Since we're putting it all out there... (Fears)

[theBeeMama]

I have been so entertained by all the threads lately, even in spite of how much I hate using this Tappatalk app. (I feel like I can't participate in the ways I really want to because technology.)

Anyway, I'm asking about your biggest (and/or dumbest) pregnancy fears. (Aside from the obvious horrible medical things that need not even be mentioned.)

Of course, water breaking at a terrible time is a fear of mine, but that's unlikely and honestly I could handle that moreso than my real fear, which is the inevitable moment when Dh and I are *ahem* "in the moment" and he ends up with a face/mouthful of breast milk. I'm mainly terrified because, as a STM, I know the thought of it scares the heck outta him and it would probably ruin sex for him...for a while...

He steered totally clear of "the gals" for over a year after DS was born to avoid milk-age. I always left my bra on stuffed with nursing pads so he didn't have to be privy to the leakage.

I just don't think he's aware of the fact that it could very well happen any time before baby's arrival, and part of me knows I should tell him so he can mentally prepare, buuuuuut then I know I lose the most enjoyable part of sex (for me) and don't get it back until my milk dries up IN LIKE TWO YEARS.

I know dH is feeling frisky tonight... I'm hiding out in the bathroom trying to come to terms with the fact that it could be tonight... *cue scary music*



Okay my over-sharing is finished.
Tell us your pregnancy fears!!!

[lunalovegood]

Honestly my water breaking seriously scares me. It has never happened naturally before, I've always been in the hospital and they broke it so the thought of being at work or somewhere else totally freaks me out.

[Bluedaisy]

Maybe it's because I'm a FTM but I don't really have any yet. In general I'm absolutely terrified of heights.

[Deleted]

All of my pregnancy/life fears are the big scary things that shall not be named. In general though I am petrified of getting into a bad car accident. Last year my car was totaled when someone ran a red light and t-boned me on the driver's side. It happened the week before my wedding and it was a miracle that nothing happened to me. A few weeks ago someone ran a red light and almost hit me again, but thankfully nothing happened. Now I'm just traumatized and I shudder a little bit when driving through major intersections.

[billyhorrible]

Mine are only irrational fears about loss - that something will happen between now and delivery resulting in a late term miscarriage/stillbirth.

[Deleted]

I am more terrified of having another episiotmy or a c-section than anything.

[ombradellarosa]

I keep having dreams that I have to go get my baby from someone else. Like I've given birth but I don't remember it and I have to go get the baby. I'm not sure if this is because I heard about general anaesthesia being used for emergency c-sections sometimes or what, but it's happening so often that I'm starting to worry about it. I so doubt that I wouldn't remember giving birth though, that doesn't seem likely. Maybe I'm also worried about the baby not being with me all the time anymore? Once she comes out then I won't automatically know where she is. I'm getting so sad about this!

[wegrowsheep]

Labor is something I generally look forward to ((thhe end of nausea, hooray!), but the exception is transition. That last 15 minutes or whatever is pure hell, and I am so anxious about doing it a third time.
Also, I despise ants, and can't stand even watching them crawl around. Makes me shake and my skin crawls.

[turtletyme]

This winter I have developed a phobia of slipping and falling. I'm a lot of fun to go anywhere with, the way I shuffle through a parking lot.

[nicolec78]

Mine is car accident as well. It's mostly driving to work. I was hit head on by someone who was texting two years ago. I'm terrified it will happen again while I'm pregnant.

I was terrified last pregnancy of my water breaking at work. Both times it has been broken by doc at hospital.

[herbavein]

Slipping and falling (again), but definitely stillbirth.

[stinybean]

So many worries, all miscarriage related. My biggest is the same as PP, I have a great fear of being in a car accident and dh doesn't help with that bc he hasn't changed his style of driving in anyway. Also I'm afraid to fall on all the stupid ice that's been on the ground lately as well as on stairs at the train station. I'm afraid of giving birth vaginally, but more afraid of a c-section. I can go on for days.

[sabrinaml]

Pregnancy fears: car accident for sure, or that DH won't be nearby when I do go into labor. He works an hour away from home. So I'm afraid I will go into labor while he's at work, or when I'm at work. (Which is still an hour drive for him just a different direction/route). Like PP I'm also afraid I won't be able to stand the pain to push LO out. Man being a FTM is scary all around!
Non pregnancy related: spiders. I can't stand them. Actually part of DHs wedding vows were he had to promise to kill all the spiders (I had to promise to learn to cook)

[elrumbee]

My biggest pregnancy fear is that i won't get an epidural, either my labour will go too fast or the anesthesiologist won't be available on time. It pretty much saved my life last time (I don't do well with pain) and I hear about that happening all the time. I don't think I could survive without it.
Also, I'm terrified this baby will be bigger than my DS, who was 10lb3oz!

[sabrinaml]

Another pregnancy fear: gaining too much weight. I've never been the skinniest person and have always had to work hard to lose the unwanted weight. I know 4 pounds in a month isn't a lot or big deal but for someone who is very self conscious of their weight/appearance it kinda is.

[kemdupuis]

Like Jimbobcooter I am terrified at the thought of an episiotomy or a c-section. I've never had surgery (except my wisdom teeth) before and the thought of them cutting me in any way, shape, or form literally makes me want to pass out and/or vomit. I am just scared about the whole process too, I think. Worried that I'm not strong enough and will be in labor endlessly. Worried about how my vajayjay will heal afterwards and the amount of pain I anticipate down there. Worried about being able to take care of a newborn on my own when DH goes back to work and I am still healing. I wish the stork thing was true!

[mrskblack11]

Although I would not want to have a c-section, I know that if I had to for medical reasons, I would be fine.

My biggest fear is him being stillborn. It is a fear that creeps up on me quite often when I am not feeling him move. I pray for him every single night that he is happy and healthy.

[erbear]

As a FTM, the entire birth process is terrifying for me. Hopefully the birth class we'll be taking will help.

I also have the stillborn fear. I have been to two funerals for babies in my lifetime and it's been my biggest fear for years.

[hbanana18]

I am terrified of an episiotomy. The fear of anything major medically happening to me and/or the baby as well during labor.

I wasn't scared of car accidents but since I have been pregnant I have gotten hit 2x! Rear ended and then just last week a lady ran a red light and thank god, she hit my passenger side and not my side. I am now petrified of a third. I feel like I keep dodging bullets.

[wink568]

I have loss fears. They're too dark to mention and it upsets even DH when I bring it up.

Some lighter fears is the whole concept of tearing. The idea of it happening just makes me queasy. I want to do a natural birth so I just know I'll feel it happening too. I keep telling myself that by the time I reach that point it'll be so close to being done I won't care. Part of the reason I'm team green is to have that extra surprise on my mind to push me through the delivery.

[mmo2112]

Frankly, everything is terrifying. Car accidents, early loss, still birth, labor horrors, recovery/lack thereof, breastfeeding/inability to breastfeed/taking care of a human in four months. The list goes on. I thought I'd chill out in the second tri, but nope!

My most specific irrational fear is going into labor after having sex. I had a strong, painful contraction last time we DTD. It was the first and only one I've ever felt and it freaked me the fuck out. That + knowing my cervix is on the short side (3cm @ 20w) has made sex scary & therefore much less enjoyable. :-(

[wormgerm]

I have a long term fear of stillbirth. Most specifically when it happens right at the end, like pp. It's been a huge fear since I learned that was a possibility (I was probably in high school when I learned about it.)

I'm terrified I'll gain too much weight too fast and get in trouble by my midwife and/or cause complications with my baby.

I'm scared that my son will grow up to hate me.

[wink568]

Another one I have is that my future child will have pet allergies. I love my animals and view them as part of my family. Having to face that kind of dilemma will break my heart.

[laurenlou83]

I'm scared of the tearing that may happen and the thought that I will never be the same 'down there'.

Complications during labor. DH and I both had the cord wrapped around our necks at birth and were 'blue' when we were born. It has always been a fear of mine.

Going into labor early. I have a fear he is coming at like 33/34 weeks, for no apparent reason.

[erbear]

I also have some fears about raising a girl. I struggled with a lot as a child and teen and I just hope and pray she won't.

[taisree]

My biggest fear is of loss of any kind.

Labour: I'm worried about getting induced (again) and/or facing a c section (which I don't want).

Non-pregnancy fear: SPIDERS. I blame my dad for tricking me into seeing arachnophobia as a child. Lol.

[cnumbers]

FTM. Scared of labour.

[maddib]

My biggest fear. (Besides stillbirth) would be something happening to me during labor and not making it. Last time the doctor had a little bit if a hard time stopping some bleeding. And I knew a girl that died during giving birth to her daughter two years ago and the thought of not being around to raise my children scares the holy living shit out of me. And DH has said on more then one occasion he could not go on if something happened. Not to mention my other two kids are not biologically his and both the dad's are dead beats. It terrifies me to think about my daughters father taking care of her because he has absolutely no idea how to do any of her medical care. She codes when she stops breathing and I have to bag her or she will die. So that is my biggest fear in pregnancy and any other time. Leaving my children motherless...

[tulips114]

I'm afraid this baby will be a giant baby. I'm afraid of the cord being wrapped around the neck. I'm afraid of having him circumcised. I'm afraid BFing won't go well, even though I had no big issues with the first 2.

Non baby related, bugs and spiders, ick.

[sugarbean17]

I'm afraid of the crazy pregnancy dreams that are only going to get worse. I remember with my 1st I had dreams about being able to see into my uterus and her sticking her arms and legs out of my stomach. It was gross and weird. With my 2nd I kept dreaming that I would give birth to an infant and he would be taken to the nursery and when I went to see him he was a toddler in a cage. Just crazy shit. I am not looking forward to that this time around.