Seems like you'd have to have 2 sets of clothes. No?
I think way less. I could imagine like only four tees and two jeans for the weekends and being good. As opposed to the CLOSET FULL of clothing items my daughter has now.
I also maybe buy her too many clothes. Possibly.
Poor DS. He has like half the clothing, and it's still more than enough.
I buy too many clothes too. I can foresee me still buying nearly as many plus uniforms. Especially in warm weather which we have a lot of in TN.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
You liked her nasty post at me like you agreed with it so that's why I included you.
It was a direct critique on me and how I parent so you liked it so I responded and included you.
I don't GAF how you parent, and I don't GAF what you think of the way I parent. I liked her post because I agreed that you saying "You think it's cute. OK." was condescending. Nobody in this whole thread said they let their kids pick their clothes because it's cute when they mismatch. Several reasons were given but it being cute wasn't one of them. In fact several people said it sort of makes them twitchy but they let it go for other reasons. But instead of considering the reasons other people have for doing things their way, you choose to reduce it to it being "cute." I find that condescending. So I agreed with that part of her post.
Lol my kid totally picks out most of her own clothes in the store. Yeah I veto some things but if I don't allow her to choose most of it then she just won't wear what I choose for her and she'll be wearing the same few outfits she likes. Some of that is sensory for her.
I feel like I can try to influence her without controlling her. Like, she was choosing all boys athletic pants and shorts. So I have bought a few girls athletic shorts and leggings and she loves those. So I'm steering her my way but not demanding it.
Yeah, I'm pretty amused at the idea that you can't influence and educate without imposing non-bending will.
I can parent pretty effectively, and try to guide, without being a hard ass about all aspects of their existence.
"Non bending will" and "hard ass" sound hope dashing-y to me
You liked her nasty post at me like you agreed with it so that's why I included you.
It was a direct critique on me and how I parent so you liked it so I responded and included you.
I don't GAF how you parent, and I don't GAF what you think of the way I parent. I liked her post because I agreed that you saying "You think it's cute. OK." was condescending. Nobody in this whole thread said they let their kids pick their clothes because it's cute when they mismatch. Several reasons were given but it being cute wasn't one of them. In fact several people said it sort of makes them twitchy but they let it go for other reasons. But instead of considering the reasons other people have for doing things their way, you choose to reduce it to it being "cute." I find that condescending. So I agreed with that part of her post.
Well I find most of your posts have a certain air about them so we can agree on that.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I think learning to coordinate and be presentable is a life skill. So that's how I approach it. I'm not a clothes czar handing out edicts. She goes and picks clothes, if the outfit goes together I leave her. If not, I tell her "find different pants because xyz..."
I don't think this is making my kid a sheeple or discouraging individuality.
I kind of feel the same @scoutnumbers. I almost feel like everyone in this thread allows their kid leave the house held to the same standard but semantics and arguments skewed us all into thinking we are disagreeing.
Exactly. There is a lot of room between choosing every outfit and accessory for your kids and not bending if they want to wear something else and not caring what your kids wear even if ripped, not weather appropriate, dirty, wrong size, etc. Most of us are going to fall in the middle somewhere. It's not worth a board schism over. Hopefully OP has figured out that some people agree with her and some agree with her ex and some are in the middle. Just like with most topics.
Ok well this is similar to the "no time to clean too busy making memories" attitude to me.
I don't think wanting your child in matching clothes is such a bad thing. Not a crazed neurotic beast for not mixing a bunch of patterns.
OP to answer your question, I don't line mismatched clothes on my kids. I can see why it would bother ex H. However, I don't like that he's imposing on your household, so I would make a statement like "she's clean, it's weather appropriate, and that's all I'm worried about" then disengage on that topic.
I think learning to coordinate and be presentable is a life skill. So that's how I approach it. I'm not a clothes czar handing out edicts. She goes and picks clothes, if the outfit goes together I leave her. If not, I tell her "find different pants because xyz..."
I don't think this is making my kid a sheeple or discouraging individuality.
I don't either, but I also don't think I'm dooming my kid to a lifetime of bullying or that she will never be a put together individual because I let her wear a tutu on top of ice cream leggings.
I do think some people are more hard-assy about stuff. I'm a hard ass about sugar and what my kids watch on TV. I would hardly take offense if someone pointed that. Especially since I know it's half TIC most times.
Apparently I have to add to my disclaimer list:
I don't think anyone on this board has brow beat their children into submission and killed their soul until it's a blackened charred remainder of joy remembered.
Also the only time I was referencing only you, was when I quoted you. I still think it's a fair assumption for one to read what you said as "crazed nuerotic person squashing their kid".
You said that's not how you meant it, so that's good enough for me. I didn't see the hyperbole.
I don't either, but I also don't think I'm dooming my kid to a lifetime of bullying or that she will never be a put together individual because I let her wear a tutu on top of ice cream leggings.
Also the only time I was referencing only you, was when I quoted you. I still think it's a fair assumption for one to read what you said as "crazed nuerotic person squashing their kid".
You said that's not how you meant it, so that's good enough for me. I didn't see the hyperbole.
Except the words "crazed nuerotic person squashing their kid" were never said. You can't put it in quotes, I didn't say it. You can infer what you like, but that's not what I said. It was a conversation, and i just can't be this careful/serious with every word choice. I was agreeing with someone else's general point.
We're saying the same thing.
I perceived that as your viewpoint as based on what you said. You said that's not what you meant. So now I'm no longer gonna push that issue because you didn't mean it that way.
Ok well this is similar to the "no time to clean too busy making memories" attitude to me.
I don't think wanting your child in matching clothes is such a bad thing. Not a crazed neurotic beast for not mixing a bunch of patterns.
OP to answer your question, I don't line mismatched clothes on my kids. I can see why it would bother ex H. However, I don't like that he's imposing on your household, so I would make a statement like "she's clean, it's weather appropriate, and that's all I'm worried about" then disengage on that topic.
Not the OP, and it wouldn't work with her ex--but DH has commented about her clothes (in private!) And I pretty much tell him he is more than welcome to help get her off for school in the morning or pick out her clothes the night before. He usually doesn't care that much.
Ok well this is similar to the "no time to clean too busy making memories" attitude to me.
I don't think wanting your child in matching clothes is such a bad thing. Not a crazed neurotic beast for not mixing a bunch of patterns.
OP to answer your question, I don't line mismatched clothes on my kids. I can see why it would bother ex H. However, I don't like that he's imposing on your household, so I would make a statement like "she's clean, it's weather appropriate, and that's all I'm worried about" then disengage on that topic.
This is pretty much the convo I had with Ex-H. As long as she's clean and appropriate for weather and school, I can't get it up to care. But if he does on his weeks, then more power to him.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
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I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
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