Yay for Friday!!! I am going to the dollar store after work to get some organizing bins! I am pretty excited about it! Sunday we are celebrating MIL birthday so I can't wait to have cake. I am also dreading having the in-laws over since they want to build a garage for us and an apartment for themselves over it next to our house. I have many mixed feelings about it. I don't want to get in a huge discussion about it if it turns out it won't happen because they can't afford it.
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It's Friday, my boss is out of the office all day and I haven't done any work yet today. Can't wait until 4:30 for the weekend to start. We're also taking DD swimming tomorrow
Post by wanderingheart on Feb 27, 2015 10:55:53 GMT -5
One of the very few people I told about our struggle to conceive sent me a group text with her positive pee stick this morning. The day after I told her I had an appointment with an RE made and she told me how much she does not want to be pregnant or have a kid.
Post by lemoncupcake on Feb 27, 2015 10:56:36 GMT -5
How long is an acceptable amount of time to obsessively look at a chart with only three data points? I keep clicking around and I know that it makes no sense.
Post by nerdykitten on Feb 27, 2015 11:01:08 GMT -5
I would be super excited this is Friday, but I work on a ridiculous two hour shift on Sunday by myself. I am looking forward to no students coming in to utilize the library and getting checked in on by the President, because seriously I am always at the reference desk when he comes by to check on the library.
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Post by JulietRose on Feb 27, 2015 11:04:44 GMT -5
I'm excited to hang with my sister and mom on Saturday and help her pick outfits to wear for her first date since my dad passed. It makes us so happy that she is ready for this step.
I can't start watching House of Cards until tomorrow. First world problems.
My husband and I just started watching this show. We are hooked!!
My brother-in-law keeps nagging me to see this. We are going to finish Supernatural and then move on to Breaking Bad first since my husband thinks its a sacrilege that I haven't seen that yet.
One of the very few people I told about our struggle to conceive sent me a group text with her positive pee stick this morning. The day after I told her I had an appointment with an RE made and she told me how much she does not want to be pregnant or have a kid.
Post by juliayadda on Feb 27, 2015 11:47:11 GMT -5
Taking DS to Mc Donalds tonight for dinner cuz I'm a "cool mom" I just want him fed and at his dad's so I can get home and dig into my box wine. FRIIIIIIDAY IS HEEEEERE!!!!!!
Good luck, @led. I know you've been dreading it. I hope it goes well and is over quickly.
I complained in yesterday's random thread, but I need to do it again. I got a message from a coworker on Facebook this morning that said: "[name], it is time to start to live. stop feeling sorry for yourself or you will drag yourself in to depression. sad woman drives man away & makes chances to try again impossible."
I am not friends with this woman, though we are (were) friendly. I haven't spoken to her since before the miscarriage. I haven't been back to work, because I had the D&C, followed by a freak situation where I had ovarian cysts that burst and caused internal bleeding. I'm at home on bed rest. I just informed work yesterday that I wouldn't be back until next Friday, and she probably heard about that and assumed that I am still off because I'm sad. Even if that were true, why the fuck would she think it was okay to comment? I sent her a reply telling her it wasn't okay, and also explaining my situation, but I shouldn't have had to fucking explain myself to her. Maybe she had good intentions, and I should have known better than to tell people I was pregnant before I was out of first tri (though in my defense, it was all but necessary because of complications early on that made me miss work) - but in what universe is this okay?
I have a depressing question.. Many know my grandfather isn't doing well. My mom just text and said they can't get a read on his blood pressure, but they did get his heart rate. He's been on hospice for a few weeks and he is off all but two meds as of last weekend (and he has 5 cancers right now).
He is going to pass within hours is my guess.. I haven't dealth with a death like this in a long ass time. And honestly never with someone this close to me.
My question: how would you approach your boss with this? Mine knows he is going to pass soon and has been understanding and told me to keep her updated. But, realistically how many days will I miss from work? If he passes tonight should I expect not to be back to work until next Monday? This would give me 9 days, but 4 of them being workdays. Is that expected/normal? I'm a private nanny so their only employee, but the grandmas rotate every Thursday so they are available if need be.
I am an emotional mess about this. I don't know what is appropriate. If I were living in Ohio this would be different.. I would be there.
I'm so sorry about your grandfather.
I'm not up to date on your situation, so I'm not sure - did you mention Ohio because you are in a different state than he is? If so, and if travel is necessary, I would imagine that missing 4 work days would be perfectly reasonable. Since you're a private nanny, you probably have more leeway and will be able to work something out with your employer based on your needs. My advice would be to simply talk to your boss, let her know what's going on and that you're not sure how long you're going to need, and see how much time she is willing to give you. Then you can go from there. Again, I'm so sorry for what you're going through.
ETA: The "leeway" thing sounded weird. I just meant that, since you're the only employee, you probably didn't sign anything stating that you would be given X amount of time off work in the event of the passing of a family member. I was a nanny for myself for a while, so I know from experience how complicated it can be when something happens that makes you unable to work.
Good luck, @led. I know you've been dreading it. I hope it goes well and is over quickly.
I complained in yesterday's random thread, but I need to do it again. I got a message from a coworker on Facebook this morning that said: "[name], it is time to start to live. stop feeling sorry for yourself or you will drag yourself in to depression. sad woman drives man away & makes chances to try again impossible."
I am not friends with this woman, though we are (were) friendly. I haven't spoken to her since before the miscarriage. I haven't been back to work, because I had the D&C, followed by a freak situation where I had ovarian cysts that burst and caused internal bleeding. I'm at home on bed rest. I just informed work yesterday that I wouldn't be back until next Friday, and she probably heard about that and assumed that I am still off because I'm sad. Even if that were true, why the fuck would she think it was okay to comment? I sent her a reply telling her it wasn't okay, and also explaining my situation, but I shouldn't have had to fucking explain myself to her. Maybe she had good intentions, and I should have known better than to tell people I was pregnant before I was out of first tri (though in my defense, it was all but necessary because of complications early on that made me miss work) - but in what universe is this okay?
I have a depressing question.. Many know my grandfather isn't doing well. My mom just text and said they can't get a read on his blood pressure, but they did get his heart rate. He's been on hospice for a few weeks and he is off all but two meds as of last weekend (and he has 5 cancers right now).
He is going to pass within hours is my guess.. I haven't dealth with a death like this in a long ass time. And honestly never with someone this close to me.
My question: how would you approach your boss with this? Mine knows he is going to pass soon and has been understanding and told me to keep her updated. But, realistically how many days will I miss from work? If he passes tonight should I expect not to be back to work until next Monday? This would give me 9 days, but 4 of them being workdays. Is that expected/normal? I'm a private nanny so their only employee, but the grandmas rotate every Thursday so they are available if need be.
I am an emotional mess about this. I don't know what is appropriate. If I were living in Ohio this would be different.. I would be there.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I don't know if this helps but when my grandfather passed away in July I was out of work for 4 and a half days starting on a Tuesday afternoon. We had to travel from TN to NY. Creepy internet hugs.
One of the very few people I told about our struggle to conceive sent me a group text with her positive pee stick this morning. The day after I told her I had an appointment with an RE made and she told me how much she does not want to be pregnant or have a kid.
I had a pity party for a good ten minutes.
I feel like this is understandable. Unbelievable.
It honestly wouldn't have been AS bad, if the rest of the group members (who don't know what's going on) hadn't started texting that it was "my turn" and that I should start trying to have a baby too. Thanks guys, for telling my uterus what I've been trying to tell it for 6 months.
W, When my grandmother passed away I was out of work for 4 days because of travel. So I guess it just depends how long you want to spend with family before/after the services. I don't think there is an "appropriate" time to spend. I think it's more a question of what work will allow. So I would talk to your employer and see what they're comfortable with.
Because I get busy at work some times, I set an alarm every hour to remind myself I should go pee. My alarm just went off, and I have to go, but I was reading the site-wide FFFC thread so I snoozed it. I think I have issues.
Post by ohinvrtedworld on Feb 27, 2015 12:03:44 GMT -5
Hugs wanderingheart, that is so hard and I'd have done the same. And I wish I had good advice, W -- I'm not sure what I would do as a private nanny, but FX that they are understanding of whatever you feel that you need.
I am excited because I have a meeting for work later, but it's at sushi happy hour.
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