Is it one password for everyone? We would have to have a super tight circle of trust for everyone involved.
I don't think so really because I don't think there's much of a chance that anyone here regularly communicates with somebody who has literally never posted yet. Or only a handful of times. I mean I could be wrong but it seems unlikely that a connection could have been made.
I don't think so really because I don't think there's much of a chance that anyone here regularly communicates with somebody who has literally never posted yet. Or only a handful of times. I mean I could be wrong but it seems unlikely that a connection could have been made.
I mean, there is always the chance that someone is like "lol at this" and gives the PW to someone on another board. Or someone who used to post and doesn't.
My point was it's very different to have one password vs. a site where everyone is invited and keeps their own password (the way FB private groups work).
I mean, there is always the chance that someone is like "lol at this" and gives the PW to someone on another board. Or someone who used to post and doesn't.
My point was it's very different to have one password vs. a site where everyone is invited and keeps their own password (the way FB private groups work).
I totally get where you're coming from, and agree with you. I'm betting that each of us having our own password would be a bit of a pain for the admins, though. Also, couldn't someone just give their personal password to a random just the same as if we all had one password?
Oh totally. There are so many scenarios. People can still screenshot, etc. That is what I mean about trust. I am also jaded because my first BMB had a dramatic split.
Post by jessasaurus on Apr 5, 2015 19:13:30 GMT -5
I'm a little late to this because family crap this weekend. I can't vote on mobile, but I would vote yes for private. I would feel better about sharing pics and whatnot that way.
I like private. I agree with squirm, I will be posting all the details of our hot lesbian life starting with us hemming and ironing curtains at 8:30 last night.
I don't post often so I don't feel like I should get a vote in this, but, of course, I understand the desire to make the board more private and hope I can come along.
Well I, for one, really want to make sure that this password gets to nyc and kendrabeam. F14 is nothing without bad medical advice and a solid white knight for everyone with horrible opinions.
To F14: just wondering 2 things 1. Just wondering if I missed something to prompt this? 2. How would be go about picking who would be our password holder or Gate Keeper?
To F14: just wondering 2 things 1. Just wondering if I missed something to prompt this? 2. How would be go about picking who would be our password holder or Gate Keeper?
ETA: I think it's just that it's likely that we're at a point where it's nice to be able to share more and the internet is so very public. I know I had this conversation with a few people last year, about how nice it would be to have a private group for F14 without having to take it to FB - because there's no anonymity with FB, either. So this is a nice in between option.
Post by blackberryJam on Apr 5, 2015 21:14:35 GMT -5
I would like to take the F14 citizenship test. Ha! I have been with the board since the beginning, I taught kindergarten at the time and could not find the time to actively post. I am now staying at home and when the switch over here happened I wanted to intro, was knee deep in some projects at home & wasn't ready to figure out the new board, etc etc, anyway it's now or never and I hope you'll have me.
I would like to take the F14 citizenship test. Ha! I have been with the board since the beginning, I taught kindergarten at the time and could not find the time to actively post. I am now staying at home and when the switch over here happened I wanted to intro, was knee deep in some projects at home & wasn't ready to figure out the new board, etc etc, anyway it's now or never and I hope you'll have me.
I honestly don't understand letting people who have never (or extremely rarely) participated come along to a place where we're likely to share more personal information. I've been teaching 2/3 this whole time and have found ample time to post. I don't get how people can say they've been too busy to post but have been able to lurk. It just doesn't add up.
Warning, I am going to sound like a mean girl. I believe that we made a really big deal about trying to get lurkers to intro when we moved over here. I don't understand the desire to intro now. I mean if you haven't made the time to participate prior, why would we think that you will now? To me it just means that you want to continue to read about us, and you have now been scared out of the woodwork.
Now I don't think that there needs to be any great test for getting the password, but the password is for a community that we have built. Either you are part of this community or you are not.
I don't think this sounds mean at all.
I get that it can be hard to find time to participate. When I have busy periods with my job I find it a lot harder to find time to come in here and give you all the attention I'd like to - so I understand that people feel it's hard to keep up.
But yeah... it's been almost two years. If people wanted to be part of this community then I feel like there was plenty of time to jump in. Sorry lurkers. It's not personal. (Obviously, because we have no idea who you are. )
Yep, unless a regular can vouch that you've participated at some point in the past two years, sorry not welcome. Because there's a few names in here that I don't recognize but others do? But generally I find the whole "I haven't had time in two years to post" story ridiculous, andplusalso, if you haven't had time in those two years to post then you probably are too busy with your toddler/smart phone so I don't want you lurking for another two years.
Obviously people can still do horrible things to breech privacy, and I sincerely hope that never happens. But this is more to weed out the anonymous lurkers treating our board like an ongoing story.
Here's my take on it the perspective of a lurker. This is obviously just my experience and I am speaking for myself and not all lurkers, but I wanted to share where I come from. I have been following this board for a while. My son was due in February but came 2 months early in December. This board has really been invaluable for me. Even though my son is technically now a December baby, visiting the February board and seeing what all these babies are up to has been so nice for me to see. My son is developmentally behind even for his adjusted age (which would be same age as Feb babies) I have no friends with kids and so its hard to know what he should be doing or when. For me it's not about stalking anyone's personal life; it's just nice to check in and see the struggles and triumphs other moms are going through with kids at the same age to know you are not alone. I am sad that I will be losing that. On the other hand, I totally get where you guys are coming from in wanting privacy to discuss more personal life situation and photos. Totally get it. Just wanted to share the perspective of a lurker and what at least my intentions are with it. I post in preemies occasionally and that board has been great too. It's much easier for me to participate there because it is slower and easier to keep up with. As it has been said before, once I read someone on here by the time I go to post, anything I had wanted to say has already been said.
Anyways good luck as you move on and I will miss this board greatly. Do you think you will still post on the main board and not just on the sub board for more general questions/posts? Just curious as that would be nice although I understand either way.
Here's my take on it the perspective of a lurker. This is obviously just my experience and I am speaking for myself and not all lurkers, but I wanted to share where I come from. I have been following this board for a while. My son was due in February but came 2 months early in December. This board has really been invaluable for me. Even though my son is technically now a December baby, visiting the February board and seeing what all these babies are up to has been so nice for me to see. My son is developmentally behind even for his adjusted age (which would be same age as Feb babies) I have no friends with kids and so its hard to know what he should be doing or when. For me it's not about stalking anyone's personal life; it's just nice to check in and see the struggles and triumphs other moms are going through with kids at the same age to know you are not alone. I am sad that I will be losing that. On the other hand, I totally get where you guys are coming from in wanting privacy to discuss more personal life situation and photos. Totally get it. Just wanted to share the perspective of a lurker and what at least my intentions are with it. I post in preemies occasionally and that board has been great too. It's much easier for me to participate there because it is slower and easier to keep up with. As it has been said before, once I read someone on here by the time I go to post, anything I had wanted to say has already been said.
Anyways good luck as you move on and I will miss this board greatly. Do you think you will still post on the main board and not just on the sub board for more general questions/posts? Just curious as that would be nice although I understand either way.
FWIW, there are plenty of other BMBs on the internet, if that would help you out at all.
If I understand correctly this board will be passworded - is that how it'll work? Or will it be a newly created board? Either way (and I speak only for myself) I would only post within the private area, because there isn't really any benefit for me to post publicly if all the people I want to talk to are in the private board.
I'm sorry that you'll lose something that's been helpful for you and I hope you'll find what you need elsewhere.
Post by mosaicmoscato on Apr 6, 2015 8:16:43 GMT -5
This isn't directed to anyone in particular just sharing my $0.02. It makes me so happy to know how much this board has helped out the lurkers, as it has been an amazing resource to me as well. That being said however, I also find it really hard to believe that after 2 years you couldn't find time to post at all?? If you have time to lurk you have time to make small talk. You didn't have to have huge contributions, but even offering hugs to someone who is struggling, or an internet high five to someone who got a promotion...wheres the excuse there? We've built a close community of amazing, smart, and beautiful women and its kind of unfair for us to feel 'stuck' because of the lurkers. Not saying once we go private were all going to share crazy intimate secrets, but if one of the regulars wants to discuss something really private but can't then thats not right. Anyway don't want to come off as mean at all, just sharing my random thoughts. Carry on.
carseat, thanks for the response. I am sure I will be able to find another BMB elsewhere and I still have my preemie mommas. I'll miss this board but I wish you guys all the best and completely understand. I am glad for all the advice and information (which I don't think will be as prevalent on other BMBs, but I could be wrong).
mosaicmoscato, to answer your question, for me specifically as to why I haven't posted much (I posted randomly on the bump for a short period of time), I don't have a real good excuse for that. I have time so it's not that. I guess its more that I don't feel like I have a lot to say. But you are right about offering support. That is something that everyone should be able to do. I am TFAS and plan to be more active on that BMB once that happens.
I have a soft spot for lurkers because I was one for so long. I believe most of them don't have any bad intentions - that they are shy or nervous or feel like it's too late. I was all of those things. That said, for any lurkers, I do kind of think it's too late to be a part of a private group. I encourage you to jump in to other boards that may fit. Other BMBs, parenting, specialty boards, etc. Starting to participate here was the BEST decision ever. I hope you find a place that gives you as much as F14 has given me.
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