Post by easilyunamused on Dec 31, 2016 9:10:44 GMT -5
My mom also smokes, and unfortunately in the house as well. It's super frustrating and she's tried to quit, but her husband will never quit. So it's harder for her.
Luckily we don't live in the same state, so I can protect the baby from second hand smoke for the most part. But she wants to come out when I give birth, and I really need to have a talk with her about the smoking. I dread it, because she can get super sensitive about things like this.
My dad has already stopped smoking inside, and we still have 6 months before baby comes. Maybe he'll end up quitting!
That's good! It could be a nice motivation for them. My mom has started to smoke less, and isn't smoking in her new car (for various reasons, but partly so I'll let the baby in there).
We aren't letting people (who aren't my parents or sister) come visit for a month after the birth, and it's largely because of H's dad. He smells of cigarettes to the point that I got sick being around him while he visited last month. That is definitely a "change your clothes" situation.
Here's a pretty dumb question that I'm totally over thinking, when do we stop taking PNV? As soon as we have the baby or are they recommended postpartum as well? Are there any vitamins recommended for breastfeeding? I need to go to Costco today and realized I might not need the massive bottle at this point which is crazy
R is almost 16 weeks old and I'm still taking them (when I remember anyway). I take Rainbow Lite and they're gentle on my stomach so I take their prenatal as my daily vitamin all the time.
If I didn't already take it all the time anyway, I'd probably stick with it through BF-ing.
Also, our pedi doesn't accept unvaccinated children except for medical reasons which is a big deal to us nor do they do "alternate" schedules unless medically necessary
Same here and it was one of the things I liked most about the office. They asked me what my vaccination plans were before they even let me meet the drs.
Post by wineoclock on Dec 31, 2016 12:44:54 GMT -5
About the PNV- I started while TTC then I continued the entire time I was breastfeeding (about 2 years) which then led to us TFAS. So I stayed on them. Fast forward to today and I've been on PNV since January of 2013 without a break.
Thank you Costco for the jumbo bottle at a reasonable price.
I'm not looking forward to judge-y comments. I'm like icedtea says she is though: Strong-willed, so I don't care what they think or say. My baby, my rules. It would be tough if we were facing something like smoking grandparents. Thankfully we don't have that hurdle. Good luck whatever you decide. If they want to see the baby, they will deal and do what you ask.
As far as other rules for seeing baby, we'll be sending an email to everyone we expect will visit in the first three months saying they need to get TDaP if it's out of date. We're having a June baby so I'm less concerned about the flu shot until fall hits, but we'll be requiring that too for frequent visitors.
Our friends (mom is a ER physician) took this approach (but req'd both TDaP and flu for their January baby). For anyone who refused, including the mom's sister, they made them wear a medical mask.
We'll be doing hand washing at least the first month. No strangers touching baby when out and about (hoping to babywear to avoid this but I have no qualms about slapping hands which get too close).
I think that's why I'm freaking out so much. Especially with my parents, we have much different beliefs and parenting styles. Sometimes I look back on the things my mom did when raising us and honestly wonder how we survived and managed to become relatively successful adults. But my mom and dad don't see it that way. In general they see most things in my life as "high-maintenance" and unnecessary. I'm not looking forward to the confrontation that I know will come with secondhand smoke, choosing to EBF, cloth diapers, and so many other things. We already had the car seat argument last week.
Also, I remind myself it's about picking battles. Car seat? A hill to die on, because safety. Them wanting to use disposables while she's with them (we're cd'ing too)? Meh.
I'm trying to keep this in mind as well. Anything safety related is a hard line. Things that get iffy are if there will be consequences I have to deal with later that the person making the choice will not. If disposables always give baby a bad rash, I won't want them used. But I'm willing to bend on non-safety things and see how it goes at first.
As far as other rules for seeing baby, we'll be sending an email to everyone we expect will visit in the first three months saying they need to get TDaP if it's out of date. We're having a June baby so I'm less concerned about the flu shot until fall hits, but we'll be requiring that too for frequent visitors.
Our friends (mom is a ER physician) took this approach (but req'd both TDaP and flu for their January baby). For anyone who refused, including the mom's sister, they made them wear a medical mask.
We'll be doing hand washing at least the first month. No strangers touching baby when out and about (hoping to babywear to avoid this but I have no qualms about slapping hands which get too close).
I would love to see the hand slapping! I could never imagine trying to touch someone's baby!
I've already warned H any strangers trying to touch my belly will get a hand slap too. There are boundaries. Why do the rules change when you're pregnant?
I would love to see the hand slapping! I could never imagine trying to touch someone's baby!
I've already warned H any strangers trying to touch my belly will get a hand slap too. There are boundaries. Why do the rules change when you're pregnant?
I have a bubble even when not pregnant. May the gods help anyone who tries to touch my stomach.
I've already warned H any strangers trying to touch my belly will get a hand slap too. There are boundaries. Why do the rules change when you're pregnant?
I have a bubble even when not pregnant. May the gods help anyone who tries to touch my stomach.
My parents are putting a nursery in their house because they're so excited for their first grandchild. But their house smells like smoke.
Aaaand now I'm panicking.
I wouldn't worry about it. You're the mom, you get to decide how much time your baby spends there. Occasional naps during visits is not going to be a huge deal. If they want to babysit in the evenings, have them come over your house so baby can sleep in his/her own bed. That's what most people do even when the grandparents' house isn't questionable, it''s just easier for the baby to sleep in a familiar environment. By age 1, the room at their house will be more playroom/toy storage than nursery. HTH.
Will my nipples get bigger (longer?) as the pregnancy goes on? My nips are on the smaller size and I don't see how the baby would be able to latch on.
I have very small nipples, and they never got larger, or even darker or longer. I used a shield most of our breast feeding time, and unlike most, I didn't mind it at all.
easilyunamused I think breast changes are unique to each woman. My left nipple was really flat, like almost inverted and I had some trouble latching at first with my son. We powered through without the shield at the advice of my LC and ended up successfully breastfeeding for nearly two years. This pregnancy that nipple pokes right out and doesn't look the same as it used to. The body is weird.
If you have trouble with latching ask for the help of a LC. The baby latches to the entire areola not just the nipple if that makes sense.
ugaqueencity DS1 came home in a onesie and sleeper (NH in January) with blankets on top once he was strapped in. This baby (NY in April/may) will be coming home in a onesie and sleeper as well, though probably won't need as many blankets
In all honesty, pants or sleepers are easiest with the crotch strap of the car seats. My aunt would put her DD in dresses all the time but car seat harnesses were a pain to deal with getting around her dresses whenever I tried to sit her in the seat
Post by daisylola11 on Jan 2, 2017 21:29:08 GMT -5
ugaqueencity I'm in nor cal and will be doing a onesie and cotton sleeper and hat, maybe a blanket depending. You'd have to put pants and lift the gown up to clip the car seat I think.
Post by thelittleredm on Jan 2, 2017 21:48:50 GMT -5
ugaqueencity, We are bringing two outfits since we don't know the sex. One is a sleeper and the other is a onesie with leggings and socks as well as a set of pants if it's cold enough. Generally, I think sleeper outfits or onesie and pant sets are best.
More stupid questions, what are you planning on dressing baby in when you bring him/her home from the hospital? I'm due in march in Texas so weather shouldn't really be an issue. My mom got her a really sweet day gown but I'm worried that will be kind of complicated to deal with when trying to get her strapped into the car seat
I think I want to get this (personalized, but colors black, grey, light blue, and navy) with some little black pants. It will be July in STL, so I don't think we will need more than this. Seems easy enough but cute.
Post by LadyNymeria on Jan 2, 2017 22:37:19 GMT -5
ugaqueencity - DS came home in a sleeper (no onesie undernwath) and hat with a light blanket over him once he was strapped in. It was Sept in CT and a nice day but not too warm.
I wouldn't want to deal with the gown in the car seat. Not just to come home from the hospital anyway.
More stupid questions, what are you planning on dressing baby in when you bring him/her home from the hospital? I'm due in march in Texas so weather shouldn't really be an issue. My mom got her a really sweet day gown but I'm worried that will be kind of complicated to deal with when trying to get her strapped into the car seat
I think I want to get this (personalized, but colors black, grey, light blue, and navy) with some little black pants. It will be July in STL, so I don't think we will need more than this. Seems easy enough but cute.
That's really cute! Love the color combo you have in mind.
V came home in a onesie and a warm fuzzy one piece, since it was February. He was outside for a bit while the nurse installed our carseat for us (we brought it to the hospital in the box, we were pretty much in denial there was a baby coming I guess, I don't recommend that though) so it was nice he had something warm under the blanket.
Any ST+ moms out there? After solo bedtime tonight, my fears of putting two kids to bed have come around again. How do do bedtime with a newborn and a toddler?
I think it was earlier on in this thread that someone asked about hospital bag supplies... if not, disregard, but one thing I remember wishing we had was baby wipes. They gave us dry wipes and had us use water with them but we had a difficult time getting him clean
I think it was earlier on in this thread that someone asked about hospital bag supplies... if not, disregard, but one thing I remember wishing we had was baby wipes. They gave us dry wipes and had us use water with them but we had a difficult time getting him clean
I think it was earlier on in this thread that someone asked about hospital bag supplies... if not, disregard, but one thing I remember wishing we had was baby wipes. They gave us dry wipes and had us use water with them but we had a difficult time getting him clean
Oh interesting. What else would you recommend? I've heard to bring your own pads, because the hospitals are awful.
Did you bring your own pajamas or robe for after the birth? Or just stay in the hospital gown?
I think it was earlier on in this thread that someone asked about hospital bag supplies... if not, disregard, but one thing I remember wishing we had was baby wipes. They gave us dry wipes and had us use water with them but we had a difficult time getting him clean
Oh interesting. What else would you recommend? I've heard to bring your own pads, because the hospitals are awful.
Did you bring your own pajamas or robe for after the birth? Or just stay in the hospital gown?
Bring swaddles. Not receiving blankets that you find at BRU/BBB (the carter's brand comes to mind here), but legit 44x44" inch or larger swaddles or the Velcro ones.
I brought all my own stuff but it's a personal preference. I used the hospital stuff until my shower the next morning (i lost a lot of blood so I couldn't shower for almost 24 hours after birth and needed help getting out of bed the first few times) and then used my own including underwear and pads. I can't stand high underwear or the gowns so I wore yoga pants and tanks with one of my robes while in the hospital. There were plenty on my BMB that used the mesh underwear and giant hospital pads and just stayed in the gowns but they were not for me.
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