Post by mischief on Jan 31, 2017 2:02:45 GMT -5
I can tell you what I think but honestly its going to be up to your SO to stand up to his mother and tell her enough is enough.
First of all I'm sorry you are dealing with this. It sounds very difficult, second I don't think you are overreacting in the slightest.
Sounds like your mil had taken on the mother role until you were in the picture, however you said you and your SO are maturing and ready to take on these roles yourself.
The first thing I would do is take away her key to your house. Second I would look into you and your SO adopting each other's children legally.
I would absolutely make it a point to have your son stay at your house 7 days a week and take him to all his doctor's appointments, Church, and any other activity that you as his parents see fit. If she can't compromise she gets nothing.
You obviously need to set clear and explicit boundries with this woman.
If you are at home with your daughter there is no reason that his grandmother should keep him if you are capable.
You are definitely not in the wrong to take him to get evaluated if he is a danger to other children and himself. As long as your husband, who is his father is on board. Fuck what they say period.
If they keep acting this way I would shut down all communication. Which I understand may be difficult since your SO works for the family business. But he can refuse to discuss it with them during work.
Honestly I would tell the grandmother to take you to court and see what happens.
This would be a deal breaker for me if my SO couldn't stand up to his mother and her blatant disregard for her grandsons well being. It all starts with him and his choices. You need to do what is best for you and your other two children.
Are you going to let her have this type of control with the baby your are carrying now?
First of all I'm sorry you are dealing with this. It sounds very difficult, second I don't think you are overreacting in the slightest.
Sounds like your mil had taken on the mother role until you were in the picture, however you said you and your SO are maturing and ready to take on these roles yourself.
The first thing I would do is take away her key to your house. Second I would look into you and your SO adopting each other's children legally.
I would absolutely make it a point to have your son stay at your house 7 days a week and take him to all his doctor's appointments, Church, and any other activity that you as his parents see fit. If she can't compromise she gets nothing.
You obviously need to set clear and explicit boundries with this woman.
If you are at home with your daughter there is no reason that his grandmother should keep him if you are capable.
You are definitely not in the wrong to take him to get evaluated if he is a danger to other children and himself. As long as your husband, who is his father is on board. Fuck what they say period.
If they keep acting this way I would shut down all communication. Which I understand may be difficult since your SO works for the family business. But he can refuse to discuss it with them during work.
Honestly I would tell the grandmother to take you to court and see what happens.
This would be a deal breaker for me if my SO couldn't stand up to his mother and her blatant disregard for her grandsons well being. It all starts with him and his choices. You need to do what is best for you and your other two children.
Are you going to let her have this type of control with the baby your are carrying now?