Thursday

[ksyknelvr73]

hikingmama222 still using the bucket seat for now. For us, it's mostly convenience since I drop off the kids every day and DH usually picks them up. Two bases were cheaper than two car seats. I have one car seat already "in waiting" that was DS2's and it's a Britax Roundabout and I don't love it, but it's still valid and will work as DD's convertible seat - probably in my car since we use DH's way more. I really only drive my car to and from work and we use his as the family vehicle.

I want to get another Graco clone for DD to go in DH's car. I really love those seats.

[becole]

Feb 2, 2017 11:28:27 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

Feb 2, 2017 11:25:57 GMT -5 becole said:

You win in the difficulty Olympics just in sheer number of doctor appointments.

LOLZ no.  Not even close.  Remember, somewhere between 5 and 20% of the kids under 5 with Down syndrome get leukemia.  We've got an easy one (knock on wood).   They have a lot of doctor appointments. 

I can't think of many things worse than a child with a chronic or life threatening illness.

[becole]

Feb 2, 2017 11:34:59 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

Another thought re: comparison. I think it's okay to compare when you use it as a tool to understand why you feel like something is so hard or where you're lucky. Where it becomes problematic is when you start attributing the stuff that's easier to your superior parenting. By and large you have no control over that stuff. Feel lucky and move on. It's the superiority comparisons that really bother me.

Yes I think that's part of my annoyance. My SIL got lucky and got an easy one. Slept through the night at like 8 weeks and even made it through the 4 month regression unscathed. And she posts shit on FB like "I have to wake my baby up for daycare every day at 6:30 after he sleeps all night, but I wish he would sleep past 6:30 on the weekends 😉"
And I want to murder her. Especially since she's such a pain in the ass and crazy and I'm sure she thinks she had everything to do with this baby sttn. And she somehow was able to pump a bottle every day had her H get up with the baby and bottle feed at night for the short 8 weeks her kid was even getting up.
You cannot compare that life to my first. It is in no way anywhere close. It's like having a puppy versus having a baby alligator.

[smallpotato]

We took the boys in to the pedi this morning for G's follow-up and to have N looked at since he started with a cough. Poor G had a coughing fit when we got into the exam room which led to him bringing up the entire contents of his stomach all over him, MH, and the exam table. The good news is that the albuterol is working, and he did not sound as wheezy. We have to bring him back on Monday unless it seems like things are getting worse; then they want us to call and bring him in. MH joked on Tuesday that our next kid should not be a fall or winter baby. Since we are done, and I was in no mood for jokes then, I could have smacked him through the phone.

ETA: N only has a cold. Poor guy is definitely not himself though.

[jillian]

Feb 2, 2017 11:33:38 GMT -5 hikingmama222 said:

jillian You must live in the same town as a mom on my Jan13 bmb. She was talking about it yesterday. Knows a few people who work there and was a mess yesterday.

+1 to every kid and situation is different. My mom always comments about how easy we were and we always listened, were in bed at 7 even in the summer without a fight etc etc etc. Thanks but my two are high energy and high maintenance, I'm doing the best I can. My 4 yr old goes to bed late, oh well it works for us. She also sleeps in until 8 every day. She got a taste of it yesterday when i left her for an hour with my 2. DS lost it in a matter of minutes and you could tell it frazzled her.

Ha! Yes, I believe I know who you are talking about (without going stalky) she and I are pretty good friends. We have been talking this morning about it. I knew she was on a BMB but didn't realize it was here! Funny!

[smallpotato]

britta, I interviewed for a different position that relates to the program I am currently working for a few years back, and the panel conducting the interview were the people I had worked for in my program for the past 3.5 years. It's annoying to explain yourself when the people asking you have first hand knowledge of your work ethic and habits. I hope the interview went well.

iwantbacon, my sister is allergic to penicillin, and I have memories of her breaking out in hives a few days after taking the medicine. I hope your little guy feels better soon.

hikingmama222, G is still in the bucket seat for now. We moved N to his convertible seat when he was 13 months old and maxed it out heightwise. We'll likely do the same for G. We have N's old convertible seats (Graco clone and Evenflo Titan) waiting for him when he outgrows the bucket. By the time G outgrows those, we should be ready to pass on N's Nautilus seats to him and move N to a backless booster (I think N will be about 8 by the time that happens).

[jillian]

Feb 2, 2017 11:39:24 GMT -5 hikingmama222 said:

What's everyone using for carseats? My family pitched in and we all bought DS's 2 convertible carseats for Christmas (got them on sale boxing day). They got delivered this week and are sitting in my living room. Wondering if i should just install them now. We didn't move DD over until she was over a year. The only time I bring the bucket in is dropping DD off at preschool since it's 2 mins in and out. Errands and shopping I always wear him.
It is nice to have him buckled and wrapped up in the house though since it's still cold out.

We are still using the bucket. Its just more convenient right now. I wear her when we are shopping or out anywhere, but the bucket is still easier when I just need to run into a store for something quick. Plus I agree with being able to keep the seat warm in the house as opposed to it sitting the cold car. We put 2 convertible seats on our registry to be able to use the completion coupon for and someone bought us both of them. So ridiculously thrilled. They are still boxed up in the basement for the time being. I might be tempted to switch when she can sit up by herself in a grocery cart and it gets warmer.

[sanibel21]

Team it's all hard. There's so many more variables than working or not that can make parenting difficult, and everyone has their own unique challenges
DD1 had preschool and I did some errands and had some one on one with DD2. Now both girls are sleeping (score!) And I'm relaxing.
I have CPR class tonight so DH will be solo bedtime with both girls. I haven't even done solo bedtime yet haha. And last night when I went to therapy, I guess dd2 was so much trouble taking a bottle. Yeesh. But my CPR is expired and I need it for work, sooo...

[sanibel21]

Still on the bucket seat here and it's getting heavy!! Haven't started thinking aboutique next step yet.

[britta]

hikingmama222 we're still using the bucket seat for now. AS SOON AS it warms up, I'm ridding myself of it though.

DS2 has a Britax Pavilion (I think it's the old version of the Boulevard) in my car and a Graco Milestone in MH's truck. Both allowed for ERF, but we'll probably get more long term use out of the Milestone because it converts to a highback booster. I like the Britax though. I'm undecided what we will get for 2.0.

[iwantbacon]

Nurse recommended I bring DS2 in this afternoon, so I guess I'm telling my new boss that I will be missing more time because of sick child. What makes me especially sad is that I have to miss a meeting with fancy food. Seriously, kid, please only get sick or have allergic reactions on Fridays from now on.

[jillian]

Feb 2, 2017 11:22:20 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

jillian I think there is evidence though that education programs help reduce recidivism rates, which arguably is good for society as a whole as well as for people who are incarcerated. We're all better off with people out paying taxes after they get out. As long as the criminal justice system so disproportionately targets people of color, I get icks about the "you got yourself into this mess" type logic.

I agree with this wholeheartedly. I agree that any education programs offered to prisoners is better for everyone in the long run. If the prison system doesn't help them, who will? There are plenty of people behind bars that are discriminated against. There are people that go to jail for much longer than someone of a different race or gender. But these men in this prison that decided to take matters into their own hands have access to many different educational opportunities. They don't have to be degree programs.  If they were smart enough to orchestrate the take over of a maximum security facility, wouldn't they be smart enough to reach out and get their current demands attained in a legal way? Now they wont get anything but hostility and stricter rules. They had to murder someone to get their requests known?

You cant tell me the men that initiated this take over were good law abiding citizens in the wrong place at the wrong time. If they were, they would be among the hostages not the hostage takers. They wouldn't be in a situation where they are serving enough time to get a degree or even fight for certain rights. These are guys doing 10+ years for a reason.

The news just recently reported that the main reason of the take over was fear of what Trump is going to do/take away from the prison/justice system. I am Trump hater to the max, but a man DIED because of something that has not even happened or is rumored to happen.

I'm sorry. I don't want to get into a political debate at all. I am just upset that something like this happened in our tiny little bumblefuck town.   

[britta]

ksyknelvr73 I mostly agree with your worst part of parenthood statement, but I still think parenthood while sick is the absolute worst part.

I still say teen pregnancy rates would drop if they could have recorded me sick with the stomach flu 2 years ago. I was over the toilet puking in our half bath (so, small), DS1 was whining and crying for me (because recovering from influenza/pneumonia) on one side and dropped the toilet seat lid on my head while I was puking, and the dog was on the other side, sniffing the toilet seat and trying to lick under it (because she's gross). All I could think is "this is the stuff of nightmares, the stuff no one warns you about."

[ksyknelvr73]

britta, yes...strong contender right there, being sick with kids. There should be some kind of service offered out there where parents can call someone to come entertain their child for a few hours while you rest and try to recover. I mean I guess hiring a babysitter works for that, but a dedicated service that was on-call for these situations would be awesome.

[becole]

I was sick with stomach bugs with each of my pregnancies puking. Every time the baby would move, waves of nausea and stomach pain.
Then getting the stomach flu nursing DS1- I would get a letdown when I puked because of the muscle tension. And then I would have to feed the baby all dehydrated while trying not to puke on the baby.
Yeah. Men have no idea.

[jwinct]

Feb 2, 2017 11:39:24 GMT -5 hikingmama222 said:

What's everyone using for carseats? My family pitched in and we all bought DS's 2 convertible carseats for Christmas (got them on sale boxing day). They got delivered this week and are sitting in my living room. Wondering if i should just install them now. We didn't move DD over until she was over a year. The only time I bring the bucket in is dropping DD off at preschool since it's 2 mins in and out. Errands and shopping I always wear him.
It is nice to have him buckled and wrapped up in the house though since it's still cold out.

Though I do look forward to not lugging the heavy bucket seat around anymore, I'm waiting a bit longer to install the convertible seat in my car. I want DS to be able to sit up relatively well in a shopping cart before making the switch. And I'd rather not deal with winter jackets and the car seat if I don't need to, so I'm hoping to make it until spring, but I don't think that's going to happen. DS is already 26" and 16.6 lbs. That seat is getting really heavy. And only 4 more inches until he maxes out of it. 

[smallpotato]

When the stomach bug hit me a few weeks ago, I was feeding G, hoping I could hold off the puke until he was done. I barely made it through the feeding. Good thing the bathroom is directly across from his room. I think I'm on my third or fourth cold since G was born, too, which is also no fun. I love where we live, but when I'm sick, I always wish my mom lived closer so I could have some help. MH is a big help when he's home, but the days he's on shift and I'm not feeling well are the worst (like Tuesday).

[britta]

So much yes smallpotato. It's the only time I wish my parents lived closer.

[britta]

But, to piggyback off of what I just posted, even if my parents or other family DID live close, I'd still send my kids to daycare vs using family for routine childcare. I feel like they would be too many conflicts with my mom doing her own thing and not the way we'd like them done and the socialization/preschool curriculum that comes with having the kids in daycare where they currently go is certainly not something they'd get at home with family.

That's gotta be a UO. I'd rather pay for structured, outside daycare than use family for free.

[iwantbacon]

I would like to use family for free babysitting, but an actual daycare provider for regular daycare.

[smallpotato]

Feb 2, 2017 14:04:06 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

I would like to use family for free babysitting, but an actual daycare provider for regular daycare.

+1. Although, I will admit that I was jealous that my sister used my mom to watch my nephew for the short time she was back to work. Our neighbor watched N when I first went back to work, and she was (and is) wonderful. It was definitely the best solution at the time. However, I can't help wondering if some of the issues we're having with him could have been avoided if he had been in a structured daycare from the start. It will be interesting to see if there is a difference with G as he gets older.

[britta]

LOL. And just for ksyknelvr73...

HUGGIES.

Happy UO Day!

[britta]

OMG I'm sick to my stomach nervous over this stupid interview with HR. (It's a phone interview, btw-waiting for my call)

Wish me luck. MH said his practice manager told him they had a "bunch of very qualified applicants" and were "surprised." 😳

[jwinct]

Feb 2, 2017 14:30:03 GMT -5 britta said:

OMG I'm sick to my stomach nervous over this stupid interview with HR. (It's a phone interview, btw-waiting for my call)

Wish me luck. MH said his practice manager told him they had a "bunch of very qualified applicants" and were "surprised." 😳

Good luck! You'll do great, I know it! 

[smallpotato]

You've got this britta! Good luck!

[jwinct]

My cousin's funeral is this Saturday and it's from 1-3pm. I have only been to a small handful of funerals in my life. Is three hours typical? It seems like a long time to me. My grandparents' funerals weren't nearly that long. If it's really 3 hours long, my children are going to fall apart.

[Deleted]

Howdy. Going to write a quick post and disappear.
Was up With DS overnight as he puked twice. I think it was something he ate versus a bug as he's fine today and never had a fever or anything. Took him to his speech appointment this morning. He's right on track which is nice and they don't want to see him for another 6 months.
Still using the bucket here. DS went into his convertible around 7 months but he was nearing the height limit. We already have DDs purchased (an evenflo symphony like DS). We'll likely put her in it after the winter. Our bucket has around a 30 inch limit and I'm pretty sure she's 26+ inches so it'll be around the start of spring anyways.
UO: my new phone case is the tits

[erien22846]

Feb 2, 2017 14:58:00 GMT -5 jwinct said:

My cousin's funeral is this Saturday and it's from 1-3pm. I have only been to a small handful of funerals in my life. Is three hours typical? It seems like a long time to me. My grandparents' funerals weren't nearly that long. If it's really 3 hours long, my children are going to fall apart.

Is that the funeral service or the visitation? They don't typically give a duration for the service. And the visitation is come and go as you please.

[becole]

Oh man we used to dress like Sailor Moon in middle school.

[erien22846]

Feb 2, 2017 14:01:29 GMT -5 britta said:

But, to piggyback off of what I just posted, even if my parents or other family DID live close, I'd still send my kids to daycare vs using family for routine childcare. I feel like they would be too many conflicts with my mom doing her own thing and not the way we'd like them done and the socialization/preschool curriculum that comes with having the kids in daycare where they currently go is certainly not something they'd get at home with family.

That's gotta be a UO. I'd rather pay for structured, outside daycare than use family for free.

Not UO. My SIL used her mother for super cheap childcare and totally took advantage of the situation. I still can't get past how selfish and ungrateful she was. But that's par for the course for her. Her kids definitely didn't benefit from it either. For one, they never went outside to play which made me sad.