Post by sstwinklinglites on Apr 26, 2017 15:23:56 GMT -5
TL;DR - H's step father passed and I have lots of conflicting emotions.
MIL called DH this morning to tell him her H passed yesterday. It was completely unexpected. They're in their 50's and he was a pretty healthy guy; ate well and exercised. He went for a jog, and when he got back he complained he wasn't feeling well. From what MIL told me, it seems he passed out, she and a neighbor administered CPR while waiting for an ambulance, he sat up and started vomiting blood and blood coming from his nose, and he was gone by the time emergency personnel arrived. Waiting on an autopsy to find out the cause of death, and they got cleared by the cops today to clean up all the blood in the house (he died at home so they were investigating possible foul play).
I have conflicting feelings. They were divorced years ago but stayed living together for financial reasons. But over time they had a better relationship like this than they ever did when they were married. Neither ever saw anyone else relationship - wise, and MIL often spoke like they would be together until the end of their days. My feelings on him are colored by the pretty bad relationship he and H had. It didn't change until H moved out. We didn't have him at our wedding, but over the years, things improved.
Anyway, I feel bad for MIL, who has no rights regarding anything at this point because they weren't married and there's no common law in FLA. I feel bad that he seems to have had a not very peaceful passing. But I'm not devastated. And I feel bad that I don't feel worse.
This all comes as we're having some hiccups with the house purchase and I'm more concerned about that - and again, I feel guilty that I'm more concerned about that. I know H wants to go be with his mom, but, he can't just drop everything and go. Emotuns - I haz them.
Post by mominthemaking14 on Apr 26, 2017 15:45:11 GMT -5
Oh no. Poor H sstwinklinglites (phone updated so some tags are not accurate) your feeling make total sense. How's H doing ? I know he probably feels for his mother more than anything. Will he be able to go home for the funeral at all?
Oh no. Poor H sstwinklinglites (phone updated so some tags are not accurate) your feeling make total sense. How's H doing ? I know he probably feels for his mother more than anything. Will he be able to go home for the funeral at all?
What is TL;DR? I need a guide
He seems fine other than he wants to go see MIL. I dunno if he'll be able to go down. Airfare is stupid expensive right now, and not sure he can take off work.
Oh no. Poor H sstwinklinglites (phone updated so some tags are not accurate) your feeling make total sense. How's H doing ? I know he probably feels for his mother more than anything. Will he be able to go home for the funeral at all?
What is TL;DR? I need a guide
He seems fine other than he wants to go see MIL. I dunno if he'll be able to go down. Airfare is stupid expensive right now, and not sure he can take off work.
TL;DR means too long don't or didn't read.
Oh yea,I forgot the season is going to make it super costly
sstwinklinglites I'm one for never feel guilty about your feelings (or lack of). Just support your H in however he's feeling and send sympathies to MIL. Sounds like a complex situation
Random before I forget. W just got a new Graco car seat. The fabric is much nicer than our Graco from just a few months ago. Very similar to the Chicco fabric and probably Britax as well
Random before I forget. W just got a new Graco car seat. The fabric is much nicer than our Graco from just a few months ago. Very similar to the Chicco fabric and probably Britax as well
Random before I forget. W just got a new Graco car seat. The fabric is much nicer than our Graco from just a few months ago. Very similar to the Chicco fabric and probably Britax as well
Which is it?
It's the Contender because he's still RF, she's hoping until 4yo
sstwinklinglites sorry for your family's loss. I agree, just let yourself feel or not feel whatever comes naturally, and do your best to be there for your H and MIL. That must have been really traumatic for your MIL to be there when he collapsed. I hope she's doing ok.
We're really trying hard lately to get Bub's bedtime routine to go smoothly. So tonight I told him no, I won't lay down with him, he has to stay in bed, and I left. A few minutes later we look at the monitor and he's sitting up in bed with his hands on his face like Kevin in Home Alone just frozen. Turns out there was a bug in his room and he heard it buzzing and thought it was a bee and was terrified. H went in to save the day and now I feel guilty.
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