Completely unmotivated to do work. I just want to scan the Cyber Monday deals and look at baby stuff. Trying to keep my mind off my NT scan coming up on Friday.
Post by pinecone21 on Nov 28, 2016 11:30:56 GMT -5
I feel ya. This is my slow season at work. I think I'll work on a Shutterfly book this afternoon at my desk. I give one to the grandparents every year for Christmas and I haven't started the one for this year yet.
honda13 - How about themed ones with multiple questions? Some ideas: - Childhood fun: Fave things when you were a kid, what your family life was like, etc - All the places you've lived and what you liked/don't like about them - Travel: Where you've been, want to go, recommendations - Professional life: What you do, what jobs you've held in the past, dream job
currently driving myself crazy looking at table linens. i've done this for the last several years around the holidays, but i always get overwhelmed and give up. can i skip the table cloth and just get a fun runner and place mats and napkins/rings? things like this make me feel like i'll never be an adult. (overreaction alert)
Unfortunately I'm busy at work this week. I should be prepping for my three straight days of out-of-office meetings tomorrow through Thursday. Only saving grace is that my Wednesday meeting is really early in the morning so my flight lands back home at like 12:30 pm. I am totally getting some Xmas shopping done that afternoon.
marshian , my NT scan is also Friday! I hope to have my QNatal blood test results back by then, and I'm nervous about both things.
currently driving myself crazy looking at table linens. i've done this for the last several years around the holidays, but i always get overwhelmed and give up. can i skip the table cloth and just get a fun runner and place mats and napkins/rings? things like this make me feel like i'll never be an adult. (overreaction alert)
thanks yall. hope everyone had a great thanksgiving!!
***TW*** this is probably not the place for this question, but i'm going to ask it anyway. my BFF, her husband, and her 1.5 year old twin boys + DH, DD and i are going to a christmas thing the weekend after next. we live 5 hours apart and i've never met her kids (for shame!). they struggled hard with IF, and i tried so hard but feel like i botched telling her about my pregnancy with DD. i know i've explained this on the board before, but i was trying to be sensitive and wait for the right time, and wrote her a note (snail mail) so she didn't feel pressured to react positively. she ended up feeling hurt that i didn't tell her right away (they were fresh off of an IVF cycle that ended in a CP when i found out). they haven't started trying for another baby, so i'm not sure how to handle it this time. do i tell her before we see them? tell her there? does it matter?
agm04 - That's a tough situation. From what I've seen people here dealing with IF recommend, you should tell her via email/text/snail mail so she has time and space to process the news however needed. Maybe add that you're excited to see her in person and can either talk more about it or not at all, whatever she would like?
marshian that's how i think about it, but it seems like people i have asked IRL (my mom and sister, who are both sensitive people) are like "what are you talking about, they're not trying, just tell her"...so then i think it might feel weird to her if i dance around it. i think i want to tell her in advance just in case, and also because i don't want our meetup to be about my pregnancy. i want it to be about the kids and all of us spending time together! thanks for the input.
agm04, I would tell her before you see her. That's just my two cents. I will also add that I had a loss in July and I was beside myself. My BFF who had a loss previously held my hand through it all. Weeks later she texted me to tell me she was pregnant and her due date was three days before mine would have been. I was heartbroken and cried. It's not like I wasn't excited for her, because I was. I just felt some kinda way about her knowing the whole time. Honestly though, I couldn't have handled the news any sooner either. So there was no win and that might be the case for your friend too.
agm04, I would tell her in advance in an email. That's how I preferred to find out when it felt like everyone was pregnant right after our 21-week loss.
I agree with others-tell her ahead of time in writing. Then she has time to process it and grieve through her own feelings. Then when you see her, let her ether bring up the topic or not. Follow her lead.
agm04, thank you. Like I said, I don't think there was a right time or way to tell me so she was kinda screwed no matter what. She's still my BFF and I love her.
Post by teachermomtobe on Nov 28, 2016 17:24:59 GMT -5
agm04, I agree with other posters. I'd tell her before you meet up and then follow her lead if she seems like she wants to talk about it or not. IF can make any announcement hard even if she's not currently trying. IF sucks like that.
Post by lotsoflotts on Nov 28, 2016 20:36:41 GMT -5
agm04 like previous posters said, I would send her an email. I'm sure she'll want to celebrate with you at some point, but that lets her control when she's ready.
Post by lotsoflotts on Nov 28, 2016 20:42:56 GMT -5
AFM, I'm watching football and trying to decide if there's something else I can eat. I had some dinner, but my stomach is kinda growling again, and I'm still nauseous so that's great. I also kinda want to just go to bed, even though it's not even 8 yet. I just hope the nausea lets up soon, it's miserable.
We told our families at Thanksgiving by having DD wear a "Big Sis" shirt. We explicitly told them not to post anything on Facebook but they could tell close friends and family. We even changed her out of the shirt so there could be plenty of pictures of her, etc. I woke up this morning and checked Facebook....what was the only picture FIL posted from Thanksgiving? One of DD in her Big Sis shirt! I made DH text them at 5:30 am to change it! He's friends with many of our close friends that we haven't had a chance to tell yet. And the rumor mill in our hometown is crazy, so I'm sure a bunch of people know now 😡
Post by teachermomtobe on Nov 29, 2016 7:05:32 GMT -5
bewise, ughh I'd be pissed too! I changed my FB settings so nobody could tag me or write on my wall. DH's cousin tagged him in a "preparation for being a parent video". Ughhh. It was a funny video but still! People don't get it!
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Nov 29, 2016 7:58:46 GMT -5
bewise glad you caught that early! I'd be so annoyed! I think people just don't get it! My fam thinks it's amazing and wants everyone to know. They don't get the anxiety that I have about it. My MIL was like why no FB? Why wouldn't you want to share this with the entire world?
teachermomtobe that's also annoying. My aunt does that stuff. She's older and doesn't get FB etiquette (she always "shares" other people's personal posts to her wall which I find creepy and I don't know if she knows everyone can see everything) Only a matter of time before she tags me in some baby article.
Also there's a bunch of people we haven't told and aren't yet (for many reasons) and finding out through FB would be rough
Post by starsandshamrocks123 on Nov 29, 2016 8:09:43 GMT -5
This is my mother "I ran into your 1st grade teacher today at Church. She asked how many grandchildren i have now. Do you know how tough it was for me to say only 4?"
Like she deserved a friggin medal for not blabbing to my 1st grade teacher who I haven't seen in like 10 years and whose business it isn't anyway!!
ETA: I'm sure my mom said it in a way that inferred she was keeping a "big secret"
starsandshamrocks123 that actually made me lol, but i'd be so annoyed if i were you. i'm fully expecting someone to out us. my mom did it accidentally with DD. i only knew bc a friend from HS messaged my sister and me on FB and said "i don't know which one of you is pregnant but i'm excited!!" i was like huh? yeah turns out my mom had posted something about a wonderful weekend with her granddaughter and granddaughter on the way. my mom means well, she would never do that on purpose, but i mean...how hard is it?!
bewise - Glad you caught it so quickly! We also have friends and family we would prefer to not find out via random FB post.
teachermomtobe, @starsandshamrocks, agm04 - Seriously can't believe it. I get people are excited, but it's not their news. All of that would tick me off. We're lucky so far in that both our sets of parents and siblings agree it's our news to share and haven't said anything. We know MIL has told her friends down in FL but we don't really know them and they aren't on FB so no harm done.
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