Post by musicallyinclined on Feb 21, 2017 17:33:09 GMT -5
DH is introducing DS1 to Star Wars (A New Hope, obviously). He has a pop up book so he knows all the characters. I'm pretty sure this is his proudest dad moment to date.
notagoddess, I believe it's common at least for a while, but if you can try to do some kegels maybe that would help. And keep in mind that your body *did* just go through a major thing. I wouldn't worry about long term incontinence just yet. See how things are in a few weeks.
I can't do Kegels yet because I had an episiotomy and it hurts, but also, I don't have the sense of knowing how to do them anymore. It's all somewhere between numb and sore. I hope it improves soon
If I remember correctly, you just had the baby a few days ago. Right? If so, give your body some time to heal. You will feel completely different a week from now. I wouldn't start worrying about anyblong terms problems yet.
I can't do Kegels yet because I had an episiotomy and it hurts, but also, I don't have the sense of knowing how to do them anymore. It's all somewhere between numb and sore. I hope it improves soon
If I remember correctly, you just had the baby a few days ago. Right? If so, give your body some time to heal. You will feel completely different a week from now. I wouldn't start worrying about anyblong terms problems yet.
notagoddess , check out this video for a good tutorial/visual on a newborn in a ring sling. I'm glad you are loving it so far!
Thank you! I was putting her legs in the fetal position rather than out. I wonder if that made it more difficult. I underestimated how much a squirming baby made it harder over practicing on a teddy bear... LOL.
I posted a photo of myself wearing her on my local babywearing FB group for feedback as well. They have been very welcoming and helpful when I went to one of their meetings before, so I'm looking forward to hearing from them.
notagoddess , check out this video for a good tutorial/visual on a newborn in a ring sling. I'm glad you are loving it so far!
Thank you! I was putting her legs in the fetal position rather than out. I wonder if that made it more difficult. I underestimated how much a squirming baby made it harder over practicing on a teddy bear... LOL.
I posted a photo of myself wearing her on my local babywearing FB group for feedback as well. They have been very welcoming and helpful when I went to one of their meetings before, so I'm looking forward to hearing from them.
Honestly, probably! I always teach moms feet out, no matter how tiny the baby is. Baby does better with their weight fully on their bum and not on their ankles anyway.
And yes, babywearing groups are amazing! I help run our local one and love it when new moms and tiny babies come in.
Noooooooo. We just left the pedi and after listening to the grunting sounds Louis was making, she wants me to cut out dairy. I don't know if I can do this if I end up having to cut out even trace dairy She also called in an RX for Zantac so how am I supposed to know which is working? FX something works and he starts to feel better.
I'm surprised she's having you do both for the exact reason you listed.
I have always said I would not make major dietary changes in order to keep BFing. It's okay if you don't want to and decide to stop.
Noooooooo. We just left the pedi and after listening to the grunting sounds Louis was making, she wants me to cut out dairy. I don't know if I can do this if I end up having to cut out even trace dairy She also called in an RX for Zantac so how am I supposed to know which is working? FX something works and he starts to feel better.
I'm surprised she's having you do both for the exact reason you listed.
I have always said I would not make major dietary changes in order to keep BFing. It's okay if you don't want to and decide to stop.
I won't make big dietary changes because I want to balance their needs with mine. I need balanced nutrition and to have my body back (at least mostly).
Babies are doing well. No major input or output issues. I wish M would eat a bit more, but I think L's milk snd formula intake skews my perception. We seem to have a situation like R&G again, where the boy eats a ridiculous amount and the girl eats normal or on the light side of normal.
The one major issue we're proud that we may have solved is with restless at night. They were cold. Add another layer of insulation and they slept much better.
I'm trying to keep an eye on spitup patterns to see if it"s connected to bottle vs breast, BM vs formula, or some specific time after eating. Also lots of hiccups here.
*negativity ahead*
No amount of sleep keeps me from feeling exhausted within an hour or two. Of course, I'm probably not sleeping well since I wake up cold but drenched in sweat every morning and after any nap.
Does anyone know when this period of exhaustion (in addition to pure lack of sleep) ends? Is it related to hormones like baby blues or is it from having a c-section?
Also, baby blues sucks. No tears yet this time, but just the feeling of isolation and inability to improve my situation as it stands right now. I know that's ridiculous because I'm only eight days out from having twins, but it's hard to overrule gut feelings.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on Feb 21, 2017 18:56:29 GMT -5
nomnom - The night sweats and hormones are not specific to a c section. It's just typical postpartum stuff. The excess physical exhaustion may partially be due to the surgery, but you're also caring for two infants.
And baby blues suck. I'm going through it, too. Mainly I feel like I'm not doing enough and am completely exhausted all the time, emotionally and physically. I'll say I'm 11 days out and it's getting better. How long ago did you have the twins? Maybe it's just a matter of time. Plus, you have two babies! Go easy on yourself!
ETA I've cried a TON, which I'm sure is a combo of our NICU situation and baby blues. Be kind to yourself. Postpartum is really hard, especially when you're also recovering from surgery. {{Hugs}}
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Post by monicageller on Feb 21, 2017 18:59:10 GMT -5
nomnom I'm not sure how long it lasts but all seems pretty normal for this stage. Hang in there and just continue to be aware of the baby blues if it doesn't improve.
My crazy grandma just called to check in on me again. 😑 I am not amused. It was cute the first time, but really, I do not want a phone call every other day making sure I'm still pregnant. I haven't even hit my due date yet. For Pete's sake!!!
Yesterday I told my mom and sisters that if they called me one more time asking if I was in labor, I would block their phone numbers. I am very salty about it. Also have not even hit my due date. It is ridic.
@nomnom - I felt completely overwhelmed and helpless for the first couple of weeks. I know some was from my c section and my feelings of helplessness letting my incision heal. Getting the all clear from my OB @ my incision check helped.
If you still feel this way after another week or maybe two I'd definitely say no longer normal. But not sure your situation is normal since you now have 2 sets of twins!!! Remember you are super strong and can do this!
Post by musicallyinclined on Feb 21, 2017 19:20:05 GMT -5
Love to everyone dealing with pp feels and funk. It's not easy. Mine seem to be frustration and anger. I'm sure part of it has to do with being straight up exhausted and the lack of patience that comes with it. Oh yeah and all the hormones coursing through my body.
Post by musicallyinclined on Feb 21, 2017 19:24:21 GMT -5
On an entirely unrelated note, what are your opinions on sleep sack vs. swaddling? DS seems to truly hate being swaddled but it's cold in our room and I think he'd benefit from an extra layer. I think we moved DS1 to a swaddle sack at like 2 months and a sleep sack at 4 maybe... my memory is a touch foggy on that. Obviously with being so little, I don't want to do anything too loose, but I also want him to be warm enough to sleep
Post by flyinghorses6 on Feb 21, 2017 19:44:46 GMT -5
I'm an A-hole and don't even care. Vent coming...
My H has a mostly evening job, so that means the hardest part of the day I am home by myself...I cook dinner, do baths and bedtime by myself...on the few nights he says he's going to be home I really look forward to the help. Well today he was supposed to "be home by dinner"...which I have cooked, but haven't eaten because I didn't get a chance yet. it's now 7:45 and Ks bedtime is 7:30. I texted him saying that there's obviously a problem if he's not here by dinner not to mention bed time...so what's the deal? He basically says he has had the day from hell.
I want to kill him! We have a 2 week old and a toddler, I haven't eaten or showered and I'm nursing the baby and can't even get the toddler in her pjs. Like come the F home and help me. On a day you don't need to be there until 8 or 9-you need to be home helping me.
I need to get over it, but my blood just boils every minute that passes. And it pisses me off that people keep him on phone calls over petty shit when they know he's got a family. Ugh turn your phone off H. You suck right now.
Sorry to everyone who is having postpartum blues and feels. I think everyone gets a form of them after having a baby. We all just need to make sure to take care of ourselves as well as baby.
I've been MIA all day. Between a weight check this morning and dealing with two kids all day I haven't had much time. I find myself beginning to respond and then getting distracted halfway through lol.
flyinghorses6 Sorry your H is being that way today. A lot of mine and DH's arguments stem from him over working as well. Hopefully he can step up helping you asap! Hugs and prayers in the meantime.
H and I had a chat last week about work and priorities. I bet we'll have a few more too. He's cranky tonight (with everyone else not me or L) so I forsee lots of "conversations" in his future. If his parents bitch to me about it I'll most likely snap though.
Post by oldbaylover1024 on Feb 21, 2017 20:28:52 GMT -5
Can we all agree that hormones are a bitch?
And sometimes other people are, too. Our hospital is doing construction, so you have to take the elevator up one floor to another elevator to get to the NICU. Normally I'd take the stairs up three floors to the NICU, but MH won't let me so we take the elevators. A stranger was in the elevator with us and when MH said we only needed to go one floor up, this stranger (a woman) looked at me and said, "One floor?! Take the stairs!" MH said, "My wife just had a c section," to which this bitch said, "Oh, where's the baby?" Before I knocked her teeth out, MH said, "In the NICU." He had to grab my hand to stop me. I wanted to scream at this woman so badly. Way to ruin my effing mood, lady. First, I'm not allowed to climb stairs and I'm already having lots of body image issues. Second, thanks for the reminder about my sick baby. Third, mind your own god damn business.
At least C made up for it. I got some HUGE baby smiles today
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On an entirely unrelated note, what are your opinions on sleep sack vs. swaddling? DS seems to truly hate being swaddled but it's cold in our room and I think he'd benefit from an extra layer. I think we moved DS1 to a swaddle sack at like 2 months and a sleep sack at 4 maybe... my memory is a touch foggy on that. Obviously with being so little, I don't want to do anything too loose, but I also want him to be warm enough to sleep
We use the halo sleep swaddle sacks but keep arms out.
Post by shawnabm1320 on Feb 21, 2017 20:30:58 GMT -5
Hugs to everyone. I am not looking forward to the baby blues part of this. I cried a lot last time... well, DS and I cried in unison.
I don't know what was up with DS today, but he was so very toddler. He even got outside time - did not help. We just had the most awful bedtime where he screamed through almost all of it for no apparent reason. He looked so sad when we put him in his crib - but after we shut the door he laid down and pretty much passed out. Apparently he was tired. Yikes. I am now going to be really sad if that was our last bedtime as a family of three. Silly, I know, but I normally love bedtime snuggles.
Post by musicallyinclined on Feb 21, 2017 20:37:02 GMT -5
oldbaylover1024, what the fuck is wrong with people? I am so sorry that happened to you. Mad love for not completely losing your shit on her. And glad you got some baby smiles, they do make everything better.
Noooooooo. We just left the pedi and after listening to the grunting sounds Louis was making, she wants me to cut out dairy. I don't know if I can do this if I end up having to cut out even trace dairy She also called in an RX for Zantac so how am I supposed to know which is working? FX something works and he starts to feel better.
I'm surprised she's having you do both for the exact reason you listed.
I have always said I would not make major dietary changes in order to keep BFing. It's okay if you don't want to and decide to stop.
This is kind of where I am. I don't think I can swing long term dietary restrictions, especially if there is formula that I know for sure won't upset his stomach. I just want to be sure before I stop, so I guess if the Zantac works right away I'll know it's that. I eat a lot of dairy, so I imagine it will take some time to clear from my milk.
So I'm dairy free not by choice. I've found a lot of substitutes aren't really bad. Ben and Jerry's has an awesome ice cream line now with Almond milk. Just a suggestion if you decide to try DF. The ice cream made me not want to cry every night when I had to cut it out (though to be fair some dairy is ok for me so I'm not totally DF).
Post by littleredfish on Feb 21, 2017 20:56:24 GMT -5
nomnom I'm also exhausted 100% of the time. I don't remember this with my girls. DH has been way more helpful this time at staying up at night for me, and letting me nap, but I'm still finding myself almost falling asleep if I sit too long. And like musicallyinclined my hormones have me so frustrated and impatient. I feel bad for my kids because they often take the most of my frustration. They always seem too loud, too rough, too messy, and I'm clearly just too bitchy. I'm trying not to beat myself up and you shouldn't either. Childbirth is crazy physically and emotionally.
oldbaylover1024 how does one get into a HOSPITAL elevator and make assumptions on how people should be getting around? What a cunt. And I don't use that word often. Not sure my husband could have held back my tongue, especially not in my current hormonal state. Congrats on being the better person in that situation.
Post by dancerspose on Feb 21, 2017 21:22:35 GMT -5
So sorry for those dealing with PP blues. Personally I cried at the drop of a hat for the first two weeks then it seemed to pass. Now it's only when I'm completely exhausted and Z is screaming at the top of her lungs.
Well, still no poo here. I'm going to have to call the doctor in the morning. There are lots of farts, but none seem to lead to anything. I feel so badly for her.
So I'm dairy free not by choice. I've found a lot of substitutes aren't really bad. Ben and Jerry's has an awesome ice cream line now with Almond milk. Just a suggestion if you decide to try DF. The ice cream made me not want to cry every night when I had to cut it out (though to be fair some dairy is ok for me so I'm not totally DF).
I may message you for some suggestions! I literally have to buy all new food.
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