Thursday

[jwinct]

Feb 2, 2017 15:06:59 GMT -5 erien22846 said:

Feb 2, 2017 14:58:00 GMT -5 jwinct said:

My cousin's funeral is this Saturday and it's from 1-3pm. I have only been to a small handful of funerals in my life. Is three hours typical? It seems like a long time to me. My grandparents' funerals weren't nearly that long. If it's really 3 hours long, my children are going to fall apart.

Is that the funeral service or the visitation? They don't typically give a duration for the service. And the visitation is come and go as you please.

Oh... I just found a different obituary where it actually says the calling hours are from 1pm to 3pm, with a prayer service at 3pm. That makes much more sense! 

[iwantbacon]

Good luck britta!

[ksyknelvr73]

britta if that's a UO then it's not with me (the childcare one about using family as daycare for free).

I do not even want to deal with my parents or DH's parents when it comes to telling them how I want my kid to be cared for day to day. Both sets tend to take it personally when we ask them to do or not do something specific with our kids (like, hey mom, can you not give DS1 chocolate milk 14 times in one day, because he puked when he got home? Or hey MIL, could you please make sure you aren't using an expired car seat with our kids?).

Also, I never really wanted to put that burden on my mom (or DH's). There are quite a few people I know who just assumed their moms would take care of their kids for free and I think that's rude. At least ask? Even when our parents offer to babysit, or when we ask them to, we offer to pay or to pick up dinner for them or something. The last time my mom kept the kids when we went out of town for 4 days, I got her a massage gift card to a super nice spa around here as a thank you. They WOULD have done it for nothing anyway, but I like for them to know we really appreciate it, especially if it's above and beyond just a normal babysitting gig (again, this was going out of town for days, so not the same as just dinner).

[ksyknelvr73]

Also, good luck britta.

And no, not Huggies.

[becole]

I would 100% use my mom for childcare if she lived here. I would 100% not use my mil if she lived here.
My mom respects my wishes to an extent. And she uses common sense and we generally agree on most things with kids.
Mil takes the "I raised two kids and I know what I'm doing and it's offensive if you leave me a schedule or instructions of how you want your infant cared for."
Learned that the hard way. Normally I wouldn't leave instructions for a reasonable care giver but MIL put an adult sized pillow in my 3 month olds crib and took a picture. And then she gave my 8 month old who was only eating purées a whole banana- not cut up- just like peeled the peel down and handed him a banana.

[Deleted]

We used both sets of parents for childcare when ds was little. I went back to school for my last year of nursing school when he was 3 months. By the time he was a year and a half I was over it and put him in daycare. The ILs did nothing but watch tv all day and feed him crap food. My mom was too focused on cleaning my house. So I said screw it and put him in daycare. Everyone blew a gasket but no fucks to give. I didn't feel like he was benefiting from it and I'd rather pay the 45/day to know my kid is well stimulated and well fed.

[britta]

Re: parents taking care of kiddos...

My parents tend to want to spoil and often try to undermine me just when they're visiting, I cannot imagine if they had full or even part time care of my kids. My ILs are just much older and have some very antiquated parenting ideas (MIL still asks constantly why the baby just can't have a bottle of water). They're also very religious. We're Christians, but I'd prefer my kids learn about religion at the pace that we set, not them.

[jwinct]

I'm extremely thankful for my mom who has volunteered to be a primary daycare provider for my kids since they were babies (they also go to daycare part time). She absolutely loves it and is amazing with them. My parents taught all their grandkids how to swim (in their inground pool), they take them fishing (my dad has a boat and loves to fish) and on various excursions. My mom has taught my kids so many things, including how to sew, crochet, cook/bake. Luckily, we are on the same page about most things, but my mom doesn't defy my wishes if I ask for her not to do something. We are very fortunate.

[Deleted]

Feb 2, 2017 16:16:14 GMT -5 britta said:

Re: parents taking care of kiddos...

My parents tend to want to spoil and often try to undermine me just when they're visiting, I cannot imagine if they had full or even part time care of my kids. My ILs are just much older and have some very antiquated parenting ideas (MIL still asks constantly why the baby just can't have a bottle of water). They're also very religious. We're Christians, but I'd prefer my kids learn about religion at the pace that we set, not them.

Don't even start me on the religion thing. My FIL is a devout catholic, almost to the point of being zealous. He became one very late in life. He converted my MIL and it's just Jesus 24/7. I'm Catholic too, but I dont attend church regularly as I have a lot of problems with what the church teaches etc. They gave DS a bunch of religious books for Christmas. Like chill, I will teach him about God etc at my own pace.

[Deleted]

Feb 2, 2017 16:31:58 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

My parents are awesome but I wouldn't do well with them as childcare. Thus my nanny interviews. One of which already cancelled.

On a scale of 1 = "WTAF are you thinking" and 10 = "best idea evah", how do you all feel about this being in the play room for a baby and two toddlers?

www.wayfair.com/Maxtrix-Kids-Twin-Loft-Bed-MKS1606.html

Thoughts?

Somewhere closer to WTAF. I think it's cool, but I foresee broken limbs form climbing up and falling off. My kid would purposefully jump off because he's crazy.

[britta]

Thanks for the well wishes!! I think it went well. She said to expect communication from the hiring manager (MH's practice manager) about the next steps soon.

[britta]

Feb 2, 2017 16:31:58 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

My parents are awesome but I wouldn't do well with them as childcare. Thus my nanny interviews. One of which already cancelled.

On a scale of 1 = "WTAF are you thinking" and 10 = "best idea evah", how do you all feel about this being in the play room for a baby and two toddlers?

www.wayfair.com/Maxtrix-Kids-Twin-Loft-Bed-MKS1606.html

Thoughts?

Closer to 10? Would do. But I'm admittedly pretty breezy about a lot of things.

[erien22846]

@kitchen 9. I wouldn't call it the BEST idea ever, but I would do it.

[ksyknelvr73]

@kitchen I like the concept of that....I don't like the ladder. I wish it were actual steps. Depending on what you put on the floor in case they fall/jump would determine my number. I'm probably at like a 5 right now though.

[ksyknelvr73]

A source of frustration for me in regards to the parents keeping kids thing is that my last two bosses, before my current one, were women with kids whose moms kept their kids. And so they always gave me a giant guilt trip and load of crap whenever I needed to stay home with my kid(s). I use daycare, my MIL still works full time, my mom helps when she CAN but that is not all the time, so yes, I need to miss work occasionally to take care of a sick kid. I'm glad they had the ability to NEVER miss work when their kids got sick but that wasn't my reality.

[becole]

@kitchen this doesn't have the slide but it gives you more freedom to keep it as a tent when they're little and convert to a loft when they're old enough to handle it. You can buy slides at hardware stores so you could add one pretty easily.

m.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/art/80253814/

[iwantbacon]

So funny thing happened on the way home from the pedi with both boys in tow--my brakes stopped working. Luckily, we were still in the parking area and could safely pull into a spot. It was like one of those dreams where the brakes give out. One hour and a tow truck ride later, we are home. DH made it home and is checking in the car. DS1 is watching a cartoon. DS2 is nursing. I'm about to have a much needed glass of wine.

And this story relates to car seats because we were able to safely put baby in with the bucket seat alone. So so glad we had it.

[iwantbacon]

Oh, we have the IKEA Kura for DS1! It's the low bed now, but we'll loft it later on.

[fem]

Feb 2, 2017 18:20:56 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

Oh, we have the IKEA Kura for DS1! It's the low bed now, but we'll loft it later on.

We have this too! Love it.


ETA: So glad you're all safe!! I somehow skipped over your other post at first.

[fem]

Went to the pediatric dentist today. They said both her lip tie and tongue tie were on the border of when they clip them vs. recommend trying exercises with an OT and LC. But after watching her nurse (they had a LC on staff) and talking about all the trouble she's had latching on bottles they recommended we do both. She got a little worked up during the procedure (they use a laser) but was smiling at everybody 2 minutes later. They said they'd never seen a baby that happy that fast. They suggested I stay home with her tomorrow because she might have some soreness.

[britta]

So glad you're all safe iwantbacon!

[penguin129]

Feb 2, 2017 20:15:37 GMT -5 britta said:

So glad you're all safe iwantbacon!

Yes. So scary iwantbacon.

[penguin129]

Going out for my walk. All other members of the penguin family are asleep. Mr. P had the man cold. It may be a rough few days.

[vavavictoria]

Feb 2, 2017 19:21:53 GMT -5 fem said:

Feb 2, 2017 18:20:56 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

Oh, we have the IKEA Kura for DS1! It's the low bed now, but we'll loft it later on.

We have this too! Love it.


ETA: So glad you're all safe!! I somehow skipped over your other post at first.

Plus one to this as well. V loves her big girl room.

[iwantbacon]

I'm on my second beer and I don't even care. Tomorrow, I will likely work from home with both boys. Fingers crossed they cooperate. If they don't, I'm ordering Papa Johns at 10am

[britta]

Feb 2, 2017 20:38:10 GMT -5 penguin129 said:

Going out for my walk. All other members of the penguin family are asleep. Mr. P had the man cold. It may be a rough few days.

My condolences. MH is finally feeling better after taking some of his Prednisone (🙄). Whatever it takes I guess.

This reminds me I've fallen off my walk wagon. When everyone was sick I was skipping them because bedtime was such a nightmare. Now I'm out of the habit. Must start again.

[penguin129]

Feb 2, 2017 20:59:55 GMT -5 britta said:

Feb 2, 2017 20:38:10 GMT -5 penguin129 said:

Going out for my walk. All other members of the penguin family are asleep. Mr. P had the man cold. It may be a rough few days.

My condolences. MH is finally feeling better after taking some of his Prednisone (🙄). Whatever it takes I guess.

This reminds me I've fallen off my walk wagon. When everyone was sick I was skipping them because bedtime was such a nightmare. Now I'm out of the habit. Must start again.

The walk is the best thing ever I'm so glad you told me about it as your "me time". It works great for me.

[jillian]

Feb 2, 2017 16:36:20 GMT -5 jwinct said:

I'm extremely thankful for my mom who has volunteered to be a primary daycare provider for my kids since they were babies (they also go to daycare part time). She absolutely loves it and is amazing with them. My parents taught all their grandkids how to swim (in their inground pool), they take them fishing (my dad has a boat and loves to fish) and on various excursions. My mom has taught my kids so many things, including how to sew, crochet, cook/bake. Luckily, we are on the same page about most things, but my mom doesn't defy my wishes if I ask for her not to do something. We are very fortunate.

My parents are the same way, minus the daycare providing. Any time we need them to keep any of the kids they are there. Besides my dad who gave DD about 8oz of formula and a bottle of water within a 3 hour period, ("she was crying because she hungry", no she was crying because she had a fever and was sick.) I don't ever question their judgment while they have my kids.  My IL's well, they aren't the devil, but I certainly wont leave my infant with them any length of time.

[vavavictoria]

Feb 3, 2017 13:18:35 GMT -5 jillian said:

Feb 2, 2017 16:36:20 GMT -5 jwinct said:

I'm extremely thankful for my mom who has volunteered to be a primary daycare provider for my kids since they were babies (they also go to daycare part time). She absolutely loves it and is amazing with them. My parents taught all their grandkids how to swim (in their inground pool), they take them fishing (my dad has a boat and loves to fish) and on various excursions. My mom has taught my kids so many things, including how to sew, crochet, cook/bake. Luckily, we are on the same page about most things, but my mom doesn't defy my wishes if I ask for her not to do something. We are very fortunate.

My parents are the same way, minus the daycare providing. Any time we need them to keep any of the kids they are there. Besides my dad who gave DD about 8oz of formula and a bottle of water within a 3 hour period, ("she was crying because she hungry", no she was crying because she had a fever and was sick.) I don't ever question their judgment while they have my kids.  My IL's well, they aren't the devil, but I certainly wont leave my infant with them any length of time.

I trust my stepmom completely with a newborn. My MIL I think would be mostly ok with a few questionable judgment calls. My dad, my FIL, my mom, and my stepdad. Hell no to unsupervised time with the newborn. Maybe when the toddler is 4. Maybe.