Post by theBeeMama on Mar 19, 2015 14:20:41 GMT -5
I know we have had similar threads in the past, but I haven't seen one recently and since we're pretty much all undeniably pregnant now, I thought we could use a new "all the stupid things people say to pregnant ladies" thread to commiserate with each other.
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In the "STM and beyond" thread I mentioned having a small (for his age) DS so I think people think he's much younger than he is. Just this week I have had 2 people make weird comments about having two kids close together.
The first was his creepy old guy at Discount Tire who said, "well you must be a glutton for punishment!" (...creepy.)
And then a very straight forward mom at the park, "wow, you just can't keep your pants on!"
Nothing has been said to me but at my DDs 1st birthday party my aunt made a very inappropriate comment to my friend who had 2 under two. Something along the lines of "wow! You sure had those two quick!" I was mortified by my aunts lack of tack.
I found that complete strangers will get seriously offended that we choose not to know the sex right now. It's not like we're never going to find out. We'll find out in 3 months when the baby is here. What's the big deal?
Yikes! No one has commented anything to me about the kids being relatively close in age. I often get asked if DS is older than he is though, so maybe that's part of it, otherwise I'm a SAHM and spend a lot of time with my other mom friends around town so they don't have an opinion other than excitement about it haha.
FIL, who, I do really like FIL, he's a great guy. But I saw him last weekend and he was sitting beside me and just said "you know, that really is a big belly". Well, ok, I'm in the last 3 months of my pregnancy..thanks?
So my FIL's new wife said to me back in November when we did dinner with them one night. " Wow you look really pale and tired" Really? Who the F says that to someone? I dont care if I look like I was on my death bed, I was very close to getting up and walking out of the restaurant but D made me sit down and just ignore her
The other day I had two random "You look so great!" from perfect strangers. That made me feel good, lol.
The other thing I get a lot (from people I "know") is how great it is that this one is the opposite sex from our first child. It sort of makes me want to have a third just to throw them for a loop. (and then I remember how much I dislike pregnancy) Why are people so pleased that I can make both boy babies and girl babies? I don't get it.
The other day I had two random "You look so great!" from perfect strangers. That made me feel good, lol.
The other thing I get a lot (from people I "know") is how great it is that this one is the opposite sex from our first child. It sort of makes me want to have a third just to throw them for a loop. (and then I remember how much I dislike pregnancy) Why are people so pleased that I can make both boy babies and girl babies? I don't get it.
Because then you have a set. A lot of people have asked if we're hoping for a boy so then we have one of each. And then we can be done! We don't have a preference.
The other day I had two random "You look so great!" from perfect strangers. That made me feel good, lol.
The other thing I get a lot (from people I "know") is how great it is that this one is the opposite sex from our first child. It sort of makes me want to have a third just to throw them for a loop. (and then I remember how much I dislike pregnancy) Why are people so pleased that I can make both boy babies and girl babies? I don't get it.
Because then you have a set. A lot of people have asked if we're hoping for a boy so then we have one of each. And then we can be done! We don't have a preference.
But, why is this important? Or pleasing? And why "so we can be done"? Why couldn't we be done with 2 kids of the same sex, or not done with "the set"?
If we were having another daughter, would they say "oooh, better luck next time!"?
Because then you have a set. A lot of people have asked if we're hoping for a boy so then we have one of each. And then we can be done! We don't have a preference.
But, why is this important? Or pleasing? And why "so we can be done"? Why couldn't we be done with 2 kids of the same sex, or not done with "the set"?
If we were having another daughter, would they say "oooh, better luck next time!"?
I don't know. It's stupid in my opinion. Does it really matter if it's a boy or girl? Not in my world. They are still little human beings with their own personalities. My MIL is hoping and praying that this one is a boy. I'm worried she won't treat a second grand daughter the same as the first. And knowing her, she'd probably ask when we'd try for a boy.
Because then you have a set. A lot of people have asked if we're hoping for a boy so then we have one of each. And then we can be done! We don't have a preference.
But, why is this important? Or pleasing? And why "so we can be done"? Why couldn't we be done with 2 kids of the same sex, or not done with "the set"?
If we were having another daughter, would they say "oooh, better luck next time!"?
Yeah, this pisses me off too. SIL (my side of family) has 4 girls, and just found out #5 is a boy, so of course everyone is telling her how exciting it is to FINALLY have a boy, and how they must be so relieved, etc. She said she was going to get him a onesie that says "I was supposed to be a girl." On DH's side, there are 8 grandkids, 5 of which are girls. His brother has 3 girls, his sis has 2 boys and a girl, and we have one of each. His dad kept saying how "great it would be if we had a boy, since there are so many girls." No, I think either would be great. I don't really care what the "score" is. And thanks for verbalizing our culture's bent toward "needing" boys.
My favorite thus far was from DS1. I was 6 months along and a pastor, former MD decades ago, INSISTED that I must have twins because I was "so big." I assured him I'd had several ultrasounds and nope, just one, to which he replied then I must have a superfetation and not be able to see the other baby yet because it is smaller.
...yeah, there's not much you can say in response to that.
Post by laurenlou83 on Mar 19, 2015 15:12:53 GMT -5
One of my female co-workers, who had been on vacation for 10 days, came back and said to me "Wow, you've gotten larger since I left". No shit sherlock, I'm growing a human over here! I didn't like her use of the word "larger" either.... Not, Oh you've popped, or you're growing, or he's getting big... Nope, just that I'm large. Thanks asshole.
Post by hulagrl461 on Mar 19, 2015 15:45:34 GMT -5
I am now getting a lot of "Holy crap!! You're huge!!" Yes, I know my stomach is growing. It's called being pregnant. The weirdest thing I had someone say recently was "omg I just want to kiss your belly!!" No....just no
We attended a friend's 30th birthday party a couple of weeks ago, which completely sucked because a.) couldn't partake in the alcoholic beverages flowing freely and b) the appetizers were somehow all raw bar items. Anyways, her dad comes up to my husband and me and points at my belly and says,"so, how did this happen?" We laughed because it was kind of funny the first time, but then it became awkward when he repeated it again 2 other times. We thought...do we need to explain this!?
Also, I am a FTM and am well aware of "mommy wars" and how you should or should not raise your children opinions. Well, I've been thrown in to the world pregnant because I've found people like to voice their opinions on what is healthy and unhealthy while pregnant.
A coworker said to me last week: Did so-and-so have her baby yet? Me: Uh no, she's due a week after me. In June. Coworker: Oh my god you both look like you're about to pop!
Actually the pasta sauce is spelled "prego". And I was just trying to shorten the title a little.
I've seen pics on Pinterest of people holding a jar of Prego and thought, what has that word got to do with being pregnant? I'm aware that people adopt it for the term preggo in the US but we don't have it here and people say preggo all the time (all about the slang). I don't love it, but don't really hate it either. Still don't see what it's got to do with pasta sauce. It's like saying 'Oh you're eating desert.' Nope, it's dessert. I don't eat sand. What the? Maybe I should have posted this in the UO thread. I just think it's odd.
Actually the pasta sauce is spelled "prego". And I was just trying to shorten the title a little.
I've seen pics on Pinterest of people holding a jar of Prego and thought, what has that word got to do with being pregnant? I'm aware that people adopt it for the term preggo in the US but we don't have it here and people say preggo all the time (all about the slang). I don't love it, but don't really hate it either. Still don't see what it's got to do with pasta sauce. It's like saying 'Oh you're eating desert.' Nope, it's dessert. I don't eat sand. What the? Maybe I should have posted this in the UO thread. I just think it's odd.
THANK YOU! I totally agree, the two are totally different words with different spellings and different meanings! Prego is a real Italian word that I used daily when I lived in Italy. Preggo isn't my favorite slang word or anything but it's easy to use on here, kinda like how I don't call my husband "dh" in real life. Lol
This week alone (I'm pretty sure I've bitched about this already) I've had coworkers mention the belly - it's one thing to say "Wow, I feel like you've really popped" or even "Wow he's growing!" - those' I'll take. But to the two male coworkers who were OH so funny asking me, REPEATEDLY, if I was having twins - go suck it. And to the coworker who has never had children but continues to comment on how big I am and how I'm MUCH bigger than I should be at this stage - I can only smile for so long before I snap.
Today I was talking to another pregnant coworker and mentioned I finally got the REALLY swollen ankles last night. Another coworker looks at my feet and says "They're swollen NOW look at them!!" Nope - they're nothing like they were last night, this is normal - my right foot was injured with two sprains in a short period, it will always be a little bit different looking than the left. But thanks for making the WHOLE break room weight in on my ankles and feet.
Anything along this and the "oh my goodness you look so pregnant today" or "your belly is getting so big" I just wanna smack them in the face so hard. Yes. Baby is growing and wants to be seen! Is what I always say. I hate the face comments because I am scared of a double chin. My one coworker always describes pregnancy as "embarrassing" I dont know a better term for it, but I sort of agree. I dont like the attention and often wish I didnt have to work so I could avoid all comments by staying in my nice warm and comfy bed!
I'm a bigger girl to begin with and always have been. So many people have told me how I'm hardly showing and they can't believe that I'm __weeks or __months. I don't carry weight at the front of my body so this belly thing isn't normal for me. It's also my first kid so typically that takes longer to show.
The next person who thinks it's ok to comment on something I'm eating is going to get karate chopped. Yes I know I'm eating a Mr. Noodles, yes I know they aren't healthy and loaded with salt. I also know that for the rest of the day I eat really well so leave me alone.
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