I had a 50+ yo colleague call me mum today. It was odd.
I hope that's not like a weird fetish thing.. Was a male? Haha. Yeah whenever I see ''mother'' on my maternity notes im like ...ohmygod that's me! like ''fetal movement felt by mother'' It's a total SQUEE moment for me
I've been lurking this thread for a few weeks and have never had anythig to contribute.. Now I do.
SO little sister is 15yrs old. She likes to say random things for reactions. Recently she's been saying that I look like his 3rd cousin or something.. I don't. It's weird, I've never met the girl and it's probably going to stay that way.. We don't have much in common from what I've heard although I'm sure she's a lovely person. Anyway, SO's sister mentioned this again whilst SO aunt was present. It's always an inner *eye roll* moment from me. Last night his aunt was over for dinner, SO and I were in the kitchen, she comes up to me and starts to tell me that she told said cousin that sister thought we ''looked alike in height and build ect'' I'm just listening and nodding politely then she tells me that the cousins response was ''What?! I look like someone two months away from giving birth!?'' While I agree we don't look alike, but having said that she is slim and I was slim pre baby, not that I'm not slim anymore im just.. pregnant. Upon hearing that I went into defense mode and my thinking was ''what's that supposed to mean.. I'm not fat!'' So yeah it made me feel incredibly ashamed of my body. Of course as dear old auntie said this I tried my hardest to keep my face clear of any emotions. SO saw right through it though and once she was gone asked if I was okay. I was hurt to be honest as the realisation hit me that I'm no longer like I was and never will be. I was almost crying, maybe I'm over sensitive but I would say I'm still slim.. I'm just growing a human.. There's a difference and I wish people would realise that. It's shopping today to make myself feel better, fitness plan of action for a couple of months after birth and it's water from here on out!
Yesterday I was talking to BIL. I see him quite often, since we commute together in the morning. While looking at one of my apps, I told him that I had 74 days to go. He said in response, "that seems like a long way to go. Looking at you yesterday, you look like you're ready to go. " I said "stop, just stop. " He then replied "what is it with pregnant women? They always take insult when you tell them they look pregnant. " I just told him to move on, because there's no way to explain to a male why that feels insulting.
Yesterday we we went to target and I saw a couple friends who didn't know I was pregnant. I was in line at the cash register and I guess they had seen me but didn't say anything, I looked over and I just saw one of them tell the other "oh my gosh! She is so big!" Lol. I turned around and pretended not to see them. Ha.
Yesterday I did a presentation to some clients and colleagues, and after one of the colleagues said to me "that was great! It's so funny that I could tell you were getting out of breath while talking..."
I had a dude at work straight up ask me "are you doing vag or c-section?". I stuttered for a solid minute while figuring out if he really just asked me that and then responded with an awkward "uhh whatever gets baby here safe and healthy"
My sister sent me a text saying "don't get a sea section, you will have a scar".
This is a cute one. My 6 year old nephew and my brother stopped by our house this weekend to help H move Baby's armoire into her room. When they were leaving we told nephew to say goodbye to Baby. He walked over and placed his hands on each side of my belly and did a very light squeeze. We told him again to say goodbye to her. And he was like, "I did, I gave her a hug." I'm so excited to see him interact with her!
I had a dude at work straight up ask me "are you doing vag or c-section?". I stuttered for a solid minute while figuring out if he really just asked me that and then responded with an awkward "uhh whatever gets baby here safe and healthy"
My sister sent me a text saying "don't get a sea section, you will have a scar".
or the opposite end. Don't do it vaginally, you'll make it loose. Oh my.
This is a cute one. My 6 year old nephew and my brother stopped by our house this weekend to help H move Baby's armoire into her room. When they were leaving we told nephew to say goodbye to Baby. He walked over and placed his hands on each side of my belly and did a very light squeeze. We told him again to say goodbye to her. And he was like, "I did, I gave her a hug." I'm so excited to see him interact with her!
That's precious! My four year old niece likes to hug my belly, too. The six year old is kind of like, okay, that's great, whatever.
Post by tinavonsparkle on Apr 1, 2015 10:31:06 GMT -5
Went into work functioning on zero sleep, feeling like shite and decide to have a bacon/sausage sandwich to cheer myself up. Sat eating it, minding my own business in the coffee room surrounded by people who are also all eating their various breakfasts and had 5 people - FIVE DIFFERENT PEOPLE - comment and make jokes about me eating. "Eating for 3 are we?!" "Is that your second or 3rd breakfast today?" "That will put you on for an hour" "Make the most of that whilst you can" (cos people don't eat post pregnancy apparently) Nomally I call them a fuckwit in my head and fake a smile but today I was just not in the mood for it.
Went into work functioning on zero sleep, feeling like shite and decide to have a bacon/sausage sandwich to cheer myself up. Sat eating it, minding my own business in the coffee room surrounded by people who are also all eating their various breakfasts and had 5 people - FIVE DIFFERENT PEOPLE - comment and make jokes about me eating. "Eating for 3 are we?!" "Is that your second or 3rd breakfast today?" "That will put you on for an hour" "Make the most of that whilst you can" (cos people don't eat post pregnancy apparently) Nomally I call them a fuckwit in my head and fake a smile but today I was just not in the mood for it.
Oh hellll no. It's one sandwich, not an entire freaking pizza! And even if you were eating an entire pizza to yourself, it's just never appropriate to comment that someone is eating a lot of food.
I had a coworker ask why were we doing labor and delivery classes ("You don't need those!") because I'm "just going to get an epidural anyway!" because I'm a "millennial, you won't be able to do it without it."
A) Fuck you B) See A C) what does being a millennial have to do with it AT ALL? D) Just for good measure see A and B.
I avoid this person like the plague, especially while pregnant. There is no filter and not a bit of thought. I should have just smiled and walked away - if that's what you had/wanted for your labors, that's great - It's not what I want for my labor, if I can have the labor I want. I've now instructed my sister to remind me as I get tired during labor that X said I wouldn't be able to do it without an epidural. Nothing like saying I can't do something to make me do it just to spite you. (This has led to issues in the past...I should work on that. AFTER JUNE). Man I'm peeved. Oh and this was a female coworker. GRRRRRR
I had a coworker ask why were we doing labor and delivery classes ("You don't need those!") because I'm "just going to get an epidural anyway!" because I'm a "millennial, you won't be able to do it without it."
A) Fuck you B) See A C) what does being a millennial have to do with it AT ALL? D) Just for good measure see A and B.
I avoid this person like the plague, especially while pregnant. There is no filter and not a bit of thought. I should have just smiled and walked away - if that's what you had/wanted for your labors, that's great - It's not what I want for my labor, if I can have the labor I want. I've now instructed my sister to remind me as I get tired during labor that X said I wouldn't be able to do it without an epidural. Nothing like saying I can't do something to make me do it just to spite you. (This has led to issues in the past...I should work on that. AFTER JUNE). Man I'm peeved. Oh and this was a female coworker. GRRRRRR
Post by leenziepops on Apr 7, 2015 18:34:58 GMT -5
I find it super uncomfortable when male colleagues ask me if I'm going for a C-section or natural. Sorry but you really don't need to know whether or not I'm pushing my baby out of my vagina or not. I also get some males asking if I'll BF. Are they picturing it in their head like some weird fetish? I'm probably being way too sensitive/old-fashioned but I don't think it's appropriate for male colleagues to ask unless we have crossed into the good friendship zone.
I hope that's not like a weird fetish thing.. Was a male? Haha. Yeah whenever I see ''mother'' on my maternity notes im like ...ohmygod that's me! like ''fetal movement felt by mother'' It's a total SQUEE moment for me
Yup a male!
This happened to me today. One of my teacher colleagues was stopping by to say hello this afternoon and he goes "how's mom doing today?" It was so weird.
On a positive note, I ran into another pregnant lady at the mall today, and she asked when I was due. We had a cute little conversation about the sex of our LO's, how big and high (hers)/ low (mine) our bumps are, etc. it was sweet. I think that was the first time a complete stranger and I have really had a conversation that has come about because of my pregnant belly.
This happened to me today. One of my teacher colleagues was stopping by to say hello this afternoon and he goes "how's mom doing today?" It was so weird.
On a positive note, I ran into another pregnant lady at the mall today, and she asked when I was due. We had a cute little conversation about the sex of our LO's, how big and high (hers)/ low (mine) our bumps are, etc. it was sweet. I think that was the first time a complete stranger and I have really had a conversation that has come about because of my pregnant belly.
When I went for my glucose test I totally had a bonding moment while we were all waiting.
I had a coworker ask why were we doing labor and delivery classes ("You don't need those!") because I'm "just going to get an epidural anyway!" because I'm a "millennial, you won't be able to do it without it."
A) Fuck you B) See A C) what does being a millennial have to do with it AT ALL? D) Just for good measure see A and B.
I avoid this person like the plague, especially while pregnant. There is no filter and not a bit of thought. I should have just smiled and walked away - if that's what you had/wanted for your labors, that's great - It's not what I want for my labor, if I can have the labor I want. I've now instructed my sister to remind me as I get tired during labor that X said I wouldn't be able to do it without an epidural. Nothing like saying I can't do something to make me do it just to spite you. (This has led to issues in the past...I should work on that. AFTER JUNE). Man I'm peeved. Oh and this was a female coworker. GRRRRRR
What a complete dick!
Yeah, this is the same coworker who told me I was going to be a horrible mother and screw up my baby because I was being a little bossy and trying to get 250 people to stand together for a company photo. I avoid her at ALL costs (when I can).
Yeah, this is the same coworker who told me I was going to be a horrible mother and screw up my baby because I was being a little bossy and trying to get 250 people to stand together for a company photo. I avoid her at ALL costs (when I can).
Wow, I can't even.... That is so far beyond appropriate....I can't believe she said something like that.
Co-worker: 'so how much weight have you gained so far?' Me: 'you know, I honestly couldn't tell you. I stopped looking at the scale months ago' Co-worker: 'you probably weigh as much as I do by now. And I'm not pregnant. But I *am* big!' Me: <just shake my head as I walk away>
Yes. You are big. I see the correlation. Thanks for that.
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