@justinslovo yay! That's awesome! I hope you find some great stuff at the outlet mall.
I'm on my way traveling 2 hours for a 9 am court appearance. I'm sleeeeepy. I also wasn't able to finish straightening my hair, so one side is much nicer than the other. 😳
Morning everyone! I have a mobile pet groomer coming this morning for the first time & doodle's 1st grooming experience. Hopefully she can clean his legs up really good so he tracks less mud into the house every day.
H took yesterday off b/c it was supposed to be gorgeous out (he only gets a very few days/year that he is guaranteed to get off; otherwise they're terrible with actually letting him use earned vacation time). It ended up being cold and rainy all day. I was SO mad. He originally debated between yesterday or today, and of course today is looking like it'll be 75 and sunny. I feel so bad for him but am trying to convince him to try for today of too, since we could really use a nice day together.
Post by erinshelley21 on Oct 19, 2016 8:00:05 GMT -5
I got to eat all but 2 bites of my breakfast in peace. That is a rare occurrence these days!
I anticipate this work day being somewhat annoying since I'm dealing with the same problem from last week. But, I am feeling much more at peace about it.
I also need to get my hands on a cheese ball and crackers today. I saw one of those Tasty videos on FB last night. I don't even eat cheese balls.
Moooorning. I am at my moms because I have an appointment near her house (2ish hrs from my house) at 11. My brother is going to watch C while I go which is nice and then by the time I get back my mom will be on her lunch break and my aunt will be stopping by for a visit. I havent seen my aunt since Cs first birthday in May so I am excited.
I got to eat all but 2 bites of my breakfast in peace. That is a rare occurrence these days!
I anticipate this work day being somewhat annoying since I'm dealing with the same problem from last week. But, I am feeling much more at peace about it.
I also need to get my hands on a cheese ball and crackers today. I saw one of those Tasty videos on FB last night. I don't even eat cheese balls.
Well now I need a cheeseball. Or pimento cheese. Hmmm.
Post by moutonrouge on Oct 19, 2016 9:10:11 GMT -5
So jealous of The Christmas Tree Shop @justinslovo! I need to revamp my string light game this year - I bought ones that are nice but the bulbs are too big, I want smaller ones.
ladytiffany24 T&P - is she staying with you for the visit or part of it?
I got to eat all but 2 bites of my breakfast in peace. That is a rare occurrence these days!
I anticipate this work day being somewhat annoying since I'm dealing with the same problem from last week. But, I am feeling much more at peace about it.
I also need to get my hands on a cheese ball and crackers today. I saw one of those Tasty videos on FB last night. I don't even eat cheese balls.
Well now I need a cheeseball. Or pimento cheese. Hmmm.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Oct 19, 2016 9:24:19 GMT -5
moutonrouge she's staying with us for the entire visit! *grumble*
This is what happens when the passive aggressive bitch doesn't involve me in conversations about her visits. She knows my H won't pay close enough attention to the dates she's thinking about and will just tell her okay. I nearly lost my shit when I found out about it. Needless to say, she will never be staying with us this long ever, ever again. I have put H in charge of making sure she understands that and if he doesn't do it, I will. And he knows he doesn't want me to be the one to have that conversation with her so he'd better man up! Especially before we have this baby! Ain't no way that woman is going to be staying with us for 2 weeks while I have a newborn and a toddler in my care! Hell to the no!
Yikes, that is an intense amount of time ladytiffany24. I take it you dont really get along so well? T&Ps for your sanity.
My MIL offered to come help out after the baby is born and to coordinate schedules with my H and mom so Ive got help for the first 3-4 weeks. Cool, we get along, shes a great cook and can entertain C while I am busy with baby. Yah, that offer quickly devolved from staying for a week, to 3 days, to expecting to take C to her house 2.5hrs away. How about no thanks.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Oct 19, 2016 11:19:57 GMT -5
obi it's not that we don't get along. It's just weird. We've never had much of a relationship. She's just passive aggressive and is quite literally one of the most annoying people on the face of the planet. She's a nice lady and all, but I can really only handle about 3 or 4 days of her MAX before I'm ready to punch her in the face.
Also, I'm that weird person who loves everyone to come see my new baby and adore them. But after a couple of days, I just want my home back and want to get used to doing things on my own. I may be in the minority there but i just want people to leave me alone and figure out things on my own!
When DD was born, everyone was only around like 2 or 3 days but I wa SO ready for them to all leave.
My hospital just got a new computer system, so I'm trying to set up a new account for the online portal. But I guess my social was mistyped into the computer system, so it's telling me my number is wrong.
Called the help hotline, was told I was being transferred to someone who could change that for me, who said that they couldn't do it, I needed to talk to records. Transferred there, apparently it was the wrong hospital location, so transferred to the main line for my hospital, wormed my way through the options to medical records, where I was told I needed to talk to Shelly, transferred and was met with a voicemail box. Left a message.
I hated having family visit when I had a newborn. HATED IT. I could barely sit, I was struggling unsuccessfully to breastfeed, I just wanted to be alone and adjust, and I was barraged with thoughts like "he's not even supposed to be born yet!! People shouldn't be around him!"
My post partum lyfe was a mess. I hope that this time isn't quite the same disaster as last time. Especially considering that we will NEED someone around, what with having a toddler that needs someone to watch him while i'm laboring. Thinking about it gives me anxiety.
ladytiffany24, I'm sorry about the MIL situation. Mine lives two miles away, but somehow I've managed to not have to see her ALL the time. Couldn't imagine having to live with her for 13 days.
I hated having family visit when I had a newborn. HATED IT. I could barely sit, I was struggling unsuccessfully to breastfeed, I just wanted to be alone and adjust, and I was barraged with thoughts like "he's not even supposed to be born yet!! People shouldn't be around him!"
My post partum lyfe was a mess. I hope that this time isn't quite the same disaster as last time. Especially considering that we will NEED someone around, what with having a toddler that needs someone to watch him while i'm laboring. Thinking about it gives me anxiety.
I could have written the first paragraph of what you just said!
My closest family is about 3 1/2 hours away but thankfully, I have an amazing sitter who will be on standby to take my toddler until an of my family gets into town! DD will also still go to the sitter for most days while I'm on maternity leave as to avoid messing up her routine when so many things are already changing. Andplusalso, I'm still paying her whether or not she goes so might as well take advantage!
ladytiffany24, family visiting is HARD. When DD was born, H's family came out from the west coast when DD was about 2 weeks old to meet her. This was especially hard for me b/c I had a very hard time emotionally (+ with nursing) the first few weeks, and I had to put on my happy face for them. Fortunately H agreed they needed to stay at a hotel b/c our house isn't big enough for everyone. But at the end of the trip, his parents told him they were disappointed that we were "poor hosts" and didn't plan enough to do with them. I LOST it (to him, not his parents) b/c, as he understood & agreed, they were here to meet their newborn granddaughter, and that was it. My parents even had us all over for a big lobster bake while they were here, so they were offended too when I told them. Needless to say, if they insist on coming out for baby #2, I personally will be making it clear that this is NOT the time to come expecting big plans and touristy trips b/c I will be concerned only with figuring out life w/ 2u2. If they want to come out for fun, they need to wait until the kids are old enough that I can manage that.
moutonrouge, the worst. I'm sorry, having to wait around for any of that stuff is painful.
Post by ladytiffany24 on Oct 19, 2016 12:28:36 GMT -5
kaits8, Oh hell no! I would've lost it! Poor hosts?! It gets me all twitchy even thinking about it. Ummm hello! YOu just had a baby! A baby who is only 2 weeks old. What were they expecting?!
Our house is large enough to host my in-laws and a couple of others so that's my fear...everyone will think they're welcome at our house since we have "the room." Yes, we have room for you, but I don't have the patience to entertain you while I'm trying to figure out life with another newborn while trying to develop a breastfeeding relationship with said newborn! I was SO uncomfortable when everyone was around the first time around because I'd have to go to another room in my OWN HOME to nurse my daughter. WTAF?! Not happening this time around.
If people want to come longer than a couple of days, they can get hotel rooms. I think that's going to be my stance this time around regardless of the fact that we'd have room for them.
My mom has offered to come stay with us for the first month after the baby comes to help out and I can't decide if it's a good idea or not. We get along really well, but I think a month might be too long and I'll end up wanting my space to settle in and get into a routine. But I'm scared to decline and end up exhausted and desperate for help, especially since my H isn't really going to get much time off from work and has to travel all the time.
I ordered PF Changs for lunch and I'm so excited. I keep staring out the front door waiting for the delivery guy
I think it's a personal decision. I know I'm a little different than a lot of people but I would've lost my mind if my mom or anyone else had stayed with me for a whole month. All I wanted was to settle in to my own routine and try to figure out my baby on my own. Especially the breastfeeding part! I was so stressed about it and wanted everyone to be GONE so I could just whip my boobs out all the time.
But again, it's a personal decision. Maybe you could have her stay for a week or 2 and reevaluate after that? Let her know that you'd love for her to stay for a couple of weeks but you're not sure if a month will be necessary? If you think by the end of a couple of weeks you need her longer, ask her to stay a little longer!
When we had overnight guests when DD was really little, we sent them to the hotel. We told them we didn't want to wake them up in the middle of the night when we had to get up with the baby. Truthfully, I wanted the separation of having the house to ourselves part of the time.
Right before DD started day care, my mom came and stayed with us during the week for 2 weeks since I was back to work and DC didn't have an opening yet. It worked out well, I thought. Maybe because DH and I were both out of the house at work. She also made sure to give us time at night, so it could be just the 3 of us.
I think if your family is willing to give you space when you need it, then it can work at well. If you have to entertain on top of a newborn, then I would not be happy.
I think the maternity tops are going to come out this week. I've realized the last couple of days I've been needing to pull my shirt down a lot more, which means I need to make the switch. I do not want to be walking around work with my belly hanging out of my shirt.
My mom wants me to stay at her house for a few weeks after having the baby.
Not gonna happen. Maybe a couple days after we leave the hospital, because we're staying with her beforehand. Then I want to go home and try and put together our lives a little. Can't imagine I'll want many people over either. But DH will have some time off because it's our slow season so hopefully things will be relatively manageable between us two.
MIL already lives two miles away, and my mom is moving within 15 miles so they'll most certainly be around, and thankfully not have to stay over if I need help.
When DS was born my mom flew up to "help" for a week. Now, I'm not sure what she thought she was going to do but it certainly wasn't the help I needed or wanted. She pretty much stayed by the heated pool in out apartment complex. Went one two dates with random dudes she met while visiting and constantly bitched about me not wanting to go walking around town/shopping with her.
Also, my DH was on paternity leave from the Navy but because he was the only sailor on post with his job he still had to take phone calls. He also still had to workout because military. Well when my dad came to see us months later(parents are divorced) he told me my mom called him and wanted him to talk me into leaving my DH and coming to live with her. Needless to say, that didn't happen.
My mom is...kind of like dealing with another child, to be honest. Me and her have had words about all of this and she pretends she doesn't know what I'm talking about or that I'm "crazy" and just being mean.
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