Stuff People Say to Preggos

[flbabychin]

Mar 19, 2015 18:25:47 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

Mar 19, 2015 18:23:50 GMT -5 jessila said:

My mom told me this last week!! I could have punched her. I didn't because she was buying me dinner...but certainly the thought crossed my mind.

This came from a male colleague. I win! Seriously wtf though. I gave him a lecture for it.

I hope you let him have it. Seriously rude, dude.

I've thankfully not had any more than the "oh, you're getting so big!" Or, "wow, look at your belly!" I did have a co-worker who I don't always see everyday, as we're in different departments, point at my belly and make a comment to me about its size as I walked into a crowded room today. I'm definitely not the type of person that's used to or comfortable with the attention being directed to me like that, so it's always awkward.

[bendherova]

Mar 19, 2015 18:01:23 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

"You are starting to look pregnant in the face"

and your response is a slap across their face? please?

[nicolec78]

A male coworker asked me last week if I was having twins. Took every ounce of strength not to freak out. I've been asked so many times if it was planned. Before we knew the baby's sex people would say I hope it's a boy. Well we hope the baby is healthy.
Right after my dd was born the nurse said she had a little double chin and mommy must have eaten too much ice cream. My sister said I should have told her "how did you get yours". My dd was 6lbs 12oz.

[erbear]

A fourth grader tried to call me fat the other day. She was all..."are you having a baby or are you just...." and trailed off.

[leenziepops]

Mar 19, 2015 21:11:48 GMT -5 @demanda88 said:

Luckily I haven't had any rude comments. I think people might be more careful at work about what they say because of HR. I've just gotten the "you're so cute" and "look at your belly!" comments. I just kind of think they're funny because when else is it appropriate to call a grown ass woman cute or adorable? DH did tell me I looked a little wider from the back. I repeated it to my mom, laughing because men, and she was all "yeah, you do".

Aside from the fat face comment at work, most of it has been the same as you which I find nice. I have a fan club of middle aged ladies who just go crazy every time they see me. They're full of lovely compliments and they always want to feed me. It give me all sorts of fuzzy feels. 

[cnumbers]

My SO's dad continues to say anytime I enter their home ''hey FATTY!'' whilst he is genuinely meaning it as a joke and my only response is an awkward laugh.. Enough already.. The first time was awkward enough.. Stop calling me fat, even though your trying to be lighthearted and fun im aware my baby is growing. Today I said ''I'm not fat im growing your grandchild''. It just makes me feel like shit.. I'm aware my tummy is a bit ..out there..

Also, seen my mom for the first time in about 2 weeks yesterday and she goes ''Oh my gosh! Your belly is so pointy'' - err what? ''He must have changed positions'' whilst touching my tummy. I was actually embarrased. SO and I had a big discussion after this on how we were both offended that she called our kid pointy.. SO said ''you should have told her that her boobs are pointy.. and droopy'' while it's my mother (if she could be called that *eye roll* long story) I found his comment amusing.

[wegrowsheep]

Mar 19, 2015 18:01:23 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

"You are starting to look pregnant in the face"

"At least I have a good reason?"

[Widget123]

Some of these are hilarious. Luckily for me the only person who mistakenly called me fat (instead of pregnant) is a kid in DD's daycare class. The ILs tend to say things like "big girl" though and that is pretty close.

[Deleted]

Pretty much every day at work people tell me wow you are getting so BIG. It's to the point where I just dont answer or acknowledge them anymore because I'm so tired of it

[belle0720]

Mar 19, 2015 14:20:41 GMT -5 theBeeMama said:

I know we have had similar threads in the past, but I haven't seen one recently and since we're pretty much all undeniably pregnant now, I thought we could use a new "all the stupid things people say to pregnant ladies" thread to commiserate with each other.


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In the "STM and beyond" thread I mentioned having a small (for his age) DS so I think people think he's much younger than he is. Just this week I have had 2 people make weird comments about having two kids close together.

The first was his creepy old guy at Discount Tire who said, "well you must be a glutton for punishment!"
(...creepy.)

And then a very straight forward mom at the park, "wow, you just can't keep your pants on!"

*face palm*

OMG hahaha I kind of love that. I can't even imagine what my reaction would have been!

[sapphyre0702]

I will (and have) called people out that say fat related comments, like "Hey, Fatso". No that is not appropriate - ever, to any human being, especially not one growing a human! I will not tolerate it.

Last week I was eating a chocolate covered espresso bean and someone called out across the room (like 10 feet away) " Are you sure you should be eating that" - like I was snorting cocaine or something. I calmly looked at her, popped it in my mouth like a petulant child, and turned around. Ugh, people.

[upandbelow]

I have a colleague who borders on inappropriate most days. The other day she said "i wanted to try and scare you, but i didn't want the baby to fall out when you screamed" in absolute all seriousness.

[sidneyvicious]

Mar 19, 2015 17:57:40 GMT -5 theBeeMama said:

Mar 19, 2015 17:09:51 GMT -5 baileybaileybne said:

I've seen pics on Pinterest of people holding a jar of Prego and thought, what has that word got to do with being pregnant? I'm aware that people adopt it for the term preggo in the US but we don't have it here and people say preggo all the time (all about the slang). I don't love it, but don't really hate it either. Still don't see what it's got to do with pasta sauce. It's like saying 'Oh you're eating desert.' Nope, it's dessert. I don't eat sand. What the? Maybe I should have posted this in the UO thread. I just think it's odd.

THANK YOU! I totally agree, the two are totally different words with different spellings and different meanings! Prego is a real Italian word that I used daily when I lived in Italy.
Preggo isn't my favorite slang word or anything but it's easy to use on here, kinda like how I don't call my husband "dh" in real life. Lol

Late to the discussion, but I wanted to weigh in.  It's not my hill to die on, but the word "preggo" or any spelling variant thereof used in reference to pregnant women is just plain ick.    I find the word "pregnant" to be plenty easy to type.  It's only two more letters, after all. 

[sidneyvicious]

People just keep looking at my belly and laughing when they pass me in the hallway, like, OMG, you're already that size and you still have such a long way to go! WHATEVER!

[redlipz]

One of my co workers asked me "are you almost ready for the exorcism", referring to labor.... Really dude?

[leenziepops]

Mar 25, 2015 18:13:36 GMT -5 redlipz said:

One of my co workers asked me "are you almost ready for the exorcism", referring to labor.... Really dude?

WTF?!?!?!?! That's an awful thing to say (unless you both have that type of relationship/humor. )
Again, WTF is wrong with people. Maybe our bumps have a magical power that sucks the IQ levels down out of people. 

[redlipz]

He's in his late 50's early 60's and he was just asking how I was doing and then that came out of his mouth. I was like whoa, my eyes opened up like did he really just say that? And he laughed after he said it so I just fake laughed cus I didn't even know what to say to that.

[megd893]

nettje, noeliav - I hear you guys. I'm a FTM and my brother and his wife have two boys (and are done). So there was A LOT of "this is a girl!", "we've got to have a girl", "It's about time for
a little girl" comments from everyone in the fam.

Part of the reason we found out what we were having was so that there was ZERO 'disappointment' on the day the baby came. I didn't want to hear one passing, "oh, maybe next time" or "well, you'll have more kids". I'm really glad we found out so that everyone is ready for MY little man to join the family. And if we have one or two more boys, great. Won't bother me one bit

ETA:  My SIL told me that I wasn't getting fat anywhere but in the ass/hip/thigh area.  Good thing it isn't anywhere else! WTF!? 

[Bluedaisy]

Mar 19, 2015 19:44:25 GMT -5 erbear said:

A fourth grader tried to call me fat the other day. She was all..."are you having a baby or are you just...." and trailed off.

Oh the joys of kids... at least they are young enough it's forgiveable.

I just had a discussion with my grade one students about how since I'm having a baby if I get sick there are a lot of medicines I can't take so if I see them picking their noses or with hands in their mouths of down their pants they will be asked to go wash their hands with soap and water.

Every Monday I have at least one grade one ask me if the baby came out over the weekend. 

[eshap90]

Mar 19, 2015 14:29:52 GMT -5 jcprn said:

I found that complete strangers will get seriously offended that we choose not to know the sex right now. It's not like we're never going to find out. We'll find out in 3 months when the baby is here. What's the big deal?

Yesterday my best friend said something that was like "you just don't care at all you're like fuck bonding with my unborn baby!" Because We're going green. I wanted to punch her but she was driving so I simply asked "what does my baby's gender have to do with how I bond?" Gah! 

We haven't announced anything on any social media. Most of our friends that we socialize know and don't have kids so are just excited for us and have been really great. My best friend has two kids and I only really hangout with her when I'm in my hometown visiting my parents. the friends that I see on a regular basis treat me just the same as before. We laugh and joke and talk about all the beer we're going to drink this summer.

and I haven't got many comments from strangers but the checker at Target told me she thinks I'm having a boy so it must be!

[leenziepops]

Mar 27, 2015 12:36:45 GMT -5 eshap90 said:

Mar 19, 2015 14:29:52 GMT -5 jcprn said:

I found that complete strangers will get seriously offended that we choose not to know the sex right now. It's not like we're never going to find out. We'll find out in 3 months when the baby is here. What's the big deal?

Yesterday my best friend said something that was like "you just don't care at all you're like fuck bonding with my unborn baby!" Because We're going green. I wanted to punch her but she was driving so I simply asked "what does my baby's gender have to do with how I bond?" Gah! 

I hope you punched her once the car stopped

[bruunk]

I has a stranger touch my belly today !! She was very sweet and gushing about finding out she was pregnant too, so I went with it. Had she not been so excited about sharing her news (which was cute), and telling me that I wasn't carrying the way most women carry with boys (I'm not puffy in the face?) I decided to go with the good, and not that a stranger touched my belly.

[eshap90]

Mar 27, 2015 16:22:56 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

Mar 27, 2015 12:36:45 GMT -5 eshap90 said:

Yesterday my best friend said something that was like "you just don't care at all you're like fuck bonding with my unborn baby!" Because We're going green. I wanted to punch her but she was driving so I simply asked "what does my baby's gender have to do with how I bond?" Gah! 

I hope you punched her once the car stopped

I wish. But I'm a pansy buuuuut her 5 year old did repeat the f bomb so she'll have fun explaining that to her daughter's father haha

[mcp6286]

This week someone at work was like, "You're not big enough to be 6 months! Are you sure you've got your due date right? Maybe you should double check with your doctor." Luckily the SPED teacher who co-teaches my 8th grade classes saw the look on my face and jumped in with "She is the cutest pregnant lady I know! You know Meg, I wanted to ask you..." before I could make a smart ass comeback. Ummm...I'm pretty sure I know when my baby is arriving. Maybe you should double check with your doctor and find out how you got to be such an idiot.

[noname83]

I think my best friend got the best (worst) interaction. I cannot imagine topping this one.

She was in line to buy something.
Random stranger (older lady): How far along are you?
Friend: 5.5 months
Stranger: Oh, you look big for that.
Friend: I'm having twins.
Stranger: That makes sense then. Do twins run in your family?
Friend: No
Stranger: Did you have help getting pregnant?
Friend: No, just my luck.
Stranger: Your husband must have good sperm then.
Friend: Uhhhh......
Stranger: What are you naming them?
Friend: I can't tell you that.
Stranger: Oh, okay. Well tell your husband he has great sperm.
That was the point where the line ended and my friend got the hell out.

That conversation is just so inappropriate on so many levels.

[ladymouse]

When I was 5 weeks pregnant, and very nauseated, we went to this camping event (with our not-quite-2-year-old in tow). A few of the other women started going on and on about people who have kids too close together, and how I should wait another year or so. I just smiled politely and chuckled at the comments about how overwhelmed those moms were. The next day, I started throwing up to the point that I had to tell everyone in our encampment that I had morning sickness.

At almost 41 weeks with my son, I made a run to Wal-Mart. A couple of teenage/early twenties girls asked how much time I had left. "Eh, I'm past due." "What are you doing out of the house?!? You shouldn't be out and about!" What, am I supposed inside as soon as I hit term? Would have been 4 weeks, 4 days of thumb-twiddling.

[mrskblack11]

DH and I went out to dinner last night. As we were sitting outside waiting for a table, a mom and her little boy (around 4yrs old) walked passed us. The little boy stared at me then smiled and waved. He then pulled on his mom's hand said "Mom! There is a baby in her belly" and looked back at me. It melted my heart. It was so cute!

[leenziepops]

I had a 50+ yo colleague call me mum today. It was odd.

[cnumbers]

Mar 29, 2015 16:53:21 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

DH and I went out to dinner last night. As we were sitting outside waiting for a table, a mom and her little boy (around 4yrs old) walked passed us. The little boy stared at me then smiled and waved. He then pulled on his mom's hand said "Mom! There is a baby in her belly" and looked back at me. It melted my heart. It was so cute!

Awh so sweet!

[cnumbers]

Mar 30, 2015 2:14:42 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

I had a 50+ yo colleague call me mum today. It was odd.

I hope that's not like a weird fetish thing.. Was a male? Haha. Yeah whenever I see ''mother'' on my maternity notes im like ...ohmygod that's me! like ''fetal movement felt by mother'' It's a total SQUEE moment for me