. I'm glad that you are asking for help, and I hooe that you get it
Post by hannahbear on Oct 22, 2016 17:58:23 GMT -5
My ILs are visiting and I am having a reallllly hard time. I mean, i know they had kids but it was 30 years ago! They are trying to help but it just seems like they don't know what they're doing. I went to take a nap but was SO nervous... -wasted breastmilk -what if they can't comfort him -what if they just let him sleep and don't wake him to feed him
Post by hannahbear on Oct 22, 2016 18:06:10 GMT -5
And yep. I've been feeding him 3 ounces at a time, and they did 4. Maybe that's fine, I don't know. I usually supplement an ounce. I'll definitely run out of bm.
I guess if he took it then that's good, I should try to stuff him. I'm just mad that they disregarded my instructions.
That sounds so frustrating bocaburger. It's physically and mentally exhausting to never get s break. I really admire you for keeping it together with twins!
joy to be honest it makes me a bit nervous too. I'll stay awake until he's done nursing then scoot over quite a bit. I think he gives me the extra bit because my bed is warm compared to the rock and play.
I keep saying I'm not going to fall back asleep and just get up- but sleep.
I do the same. Usually he'll get up between 6:30 and 7:30 and I'll have him nurse laying next to me and he goes back to sleep for a bit
I'm guess it's because it's my first kid, but I'm so nervous to do this. I don't like when my husband put her on his chest and then closes his eyes.
Tell me how to do it without killing her?
I keep a pillow on the edge of the bed and if he's on my chest I sleep more upright. I only did it with DD in the morning. Bc DS is my second and I need to sleep honestly I don't even think about it.
Post by bocaburger on Oct 22, 2016 21:59:29 GMT -5
How do you know when it's time to move the babies from the cribs to the bassinets? I am trying to put it off as long as possible for space reasons but they are starting to move around more in their sleep and I want to make sure they are safe.
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