Middle name drama...
Jan 22, 2015 3:18:21 GMT -5
Post by mehlaknee on Jan 22, 2015 3:18:21 GMT -5
Ok. a little history.
Hubby and I have been married for almost two years. Got married shot gun style because his mom was diagnosed with cancer. We were told to get our affairs in order. Engaged only a yr after dating and so I didnt get to know his mom well before the cancer diagnosis. Well - i feel terrible speaking ill of the dead but lets just say her and I did NOT get a long very well. I dont think she ever liked me and I certainly didnt like her. Had to tolerate because of the situation.
Now fast forward. She passed Aug 2014. We found out I was pregnant in Nov. Hubby has 5 brothers and sisters and one of his nephews first name is named after his father so I feel like I dont have to worry about my FIL...We are not finding out the sex of this baby so I have some time but just want some advice..
If its a girl : Emerson Eileen - middle name for my mother.
If its a boy : Finn Henry - also middl ename for my father. This one isnt a big deal since his dad already has a grandkid in his name...
My struggle here is that I dont know if I should name her Emerson Christina (doesnt flow as nicely in my opinion) for my MIL...
He would NEVER ask me to. He knew of our strained relationship..we actually dont talk much about her. He tends to keep things inside. I know that the gesture would be huge but really? I feel like there are other grandkids that can come after us from all his siblings and they could do it. Maybe im making more of a deal than it is but I just dont know how to flat out tell him that I want to name her after my mother...
Hubby and I have been married for almost two years. Got married shot gun style because his mom was diagnosed with cancer. We were told to get our affairs in order. Engaged only a yr after dating and so I didnt get to know his mom well before the cancer diagnosis. Well - i feel terrible speaking ill of the dead but lets just say her and I did NOT get a long very well. I dont think she ever liked me and I certainly didnt like her. Had to tolerate because of the situation.
Now fast forward. She passed Aug 2014. We found out I was pregnant in Nov. Hubby has 5 brothers and sisters and one of his nephews first name is named after his father so I feel like I dont have to worry about my FIL...We are not finding out the sex of this baby so I have some time but just want some advice..
If its a girl : Emerson Eileen - middle name for my mother.
If its a boy : Finn Henry - also middl ename for my father. This one isnt a big deal since his dad already has a grandkid in his name...
My struggle here is that I dont know if I should name her Emerson Christina (doesnt flow as nicely in my opinion) for my MIL...
He would NEVER ask me to. He knew of our strained relationship..we actually dont talk much about her. He tends to keep things inside. I know that the gesture would be huge but really? I feel like there are other grandkids that can come after us from all his siblings and they could do it. Maybe im making more of a deal than it is but I just dont know how to flat out tell him that I want to name her after my mother...