CONFESSION DAY... Friyay

[Deleted]

I called the wrong states elected officials yesterday when making my calls.

[georgewashington]

Last night I bought leggings that I didn't even want. I feel some kind of weird obligation to buy something when I'm invited to shopping parties.
I dont know if this is confession-worthy, but its all I got.

[silverspoon]

Jan 27, 2017 8:27:47 GMT -5 georgewashington said:

Last night I bought leggings that I didn't even want. I feel some kind of weird obligation to buy something when I'm invited to shopping parties.
I dont know if this is confession-worthy, but its all I got.

I feel the need to know what print you purchased.

Don't feel bad. I've bought leggings at a party when all I was originally going for was the snacks. They are good at pitching. 

[thebanich]

I could have been at work on time today because my mom dropped DS at school.

Instead I'm sitting in the Starbucks parking lot.

[SheilaTheTank]

Jan 27, 2017 8:33:38 GMT -5 tLex said:

I have a job interview for Monday and I do not want the job, AT ALL. I was given the lead by a family member and I felt compelled to apply, plus, like, responsible adulting dictates that I should be trying to secure an income. Blah blah blah. I will take the job if it's offered, etc. I'm just miserable about it.
I wanted to get out of the field I'm in and I feel like I'm letting myself down.

If you are that miserable about it, please don't take it. I've hated jobs I've worked before and they took a massive toll on my physical and mental health as well as relationships with friends and family. It's not worth it. At all. 

[librarychica]

tLex, please don't make yourself miserable if you really don't want the job. If you have to take it for financial reasons, let your family members know you're looking to change fields. Maybe they have leads there too and can help with a plan. If you don't have to take it, don't!

[emmagk]

Jan 27, 2017 8:30:55 GMT -5 tLex said:

Jan 27, 2017 8:27:47 GMT -5 georgewashington said:

Last night I bought leggings that I didn't even want. I feel some kind of weird obligation to buy something when I'm invited to shopping parties.
I dont know if this is confession-worthy, but its all I got.

They literally train in techniques to make you feel so uncomfortable you have to buy something. It's not you, it's them. And it's a shitty position to put friends in.

this is when having no filter and awkward social etiquette comes in handy. I always end up saying 'no thank you i don't need any ..... I'm just here for the free wine'. Then Irish goodbye 

[teraiin]

Jan 27, 2017 8:33:38 GMT -5 tLex said:

I have a job interview for Monday and I do not want the job, AT ALL. I was given the lead by a family member and I felt compelled to apply, plus, like, responsible adulting dictates that I should be trying to secure an income. Blah blah blah. I will take the job if it's offered, etc. I'm just miserable about it.
I wanted to get out of the field I'm in and I feel like I'm letting myself down.

That's hard. Working jobs you don't want/like can be so hard on mental health and quality of life.

[angelashly]

tLex, I will say everything that everyone else said. If you don't need the income don't take it. If you want to interview then it is good practice, but you don't want to be miserable.

Tell your family that you are looking to change fields so that they don't keep giving you wrong leads.

[Justbecause]

tLex
I have taken my fair share of awful jobs. If you have time to keep looking, I would!

This is coming from someone who took a job working night shift freight because I was worried I wouldn't get any job.
Lasted one week and found a better job.

[bullybutt]

Would wear cat leggings :/

[Deleted]

Lately, my stomach has started to hurt when work is almost over and I have to go home to my family. The baby just cries from the end of daycare to bedtime basically. It makes me feel like a really bad person and also makes me embarrassed at my lack of coping skills.

[sudokufan]

Jan 27, 2017 8:38:01 GMT -5 thumbswayup said:

Jan 27, 2017 8:36:48 GMT -5 emmagk said:

this is when having no filter and awkward social etiquette comes in handy. I always end up saying 'no thank you i don't need any ..... I'm just here for the free wine'. Then Irish goodbye 

I just don't go at all.

Me neither...except for the time a friend said she won a free spa treatment for us that included facials.  It was Mary Kay.  We sat around tables and gave ourselves "facials" using dime sized samples of their products, then listened to an hour long pitch about why *we* should sell their crap.  No free wine either   Not even grape juice
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Jan 27, 2017 8:45:33 GMT -5 tLex said:

Argh you guys are giving me the advice I would give one of you. I would be happier doing literally anything NOT child related. Would it be terrible form to cancel on the interview?

Not terrible, why waste their time if you do not want the job. 

[Deleted]

I think there's times when you just have to be in a shitty job because there's no other choice. But if you don't NEED the job, there's no reason to be miserable.

[normadix]

Jan 27, 2017 8:44:56 GMT -5 @lsj said:

Lately, my stomach has started to hurt when work is almost over and I have to go home to my family. The baby just cries from the end of daycare to bedtime basically. It makes me feel like a really bad person and also makes me embarrassed at my lack of coping skills.

I'm sorry that is really hard. DS1 was very difficult from about 5 until 9 every fucking night for the longest time.

[Deleted]

Jan 27, 2017 8:46:22 GMT -5 pistolpackinmomma said:

Jan 27, 2017 8:30:55 GMT -5 tLex said:

They literally train in techniques to make you feel so uncomfortable you have to buy something. It's not you, it's them. And it's a shitty position to put friends in.

Well I must have missed out on all that training.

I feel like LLR is the least like that, but those scentsy parties. I will never go to another one.

[Deleted]

Jan 27, 2017 8:45:26 GMT -5 sudokufan said:

Jan 27, 2017 8:38:01 GMT -5 thumbswayup said:

I just don't go at all.

Me neither...except for the time a friend said she won a free spa treatment for us that included facials.  It was Mary Kay.  We sat around tables and gave ourselves "facials" using dime sized samples of their products, then listened to an hour long pitch about why *we* should sell their crap.  No free wine either   Not even grape juice
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My friend did this to all of her bridesmaids right before her wedding. Made it sound like a bonding/stress reliever when actually it was her aunt trying to make us spend MORE money right before the big day.

[cribs4life]

Jan 27, 2017 8:44:56 GMT -5 @lsj said:

Lately, my stomach has started to hurt when work is almost over and I have to go home to my family. The baby just cries from the end of daycare to bedtime basically. It makes me feel like a really bad person and also makes me embarrassed at my lack of coping skills.

Ds2 cries all the time. I didn't want to leave court yesterday bc it was so peaceful compared to the baby screams at home

[Deleted]

I do like LLR, but if I hear buttery soft one more time.

[seamonster]

Jan 27, 2017 8:45:33 GMT -5 tLex said:

Argh you guys are giving me the advice I would give one of you. I would be happier doing literally anything NOT child related. Would it be terrible form to cancel on the interview?

It'd be fine to cancel if you don't think you'd try for a job with them in the future. You could also do the interview as practice for future interviews.

[normadix]

I have a small confession. I felt really bad about my reaction when MH told me he needs 4-5 nights a week to study for some upcoming certification tests. This basically means I'm doing dinner, bath, bed alone all week and I didn't handle the news well. Made me feel shitty because I know it is important for his career and since he makes 3x more than me and pays the majority of our bills I feel like I don't have a right to complain. Especially if it will mean even more financial freedom for us.

But yeah, my reaction sucked and I need to learn how to adjust to new situations better.

[cribs4life]

I saw that my good friend was selling some mlm shakes on facebook last night. I screamed no pretty loudly.

[Deleted]

Jan 27, 2017 8:49:37 GMT -5 cribs4life said:

Jan 27, 2017 8:44:56 GMT -5 @lsj said:

Lately, my stomach has started to hurt when work is almost over and I have to go home to my family. The baby just cries from the end of daycare to bedtime basically. It makes me feel like a really bad person and also makes me embarrassed at my lack of coping skills.

Ds2 cries all the time. I didn't want to leave court yesterday bc it was so peaceful compared to the baby screams at home

It's so exhausting.

I don't want to be at work either though because I have to listen to adults bitch and moan here.

I think I just need my own apartment.

[cribs4life]

Jan 27, 2017 8:48:39 GMT -5 @meggriffin said:

Jan 27, 2017 8:46:22 GMT -5 pistolpackinmomma said:

Well I must have missed out on all that training.

I feel like LLR is the least like that, but those scentsy parties. I will never go to another one.

A scentsy party sounds like come willingly get a migraine party

[cribs4life]

Jan 27, 2017 8:53:33 GMT -5 @lsj said:

Jan 27, 2017 8:49:37 GMT -5 cribs4life said:

Ds2 cries all the time. I didn't want to leave court yesterday bc it was so peaceful compared to the baby screams at home

It's so exhausting.

I don't want to be at work either though because I have to listen to adults bitch and moan here.

I think I just need my own apartment.

The fact that I find court peaceful is sad. I get just wanting your own space

[Deleted]

Jan 27, 2017 8:53:07 GMT -5 tLex said:

@lsj this is essentially like you moving cross country for a fresh start and taking the same job you had before at half the previously unliveable salary, in a higher cost of living location.

Pffffffffffft.

[claud]

Jan 27, 2017 8:51:06 GMT -5 normadix said:

I have a small confession. I felt really bad about my reaction when MH told me he needs 4-5 nights a week to study for some upcoming certification tests. This basically means I'm doing dinner, bath, bed alone all week and I didn't handle the news well. Made me feel shitty because I know it is important for his career and since he makes 3x more than me and pays the majority of our bills I feel like I don't have a right to complain. Especially if it will mean even more financial freedom for us.

But yeah, my reaction sucked and I need to learn how to adjust to new situations better.

That's a lot to handle. Don't feel guilty for your reaction.

[frankenboom]

Jan 27, 2017 8:52:05 GMT -5 pistolpackinmomma said:

Jan 27, 2017 8:48:15 GMT -5 tLex said:

You never got any info about how to phrase messages to friends and family? Never got any selling phrases or company terminology to use? No sales techniques?

The closest I have gotten have been during one of the big meetings they have had other consultants discuss things that have worked for them for booking parties and such. I have also never heard of any other consultants giving spiels to listen to at a party, then again I recognize that is one of the things that sets LLR apart from other ds companies. But no, to my knowledge I have never guilted anyone into buying something. I have actually told people not to buy something because when they asked my opinion I could tell by their body language that they weren't 100% comfortable in what they had on. I want my customers to be happy and come back, not a bunch of one night stands. And that is something the company harps on, building relationships and having quality shoppers over quantity

I'm, generally, a LLR fan...but this last point has me like...?

Because why, then, in the "VIP" groups, do the consultants reach and reach and reach to get to 1,000, 5,000, etc. members by having you add 5 friends or doing giveaways? If it's all about quality over quantity that stuff wouldn't be happening.

[mack]

Jan 27, 2017 7:52:50 GMT -5 Cdnfroggy said:

I really liked Suicide Squad

You are really coming in hot with this one.