Thursday

[becole]

Any UOs out there?

[iwantbacon]

I will come back with an UO, but I have a question--baby woke up with splotches of red, warm skin on part of his chest, arm, and neck with some raised white bumps (like a mosquito bite). He wore long sleeves all day and night, I haven't changed detergents. I put lotion on him, but I've put it on before (albeit not regularly). Any idea what this might be? Daycare is keeping an eye on it and washing him off in case it was the lotion, and I'll bring him in if it doesn't change. Just figured that as soon as we finish antibiotics, something else comes up.

[britta]

If I already work for an institution, and have for quite awhile, I should be able to skip the HR interview and just interview with the hiring department. It's all character-type questions anyway and my answers likely haven't changed since when I was originally hired in. I also shouldn't have to do the stupid 50 question assessment to determine what personality type I am. This also likely hasn't changed. Isn't this on file somewhere?

iwantbacon without seeing it in person, it sounds like hives. So, probably an allergic reaction to something.

[becole]

iwantbacon what did he just have (illness)? Could it be the rash after the virus and it wasn't a bacterial thing but a viral thing?
I've also heard that allergic reaction to antibiotics can be that delayed, so I would definitely ask the pedi.

[iwantbacon]

He had a cold followed by an ear infection. Maybe I'll call the nurse line today to see what they think so I can bring him in tomorrow before the weekend if I need to.

UO: it is obnoxious when people state that their kind of parenting (SAH, working, etc) is much harder than another. No, parenting is hard. Don't act like a martyr because you have to go to work all day or stay at home all day. Nobody has it easy. Unless you have a night nanny, in which case I hate you due to extreme jealousy.

[adouces06]

britta good luck with your interview!! But I do agree with you. That's silly to have to reinterview with HR when you are an internal candidate.

[adouces06]

iwantbacon when DS had to take abx for an ear infection he broke out in a doozy of a rash. Was your LO on abx for his ear infection??

[fem]

Feb 2, 2017 9:09:08 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

He had a cold followed by an ear infection. Maybe I'll call the nurse line today to see what they think so I can bring him in tomorrow before the weekend if I need to.

UO: it is obnoxious when people state that their kind of parenting (SAH, working, etc) is much harder than another. No, parenting is hard. Don't act like a martyr because you have to go to work all day or stay at home all day. Nobody has it easy. Unless you have a night nanny, in which case I hate you due to extreme jealousy.

Amen to this. I work three days a week so I get a taste of both. Some days the days at home are harder, and some days the working days are harder. Some days I love being with my kids more, some days I can't wait to drop them off at daycare. It's all hard!

Hope your LO gets better. One day DD1 broke out in hives (she was 18 months) and had eaten/done nothing new. Allergist tested for everything and said some kids are just more prone to hives. I forget the medical name she gave me.

[iwantbacon]

Feb 2, 2017 9:21:39 GMT -5 adouces06 said:

iwantbacon when DS had to take abx for an ear infection he broke out in a doozy of a rash. Was your LO on abx for his ear infection??

Yup, he was--amoxicillin. Ok definitely calling the nurse line this morning.

[penguin129]

Feb 2, 2017 9:09:08 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

He had a cold followed by an ear infection. Maybe I'll call the nurse line today to see what they think so I can bring him in tomorrow before the weekend if I need to.

UO: it is obnoxious when people state that their kind of parenting (SAH, working, etc) is much harder than another. No, parenting is hard. Don't act like a martyr because you have to go to work all day or stay at home all day. Nobody has it easy. Unless you have a night nanny, in which case I hate you due to extreme jealousy.

I agree with so much of this. So much. I will say I am in awe of the working moms. I have no idea how I would get the things I do to manage the house done and work outside the home at the same time.  I don't know how y'all do it.

[becole]

Feb 2, 2017 9:26:43 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

Feb 2, 2017 9:21:39 GMT -5 adouces06 said:

iwantbacon when DS had to take abx for an ear infection he broke out in a doozy of a rash. Was your LO on abx for his ear infection??

Yup, he was--amoxicillin. Ok definitely calling the nurse line this morning.

Another mom on my local boards son was allergic to Amox. I think she had to give Benadryl and put it on the "nope!" list.

[penguin129]

iwantbacon Big P had a fever/cold at one point and broke out in a rash. They said it was just viral and because of the fever.

[ksyknelvr73]

britta it's definitely dumb that you have to basically act like a new employee to apply for another position within the same company. My current company did that to me too when I got promoted, I literally had to interview with my CURRENT BOSS and her immediate supervisor....who were already my acting supervisors. It was SO DUMB.

iwantbacon I agree with the parenting is hard - just in general. We all have different things going on, and some days are harder than others.

[ksyknelvr73]

Feb 2, 2017 9:28:58 GMT -5 penguin129 said:

Feb 2, 2017 9:09:08 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

He had a cold followed by an ear infection. Maybe I'll call the nurse line today to see what they think so I can bring him in tomorrow before the weekend if I need to.

UO: it is obnoxious when people state that their kind of parenting (SAH, working, etc) is much harder than another. No, parenting is hard. Don't act like a martyr because you have to go to work all day or stay at home all day. Nobody has it easy. Unless you have a night nanny, in which case I hate you due to extreme jealousy.

I agree with so much of this. So much. I will say I am in awe of the working moms. I have no idea how I would get the things I do to manage the house done and work outside the home at the same time.  I don't know how y'all do it.

I hire outside help

But I can probably speak on behalf of some of the working moms (and if not, at least for myself) when I say that I don't know how stay at home moms do it either. Maternity leave is enough of a taste for me, and it's overwhelming at times! I think our attitudes should focus more on being in awe of the amazing women around us and not how we're doing it as long as our kids are safe and fed/clothed.

[penguin129]

Good morning! So I finally have time to update about how dropping the home nurse went. I talked to her supervisor and the one that runs the program. I started by saying the positive stuff she's done for my girls and I before I brought up the autism statements and calling Lil P lazy. He took notes and told me he will follow-up with me. I'm not sure if that is going to happen. I left the meeting with a BRAND NEW pack and play. They legally had to take it out of the box and show me how to set it up. I actually had to tell the lady how to set it up at some point. I'm so very happy to have a new pack and play. I'll post pics of why in the other board.

[penguin129]

Feb 2, 2017 9:32:30 GMT -5 ksyknelvr73 said:

Feb 2, 2017 9:28:58 GMT -5 penguin129 said:

I agree with so much of this. So much. I will say I am in awe of the working moms. I have no idea how I would get the things I do to manage the house done and work outside the home at the same time.  I don't know how y'all do it.

I hire outside help

But I can probably speak on behalf of some of the working moms (and if not, at least for myself) when I say that I don't know how stay at home moms do it either. Maternity leave is enough of a taste for me, and it's overwhelming at times! I think our attitudes should focus more on being in awe of the amazing women around us and not how we're doing it as long as our kids are safe and fed/clothed.

Very well said too

[becole]

Maybe this is a UO but the level of difficulty in parenting depends on the child. It's really frustrating to have a colicky infant and see other moms having it easy. Or a baby that never sleeps through the night when someone else's is sleeping solid after 12 weeks. Or you see two year olds that can sit and color and listen and are happy versus having daily battles of the strong willed stubborn child or having a kid that climbs you like a tree and hits and throws things. Now that I have a second one it's like- I would have wanted to stay home with #2 but #1 is not as fun to stay at home with because of his level of difficulty. I know it's not exactly fair but I'm like- you have two easy kids- that's not the same thing as what I've been going through over here. Luckily I don't have two kids like #1.

ETA and I know there are kids and situations that are harder than mine and those moms are thinking I have it easy. Which is exactly my point- parenting difficulty levels are widely varied.

[jillian]

Feb 2, 2017 9:32:30 GMT -5 ksyknelvr73 said:

Feb 2, 2017 9:28:58 GMT -5 penguin129 said:

I agree with so much of this. So much. I will say I am in awe of the working moms. I have no idea how I would get the things I do to manage the house done and work outside the home at the same time.  I don't know how y'all do it.

I hire outside help

But I can probably speak on behalf of some of the working moms (and if not, at least for myself) when I say that I don't know how stay at home moms do it either. Maternity leave is enough of a taste for me, and it's overwhelming at times! I think our attitudes should focus more on being in awe of the amazing women around us and not how we're doing it as long as our kids are safe and fed/clothed.

My house is a mess and I have 4 laundry baskets of clothes I have been living out of for the past 4 weeks since I went back to work and school. Do I have the time in the afternoons to put it all away and clean my house? Sure. But I also just spent most of my day away from my new baby so I going to sit on the floor and play with her until its time to make dinner. The teen and man-child can put their own clothes away since I washed, dried and folded them and do the dishes from the meal I just cooked. If its doesn't get done, it doesn't get done.

[becole]

Feb 2, 2017 10:00:45 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Here's a food UO- I like subway. We're going to my cousin's house for a play date and she is getting subway for us for lunch and I'm excited. Lol.

This is not unpopular with my H. He's always wanting to get Subway and I don't. I could get on board if they would just get a drive through.

[britta]

Feb 2, 2017 10:00:45 GMT -5 @holachica said:

Here's a food UO- I like subway. We're going to my cousin's house for a play date and she is getting subway for us for lunch and I'm excited. Lol. potbelly's is my fav sandwich place, but subway is fine. I don't know, I guess some people have had bad luck at their locations, but mine have always been fine. Sure, they're not the best sandwiches ever, but whatever.

No. Jimmy John's > Subway. Always.

[britta]

I've been trying to articulate how I feel about the WP vs SAHP and keep deleting my post. I've decided my O is probably very unpopular and I'll just leave it at that.

ETA: but its along becole's point.

[jillian]

Not so much an UO but a rant. Our little town was rocked yesterday by a bunch of convicts holding correctional officers hostage. Now this morning a family is in mourning because said convicts decided they deserve to have access to better education and prison conditions. WTF? YOU ARE IN PRISON!!! You don't deserve shit. You are a drain on our recourses. The only good thing you assholes are doing is giving people jobs. The prison system has plenty of programs to help you earn your GED's, and a vocational trade so when/if you reenter the real world you have an opportunity to earn a decent living. Why the ever loving hell do you effers think you deserve to earn associates and bachelors degrees that are being paid for by the state? Everyone else who is a law abiding citizen is paying their own way and because you made bad choices and ended up in the clink, you think you deserve and education? You deserve basic humans rights, 3 meals a day, clean water, clothing and a bed to sleep on. You want an education. STOP BREAKING THE LAW ASSHOLE!!!! (That was in my Jim Carrey voice)

[jillian]

Feb 2, 2017 9:48:18 GMT -5 becole said:

Maybe this is a UO but the level of difficulty in parenting depends on the child. It's really frustrating to have a colicky infant and see other moms having it easy. Or a baby that never sleeps through the night when someone else's is sleeping solid after 12 weeks. Or you see two year olds that can sit and color and listen and are happy versus having daily battles of the strong willed stubborn child or having a kid that climbs you like a tree and hits and throws things. Now that I have a second one it's like- I would have wanted to stay home with #2 but #1 is not as fun to stay at home with because of his level of difficulty. I know it's not exactly fair but I'm like- you have two easy kids- that's not the same thing as what I've been going through over here. Luckily I don't have two kids like #1.

ETA and I know there are kids and situations that are harder than mine and those moms are thinking I have it easy. Which is exactly my point- parenting difficulty levels are widely varied.

^Agreed 100%. My mom never understood my frustration with my son. She would give advice that would never in a million years work with my kid and when I got snappy back, her response was always, "well, you 3 were always so well behaved and easy when you were little, that's why being a SAHM was never difficult for me" Well good for you mom. I'm glad. But this kid has half a monsters blood running through him and I'm trying to contain it, while working and being a single parent. My dad might not have been super helpful, but she certainly never wanted for a single thing. The stress I had raising my son, my mom never experienced raising 3 stair step kids.

[iwantbacon]

Ugh @holachica I'm so sorry about the mastitis. Also, Subway is delicious and cheap. May not be my first choice, but I won't turn it down.

[ksyknelvr73]

becole, yes you are right. Some kids are more difficult than others, or just present different challenges. My oldest is an ANGEL and I could have stayed home with him easily. He sleeps awesome, he's well-behaved, he will play on his own and leave me alone. Now, DS2 on the other hand....that kid hasn't slept through the night but a few times in his 2.5 years of existence. He also loves to wake up for the day at 5am after getting up many times during the night. He is WILD and he's hard to contain or entertain. I feel like I can't take my eyes off of him for more than a second. Staying home with him would be terrible for me. I made sure to send him to daycare full time while I was on maternity leave.

I will maintain though that sleep deprivation is by far the worst thing about parenthood.

[becole]

Feb 2, 2017 11:19:35 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

Re: comparing the relative difficulty of children. I've thought a fair amount about that as it relates to my own kids. Every time I start though I end up figuring out that it's not a productive exercise.

You win in the difficulty Olympics just in sheer number of doctor appointments.

[iwantbacon]

Agree with other comments re: levels of difficulty of children. I simultaneously feel exhausted and grateful for my situation. Which basically just makes me feel like an a-hole at all times.

[ksyknelvr73]

@holachica mastitis is absolutely awful. I'm sorry you're dealing with it. I got it twice in 3 weeks with DS1 and it contributed to me quitting BFing. It just all happens so quickly too and you feel like death! I hope you feel better soon.

[hikingmama222]

jillian You must live in the same town as a mom on my Jan13 bmb. She was talking about it yesterday. Knows a few people who work there and was a mess yesterday.

+1 to every kid and situation is different. My mom always comments about how easy we were and we always listened, were in bed at 7 even in the summer without a fight etc etc etc. Thanks but my two are high energy and high maintenance, I'm doing the best I can. My 4 yr old goes to bed late, oh well it works for us. She also sleeps in until 8 every day. She got a taste of it yesterday when i left her for an hour with my 2. DS lost it in a matter of minutes and you could tell it frazzled her.

[hikingmama222]

What's everyone using for carseats? My family pitched in and we all bought DS's 2 convertible carseats for Christmas (got them on sale boxing day). They got delivered this week and are sitting in my living room. Wondering if i should just install them now. We didn't move DD over until she was over a year. The only time I bring the bucket in is dropping DD off at preschool since it's 2 mins in and out. Errands and shopping I always wear him.
It is nice to have him buckled and wrapped up in the house though since it's still cold out.