amandamh2 no joke on how often they need to eat! My LC gave us a daily goal sheet. For today we should have a minimum of 8 feedings...I'm already up to 27 (starting at midnight). Maybe this isn't normal?
amandamh2 no joke on how often they need to eat! My LC gave us a daily goal sheet. For today we should have a minimum of 8 feedings...I'm already up to 27 (starting at midnight). Maybe this isn't normal?
Yeah, I need to know how you're counting a session.
Post by erinshelley21 on Apr 9, 2017 16:17:53 GMT -5
I've gotten zero things on my to-do list done today between picking up groceries, feeding DD, pumping, and DS's tball practice. Dh and ds are gone picking up 4H pigs. Hopefully they are home soon.
Has anyone heard from Quinstar? I feel like it's been a while since she was around.
amandamh2 no joke on how often they need to eat! My LC gave us a daily goal sheet. For today we should have a minimum of 8 feedings...I'm already up to 27 (starting at midnight). Maybe this isn't normal?
27?!
Or up to 7?
Huge difference. First not normal. But may have to do with how you are counting a session.
7, from midnight to afternoon. I'd call normal.
Fwiw my pedi says 8-12 a day.
We are counting from midnight to midnight - so a full 24 hours. And I've basically been counting a session as when he latches for at least 5 minutes, so a lot of the sessions are quick ones.
I've gotten zero things on my to-do list done today between picking up groceries, feeding DD, pumping, and DS's tball practice. Dh and ds are gone picking up 4H pigs. Hopefully they are home soon.
Has anyone heard from Quinstar ? I feel like it's been a while since she was around.
Thanks for the page! DH is holding B, so I have a minute to respond finally. I've been meaning to post more lately, I feel like I've been gone a while too. We've been sorta busy, I've been and LTing and reading along. My mom just sold her house and DH has been helping them move, and we've been out of the house a lot and I feel like I never have enough time to formulate anything interesting to say lol.
Last night we went out for a couple drinks with my brother, and left B with my mom. By the time we got home he was asleep, and when he woke up for his next feeding... My shirt was completely soaked with milk. It was horrible. But going out was fun.
B also hadn't pooped for a whole day, and this morning he had his first blow out, followed by a bath lol. DH was horrified.
My nephew is doing goats and sheep this year in the 4H and my brother has been running around trying to get all the animals, they had their sheep and goat bred, but have also bought another lamb and kid so he has two of each. They're also bottle feeding a calf, and one of the lambs.
Thanks @justinslovo - that makes sense, and as a mom of 3 I'd trust your experience on this! I don't have any idea what is "normal", but now that you and others have pointed out this is too many feedings I'm doing some googling and looking into it. I remember H asked the LC in the hospital if it's possible to BF too much (after getting basically no sleep on our first night due to all of the feedings) and she said no...but maybe she was just being adamant/pushing that we BF as much as possible not knowing I'd be like CHALLENGE ACCEPTED, BITCH.
He is falling asleep on the breast a lot, so I will try to keep more alert and extend these feedings - especially at night when it's been the worst. Maybe it will help me get some acceptable stretches of rest.
We have a hotline for Bfing, so I'll give it a call and ask them some specifics too.
mosdub just to add to what @justinslovo said, getting baby a little more full and spacing feedings a bit will make things easier on you and likely help with night feedings like you said. Of course if it's working for you then go for it but if it were me I would be even more exhausted!
Thanks @justinslovo - that makes sense, and as a mom of 3 I'd trust your experience on this! I don't have any idea what is "normal", but now that you and others have pointed out this is too many feedings I'm doing some googling and looking into it. I remember H asked the LC in the hospital if it's possible to BF too much (after getting basically no sleep on our first night due to all of the feedings) and she said no...but maybe she was just being adamant/pushing that we BF as much as possible not knowing I'd be like CHALLENGE ACCEPTED, BITCH.
He is falling asleep on the breast a lot, so I will try to keep more alert and extend these feedings - especially at night when it's been the worst. Maybe it will help me get some acceptable stretches of rest.
We have a hotline for Bfing, so I'll give it a call and ask them some specifics too.
Also not an LC, but how often are you switching sides? My DD still pulls off the nipple fairly often. Sometimes she wants to continue right away, sometimes she snoozes for a minute, and sometimes I burp her, but I always put her back on the same breast for 10-20 minutes until I'm fairly sure it's drained. That way she gets the watery foremilk and the rich hindmilk. If she's still hungry afterward, I give her the other boob. It's all considered a single feeding.
At night she often clusterfeeds for two to three hours, ~20 minutes on, ~20 minutes off, rinse and repeat. I usually just count each side as a feeding because it all runs together. We easily hit 8-12 feeds a day with these extra feedings.
Post by moutonrouge on Apr 9, 2017 18:17:16 GMT -5
mosdub I agree with others - try to keep him on task so he eats his fill in a longer session vs several short ones. It's okay for him to pause while eating, or to stay latched for a long time. They're not efficient nursers at this age - the LC I saw said 45 min to an hour isn't uncommon when they're little. But undress him, do some skin to skin time, etc. to get a longer session before he drops off.
I feel like when DD turned 6 weeks, she suddenly became more challenging. I'm just kind of exhausted from this day/weekend. I can't wait til this golf tourney ends and I can binge on parks and recs.
And just to put it all in perspective. I am still struggling with breastfeeding even though it may seem like I know the answers.
I don't.
We are struggling to get more than 6 sessions in a day. And it isn't because we are too busy. He just doesn't want to eat.
I've tried all the tricks in the book and am stumped.
I feel like bf'ing is one of those life things that when you struggle you end up with all the answers because you try allll the things to end the struggle.
We have DD's baptism class this AM. I'm hoping it's quick.
H and I are having a date night tonight. What to wear, where to go, what to do!
Our teens gave us a "date" night with just little peanut. Any time without the twins in their mischievious state right now is amazing and quiet! ... sadly, we're both so tired, that we were content with driving around looking for something to eat, talking the whole time, then driving home. It was peaceful in the car with the baby sleeping. ... then we came home to rambunctious twins demanding attention and teenagers being bossy with them
+1 to screen time. Most of the time at home is spent rotating between "elmo!" (sesame street), "nemo!" (finding dory), "trains!" (thomas), and "why!" (super why). Parent of the year right here. But we do spend time playing with no tv too, promise...fortunately our local library has a fantastic kids room to play in and she never seems to get sick of it.
Try out some Puffin Rock, Word World, and Go Diego.
DS, who hardly ever fusses and is generally a chill baby, is super fussy tonight, and nothing is working. It doesn't help that H is getting frustrated.
I'm having one of those days guys. This stuff is hard. Confession: I may have had a moment of "why did we have a kid?" today. (Which makes me feel even more shitty.)
DS, who hardly ever fusses and is generally a chill baby, is super fussy tonight, and nothing is working. It doesn't help that H is getting frustrated.
I'm having one of those days guys. This stuff is hard. Confession: I may have had a moment of "why did we have a kid?" today. (Which makes me feel even more shitty.)
Oh, gosh. Thanks for writing this. My above post about DD being more "challenging" and needing to binge parks and recs was more "why is my normally chill baby crying so much today?" followed by a quiet walk with her and the dog where I had the "did we make a mistake?" Thought?
Is this your first? The adjustment of none to one is seeming like a lot to me today. It's the little things- wanting to run to the grocery store to pick up one thing, and realizing it will take me 30 min to get out the door, or putting my gym clothes on to go work-out, and having my husband say he needs to go into his office and realizing I need a sitter to go to the gym...
sterl724 just realized my post to you was all about me! 😂
I hope DS calms soon, and you and your H can enjoy some quiet. My long winded post was a way of saying "you are not alone" and don't feel shitty. Your a great mom!
DS, who hardly ever fusses and is generally a chill baby, is super fussy tonight, and nothing is working. It doesn't help that H is getting frustrated.
I'm having one of those days guys. This stuff is hard. Confession: I may have had a moment of "why did we have a kid?" today. (Which makes me feel even more shitty.)
Oh, gosh. Thanks for writing this. My above post about DD being more "challenging" and needing to binge parks and recs was more "why is my normally chill baby crying so much today?" followed by a quiet walk with her and the dog where I had the "did we make a mistake?" Thought?
Is this your first? The adjustment of none to one is seeming like a lot to me today. It's the little things- wanting to run to the grocery store to pick up one thing, and realizing it will take me 30 min to get out the door, or putting my gym clothes on to go work-out, and having my husband say he needs to go into his office and realizing I need a sitter to go to the gym...
Yes to all of this. It hasn't hit us hard yet since we are both home, but it's definitely like "oh yeah, we can't just do XYZ like we used to". And it's okay - it's just an adjustment.
DS, who hardly ever fusses and is generally a chill baby, is super fussy tonight, and nothing is working. It doesn't help that H is getting frustrated.
I'm having one of those days guys. This stuff is hard. Confession: I may have had a moment of "why did we have a kid?" today. (Which makes me feel even more shitty.)
Oh, gosh. Thanks for writing this. My above post about DD being more "challenging" and needing to binge parks and recs was more "why is my normally chill baby crying so much today?" followed by a quiet walk with her and the dog where I had the "did we make a mistake?" Thought?
Is this your first? The adjustment of none to one is seeming like a lot to me today. It's the little things- wanting to run to the grocery store to pick up one thing, and realizing it will take me 30 min to get out the door, or putting my gym clothes on to go work-out, and having my husband say he needs to go into his office and realizing I need a sitter to go to the gym...
Yup, definitely had the "did we make a mistake" thought. It is my first...We haven't even had it bad - He is a pretty good baby, and typically sleeps well. But I'm having the realization just how much our lives have changed, and it's a little hard to swallow sometimes.
Post by erinshelley21 on Apr 9, 2017 20:25:50 GMT -5
I think DD is finally satisfied. She better sleep about 5 hours this first stretch with how much she ate. I have like 3 loads of laundry to fold but I am exhausted!
I really really appreciate all of the varied advice regarding my extreme breastfeeding sessions. After reading all of them, researching online and talking to H I think I have a plan/way of thinking about it all. There is so much advice out there and it's hard to know what applies to your particular baby and situation.
Just now I undressed L, nursed one side, woke him up a bit, nursed the other, then dressed him, nursed one side, then the other, burped, and went again. It made the whole process a lot longer, but I have to say he's definitely settled down and is sleeping longer already than he did last night so I think it's worth it.
Should I wait to do a pacifier for a while since he's only 4 days old even though he has a good latch?
Either way, I'm praying to the BFing gods to shine favor upon me tonight so I can actually get some solid HOURS of sleep as opposed to 20-40 minutes here and there.
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