MONDAY.

[sanibel21]

@smallpotato I know we've commiserated about toddler struggles before, but I'm curious exactly what behaviors you're dealing with. Feel free to pm if you want to.

[ksyknelvr73]

Feb 6, 2017 12:40:10 GMT -5 becole said:

Feb 6, 2017 11:31:11 GMT -5 ksyknelvr73 said:

britta I have an interview tomorrow afternoon and I'm in the same boat, but I'm going to wear dress pants with a loose blouse and blazer. That way it hides that my pants are cutting off my circulation. Hope that helps!

Also, I need a good answer for what my weaknesses are...I ALWAYS struggle with that question.

Good luck britta.

What is your weakness and I'll think of a good way to say it.

That my kids get sick and I have to take off sometimes?? Haha. Okay but for real.

I would say that in my determination to meet a deadline, sometimes I work too fast and will make mistakes. Never anything huge but just something where if I paid more attention and hadn't been rushing it would have been correct.

Also, I will take any made up weaknesses that you know how to make positive.

[hikingmama222]

Feb 6, 2017 12:48:28 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

Feb 6, 2017 12:21:49 GMT -5 hikingmama222 said:

Ooooo do share! What colors are you thinking? I'm debating it as well... just trying to see how much of a tax refund I get.

WenWeave. 

I think that I'm going to do a monochrome cotton warp.  One piece will be 4.5m cotton warp in twill weave with black, gray, blue, green painted weft.  Other piece will be a RS with painted wool/silk weft, probably twill though maybe crackle.  I'll probably be selling almost everything else I have because $$$, but I've been dreaming about this for almost 2 years now so I'm super super excited.

EtA: I think this is the inspiration for the blue green gray weft.

So awesome! When does it go on the loom? You'll have to show me pics!

[britta]

ksyknelvr73 I struggle with that as well, but I've been coached that the appropriate way to answer the question is to acknowledge your weakness, but be able to turn it around into a positive that you and that you are working to balance that.

I'm a half hour early, sitting in the parking ramp sweating. 😳

[britta]

jwinct you break my heart! I love Luke Bryan! My son idolizes him too, so maybe I'm biased. I appreciated that he sang it acapella (sp?) and didn't embellish it much. It grates my nerves when singers drag it out and add too much of their own "style" to it. Just sing it.

[britta]

I'm nervously PWing. All the sorries.

adouces06 what happened with your job? Did the insurance issue pan out?

[becole]

Feb 6, 2017 12:50:11 GMT -5 ksyknelvr73 said:

Feb 6, 2017 12:40:10 GMT -5 becole said:

What is your weakness and I'll think of a good way to say it.

That my kids get sick and I have to take off sometimes?? Haha. Okay but for real.

I would say that in my determination to meet a deadline, sometimes I work too fast and will make mistakes. Never anything huge but just something where if I paid more attention and hadn't been rushing it would have been correct.

Also, I will take any made up weaknesses that you know how to make positive.

If it was a promotion for a place where the people already know you/ or where they could ask your supervisor "hey what do you think about her?" then I would defend your real weakness. I would say something like, "I am a really efficient worker and I handle a large workload and am constantly having to multitask and prioritize what should be done first. Because of my ability to get everything done and quickly, sometimes small errors occur. I am proud of being so quick and efficient and it's great for the bottom line of this company, but with that comes the unfortunate side effect of letting go of 100% perfection.

Made up flaw: I work too much to my own detriment, I put work first.
Leadership can be a strength and a weakness. So can perfectionist.
You can also be so good at one thing that you get missed for opportunities at other things, having a wide spread skill set.

[jwinct]

Feb 6, 2017 13:04:33 GMT -5 britta said:

jwinct you break my heart! I love Luke Bryan! My son idolizes him too, so maybe I'm biased. I appreciated that he sang it acapella (sp?) and didn't embellish it much. It grates my nerves when singers drag it out and add too much of their own "style" to it. Just sing it.

I totally agree that I prefer when they just sing it, so I did appreciate that, also! 

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@sanibel: I took zoloft after DS. I was on the lowest dose and it helped immensely. I was able to wean after 6 months.

jwinct : Be gone with your Luke Bryan hatred haha.

@kitchen customs are exciting. I know nothing about handwovens and I'm also cheap so I doubt I would even get one because $$$.

[ksyknelvr73]

I like that response becole and really, it's mostly accurate. Especially the part about multitasking and having to prioritize and how that can lead to "less than 100% perfection". I think that's good and it applies.

This is a position outside of my current company, so they don't know me. I don't want to use the "I put work first" because that's actually one of the drawbacks of this position I am applying for (if you ask me personally). They are building the department from the top down and it's going to be a ton of work, especially the first year. But it cuts my commute in HALF (I drive about an hour, so down to 30 min one way), and it's a $25k/year increase in pay.

I admit I'm struggling a little with potentially getting/taking this new position and having 3 small kids. My oldest is generally fine, the 2.5 year old is mostly fine, but the baby is still so little and I worry I will miss opportunities with her.

[jwinct]

After my day at work on Friday, I'm seriously on the hunt for a part-time job. I cannot stand my boss. I don't understand why he treats me so differently from my other co-workers. He clearly doesn't like me and acts like I don't get my work done. I forgot to do one thing for a client one time in 2015 and he has never let it go. And it wasn't even a huge deal. I am on top of all my projects and all my clients are happy. He gives me such a hard time when I have to ask to leave a little bit early, even though I came in early to make up some of the time and make sure all my work was done. He even said that he's going to start saying no to my requests to leave early if I start "abusing" it. Um, sorry jerk. If my kid is sick or has an appointment, I'm leaving no matter how you feel about it. I applied for a job this weekend, but 69 other people had already applied for it, too, (I like that Indeed tells you that info.) so I'm not expecting anything to come of it. If I am able to find a new job before my co-worker goes out on maternity leave (she's due in May), he is going to be so screwed. I'll feel bad for my other co-workers, but not for him.

[smallpotato]

sanibel21, YGPM.

[erien22846]

britta I'm sure you're rocking your interview!

sanibel21 I hope the meds are just the bit of help you need to start feeling better.

ksyknelvr73 sounds like a great opportunity. Good luck with your interview!

[erien22846]

LO slept unswaddled last night! He only woke up one time (like usual) and I found him awake happily playing in his crib this morning.

Don't be too jealous, it was only night one. But I'm hoping it means he's weaning from the swaddle and will get better naps at daycare (where they don't swaddle).

[adouces06]

britta I forget how much I told you all. The initial offer sucked and I declined it. A week later, they called me back with a MUCH better offer, but no insurance. My current employer ended up countering when I told them I was considering leaving, so I stayed. I am glad I did, because right after we found out DS was going to need the MRI and some other tests that are going to be pretty costly.

[becole]

Feb 6, 2017 13:40:03 GMT -5 ksyknelvr73 said:

I like that response becole and really, it's mostly accurate. Especially the part about multitasking and having to prioritize and how that can lead to "less than 100% perfection". I think that's good and it applies.

This is a position outside of my current company, so they don't know me. I don't want to use the "I put work first" because that's actually one of the drawbacks of this position I am applying for (if you ask me personally). They are building the department from the top down and it's going to be a ton of work, especially the first year. But it cuts my commute in HALF (I drive about an hour, so down to 30 min one way), and it's a $25k/year increase in pay.

I admit I'm struggling a little with potentially getting/taking this new position and having 3 small kids. My oldest is generally fine, the 2.5 year old is mostly fine, but the baby is still so little and I worry I will miss opportunities with her.

Meh. If you're an efficient worker and good at getting a lot done and staying on task, I wouldn't be concerned about the amount of work. That would not be a good fit for someone who takes 3 hours to draft an email, kwim? You'll get an hour back of your life in commute as well, so that's 5 hours more you could spend working and not be losing out on time with the kids. Plus $$. If the leave policies were similar, I would take it .

[becole]

Feb 6, 2017 13:42:28 GMT -5 jwinct said:

After my day at work on Friday, I'm seriously on the hunt for a part-time job. I cannot stand my boss. I don't understand why he treats me so differently from my other co-workers. He clearly doesn't like me and acts like I don't get my work done. I forgot to do one thing for a client one time in 2015 and he has never let it go. And it wasn't even a huge deal. I am on top of all my projects and all my clients are happy. He gives me such a hard time when I have to ask to leave a little bit early, even though I came in early to make up some of the time and make sure all my work was done. He even said that he's going to start saying no to my requests to leave early if I start "abusing" it. Um, sorry jerk. If my kid is sick or has an appointment, I'm leaving no matter how you feel about it. I applied for a job this weekend, but 69 other people had already applied for it, too, (I like that Indeed tells you that info.) so I'm not expecting anything to come of it. If I am able to find a new job before my co-worker goes out on maternity leave (she's due in May), he is going to be so screwed. I'll feel bad for my other co-workers, but not for him.

I would totally leave. He sounds like a bully. I hate having a target on my back. If that ever happened, I would want to start over.

[jwinct]

Feb 6, 2017 14:05:29 GMT -5 becole said:

Feb 6, 2017 13:42:28 GMT -5 jwinct said:

After my day at work on Friday, I'm seriously on the hunt for a part-time job. I cannot stand my boss. I don't understand why he treats me so differently from my other co-workers. He clearly doesn't like me and acts like I don't get my work done. I forgot to do one thing for a client one time in 2015 and he has never let it go. And it wasn't even a huge deal. I am on top of all my projects and all my clients are happy. He gives me such a hard time when I have to ask to leave a little bit early, even though I came in early to make up some of the time and make sure all my work was done. He even said that he's going to start saying no to my requests to leave early if I start "abusing" it. Um, sorry jerk. If my kid is sick or has an appointment, I'm leaving no matter how you feel about it. I applied for a job this weekend, but 69 other people had already applied for it, too, (I like that Indeed tells you that info.) so I'm not expecting anything to come of it. If I am able to find a new job before my co-worker goes out on maternity leave (she's due in May), he is going to be so screwed. I'll feel bad for my other co-workers, but not for him.

I would totally leave. He sounds like a bully. I hate having a target on my back. If that ever happened, I would want to start over.

He really is a bully, and a power-hungry control freak. We get along fine and I'm always pleasant and nice to him, but I really can't stand him. He comes across as so fake (he's a total used car salesman) all the time and always has to have the last word. He is constantly looking for things to get on my case about, but luckily I am a good worker and am on top of things. 

[sanibel21]

jwinct life is hard enough without having to deal with that at a place of work. I'm sorry he's like that. I don't understand people like that.

[fem]

sanibel21 Zoloft plus counseling was life changing for my husband. I hope it works for you!

Good luck britta and ksyknelvr73!

[fem]

Feb 6, 2017 12:41:20 GMT -5 becole said:

fem how is it going? Any improvement? When is your appt with the LC? I hate that it keeps dragging on for you.

Thanks for thinking of us. I only work T,W,F so I've been with her since they got clipped-took Friday off. My in-laws are here since DH is out of town (I love them) and they tried a bottle yesterday but she was a big grump all day and wanted nothing to do with it. We're gonna try again after this afternoon nap and see how it goes.

I have the follow-up with the dentist and LC Thursday. Daycare tomorrow so fingers crossed. I've been adamant about the stretches even though she hates them.

[fem]

We went to the new Doc McStuffins exhibit at our children's museum this morning and DD1 had a ball.

[becole]

Feb 6, 2017 14:27:16 GMT -5 fem said:

Feb 6, 2017 12:41:20 GMT -5 becole said:

fem how is it going? Any improvement? When is your appt with the LC? I hate that it keeps dragging on for you.

Thanks for thinking of us. I only work T,W,F so I've been with her since they got clipped-took Friday off. My in-laws are here since DH is out of town (I love them) and they tried a bottle yesterday but she was a big grump all day and wanted nothing to do with it. We're gonna try again after this afternoon nap and see how it goes.

I have the follow-up with the dentist and LC Thursday. Daycare tomorrow so fingers crossed. I've been adamant about the stretches even though she hates them.

One thing that the LC did to get him to take a bottle was to face him out away from the body and put the hand under his chin and feed him completely upright and while moving/ walking around. It's a bit of a circus act, but it was getting him distracted and not thinking about it and let instinct take over. Make sure the thumb is touching right by the mouth- they like the feeling of skin while sucking. Hopefully the LC can get her started and then it will just slowly get better.

[smallpotato]

Feb 6, 2017 14:28:05 GMT -5 fem said:

We went to the new Doc McStuffins exhibit at our children's museum this morning and DD1 had a ball.

Every time N sees the commercial on Disney Junior for the exhibit, he tells me he wants to go there. I have to explain to him every time that it is a very long drive or a plane ride away. He gets very disappointed when I tell him that LOL. It's going to be at a children's museum not far from my ILs next summer, but who knows if he'll still be into that when he's almost 6? I'm glad she had a good time; it looks so cool!

[iwantbacon]

I found a somewhat reasonably priced preschool for DS1 to start this fall, so I contacted them today because it was the first day of registration. Nope, already full. So now he's on the wait list and I don't know if a spot will open up for August. I just don't know if I should try like a daycare center with preschool curriculum now or wait until closer to the summer since the center wouldn't necessarily be on a school year calendar? Also, why is it so damn expensive?

[fem]

Feb 6, 2017 15:08:56 GMT -5 smallpotato said:

Feb 6, 2017 14:28:05 GMT -5 fem said:

We went to the new Doc McStuffins exhibit at our children's museum this morning and DD1 had a ball.

Every time N sees the commercial on Disney Junior for the exhibit, he tells me he wants to go there. I have to explain to him every time that it is a very long drive or a plane ride away. He gets very disappointed when I tell him that LOL. It's going to be at a children's museum not far from my ILs next summer, but who knows if he'll still be into that when he's almost 6? I'm glad she had a good time; it looks so cool!

C knows who Doc McStuffins is but isn't really into the show at all and she still had a blast playing.

[Deleted]

I'm of the opinion daycare = preschool (or at least it does around these parts).

DD has been fighting sleep all day, so that's fun.

DS just asked for a book while he was on the potty....and then proceeded to take a big poop.

So judgement is coming below, skip if you dont want to read.
My friend (the one who donates her BM to us) had her DD"s 4 month appointment today (a week late). Anywho her DD is 14.5 lbs and 25.2 inches and drinks 35oz/day of expressed BM. Her doctor said to go ahead and give food to fill her up since that's "too much breastmilk" for a baby to be drinking. My friend said that a 5 oz bottle is only satisfying for 90 min-2 hours ad that she won't sleep unless she's eating (feed to sleep). I'm thinking her kid is either a)hungry or b) has associated the bottle as a prelude to sleep. I do desperately want to tell her to not feed solids to her DD (especially since she's planning on starting with rice cereal), but not my kid so I have no right.

[iwantbacon]

How is 35oz too much breastmilk? That sounds crazy to me.

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Feb 6, 2017 18:04:45 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

How is 35oz too much breastmilk? That sounds crazy to me.

From what I've read it is a lot, but I don't consider it "too much"
Babies who are on BM exclusively *USUALLY* drink anywhere from 19-30oz/day. But I mean some are going to eat more and some less. It's how they come with averages is it not?
For example my DD is combo fed 50/50 and drink between 24-30 oz/day. But FF babies tend to eat more, closer to 40 oz a day at this point.

[Deleted]

Feb 6, 2017 18:44:04 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

Feb 6, 2017 17:54:22 GMT -5 @snuff9861 said:

I'm of the opinion daycare = preschool (or at least it does around these parts).

DD has been fighting sleep all day, so that's fun.

DS just asked for a book while he was on the potty....and then proceeded to take a big poop.

So judgement is coming below, skip if you dont want to read.
My friend (the one who donates her BM to us) had her DD"s 4 month appointment today (a week late). Anywho her DD is 14.5 lbs and 25.2 inches and drinks 35oz/day of expressed BM. Her doctor said to go ahead and give food to fill her up since that's "too much breastmilk" for a baby to be drinking. My friend said that a 5 oz bottle is only satisfying for 90 min-2 hours ad that she won't sleep unless she's eating (feed to sleep). I'm thinking her kid is either a)hungry or b) has associated the bottle as a prelude to sleep. I do desperately want to tell her to not feed solids to her DD (especially since she's planning on starting with rice cereal), but not my kid so I have no right.

The cereal feeding feels a lot like saying you should eat a rice cake to feel full if you've been eating full fat yogurt all day. Like. It might feel different in your belly but it sure AF won't fill you up... But maybe my comparison is totally off? I just dont get how something less calorie dense makes sense.

I'm with you.