W I think I only had to take about five or six days when my aunt passed from cancer. I live in MO and she lived in MN. I think I left on Thursday night or possibly Friday morning and was home Tuesday or Wednesday night.
Me: 30 DH: 29; Married: September, 2010 TTC #1: April 2013 Benched: May 2013 Cancer(DH) Off the Bench: September 2014 July 2015 ER low sperm count and motility(radiation side effect). FET September 1,2015. BFP 9/9/15.- 3 on the way.
I have a depressing question.. Many know my grandfather isn't doing well. My mom just text and said they can't get a read on his blood pressure, but they did get his heart rate. He's been on hospice for a few weeks and he is off all but two meds as of last weekend (and he has 5 cancers right now).
He is going to pass within hours is my guess.. I haven't dealth with a death like this in a long ass time. And honestly never with someone this close to me.
My question: how would you approach your boss with this? Mine knows he is going to pass soon and has been understanding and told me to keep her updated. But, realistically how many days will I miss from work? If he passes tonight should I expect not to be back to work until next Monday? This would give me 9 days, but 4 of them being workdays. Is that expected/normal? I'm a private nanny so their only employee, but the grandmas rotate every Thursday so they are available if need be.
I am an emotional mess about this. I don't know what is appropriate. If I were living in Ohio this would be different.. I would be there.
I'm so sorry about your grandfather. I don't know how much this helps, but our policy here is 3 days for immediate family member in state and 5 days for immediate family out of state, vacation for any additional time. Since it's a private family, that's a bit different, but I think these are relatively standard in the public sector.
Good luck, @led. I know you've been dreading it. I hope it goes well and is over quickly.
I complained in yesterday's random thread, but I need to do it again. I got a message from a coworker on Facebook this morning that said: "[name], it is time to start to live. stop feeling sorry for yourself or you will drag yourself in to depression. sad woman drives man away & makes chances to try again impossible."
I am not friends with this woman, though we are (were) friendly. I haven't spoken to her since before the miscarriage. I haven't been back to work, because I had the D&C, followed by a freak situation where I had ovarian cysts that burst and caused internal bleeding. I'm at home on bed rest. I just informed work yesterday that I wouldn't be back until next Friday, and she probably heard about that and assumed that I am still off because I'm sad. Even if that were true, why the fuck would she think it was okay to comment? I sent her a reply telling her it wasn't okay, and also explaining my situation, but I shouldn't have had to fucking explain myself to her. Maybe she had good intentions, and I should have known better than to tell people I was pregnant before I was out of first tri (though in my defense, it was all but necessary because of complications early on that made me miss work) - but in what universe is this okay?
JFC. That is in no way, shape or form appropriate or ok (or accurate). I took a week off for my mmc, and three after my son died (and frankly, I went back too soon). Everyone at my work (which had several generally unsympathetic CFBC older women) were nothing but kind about it. I'm so sorry you received that.
Me: 30 DH: 29; Married: September, 2010 TTC #1: April 2013 Benched: May 2013 Cancer(DH) Off the Bench: September 2014 July 2015 ER low sperm count and motility(radiation side effect). FET September 1,2015. BFP 9/9/15.- 3 on the way.
W, just wanted to give hugs and I think being open with your employer about the situation is the best approach. I don't think that time off is unreasonable given that you have to travel. If he passes today, I think usually services are within a few days, and then you would still need a day or two for traveling and rest/gather yourself etc. Bereavement for many jobs is like 4-5 works days. The earliest you would probably be back anyway would be next Friday, so adding one more day to that isn't a huge thing.
ETA: Just saw that he passed. I'm so sorry for your loss. More (((hugs))).
cabgirl, I'm so sorry about your twat of a coworker. That is jut a horrible horrible thing for her to say to you given what you are going through right now. I assume she doesn't know all the details of your situation, but regardless it's a super shitty and insensitive thing to say to someone who has had a loss.
@led, good luck with the EEG today.
My random: DH just texted me he backed into the homeowner's car where he's currently working and cracked their tail light. All I could say was Fuck. Things have been stressful for us on a variety of fronts this month, and I think this is just the icing on the cake. I'm ready for February to be over.
1) Because I get busy at work some times, I set an alarm every hour to 2)remind myself I should go pee. My alarm just went off, and I have to go, but I was reading the site-wide FFFC thread so I snoozed it. I think I have issues.
1) I read this like you were saying you have sex on the reg at work.
One of the very few people I told about our struggle to conceive sent me a group text with her positive pee stick this morning. The day after I told her I had an appointment with an RE made and she told me how much she does not want to be pregnant or have a kid.
1) Because I get busy at work some times, I set an alarm every hour to 2)remind myself I should go pee. My alarm just went off, and I have to go, but I was reading the site-wide FFFC thread so I snoozed it. I think I have issues.
1) I read this like you were saying you have sex on the reg at work.
2) You pee every 2 hours hour at work?
I only had sex once at work....j/k
I drink an exorbitant amount of fluid in any given day. I also take a diuretic, so I should pee every hour, but instead i usually hold it in till I get cramps. I go back to my previous statement I have issues.
Post by anonymouseliza on Feb 27, 2015 12:29:12 GMT -5
I am so tired of work. I won't get into a long, uninteresting to anyone but me vent about why. Just . . . winning the lottery and never having to come back would be swell. Really swell.
I frequently plan exactly what we'd do with lottery money even while I acknowledge that we will never win the lottery. Not just stuff I'd buy, I plan out things like how much money would go into an interest bearing account for our regular living expenses, what we'd put into trust for DD and our nieces and nephews, how much we'd budget for travel and how much would set aside for a new house . . .
One of the very few people I told about our struggle to conceive sent me a group text with her positive pee stick this morning. The day after I told her I had an appointment with an RE made and she told me how much she does not want to be pregnant or have a kid.
I had a pity party for a good ten minutes.
Your pity party sounds perfectly acceptable to me. ((Hugs)) I'm sorry she was so inconsiderate.
I am so tired of work. I won't get into a long, uninteresting to anyone but me vent about why. Just . . . winning the lottery and never having to come back would be swell. Really swell. I frequently plan exactly what we'd do with lottery money even while I acknowledge that we will never win the lottery. Not just stuff I'd buy, I plan out things like how much money would go into an interest bearing account for our regular living expenses, what we'd put into trust for DD and our nieces and nephews, how much we'd budget for travel and how much would set aside for a new house . . .
W I'm so sorry to hear about your grandfather! The amount of time you are looking to take off seems perfectly acceptable to me considering you will be traveling out of state. I hope your employer will be understanding and you are able to work things out.
I am so tired of work. I won't get into a long, uninteresting to anyone but me vent about why. Just . . . winning the lottery and never having to come back would be swell. Really swell. I frequently plan exactly what we'd do with lottery money even while I acknowledge that we will never win the lottery. Not just stuff I'd buy, I plan out things like how much money would go into an interest bearing account for our regular living expenses, what we'd put into trust for DD and our nieces and nephews, how much we'd budget for travel and how much would set aside for a new house . . .
I do the bolded every time we play Powerball.
MegaMillions is over $125m, which made me think of it. Buy a ticket!
I am so tired of work. I won't get into a long, uninteresting to anyone but me vent about why. Just . . . winning the lottery and never having to come back would be swell. Really swell. I frequently plan exactly what we'd do with lottery money even while I acknowledge that we will never win the lottery. Not just stuff I'd buy, I plan out things like how much money would go into an interest bearing account for our regular living expenses, what we'd put into trust for DD and our nieces and nephews, how much we'd budget for travel and how much would set aside for a new house . . .
I do the bolded every time we play Powerball.
My brother, husband, and I just had this conversation the other day. We had it down to thinking about how much we would invest so that we could pull dividends equal to what we would want to comfortably live on for a year. Lol.
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