Informal GKU IF Check-In 1/9-1/15

[daisy818]

Hi ladies!

This check-in is meant for anyone on GKU who has hit the 1 year mark of TTC (6 months if you’re over 35), has an infertility diagnosis, or is going through IF testing/treatment. It is meant to be a place for people to share and ask any questions who might not participate on 3T/IF and who would like the company of others going through the same experiences.

If you have any questions about participating, please send amberr a PRIVATE MESSAGE otherwise please share you info and jump on in!!!! This will be posted every Monday. If you have any suggestions or would like something added, please feel free to post.

QOTW: I didn't watch the Golden Globes but I love looking at pictures of the dresses - did you watch? Who was your best dressed?  Worst dressed?

[butlerfan]

daisy818...I was just coming on to create one for this week. Great minds think alike!

[ironbaby]

Hello loves. I caught the thread late last week, so I didn't update.

Well, we have officially started IVF. I had my baseline ultrasound this morning, and I am just waiting for bloodwork results to come back to determine what dose of Gonal-f I will start on. Retrieval will probably be sometime next weekend, and we'll do a fresh 5d transfer.

I am so excited to be doing something new, and my hopes are really high.

QOTW: I don't watch any of the awards shows.

[thechickencoop]

Oh hi. Nothing new here. IUI was 9 days ago so just hangin out in the TWW. I haven't bothered testing out my trigger, last IUI it was gone at 7DPO so there's no point now. Just waiting til...I guess Wednesday to test. FF says Thursday but...I like to pee on things.

Now for the fashion:

My favorites:

Emma Stone


Thandie Newton


Viola Davis


Lily Collins


Olivia Culpo



There were sooooo many bad ones. My worst:

Kerry Washington


Tracee Ellis Ross


Anna Kendrick - the BOOBS!!! WHY!!!??



ETA I didn't watch and am not really sure who some of these people are....lol.

[thechickencoop]

Woohoo ironbaby!! Will you freeze too if you have enough at your retrieval? I'm so happy that you're moving forward; you got this.

[ironbaby]

thechickencoop, eep, excited for your IUI. Glad I have someone to stalk this week. And yes, we will freeze anything we have left.

[butlerfan]

ironbaby, FX that this is it for you. Glad something is happening

thechickencoop eek...FX that this works for you as well.

[butlerfan]

My doctor changed how and when I take my estrogen and progesterone for perimenopause since my body is an asshole and wouldn't stop randomly spotting. The number of days had picked up where I would spot for 4-5 days (and have a light period 1 day of it) and then 1 1/2 to 2 weeks later repeat the cycle. They were supposed to just stop me from having any bleeding but my body decided that it doesn't like that option apparently...ugh.

So now I'm on taking estrogen every day and double up on the progesterone for the 1st two weeks of the month and then stop. This will trick my body into then bleeding a few days after I stop the progesterone for a monthly period. While I would rather not have to deal with AF anymore at least this will give me an idea of when it is coming again instead of being all of the place and so many days of the month.

So FX that it works.


Foster care wise-we have been licensed for 2 months, have done respite once (and gotten sick), and just impatiently patiently waiting for placements.

QOTW: I DVR'd the award ceremony...was watching football and the post game show instead.

[ironbaby]

butlerfan, ugh. I am sorry your body is not cooperating, and I am sorry there's still not been a placement. I keep eagerly awaiting news on that front for you!

[daisy818]

ironbaby, FX that stimming goes well this week!

thechickencoop, FX so hard for you!!

AFM, I am expecting CD1 to start any minute now (I'm 17dpo and my temp is below coverline as of this morning) but it hasn't shown up yet. IVF consult is Thursday, but I talked to a friend who had IVF with this doctor, and while she really liked him, the price seemed astronomical compared to clinics in bigger cities. So we may end up doing a second consult at a clinic in a bigger city that is about 3 hours away. I just tell myself that my car is fuel efficient and there are always audio books...

QOTW: I loved all the yellow dresses (included Viola Davis above) and little Mille Bobby Brown from Stranger Things was adorable. But SO MUCH BAD. Anna Kendrick's boob dress was even worse in some pics - it looked like she had a center boob and an armpit boob. And Keri Russell looked like a frumpy lady in a trashy leopard print muumuu. And Sarah Jessica Parker just looked scary.

[butlerfan]

Jan 9, 2017 11:01:21 GMT -5 ironbaby said:

butlerfan , ugh. I am sorry your body is not cooperating, and I am sorry there's still not been a placement. I keep eagerly awaiting news on that front for you!

Honestly with how I feel today with being exhausted and being lazy over the weekend it may be good if we don't have any placements until I get over the last of this crap and can get caught back up on housework.  We were planning on getting Christmas stuff down over the weekend...and we did none of it.  Tonight was the new goal to at least do the tree but I may just go to bed to apparently catch up on more sleep.  The house really isn't horrible but it just feels like it is.  If we just have a good couple nights to get the holiday stuff away and pick up it would look better.  But all the bathrooms need to be cleaned really well to make sure we got all the germs (disinfect spray only goes so far...lol) and with the weather my entry way looks horrible.

[ironbaby]

butlerfan, I really hope you start feeling better soon. I vote you take the time tonight to rest up. Once you feel better, tackling the house will be so much easier.

daisy818, good luck at your consult! I think getting a few opinions is helpful.

[Deleted]

I'm just hanging out at cd23/wto. I'm hoping to o by mid next week, but I'm not holding my breath.

I have a Dr appointment on the 20th with my family Dr, and got the blood work done on Friday. It has been almost 18 months, so I will be requesting a referral to an re. Hopefully it won't take too long to get in to see an RE, but I'm expecting it will take a few months, given my recent research into our health system.

I didn't watch the globes, but Claire foy looked crazy. I didn't care for the puffy sleeves at all.

[ceejay]

ironbaby - good luck with IVF! I'm excited for you to get started, and I have my FX so hard that this is it for you.

thechickencoop - FX for you this cycle! I hope you get good news on Wednesday. And I agree with basically all of your best and worst dressed pics.

butlerfan - I hope the new med schedule will help your body regulate itself! And FX you get a call for a placement soon!

daisy818 - good luck at your IVF consult! Even if you love this RE, it might be good to get a second opinion/quote from a different RE, since IVF is such a big financial and physical commitment.

@sparky85 - FX you don't have to wait too long to get in with an RE.

[jense927]

daisy818, sorry to hear about CD1 pending
ironbaby, good luck with IVF. Having hope is amazing and terrifying at the same time!
thechickencoop, good luck on Wednesday!
butlerfan, I hope you get good news soon for placements.

AFM, Just waiting until my appointment on Feb 2nd. I've been at peace with the decision to get the surgery and the fact that it will take time. I wish we didn't have to wait but have come to terms with it. For now its a definitive plan and I find for me one of the hardest parts about IF is the uncertainty of it all. The hope and disappointment. Now its just not going to happen for at least 6 months. I am thinking about joining in on a girls Vegas trip that I previously didn't sign up for (since I had hoped to be KU).

[ceejay]

AFM, nothing new on the TTC front. We're on cycle #30, and I have basically zero chance of getting pregnant naturally, but I still get my hopes up a little bit each time and then I feel so stupid. Typical PMS symptoms have started today, and I expect CD1 this week. H and I talked about IVF and both agreed that we will not pursue IVF or embryo adoption anytime soon if the baby is placed with us.

Speaking of the baby, we finally found out that our foster sons' bio sibling is a boy! He still isn't born and we still don't know if he will be placed with us or not, but it was kind of exciting to find out the sex. There has been some confusion/lies about his due date, so we are still waiting... Also we have another permanency hearing in ~2 weeks for our foster sons and have no idea what will happen. There is a still a chance for a goal change that could lead eventually to adoption, but it's probably more likely that nothing will get decided and the case will be extended.


QOTW: I watched the Golden Globes! I agree with a lot of what has been mentioned already.

My favorites: Viola Davis, Reese Witherspoon, Brie Larson.



Least favorites (besides those already mentioned): Jessica Biel and Keri Russell.

[ironbaby]

@sparky85, the RE is definitely a good plan. I hope you can get in soon.

jense927, I know you hate the delay, and it's been such a confusing road just to arrive at this decision, but I hope having finally made it brings you peace and that this step will be in the right direction toward achieving your ultimate goal.

[butlerfan]

jense927 I'm glad you've made peace. While it isn't ideal at least you know you are doing everything possible and while it is a set back in some ways by having to wait if this gets you to the end goal of having more kids waiting 6 months is minor.

[butlerfan]

ceejay, I hope some of the uncertainty clears up soon for you guys at least on something. I feel like her pregnancy is the longest thing ever. At least you know it's a boy but geez I wish some update/certainty would happen for you guys. FX for you and the boys for court.

[ceejay]

jense927 - I'm glad you've made peace with the situation but I'm sorry you're stuck waiting for so long. I hope the time passes quickly for you.

****** - good luck on Thursday!

[ceejay]

Jan 9, 2017 12:38:43 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

ceejay , I hope some of the uncertainty clears up soon for you guys at least on something. I feel like her pregnancy is the longest thing ever. At least you know it's a boy but geez I wish some update/certainty would happen for you guys. FX for you and the boys for court.

This. We've been suspecting it for so long and then we finally found out for sure that she was pregnant a few months ago and thought the baby would be due shortly after that. I have no idea how she is still pregnant. I hope the little guy makes his arrival soon so we can have some more clarity about how the next year will look for us...

[butlerfan]

Jan 9, 2017 12:42:59 GMT -5 ceejay said:

Jan 9, 2017 12:38:43 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

ceejay , I hope some of the uncertainty clears up soon for you guys at least on something. I feel like her pregnancy is the longest thing ever. At least you know it's a boy but geez I wish some update/certainty would happen for you guys. FX for you and the boys for court.

This. We've been suspecting it for so long and then we finally found out for sure that she was pregnant a few months ago and thought the baby would be due shortly after that. I have no idea how she is still pregnant. I hope the little guy makes his arrival soon so we can have some more clarity about how the next year will look for us...

Do you think she already had the baby and is hiding him?

[ceejay]

Jan 9, 2017 12:48:01 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

Jan 9, 2017 12:42:59 GMT -5 ceejay said:

This. We've been suspecting it for so long and then we finally found out for sure that she was pregnant a few months ago and thought the baby would be due shortly after that. I have no idea how she is still pregnant. I hope the little guy makes his arrival soon so we can have some more clarity about how the next year will look for us...

Do you think she already had the baby and is hiding him?

I don't think so, because she has been showing up for weekly visits lately and is clearly still pregnant according to the caseworker and CASA.

[kawaiikitsune]

AFM, MH and I made a very difficult decision last week. Seeing as we are on the next to last month of the 6th month deadline, per my neurologist, and we have zero hope of conceiving naturally and lack the funds to pursue any other options, we have decided to end our pursuit of having children and will be CFNBC. My heart breaks typing this and I have been so depressed the last few days. I truly never thought we would reach this point when I joined TB in 2013. I love you all so much and thank you all for the support and advice you've given me. I will likely post much less but lurk like crazy, handing out love tits. I'm wishing you all the best of luck and hope you all get your bfp's soon.

[butlerfan]

Jan 9, 2017 15:54:22 GMT -5 kawaiikitsune said:

AFM, MH and I made a very difficult decision last week. Seeing as we are on the next to last month of the 6th month deadline, per my neurologist, and we have zero hope of conceiving naturally and lack the funds to pursue any other options, we have decided to end our pursuit of having children and will be CFNBC. My heart breaks typing this and I have been so depressed the last few days. I truly never thought we would reach this point when I joined TB in 2013. I love you all so much and thank you all for the support and advice you've given me. I will likely post much less but lurk like crazy, handing out love tits. I'm wishing you all the best of luck and hope you all get your bfp's soon.

so many hugs on having to make this heart breaking decision.

[ceejay]

Jan 9, 2017 15:54:22 GMT -5 kawaiikitsune said:

AFM, MH and I made a very difficult decision last week. Seeing as we are on the next to last month of the 6th month deadline, per my neurologist, and we have zero hope of conceiving naturally and lack the funds to pursue any other options, we have decided to end our pursuit of having children and will be CFNBC. My heart breaks typing this and I have been so depressed the last few days. I truly never thought we would reach this point when I joined TB in 2013. I love you all so much and thank you all for the support and advice you've given me. I will likely post much less but lurk like crazy, handing out love tits. I'm wishing you all the best of luck and hope you all get your bfp's soon.

Huge hugs for you. IF is so unfair, and I hate that you and your H had to make this difficult decision. We are always here for you if you ever want to chat, vent, etc. 

[cjchio]

kawaiikitsune I am so, so sorry that you're finding yourselves at this point. Many hugs and lots of love to you and your husband.

[ironbaby]

kawaiikitsune, sending so much love to you. That is a heart-breaking decision, and I am so sorry you find yourselves there.

[easilyunamused]

***grad warning***


I'm so incredibly sorry you are forced to make that difficult choice kawaiikitsune. Sending you light and love through this next step of CFNBC. I hope you still stick around, I know all of us will miss you.

[Deleted]

Jan 9, 2017 15:54:23 GMT -5 ****** said:

Jan 9, 2017 11:44:50 GMT -5 @sparky85 said:

I'm just hanging out at cd23/wto. I'm hoping to o by mid next week, but I'm not holding my breath.

I have a Dr appointment on the 20th with my family Dr, and got the blood work done on Friday. It has been almost 18 months, so I will be requesting a referral to an re. Hopefully it won't take too long to get in to see an RE, but I'm expecting it will take a few months, given my recent research into our health system.

I didn't watch the globes, but Claire foy looked crazy. I didn't care for the puffy sleeves at all.

when I finally requested a referral, I got in in 2 weeks! I was expecting an appointment in Feb or March. Color me shocked. It was faster than I was prepared for. Maybe you'll get in faster than you think

It would be nice to get in that quickly! It took me 3 weeks to get in with my family doctor though.