Formerly MoFree on the other board. TTC since 2008 Diagnosis of Severe MFI 3-2009 IVF#1 Nov 2011, BFP DD born @31 weeks gestation, 6-24-12 FET#1, Nov 2013,, BFN FET#2, Feb 2014, BFN Freeze only cycle with PGD August 2014 FET #3 another BFN FET canceled due to cysts FET #4 Dec 2015, BFP Baby Boy born 8-28-16 via VBAC
steph Same, same, same. And I SAH so I sometimes get burned out on child care. But at night/on weekends H thinks he should get to relax because "he did this thing called work" all week. It makes me so mad, and I haven't been able to get him to see that I need a break too.
The babies let us sleep until 7:40 this morning! I feel like a new woman!
Is sleep getting better? I know you had a rough couple of weeks/months. Or do you not talk about it in fear of jinxing it (I live in constant fear of jinxing it haha).
Yes it is much better! Thanks for asking. For us the secret was night weaning. As long as they thought there was a chance of being fed, they would wake up constantly. Now they wake up less and go back down quickly with just a pacifier.
The hard part is that we are so crazy busy with H's job search, travelling for interviews, etc so I rarely make it to bed before midnight, and they're usually up by 6:30. So I am still exhausted, I just can't blame it on them anymore LOL
Has anyone else's baby gotten suddenly much more needy and clingy? I'm wondering if it's a manifestation of separation anxiety, especially since I've been travelling. If I'm not in the room, they are totally fine with the babysitter or our parents or whatever. But when I walk in the room, G takes one look at me and starts to cry until I come pick her up. Or she crawls towards me, crying the whole way. They pretty much want to be held constantly if I'm around, which makes it impossible for me to get anything done (like drink my coffee!). And they are both comfort nursing a ton, but I'm enjoying the snuggles so I'm not discouraging it.
Has anyone else's baby gotten suddenly much more needy and clingy?
Yup, mine is the same way.
As soon as I walk into daycare and she sees me (which yesterday was when my back was to her, for goodness' sake), she starts crying until I come get here.
They are very aware at this age that you can leave them.
Post by remylove1011 on Mar 7, 2017 14:20:41 GMT -5
bocaburger DD started doing this a few weeks ago. She's totally fine with MH if I'm not home, but once I'm home she's only got eyes for me. It's very cute, but makes it hard to get stuff done.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
Post by spicysalmonroll on Mar 7, 2017 17:02:24 GMT -5
bocaburger same here, he'll only play on the floor if I'm sitting next to him. God forbid I sit on the couch. When I get home I can't barely take off my work clothes because he just wants me to pick him up. I'm so glad they are sleeping better! I managed to get him down to one night feeding but he still wakes about 3 other tines. We also give the pacifier at those times.
Has anyone else's baby gotten suddenly much more needy and clingy? I'm wondering if it's a manifestation of separation anxiety, especially since I've been travelling. If I'm not in the room, they are totally fine with the babysitter or our parents or whatever. But when I walk in the room, G takes one look at me and starts to cry until I come pick her up. Or she crawls towards me, crying the whole way. They pretty much want to be held constantly if I'm around, which makes it impossible for me to get anything done (like drink my coffee!). And they are both comfort nursing a ton, but I'm enjoying the snuggles so I'm not discouraging it.
Separation anxiety peaks between 6 and 9 months, so this is totally common. Irritating, but common.
Post by coffeequeen14 on Mar 7, 2017 18:37:15 GMT -5
We also have the Chicco portable high chair. I love having a portable one. It comes in handy at restaurants, friends homes and when we have people over.
I think ds2 is on a nap strike. Every nap is like 30 min max, and he's no longer falling asleep and staying asleep when we are in the car like he used to. I'd love for him to go to 2 naps rather than 3, but when he only naps for a half hour and is up by 3, there's no way he's making it until bedtime.
Gaiz how do I handle the suspense of having to wait 2.5 more weeks to see another medical professional?! (Barring something crazy happening, of course.)
I got a new phone so hopefully I can be a bit more active here again. I know I talked about some of this stuff in my previous update, so I'm sorry if I repeat myself. But I'm going through hell right now.
I have a chiari malformation, so part of my brain is herniated out of my skull and into my spinal cord. I'm in constant pain, get headaches that are beyond terrible and I'm not supposed to lift more than 15lbs among a ton of other restrictions, but that's not really possible with kids.
My husband is currently going through testing, but they now think he has Crohns Disease. He had ulcers throughout his colon and in his mouth, and inflammation all along his digestive tract. He's in a lot of pain, he's lost 20lbs despite being thin to begin with, he poops blood all day long so he's anemic. But he's basically useless. He has only worked 3 days since the beginning of the year, has been spending sometimes 12-22 hours at a time in bed. When he's not in bed, he's laying on the couch. He's on a heavy dose of steroids now, which the Dr told me would cause irritability but he's been SO short tempered with me and the kids. I have to do everything. I get up with them in the morning, take care of them all day, take everyone to their appointments, run all the errands (with the kids in tow), clean, and I work a few hours a week, I put them to bed, take care of both of their motn wake ups, then do it all over again the next day. It's killing me. Like I legitimately want to die constantly through the day. The ppd and ppa are so bad even though I'm still on zoloft. I'm so stressed out that my stomach ulcers have flared up and I'm in pain. I'm crying all the time. My two year old, is the sweetest stinking girl. The other day I was crying and she hugs me and says, "it's okay mommy, don't cry. I'm here, I wipe your tears" I am so thankful for her. I just don't know what to do anymore. I can't continue like this.
In other news, the girls are doing good. Dd2 started pulling herself up and walking along furniture a couple weeks ago! Slow down baby! Pic of them at the park the other day
shehulk723, Is there anyone local that can help you out with the kids? Any family or friends that can give you a few hours of rest? I am so sorry you're dealing with all of that. I would be there in a heartbeat if I could.
Oh shehulk723, I'm so sorry. That sounds really, really tough in so many ways. What sort of support system do you have? Do you have any family nearby? Are you seeing a therapist?
shehulk723, Is there anyone local that can help you out with the kids? Any family or friends that can give you a few hours of rest? I am so sorry you're dealing with all of that. I would be there in a heartbeat if I could.
My mom helps me out every chance she gets, but she's really busy lately. She has a lot of health problems herself (chronic Lyme disease, hashimotos, fibromyalgia, and more that I don't remember at the moment) and she does a lot of taking care of her dad who's dying of Parkinsons. And lately the days she's been helping me are days when I have to take Brian in for procedures, so it's not like I'm actually getting a break. She is going to take them for a bit next Thursday though just so I can have some 'me' time. Still trying to figure out what I should do with myself, but I'm looking forward to it.
Oh shehulk723, I'm so sorry. That sounds really, really tough in so many ways. What sort of support system do you have? Do you have any family nearby? Are you seeing a therapist?
My mom is helping when she can. I lost my health insurance and with my husband not working I really have no way to afford a therapist. I had to open a credit card to pay for the zoloft and birth control that I need.
Oh shehulk723, I'm so sorry. That sounds really, really tough in so many ways. What sort of support system do you have? Do you have any family nearby? Are you seeing a therapist?
My mom is helping when she can. I lost my health insurance and with my husband not working I really have no way to afford a therapist. I had to open a credit card to pay for the zoloft and birth control that I need.
Oh wow, that in itself is stressful! I'm really glad you are still able to get the Zoloft. Can you apply for Medicaid?
My mom is helping when she can. I lost my health insurance and with my husband not working I really have no way to afford a therapist. I had to open a credit card to pay for the zoloft and birth control that I need.
Oh wow, that in itself is stressful! I'm really glad you are still able to get the Zoloft. Can you apply for Medicaid?
My state didn't expand medicaid so we're in that lovely coverage gap where I can't get medicaid or help through the affordable care act. now that H hasn't been working though I'm going to try pushing through a new application. Maybe I can get approved even if it's only a few months until he's back to work. I totally forgot I meant to do that yesterday. I've been forgetting everything lately! I forgot my friends going away party, a picnic I was invited to and reminded about the night before. My brain is broken
shehulk723 are they thinking about surgery to correct the chiari malformation? My aunt had that and the surgery took alway her pain. It was a rather quick recovery all things considering. I'm sorry you are struggling with everything and that DH has his own set of issues. Is there anyone that could come help?
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