Post by littleredfish on Apr 4, 2017 15:08:27 GMT -5
So just when I'm feeling like I have my life together...
DS rocked a sleep schedule last night, which meant I woke up rested and before 7 which has not both happened in the same morning in a long time. Then we hit the library and Walmart, I even fed DS in the carrier as we shopped, feeling like a multitasking bad ass.
THEN I get to the cash...no effing wallet. I had to embarrassingly apologize to everybody, leave my cart to the side, almost forgetting DD2 in my flustered state and come home panicked because I had no idea where it was. Found it on the floor of the playroom pulled apart by DD2 (is my educated guess). Then ran back to get the stuff. Now my kids are fighting over the toys from the library.
Post by wildflower810 on Apr 4, 2017 15:26:35 GMT -5
H just tried to leave for an errand by himself. LOLno. Pick a kid, you are taking one. I have to take both every time I go anywhere. Not surprisingly he took the toddler and left the cluster feeding baby.
Post by loves2shop4shoes on Apr 4, 2017 15:34:39 GMT -5
Yeah, staz . I actually have way more bottles, but I have such a strong preference for the Dr. Brown's that I'll only use those. Hence lots of bottle washing.
I just had a hilarious phone interview with a recruiter who was trying to wiggle out of me how much money I make. Lol Buddy, no. I get that the other people you were interviewing for this job have significantly less experience than I have, but let me lay things out for you as someone who is not a total noob.
You will tell me what the salary range of this job is and I will tell you if it's something I'm willing to accept. What I make is completely irrelevant. What the market will pay me and what the market value for my skill set are what's relevant.
Furthermore it is actually illegal in Massachusetts to force a candidate to disclose what they earn.
Post by musicallyinclined on Apr 4, 2017 16:25:36 GMT -5
Target runs with both boys are getting easier and easier. We just had a fairly relaxed shopping trip and I managed not to get conned into getting DS1 a toy. Although he did end up getting a shirt because he's cute and says please and I'm a sucker.
I also came home and cleaned out one drawer of my dresser. Y'all are inspiring me. I'm going to try a drawer a day this week and then think about my closet!
Re: bottle washing, we kept half the sink filled with hot soapy water with DD1 and washed everything at once at the end of the day. It became part of our going to bed ritual. The sink was completely full with bottle feeding and pumping gear. I guess the thing was to have enough bottles to get through one whole day. As far as getting rid of clothes, I also have a hard time getting rid of even old stuff. I trick myself by bagging all the clothes that I haven't worn in a year and hiding them out of sight in the back of the closet. I promise myself I can keep anything out of the bag if I actually miss and want to wear it. After a few months we donate the bag without looking in it again. I have never put anything in a donation bag that came back out. It's been tough catching up here this week. Seems like every time I read a few posts, something happens to drag me away! Happy Tuesday at least
I may need to use that tactic with MH's clothes. Except I bag them and he tells me if he thinks he's missing something.
And H isn't coming home until really late tonight. He should have been home by now but he screwed something up so he has to stay and fix it. Ugh. He PROMISED that he'll be home regular hours tomorrow and then I won't really see him until Sunday. I hate quarter end, but it could have been worse. If L was born a month later, she'd be two weeks old right now and I'd be solo. I would have had a mental break down if I'd been solo at two weeks. And my MIL got me in a weak position and now they are going to spend the night when H isn't here in a few weeks. They've never spent the night. And I'll have no buffer. Pray for me!
I probably shouldn't be complaining all things considered.
Post by billybumbler on Apr 4, 2017 19:01:02 GMT -5
I had my IUD placed today. It was surprisingly not very painful. It made me feel a little sad thinking about the possibility of this being my last kid.
I really need to purge my closet too. So many things that look bad or don't fit.
Had a talk with DH last night and it went well. He agreed to go to therapy and actually took steps to find a therapist today.
It's his birthday tomorrow and I might make him some cupcakes.
Post by shawnabm1320 on Apr 4, 2017 20:01:02 GMT -5
So our electricity was out from 4:00 until basically now. MH had said he wanted to go get some water bottles because we were out of water and that would be the surest way to guarantee the power would go back on while he was gone. Sure enough, he got back with the water, and the power came back. LOL
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Post by crazycatlady6 on Apr 4, 2017 20:51:43 GMT -5
The American Red Cross caught me at a weak moment and I am scheduled to give blood in June. It will be my first time in 5 years and I'm already nervous about it. one would think I would be over a fear of needles by now...
I really feel like there should be a whole separate line of clothing for postpartum women. Maternity clothes don't really fit anymore and regular clothes all give me a muffin top. I'm all for muffins... but in my mouth not my midsection.
H just tried to leave for an errand by himself. LOLno. Pick a kid, you are taking one. I have to take both every time I go anywhere. Not surprisingly he took the toddler and left the cluster feeding baby.
My DH does this too. Sometimes I resent the fact that he just leaves the house or even just goes to shower without having to clear it with me. I feel like maternity leave forces the Mom to be the default parent in most cases and that sets the tone for the rest of the childcare activities down the road, even when the mom goes back to work.
DH was much more helpful with LO#1 because it was unknown to both of us. Now hat we've been through it once, the newborn care split is like 95% me 5% him. Dude. At least take the toddler!!
H just tried to leave for an errand by himself. LOLno. Pick a kid, you are taking one. I have to take both every time I go anywhere. Not surprisingly he took the toddler and left the cluster feeding baby.
My DH does this too. Sometimes I resent the fact that he just leaves the house or even just goes to shower without having to clear it with me. I feel like maternity leave forces the Mom to be the default parent in most cases and that sets the tone for the rest of the childcare activities down the road, even when the mom goes back to work.
DH was much more helpful with LO#1 because it was unknown to both of us. Now hat we've been through it once, the newborn care split is like 95% me 5% him. Dude. At least take the toddler!!
I think it's the childbirth that makes mom default parent in most cases. Almost like "well you grew it, so good job, keep going." DH took parental leave with all my littles, even a full 9 months with DD1 and he was useless then (but that was a different issue altogether). Not to say he hasn't gotten more helpful with each kid, heck I notice the difference with him gone but shit, he'd never take a kid on an errand unless I was having a really rough day. And I could never just walk out of the house, I would always feel like I had to clear with him if I could leave them with him so I could go do something like I was setting up child care. And don't get me started on how a fussy baby = it must need boob. No, you rock that kid and walk with him, boob is not the only answer. Then it becomes the norm as the kids get older and my 4yo is asking me for milk as I'm feeding the baby and bouncing DD2 on my knees, like YOUR DAD IS SITTING ON THE COUCH!!! It's all BS, mom's work too hard.
I'm glad it's not just my DH. He has yet to stay with DS by himself for more than 15 minutes. The kid is 6 weeks old. He would if I asked him to but he's not going to straight up volunteer it. He is however really good about taking the toddler with him to do things. The first year is always a challenge when it comes to fairness of taking care of the baby. In my opinion it tends to level out more as they get older (not to 50/50 - but better).
H just tried to leave for an errand by himself. LOLno. Pick a kid, you are taking one. I have to take both every time I go anywhere. Not surprisingly he took the toddler and left the cluster feeding baby.
My DH does this too. Sometimes I resent the fact that he just leaves the house or even just goes to shower without having to clear it with me. I feel like maternity leave forces the Mom to be the default parent in most cases and that sets the tone for the rest of the childcare activities down the road, even when the mom goes back to work.
DH was much more helpful with LO#1 because it was unknown to both of us. Now hat we've been through it once, the newborn care split is like 95% me 5% him. Dude. At least take the toddler!!
As a sahm, I'm not only the default parent, I'm the default maid, chef, laundress, and sock picker upper. It's all me.
My DH does this too. Sometimes I resent the fact that he just leaves the house or even just goes to shower without having to clear it with me. I feel like maternity leave forces the Mom to be the default parent in most cases and that sets the tone for the rest of the childcare activities down the road, even when the mom goes back to work.
DH was much more helpful with LO#1 because it was unknown to both of us. Now hat we've been through it once, the newborn care split is like 95% me 5% him. Dude. At least take the toddler!!
As a sahm, I'm not only the default parent, I'm the default maid, chef, laundress, and sock picker upper. It's all me.
linewifekat and wildflower810 - I have such major respect for you gals. DH and I had a heart to heart a couple of days ago because he was fed up with me being negative and nagging and just frustrated all the time. We talked it out and I basically had the epiphany that I'm mentally not cut out to be a sahm. That's not to say I'm bad at it (I actually think I do really well), but it's 100% draining on my spirit to be the sole maid, chef, laundress, and sock picker upper (as you put it Wildflower) and it makes me ungracious in my interactions with DH, which hurts our marriage. All that to say, major major props to y'all. It takes patience, mental fortitude and a gracious and generous spirit to do what you do everyday (which goes unrecognized 99% of the time).
linewifekat and wildflower810 - I have such major respect for you gals. DH and I had a heart to heart a couple of days ago because he was fed up with me being negative and nagging and just frustrated all the time. We talked it out and I basically had the epiphany that I'm mentally not cut out to be a sahm. That's not to say I'm bad at it (I actually think I do really well), but it's 100% draining on my spirit to be the sole maid, chef, laundress, and sock picker upper (as you put it Wildflower) and it makes me ungracious in my interactions with DH, which hurts our marriage. All that to say, major major props to y'all. It takes patience, mental fortitude and a gracious and generous spirit to do what you do everyday (which goes unrecognized 99% of the time).
I'm not suited to being a SAHM either. I tried it with my first set of twins with much the same result.
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