A big hug for all the mamas in the motn thread dealing with crappy sleepers, cluster feeds and gassiness. Hopefully you can catch a break today and fit a nap or two in.
DD is going into daycare today so I'm looking forward to a quiet day of just dealing with the needs of 1 kid. My cold is still lingering, but I feel like my supply is alright for now because B did several full awesome feeds last night and looked totally milkdrunk after. Hooray for one less thing to stress about!
I had some mild contractions last night from 10:30 to 1. Nothing too intense but hopefully things are still progressing. I'm waffling between "f this I'm done" and "just wait until Friday baby!" I'm probably hyping myself too much for Friday (My grandpa's 90th and I just want to be done) and will cry my eyes out if she doesn't show.
I tried so hard to stay asleep since W hasn't woken up yet but oh my goodness, so much engorgment in one of my boobs. I tried to get him to nurse off both at his last feed but nope. So now I'm in the glider with a heating pad massaging my boob now that I've expressed an ounce. Still hurt but not as bad. Maybe the little will wake up soon...
DH and I are taking shifts napping after a long night of cluster feeding from W. Once he figured out the boob he didn't want to give it up lol. He's napping now but I'll have to wake him up for another feed here soon. And he's clingy and doesn't want to be put down. I brought the RS to the hospital so I could wear him if I felt up to it.
I forgot how little sleep you can survive on those first few days/weeks. I got maybe an hour and I'm good for a little while.
I had some mild contractions last night from 10:30 to 1. Nothing too intense but hopefully things are still progressing. I'm waffling between "f this I'm done" and "just wait until Friday baby!" I'm probably hyping myself too much for Friday (My grandpa's 90th and I just want to be done) and will cry my eyes out if she doesn't show.
Today I'm just getting ready for baby. DD is just waking up. I'm dropping her and the dog off later this afternoon then am getting all the last minute things together since we have to be at the hospital so early tomorrow!
Post by weeklyplanner on Jan 18, 2017 7:50:20 GMT -5
I love reading that so many of your older kids are at daycare. It's really helping with my mom guilt. I totally plan on shipping DS to my parents for a few hours a few times a week. Also, my mom has been helping with driving him to activities, etc. because I've had drs appointments or just was feeling awful.
I need to drop the guilt and remember the whole "It takes a village" thing.
I love reading that so many of your older kids are at daycare. It's really helping with my mom guilt. I totally plan on shipping DS to my parents for a few hours a few times a week. Also, my mom has been helping with driving him to activities, etc. because I've had drs appointments or just was feeling awful.
I need to drop the guilt and remember the whole "It takes a village" thing.
If we sent DS1 to daycare, he would be there today more than likely. Just more to keep with his routine than anything.
weeklyplanner, yes drop that guilt, DS is still going once a week to his Nursery, I figure you need that saintly break and time with the newbie. Also I think they benefit from keeping a routine.
My parents had taken DS out for the day, I would have like to go to the play group as well but really didn't want to be treated with the OMG your gonna blow any minute reactions that being overdue is getting. Went for a walk to try and get something going but nothing as yet.
Post by peaseblossom55 on Jan 18, 2017 8:20:05 GMT -5
So tired but what else is new. My pumping supply still hasn't increased yet using the hospital grade pump. I was able to get E back to sleep after her last feeding and put her down. This is a huge success.
So tired but what else is new. My pumping supply still hasn't increased yet using the hospital grade pump. I was able to get E back to sleep after her last feeding and put her down. This is a huge success.
I had supply probs with dd1 and also tried the hospital grade pump. By the time I had rented it I think it had been too long for me to get the supply back. But for me, I wanted to try it so I felt like I had explored every option. Glad E went back down easily for you!
I love reading that so many of your older kids are at daycare. It's really helping with my mom guilt. I totally plan on shipping DS to my parents for a few hours a few times a week. Also, my mom has been helping with driving him to activities, etc. because I've had drs appointments or just was feeling awful.
I need to drop the guilt and remember the whole "It takes a village" thing.
Don't feel guilty. Keeping DS1 in his daycare routine is by far the best for him and us. It's tough for them to be around New babies who demand do much of the attention that used to be all theirs! A few hours with the grandparents will be great for your DS and you and the new one too.
Post by heybulldog56 on Jan 18, 2017 10:25:11 GMT -5
weeklyplanner, bye bye guilt! Send that kid to daycare We are doing our best to keep DS1's regular routine. He did sob yesterday but Dh said he was better today; still cried but that's probably due to exhaustion since he never really went back to sleep after 1 am.
Dh was a real ass this morning and I am still a bit upset about it. Caution: crazy, long, hormonal rant ahead (feel free to ignore):
He was short tempered with DS1 when the kid hadn't done anything to deserve being spoken to so impatiently nor be threatened with time out for no legitimate reason.
I get it, he is exhausted and DS1's consistent waking did not help (H dealt with that while I handled baby). Still, his attitude and general behavior were really upsetting. I'm also tired and overwhelmed, please don't make me feel like it's too hard for you and you are giving up because we don't have that option.
It was so fucking difficult to get up, put on a smile, and interact with DS1 as if it were just another normal day. But DS deserve it and needs that from us so i suck it up and do it. Why is it so hard for h to do the same? He was amazing yesterday and this negative turn really upsets me and makes me anxious about the possibility that's I'll have to handle everything alone once my mom leaves.
I know this is all part of the process and that the early weeks are a shit show disaster but it's hard to keep my negative and defeatist thoughts at bay. H did go out and get donuts so I will accept the peace offering and give him the chance to start the day over.
Post by meeggaannw on Jan 18, 2017 10:32:06 GMT -5
I wish I had daycare or somewhere to send dd, even if for a few hours. I have a feeling I'm not going to be a great mom today, I've already lost my patience a couple times and I can't stop crying. I'm exhausted today, and of course the baby is actually sleeping right now but dd is up so no sleep for me.
So tired but what else is new. My pumping supply still hasn't increased yet using the hospital grade pump. I was able to get E back to sleep after her last feeding and put her down. This is a huge success.
I had supply probs with dd1 and also tried the hospital grade pump. By the time I had rented it I think it had been too long for me to get the supply back. But for me, I wanted to try it so I felt like I had explored every option. Glad E went back down easily for you!
We will see what happens with supply. I'm almost afraid to try reglan or domiperidone to boost supply.
Post by heybulldog56 on Jan 18, 2017 10:37:25 GMT -5
meeggaannw, from one sleep deprived mother to another, turn on the tv, get yourself something to eat, lounge on the couch with your DD ,and tell the guilt to fuck off. I can't imagine having DS around but if I did, pretty sure I would feel exactly as you described. Take it easy and don't feel bad for any of your parenting choices today. The goal is survival.
Post by meeggaannw on Jan 18, 2017 10:37:41 GMT -5
heybulldog56 I'm sorry, that's a stinky morning. Hopefully it is just an off morning for your h, we all have them. I hope for you he steps up and learns the patience needed for 2 kids. It a whole new dynamic that we are all getting used to!
heybulldog56, sorry for your shitty morning with YH. Hang in there.
And meeggaannww, you are a great mom, don't think otherwise. Be kind to yourself and take it easy as much as possible today with your two littles. I hope you get a nap at done point!
LT for solidarity heybulldog56. My DH gets short and impatient with DD too, and it's so frustrating when it's totally unwarranted. In general I'm better at defusing situations than he is, but add sleep deprivation and he's especially bad.
I have a stupid question that I feel like I should know the answer to.... should I be burping B after every feed? I've tried a little bit but can never get a burp out. He doesn't seem gassy at all...
I recall DD needing to burp after every feed, and even inbetween sides...
Post by meeggaannw on Jan 18, 2017 11:45:14 GMT -5
I'm so irrationally annoyed that R is still asleep, this has been his longest stretch in days and it's now instead of when I could be sleeping too. Plus it's been a while since he ate and I think I'm going to have to wake him soon to feed him.
I took a nap and feel like a new woman. Trying to get the hang of BFing and latching. Now that I can get up and move around. I wasn't comfortable with it in the bed but there are a couple chairs in our room that I've been using to help support him and me better.
Post by judyblume14 on Jan 18, 2017 11:58:52 GMT -5
heybulldog56 - sad story... But I am your H right now. I have very little patience with DD right now. Maybe no patience? She's 2. I'm snapping at her very easily. And she's not misbehaving anymore than she normally does. H has had to check me on my reactions a few times.
I'm lucky that, as of day 6, little baby is an angel. Becuase DD1 is giving me such a run for my money by just being her toddler self.
This morning though, she ran back into my bedroom 3 time to kiss and hug baby sister "one more time" before heading to daycare!
I wish I had daycare or somewhere to send dd, even if for a few hours. I have a feeling I'm not going to be a great mom today, I've already lost my patience a couple times and I can't stop crying. I'm exhausted today, and of course the baby is actually sleeping right now but dd is up so no sleep for me.
Are your kids fed? Do they have clean diapers on?
If you answered "yes" or "almost" to at least one of those questions... You are a great mom!
I wish I had daycare or somewhere to send dd, even if for a few hours. I have a feeling I'm not going to be a great mom today, I've already lost my patience a couple times and I can't stop crying. I'm exhausted today, and of course the baby is actually sleeping right now but dd is up so no sleep for me.
Are your kids fed? Do they have clean diapers on?
If you answered "yes" or "almost" to at least one of those questions... You are a great mom!
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