How is sexy time (or the lack thereof) treating you??

[carolyngrace]

So I went through exactly 2 weeks of second trimester horniness, during which I only wanted to take care of my own needs, and DH was not needed. The entire pregnancy I've been trying to get it on (in one way or another) twice a week, which is just a bit less than usual. We've probably only had intercourse sex like once/month, which he's been fine with. 

Well today I realized it's been a little over a weeks since I've done anything for/with DH. So I asked him "Are you feeling any type of way about our lack of sex lately?" And he says with a completely straight face "Just horny. I'm feeling pretty horny." 

So I'm going to try and get the energy up for it tonight, ladies. Wish me lotsa luck. 

How has pregnancy sex been for you guys, overall? And what is it like right now? 

[bendherova]

infrequent. raging heartburn makes it almost impossible to get in the mood.

[missjenniebean]

Rare. I don't feel up to it..first trimester was good until we were told not to. After we got the okay, never recovered. He is understanding about it. I often wonder how to spice it up, and how to make it comfortable for me. Poor SO. Maybe one day soon!

[cnumbers]

I'm very lucky. We have had sex everyday since finding out we were expecting, give or take a few days. (SO has work ect or we have to be somewhere). Our sex life has remained the same, if not better. Since the first time we ever ''did it'' it's been almost everday, hence how this LO came to be. Two years together in June and everytime still feels like the first, we can't get enough of each other.. I'd have thought he would have gone off me by now or gotten bored but nope.. I just love him so much. Maybe we should get help with it though . Sex addicts? Nah I'm just addicted to him. Cheesy I know.. Gosh I'm having a total SQUEE moment over SO here!

[cnumbers]

Mar 30, 2015 21:26:19 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

So I went through exactly 2 weeks of second trimester horniness, during which I only wanted to take care of my own needs, and DH was not needed. The entire pregnancy I've been trying to get it on (in one way or another) twice a week, which is just a bit less than usual. We've probably only had intercourse sex like once/month, which he's been fine with. 

Well today I realized it's been a little over a weeks since I've done anything for/with DH. So I asked him "Are you feeling any type of way about our lack of sex lately?" And he says with a completely straight face "Just horny. I'm feeling pretty horny." 

So I'm going to try and get the energy up for it tonight, ladies. Wish me lotsa luck. 

How has pregnancy sex been for you guys, overall? And what is it like right now? 

Ooh and good luck!

[tatersalad]

My husband came home this afternoon while I was in bed trying to take a nap. He told me he had a surprise for me in his pants and that it was something I really wanted. I told him I wasn't sure I wanted it.
He pulled a McDonalds Hot Mustard Sauce out of his pocket (they discontinued them where we live) and I thought dear god I LOVE this man.
I'm more excited about french fry dipping sauces than I am about sex this pregnancy.

[tulips114]

Mar 30, 2015 21:40:30 GMT -5 cnumbers said:

I'm very lucky. We have had sex everyday since finding out we were expecting, give or take a few days. (SO has work ect or we have to be somewhere). Our sex life has remained the same, if not better. Since the first time we ever ''did it'' it's been almost everday, hence how this LO came to be. Two years together in June and everytime still feels like the first, we can't get enough of each other.. I'd have thought he would have gone off me by now or gotten bored but nope.. I just love him so much. Maybe we should get help with it though . Sex addicts? Nah I'm just addicted to him. Cheesy I know.. Gosh I'm having a total SQUEE moment over SO here!

This is how we used to be. Right up until the day I went into labor with DD1. We even did pretty good after getting the ok at 6 wks PP, but then I got pg with DD2 and I just lost all interest. I have absolutely no sex drive, it's sad. Now, obviously we still have sex because I'm pg again. I try not to turn my DH down, but I never initiate anything. We probably average 2-3 times per week, which I guess is still pretty good, I just wish I could enjoy it like I used to. I hope my sex drive comes back some day.

[cnumbers]

Mar 30, 2015 22:00:26 GMT -5 tulips114 said:

Mar 30, 2015 21:40:30 GMT -5 cnumbers said:

I'm very lucky. We have had sex everyday since finding out we were expecting, give or take a few days. (SO has work ect or we have to be somewhere). Our sex life has remained the same, if not better. Since the first time we ever ''did it'' it's been almost everday, hence how this LO came to be. Two years together in June and everytime still feels like the first, we can't get enough of each other.. I'd have thought he would have gone off me by now or gotten bored but nope.. I just love him so much. Maybe we should get help with it though . Sex addicts? Nah I'm just addicted to him. Cheesy I know.. Gosh I'm having a total SQUEE moment over SO here!

This is how we used to be. Right up until the day I went into labor with DD1. We even did pretty good after getting the ok at 6 wks PP, but then I got pg with DD2 and I just lost all interest. I have absolutely no sex drive, it's sad. Now, obviously we still have sex because I'm pg again. I try not to turn my DH down, but I never initiate anything. We probably average 2-3 times per week, which I guess is still pretty good, I just wish I could enjoy it like I used to. I hope my sex drive comes back some day.

I'm sure it will. Your a lot busier now than you were then. You have beautiful children to tend too so your energy is used in that. I'd say 2-3 times a week is still pretty darn good! Your doin great! So and I joke that when our children leave home that's when we're really going to party!! Although this is our first, is an ongoing joke we have so that if things so slow down in that department.. We'll always have hope that it will return at some point

[missjenniebean]

cnumbers - enjoy each other!

We were like that before LO...couldn't get enough of each other. Miss those days! Cant wait to feel that way again! Hehe

[cnumbers]

Mar 30, 2015 22:08:14 GMT -5 missjenniebean said:

cnumbers - enjoy each other!

We were like that before LO...couldn't get enough of each other. Miss those days! Cant wait to feel that way again! Hehe

I'm expecting things to slow a little after LO is born but I'm not worried as I know we'll both be very busy - and that's okay!. I'm sure we will get our mojo back and everyone else here will too! Once we're in a routine! As baby is going to completely change the structure of our lives and how we do day-to-day things. For me it's about rearranging everything into a new structure around baby and just enjoying what our love has created. If things do slow I won't worry because I know the love we have will still be present and strong.

random thought while typing this - I want to feel pretty! Tomorrow I'm maybe going to get my eyebrows done and put some more make up on than usual! I dunno.. I'll try despite it being 4AM here and I can't sleep.. Also my skin has broken out slightly.. No.. I'll try make an effort. We have a shopping trip planned.. I don't know what for exactly! SO has day off tomorrow. It's not fair.. He's sleeping soundly just now. Sorry this add on post was not relevant to the subject of the thread what so ever! I'm rambling.. My brain is shutting down due to tiredness!

[tiffbot]

Mar 30, 2015 21:53:40 GMT -5 tatersalad said:

My husband came home this afternoon while I was in bed trying to take a nap. He told me he had a surprise for me in his pants and that it was something I really wanted. I told him I wasn't sure I wanted it.
He pulled a McDonalds Hot Mustard Sauce out of his pocket (they discontinued them where we live) and I thought dear god I LOVE this man.
I'm more excited about french fry dipping sauces than I am about sex this pregnancy.

And this is the best way my sex drive could ever be described.

[missjenniebean]

cnumbers - im hoping for the same after LO comes, routine is good.

Feeling pretty has everything to do with this thread I think. Plays mind games. I would definitely think you should go do something to feel pretty!

My SO is sound as asleep as well. But he gets up for work at 330 and is 1130...i let it slide for his job's sake! Lol

[nettje]

Sex? What is this thing called sex that you speak of?

Currently I have no desire for sex. It doesn't help that for some reason I can't stand the way my hubby smells... Regardless if he's just showered or not. I love how pregnancy fucks with my sniffer. Did something similar last time around too.

[santoki77]

I'm sad last time we got our groove on was at least a week before I got hospitalized. I asked a nurse is I could "get some" with my husband and was given a resounding no I've been here almost 3 weeks with another 4.5 to go, then after delivery. ....the number of potential months without sex makes me a sad mac

[maddib]

Sex hurts for me recently so sadly I am in the no sex camp. Poor DH. I have offered to do a little something for him the other day but he just really wanted sex.. Ouch is all I can say.

[leenziepops]

Infrequent like once a week or less.... but on the weekend it was pretty amazing breaking the drought

[carolyngrace]

Mar 30, 2015 21:31:54 GMT -5 bendherova said:

infrequent. raging heartburn makes it almost impossible to get in the mood.

This was the biggest problem last night! I didn't bring it up because I didn't want to ruin the mood (what mood there was), but I kept having to sit up and let my stomach settle or burp. Ew. I don't think he knew exactly what was going on, but he could tell I wasn't able to lose myself in the experience, that's for sure. 

For all of you saying sex has been very infrequent, do you still try and keep up with hand jobs or blow jobs? Or is DH pretty much on his own for a while? I've been trying, but it's getting more uncomfortable to even do that. 

[kimberlyandthor2014]

I'm trying! DH is very good and loving and I'm doing my best not to neglect his (and my own) need for sex, but it is definitely a LOT more effort and energy than I really want to put out these days. He's very understanding if I'm not in the mood, but I don't want to always be turning him away. Mentally I'm totally into it and up for it, but physically--nooooo!

The other day he made this cute statement: I want to make love to you as much as possible for the next 9 weeks because I know it will be awhile until we can again after he's born, so I want to really sex it up now while we can!

My response; a weak smile "oh boy"

[kimberlyandthor2014]

The other major problem I am having sexually is that I keep pulling stomach muscles during the dance. Ouch!!!! And they will ache for sometimes an hour or more afterward

[mathistm]

We have definitely had some dry spells and some not so dry spells. I don't think I ever got the second trimester horniness. Now though, knowing that for awhile after birth it's not in the cards I have been really trying to more frequently. It's much easier on the weekends so far twice since Saturday so that's going pretty good. I told DH that foreplay is now a massage so that works out well too

[laurenlou83]

Eh, it's been lacking since getting KU. 1st trimester we were both too nervous and I was always feeling crappy. 2nd tri we were more normal, but one time of spotting afterwards freaked DH out.

Now sex is kind of uncomfortable for me and it hurts a bit, so yeah, that sucks. DH has been completely understanding about it though. We were at least 3-4x a week prior to getting PG, so I feel bad, but I have faith our sex life will be back more towards our "normal" eventually!

We have had a lot of shower time together and there has been a lot of oral given and received the past few months, and I'm totally okay with that.

[mathistm]

What is causing pain for those of you who are experiencing it?

[turtletyme]

Terrible. Partial previa. I have not gotten any since early Jan. I try to take care of him weekly.

[Bluedaisy]

None existent in my world....by the time I get home I just want to sleep.

[laurenlou83]

mathistm, I get very "crampy" feeling afterwards. I also just feel very....sensitive during sex? It is just an uncomfortable feeling that is hard to explain. It isn't anything that is worrisome, but the feeling it gives me is definitely not enjoyable. My OB said it is from the increased blood flow down there, things tend to be more sensitive and it's completely normal.

We've both always been big fans of oral, so we've managed to work around it all! 

[mathistm]

Gotcha. It was a little uncomfortable for us as well but for different reasons I think. I felt like for a little while I wasn't producing proper lubrication even when feeling aroused. Lube fixed that and now it's back to normal. Just a hormonal flux. Then just positioning was uncomfortable but lady on top works for us so I don't feel like my belly is being squished and then I am in control of how things go.

[Deleted]

What is this sexy time you speak of?

[missjenniebean]

For all of you saying sex has been very infrequent, do you still try and keep up with hand jobs or blow jobs? Or is DH pretty much on his own for a while? I've been trying, but it's getting more uncomfortable to even do that. [/quote]


Quote fail?

No blowjobs since we got pregnant BC I want to throw up every time. Stop gag reflex. Hands are more frequent.

[trixi282]

Mar 30, 2015 21:26:19 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

How has pregnancy sex been for you guys, overall? And what is it like right now? 

Hahahahaha! Pregnancy sex this pregnancy... basically we haven't had ST since November I think... might even be October. At all.  Partly because I had zero interest first tri, but tried early on... a little bit - it was few and far between, not going to lie.

Then we moved in with IL's in December, so that put a bit of a damper on things for us... but mostly the last 2 months, besides having zero libido, I've also been on pelvic rest a lot after all of my procedures.  Not that I'm interested in ST anyway, so it just helps my cause.  But I don't have the energy either - I'm exhausted all the time... ST would be way to much work right now.

Good luck to you though - make it happen!

[cnumbers]

Mar 31, 2015 8:45:33 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

Mar 30, 2015 21:40:30 GMT -5 cnumbers said:

I'm very lucky. We have had sex everyday since finding out we were expecting, give or take a few days. (SO has work ect or we have to be somewhere). Our sex life has remained the same, if not better. Since the first time we ever ''did it'' it's been almost everday, hence how this LO came to be. Two years together in June and everytime still feels like the first, we can't get enough of each other.. I'd have thought he would have gone off me by now or gotten bored but nope.. I just love him so much. Maybe we should get help with it though . Sex addicts? Nah I'm just addicted to him. Cheesy I know.. Gosh I'm having a total SQUEE moment over SO here!

I kind of want to punch you and high five you all at the same time.

This is probably too TMI but as I write this response im sat in front of tv while SO has decided to put his hand down my top and grope my boob.. Yeah I think it's cause we're horny 20 somethings! Don't punch me! High five!!..

If I stop replying you'll know why

On a serious note though we were supposed to have a 'couple' day, we had shopping plans but SO's little sister has been rushed to hospital with appendix problems so SO & I are watching the family dog all night.. Bit bummed but things happen.. We may just get naked!