Okay but I don't think most of us need a divorce...
Ok, but there have been emotional affairs, questionable texting, outside relationships, etc. I don't recall anyone telling them to get some respect for themselves as a wife or a mother.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Ok, but there have been emotional affairs, questionable texting, outside relationships, etc. I don't recall anyone telling them to get some respect for themselves as a wife or a mother.
Uh, they most certainly have been told. Especially when they are this far out of touch.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
How about this? You get divorced and flounce off to LA and search out twoo wuv and leave your kid with you ex-H with all the "activities." As BSC as he sounds, he's starting to sound like the saner option as far as parents go.
Seriously though, neither of you sound like you care what happens at all and it's killing me that your daughter is stuck in the middle of this crap.
I probably shouldn't have come out of the hole at all but holy hell this thread has gotten to me today.
How about this? You get divorced and flounce off to LA and search out twoo wuv and leave your kid with you ex-H with all the "activities." As BSC as he sounds, he's starting to sound like the saner option as far as parents go.
Seriously though, neither of you sound like you care what happens at all and it's killing me that your daughter is stuck in the middle of this crap.
I probably shouldn't have come out of the hole at all but holy hell this thread has gotten to me today.
I would never leave my child.
I mean, you see the irony here, right?
ETA: To elaborate, you say you will never leave her as an absolute. But you don't see anything wrong with taking a child from her father, who describe as a "great father", it just strikes me as .. bizarre. Par for the course, I suppose.
How about this? You get divorced and flounce off to LA and search out twoo wuv and leave your kid with you ex-H with all the "activities." As BSC as he sounds, he's starting to sound like the saner option as far as parents go.
Seriously though, neither of you sound like you care what happens at all and it's killing me that your daughter is stuck in the middle of this crap.
I probably shouldn't have come out of the hole at all but holy hell this thread has gotten to me today.
I would never leave my child.
Legit question - why not?
I mean, we know you'll leave her to go shack up with your lover on the weekends...
I mean, we know you'll leave her to go shack up with your lover on the weekends...
Because I don't want to be without her. I wouldn't shack up with him every weekend. I don't see it any different than allowing your child to stay with grandparents for the weekend. Like if we all lived in LA and no other guy DD would still be spending weekends with my mom.
ETA: To elaborate, you say you will never leave her as an absolute. But you don't see anything wrong with taking a child from her father, who describe as a "great father", it just strikes me as .. bizarre. Par for the course, I suppose.
I get it.
I go through the cycle every year of hating this place and I'm tired of it. DH refuses to make a move. He said some shit about Arkansas. But in actuality he wants to be near NYC and Detroit.
I hate where I am. I wouldn't leave H and take his kid away from him.
OK but DH is choosing not to move. He can transfer his job just like he did when we came here. We didn't have a kid then. His family is here but we rarely see them.
I can't help but think you're making this announcement to try to bring more drama to the situation. She seems to be reading the thread. I'm sure she's seen or will see people's concerns over this.
Being that McBenny is my friend she would know that I am in fact not one. I am free to talk to her.
I hate where I am. I wouldn't leave H and take his kid away from him.
OK but DH is choosing not to move. He can transfer his job just like he did when we came here. We didn't have a kid then. His family is here but we rarely see them.
H can do the same thing. It is the same situation over here. I don't want to be here. I have no one here other than a few friends. I would love to move, but it won't happen at least not while the kids are young.
You need to understand that you desires to leave are trumped by the fact that your husband won't and uprooting your child and taking her from her father is not ok.
I know you are not a troll. But JTTW, you knew this thread wasn't going to go over well so in that regard I will concede that posting this is a little troll(ish). Bottom line, people and there opinions and all that.
Again, you need to have a come to Jesus with yourself. What do YOU want to do with your life? Do you want to be married to him now, as he is? I say this because he doesn't seem likely to change. He is on his "journey" and will more than likely get deeper into it. His nonchalant attitude makes me feel he is done. His comments about no longer believing in marriage, makes me feel like he is done. He just wants YOU to be the one to end it. But if you are done, then fuck it then be done. Divorce. Get counseling. If for no other reason to have a third party to bounce all your thoughts and feelings off.
Am I side eyeing you? Of course. Not for your feelings, not for your thoughts, but for being all over the place. This is why I think you need to self reflect and take some self inventory about your role in all of this. I feel not getting into that program was the catalyst in all of a sudden moving out of PA. And that's fine to feel like that. But don't put it all of a sudden on your H, the guy, you don't like PA.
You seemed ok a couple of months ago. Take some time. If your feelings are how you feel they will be there in a couple of times. In the meantime, I know you won't listen but I feel that you don't need to have attention going outside of your marriage at this time. JMO
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
Have you been? They are truly awesome and one of the only reasons my family remains in this 6 months of winter frozen hell.
Seriously tho, PoW has to be fucking with us. from the screen name on down to the well timed TFaS bait, this cannot be legit. If it was, she'd have been too outraged at the justified verbal abuse to continue her "reasonable" explanations of why this is all totally normal and ok.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
OK but DH is choosing not to move. He can transfer his job just like he did when we came here. We didn't have a kid then. His family is here but we rarely see them.
H can do the same thing. It is the same situation over here. I don't want to be here. I have no one here other than a few friends. I would love to move, but it won't happen at least not while the kids are young.
You need to understand that you desires to leave are trumped by the fact that your husband won't and uprooting your child and taking her from her father is not ok.
If it were another reason than him finishing his lessons I would understand more. Like if he couldn't move because of his career I wouldn't be mad. He is refusing to go when he could just as easily catch a flight to NYC or wherever.
H can do the same thing. It is the same situation over here. I don't want to be here. I have no one here other than a few friends. I would love to move, but it won't happen at least not while the kids are young.
You need to understand that you desires to leave are trumped by the fact that your husband won't and uprooting your child and taking her from her father is not ok.
If it were another reason than him finishing his lessons I would understand more. Like if he couldn't move because of his career I wouldn't be mad. He is refusing to go when he could just as easily catch a flight to NYC or wherever.
But based on what you said, he is not the same person anymore. He is changed now.
I know Larry happened. Please do not try to convince me otherwise. Please don't talk to me about coffee. I don't drink it. I don't caffeine. When I state my opinion, that is me chiming in on a topic. This is not me saying you suck at life if you do or feel differently. If I want to say that, I will. If I want to speak on you, I will.
I know you are not a troll. But JTTW, you knew this thread wasn't going to go over well so in that regard I will concede that posting this is a little troll(ish). Bottom line, people and there opinions and all that.
Again, you need to have a come to Jesus with yourself. What do YOU want to do with your life? Do you want to be married to him now, as he is? I say this because he doesn't seem likely to change. He is on his "journey" and will more than likely get deeper into it. His nonchalant attitude makes me feel he is done. His comments about no longer believing in marriage, makes me feel like he is done. He just wants YOU to be the one to end it. But if you are done, then fuck it then be done. Divorce. Get counseling. If for no other reason to have a third party to bounce all your thoughts and feelings off.
Am I side eyeing you? Of course. Not for your feelings, not for your thoughts, but for being all over the place. This is why I think you need to self reflect and take some self inventory about your role in all of this. I feel not getting into that program was the catalyst in all of a sudden moving out of PA. And that's fine to feel like that. But don't put it all of a sudden on your H, the guy, you don't like PA.
You seemed ok a couple of months ago. Take some time. If your feelings are how you feel they will be there in a couple of times. In the meantime, I know you won't listen but I feel that you don't need to have attention going outside of your marriage at this time. JMO
Yea, with the program I would have been bound for another 5-7 years of course. I applied for a job around ATL as well. I didn't expect any real offers to come up right now from Louisiana. I stopped looking when I had decided to finish out the year here. Now that the offer is there I would have to move up the timeline if I accepted.
Because it was in this year's plan but with all of this then adjustments are being made. Stated for transparency purposes I suppose.
OMG at this point mind blown that either of you ever had a plan & even more so that tfas was part of it.
Yes, before another person was involved. We weren't and still aren't unhappy. I am just unsure about what I want now. I want to feel something. That may be with DH, Mr. Texas, myself, or someone else down the road.
Have you been? They are truly awesome and one of the only reasons my family remains in this 6 months of winter frozen hell.
Seriously tho, PoW has to be fucking with us. from the screen name on down to the well timed TFaS bait, this cannot be legit. If it was, she'd have been too outraged at the justified verbal abuse to continue her "reasonable" explanations of why this is all totally normal and ok.
POW has been around Parenting for some time. So that's part of the fervor here.
If she's trolling, it's way long con.
Like I said, I'm a new kid here, so thank you for the background. It makes it easier to understand why this has received 20+ pages of comments and advice when she is taking none of it.
If it were another reason than him finishing his lessons I would understand more. Like if he couldn't move because of his career I wouldn't be mad. He is refusing to go when he could just as easily catch a flight to NYC or wherever.
But based on what you said, he is not the same person anymore. He is changed now.
POW has been around Parenting for some time. So that's part of the fervor here.
If she's trolling, it's way long con.
Like I said, I'm a new kid here, so thank you for the background. It makes it easier to understand why this has received 20+ pages of comments and advice when she is taking none of it.
I'm not not taking any of it. Bottom line if I am not going to take DD away I will stay with my husband. We would have an open marriage. Again, something discussed long before marriage. Hell even the guy before him I talked about it.
If I take her DH is not falling off the face of the earth. We don't have any negativity with each other. Nothing to fight about. I would still be assisting him with anything needed and he would be for me as well.
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