Blended Family Issues/Special Needs

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Feb 2, 2017 0:37:13 GMT -5 @jane2614 said:

Feb 1, 2017 10:23:41 GMT -5 @girlnextdoor said:

Sorry to keep this going but curiosity killed the cat I guess. What could a toddler do to another toddler that warrants a hospital?

To satisfy curiosity, he hit my DD over the head with a toy hard enough to cause a minor concussion. I took her to the ER because she immediately started vomiting and her eyes looked off to me. (The dilation).
@bruxannie, you asked about the other children- 1 was from daycare (he ripped out chunks of hair and clawed her face badly enough to need 2 stitches in a spot on her cheek -yes I trim his nails- SO's mother does not) and the other was a friend's son- he dislocated his shoulder).

If anyone has any advice or experience other than things along the lines of what a shitty person I am, or get him help ASAP, I would appreciate a pm before my account is deleted. I believe I'm doing everything possible for him at the moment and am awaiting further instructions/appointments with doctors & specialists, so I hardly think the terms irresponsible or medical neglect by me is applicable.
Thank you to everyone who has actually given advice, shared experiences, etc. I sincerely appreciate and am thankful, and have screen shot the relevant posts to read back on when researching/talking to doctors & counselors.

This is very concerning
If you bring a newborn gone and he hits them with a toy that hard the baby will likely not survive that concussion.

I think if he's that out of control he should stay with mil until you get help and evaluation in place to ensure safety.
You say you take your daughter everywhere with you and you sleep with him but that is not going to be possible with s newborn

[lupineaura]

Feb 2, 2017 0:56:22 GMT -5 @jane2614 said:

Feb 1, 2017 11:21:29 GMT -5 lupineaura said:

I am only on page 10 but I don't know if I can finish because I am so, so sad for this little boy. Like I am getting personally affected. I don't know what the right answer is, but the thought of either the OP or the grandmother just up and disappearing from his life is putting me into a state.

OP, I hope all adults can agree that stability and love is everyone's goal for this child. Then hopefully you can put your individual conflicts aside and work jointly towards that goal. I highly recommend family therapy to help with this, with you, SO, and MIL all attending.

Also, it's quite possible the child's developmental delays are subsequent to maternal drug/alcohol use during pregnancy. This can present like autism. An evaluation from a child neurologist or neuropsychologist might help. Also call your local school district and ask for an evaluation to see if he qualifies as a preschooler entitled to Special Education services. You can likely get a free, appropriate school situation going for him.

He has a referral for a neuro (something). I'm not currently looking at paperwork and don't specifically remember the title.
Do you happen to know if this kind of special education would be applicable for him if he qualified since he is only 3 until June? Pre-schools in our district require turning 4 by August 1. I can definitely call and check it out in the morning.

In most states Early Intervention covers 0-3, and the districts covers from age 3 onward. Call the Special Education director of your district.

[mrsbuttinski]

Feb 2, 2017 5:37:47 GMT -5 wedding said:

Feb 2, 2017 0:56:22 GMT -5 @jane2614 said:

He has a referral for a neuro (something). I'm not currently looking at paperwork and don't specifically remember the title.
Do you happen to know if this kind of special education would be applicable for him if he qualified since he is only 3 until June? Pre-schools in our district require turning 4 by August 1. I can definitely call and check it out in the morning.

In my town they start at 3.

What wedding, said.

If you are in the U.S., and he qualifies for special education services, he would qualify for FAPE under IDEA Part B from 3-21. This is distinct from whatever the district is doing for typically developing students. 

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R.I.P. Jane.

[angelashly]

This thread stressed me out and now I am even more anxious about the fact that I wont know how it ends.

#tooinvested

[akraus2015]

Is anyone else laughing at the fact that this thread is now 5 pages shorter since she deleted her account. Girlfriend had a lot to say...

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Feb 3, 2017 9:48:14 GMT -5 angelashly said:

This thread stressed me out and now I am even more anxious about the fact that I wont know how it ends.

#tooinvested

She obviously lurked for a very long time and will be back to tell us everything worked out swimmingly. 

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Feb 3, 2017 9:48:14 GMT -5 angelashly said:

This thread stressed me out and now I am even more anxious about the fact that I wont know how it ends.

#tooinvested

Could have been made up.  But if not then definitely not going to end well.  I don't think anyone in the situation was working at full capacity.  I do wish them the best, and hope that I am wrong though.  The fact she was so defensive didn't help either.  She needs help not to argue on the interwebz.  Could have spent that time calling around for resources instead of giving possibly true possibly not shady past histories to every question.   

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Feb 3, 2017 20:05:37 GMT -5 wedding said:

I swear she said in the OP that DS was 4.5 yrs old. Then later she said 3. Did I misread?

3.5 DS and 2.5 DD

[pearlofwisdom]

Jan 31, 2017 15:13:58 GMT -5 @bruxannie said:

That just reminded me about that dancing frat boy that we loved, along with pearlofwisdom . Who was that guy?

Sam White

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Feb 14, 2017 20:19:54 GMT -5 pearlofwisdom said:

Jan 31, 2017 15:13:58 GMT -5 @bruxannie said:

That just reminded me about that dancing frat boy that we loved, along with pearlofwisdom . Who was that guy?

Sam White

thanks boo. Since this post, I've followed him on Twitter and IG. Lol

[pearlofwisdom]

Feb 14, 2017 21:34:45 GMT -5 @bruxannie said:

Feb 14, 2017 20:19:54 GMT -5 pearlofwisdom said:

Sam White

thanks boo. Since this post, I've followed him on Twitter and IG. Lol

I still follow him on IG but not Twitter. I was becoming too thirsty. Lol. 

[Cherhorowitz]

Feb 14, 2017 21:55:47 GMT -5 pearlofwisdom said:

Feb 14, 2017 21:34:45 GMT -5 @bruxannie said:

thanks boo. Since this post, I've followed him on Twitter and IG. Lol

I still follow him on IG but not Twitter. I was becoming too thirsty. Lol. 

I still follow him on IG. He's becoming a little thirsty himself.