I'm a SAHM to 3 children, I substitute teach a few times a month, chair a PTA board, & sit on the board of the local MOMs Club. People should live productive lives whether they work or SAH. Clearly my opinion is unpopular. So be it.
Okay, this is too much. Insinuating that having a cleaning lady = an unproductive life? Insulting. Just purely insulting.
That isn't how I took that comment at all. I read it to mean everyone should be productive regardless of whether they spend their time cleaning their own home, working outside the home, or volunteering in the community or some combo of all three.
CALEO In October. Agree with you whole-heartedly on the nursing baby. I think I would be a lot more sympathetic if we were talking about a one-year old, and would suck it up and get a sitter.
negams They are actually similar, one first gen, one a little further. I get that they have a large guest list. I think they might be looking at similar numbers.
I am upset that it's already going to be quite difficult (and expensive) for us to make the weddings that are important to us with the baby (with three dear friends getting married in August, September and October). But our friends have made it clear that it's important and we want to be there to support them, so we're going to make it work. These are people that have been there and in many cases, stood up for us. We want to respect that and stand up for them where they've asked. To ask my husband to be your best man and then tell him weeks after he's accepted that, oh, by the way, the baby might not be welcome... I just don't even know what to do with that. I appreciate that they're in a logistical and financial pickle, I'm just pissed at how they're going about fixing it.
The budget explanation doesn't make sense. Nursing babies are free and not included in the head count, don't eat or drink, and don't take up an extra seat.
I'd have dh tell him that you aren't comfortable leaving a 3 mo old and he will have to decline to stand up/attend if you can't bring the kid.
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@officedronette YOUR situation is not okay. You have every reason to be pissed. However, DH and I fought like hellions over this. I didn't want kids at our wedding, he thought it was rude to not invite them. I ended up caving to allow his young young young cousins to come, and I ended up with pen scribbles on my dress train (someone gave the three year old a PEN and didn't watch him in the receiving line). I wasn't thrilled.
BUT, like said above, different strokes.
What the FUCK? I would have been livid.
Perhaps my experiences with my specific kids have shaped my views as well. Even the brattiest children in our families behave themselves (and are appropriately supervised), and none of our friends had kids yet. If I had a friend or family member who I knew had a child who would potentially behave that way (or whose parents failed to supervise them appropriately), yeah, I'd almost certainly feel differently. Goodness gracious. I feel like I owe everyone with kids at our wedding a second thank you.
I was so pissed off. I didn't find out until afterwards, but my mom saw the whole thing and actually stopped the kid mid- Picasso impersonation.
I don't mind children at events. I don't. I have one and about to have a second so I get it. But seriously, there are some places that children just should not be.
Okay, this is too much. Insinuating that having a cleaning lady = an unproductive life? Insulting. Just purely insulting.
That isn't how I took that comment at all. I read it to mean everyone should be productive regardless of whether they spend their time cleaning their own home, working outside the home, or volunteering in the community or some combo of all three.
I just find the term "productive" and the list of things insulting. I hate the obsession with being busy all the time. If I want to stay home with my kids 90% of the time, or if I want to work and then stay home when I can, I don't have to feel guilty about it. I'm not being unproductive by not being involved in a million activities - I can be productive as a mother and a person without being involved in anything but living my life and raising my family.
I hate when people post about how they wish sick people would stay home from work. It would be great if I got sick time, unfortunately in an understaffed hospital it's not possible. And when you get shit from your boss for calling in - we would go on the attendance program if we called in once every other month at my last job. I have already worked through strep and a stomach bug this year because of this. I would feel horrible if my patients got sick, but that's part of the job and I just wear a mask and practice good hand washing and hope for the best.
are you a nurse too?
Its such a shame. My hospital is the same. I can only call in once every two months. If its more than that we get a verbal, if we do it again its a written warning in our file. What is this shit??! I too have suffered through shifts with masks on and dying a slow death.
This pregnancy has kicked my ass and I have been in violation of their sick policy but they can suck it. Having to wear a mask is one thing. LIterally having to puke in the trash can during a code. not cool.
Everyone at my work figured out I was pregnant when we had the NASTIEST code ever and I ran out of the room heaving.
My late UO is that I side eye people who don't eat things other people brought at a potluck. I mean, yeah, if the brownies look sketch, fine, but to only eat what you bring is rude. I get the worry about germs and cleanliness, but IDGAF about that most of the time as I trust my co-workers aren't using their cats as rolling pins.
Potentially UO: I hate it when children aren't invited to weddings. Sort your business out budget-wise and do what you need to do, but if you're inviting parents and you want them to come, especially to a destination/travel-involved wedding, you need to invite their school-aged children. Children are part of your family and I love seeing them at weddings. They're always the first on the dance floor and having a blast.
This has always bothered me, but recently a friend who asked my husband to be IN his wedding told him, oh, we might not invite kids because of budget issues. Drove me batty. Expecting me to find a babysitter for a young child so I can go away for the weekend, OR to trust a complete stranger in a strange city? You're out of your goddamn mind.
Can I half agree/ half disagree?!?!
At my wedding we had 1st cousins with kids only. I'm one of 13 cousins and I was third to last born which means almost all of my older cousins had kids. So you can imagine how many extra people that were added to the list. But told our friends to leave the little ones at home. It only effected a few friends but we were engaged for a year and half so they had a lot of time to plan.
But on the flip side. My BIL and nephew are in a wedding. Her other two kids are invited to the rehearsal dinner but not to the wedding. They live in California but the wedding is in NJ. How do you do that to a person?!! Especially when the wedding is over Memorial Weekend.
Potentially UO: I hate it when children aren't invited to weddings. Sort your business out budget-wise and do what you need to do, but if you're inviting parents and you want them to come, especially to a destination/travel-involved wedding, you need to invite their school-aged children. Children are part of your family and I love seeing them at weddings. They're always the first on the dance floor and having a blast.
This has always bothered me, but recently a friend who asked my husband to be IN his wedding told him, oh, we might not invite kids because of budget issues. Drove me batty. Expecting me to find a babysitter for a young child so I can go away for the weekend, OR to trust a complete stranger in a strange city? You're out of your goddamn mind.
Wow, I've never seen someone say it was for budget reasons - usually it's some kind of super fancy black tie wedding so kids aren't invited.
We had kiddos at my wedding and one little girl, 3 years old, was convinced I was a princess and followed me around in awe. It was the cutest thing in the world and exactly the reaction you want on your wedding day.
Seriously kids cost like 1/4 the price of adults usually. Budget reasons seems odd as the reason.
My late UO is that I side eye people who don't eat things other people brought at a potluck. I mean, yeah, if the brownies look sketch, fine, but to only eat what you bring is rude. I get the worry about germs and cleanliness, but IDGAF about that most of the time as I trust my co-workers aren't using their cats as rolling pins.
Post by kristhegirl on Jan 22, 2015 20:28:44 GMT -5
sharebear05 I totally agree about asshole bicyclists, but I wish my town was more tolerant of the rule-followers. People here will target bikes to cut off, splash, etc. OR, drivers will cause backups by refusing to pass a bike or trying to give them the right-of-way when it isn't their turn. Drives me crazy!
I want to transport them to a city where everyone actually shares the road so they can see that it can be done, and peacefully.
This would necessitate the bicyclists to also learn the rules and be hell accountable, though.
I think everyone should have a"bike to work" day so they'd know what it's like to be on a bike in traffic, with hills/lights/street debris, etc.
Its such a shame. My hospital is the same. I can only call in once every two months. If its more than that we get a verbal, if we do it again its a written warning in our file. What is this shit??! I too have suffered through shifts with masks on and dying a slow death.
This pregnancy has kicked my ass and I have been in violation of their sick policy but they can suck it. Having to wear a mask is one thing. LIterally having to puke in the trash can during a code. not cool.
Everyone at my work figured out I was pregnant when we had the NASTIEST code ever and I ran out of the room heaving.
I feel for all of this. I'd rather go to work sick than get on the shit list. And it is a shit list. Unless you work in a hospital , you have no idea of the politics involved. It unfortunate yes. We shouldn't risk getting out patients sick, but it's not realistic and neither are the demands placed on nudes backs. Try calling in sick, only to come in the next day to find out they didn't replace you and your team worked short and had a terrible shift because. The guilt I feel when I call in is tremendous.
As for the codes, I've totally given up CPR and chest compressions. I'll do everything else.
Everyone at my work figured out I was pregnant when we had the NASTIEST code ever and I ran out of the room heaving.
I feel for all of this. I'd rather go to work sick than get on the shit list. And it is a shit list. Unless you work in a hospital , you have no idea of the politics involved. It unfortunate yes. We shouldn't risk getting out patients sick, but it's not realistic and neither are the demands placed on nudes backs. Try calling in sick, only to come in the next day to find out they didn't replace you and your team worked short and had a terrible shift because. The guilt I feel when I call in is tremendous.
As for the codes, I've totally given up CPR and chest compressions. I'll do everything else.
I'll be the recorder!!! Out of the way. That I can do. Fuck no to compressions.
CALEOnikki707 apparently their venue doesn't do a reduced kids price, and for fairness purposes they feel they may need to draw a bright line so no one is hurt (why is that child there and mine isn't?). I offered my services as master negotiator because wtf, there is no reason why you don't discount for kids. Their venue's rationale was kids drink a lot of soda (literally it costs like a cent per soda, I have family in hospitality, so this one particularly bothers me) and not all adults take advantage of the open bar.
I really am sympathetic, I'm just also really concerned with how I'm supposed to attend a wedding without the three month old I'm expecting to be nursing.
UO Thursday Jan 22, 2015 21:22:43 GMT -5via mobile
Post by EmMilAlly on Jan 22, 2015 21:22:43 GMT -5
One more UO: I don't like Pinterest. I think it is overdone and has turned things like weddings and baking into over the top cutesy contests. I work in merchandising so I basically have to have a board or I'll be ostracized at work, but I never use it for personal things.
I feel for all of this. I'd rather go to work sick than get on the shit list. And it is a shit list. Unless you work in a hospital , you have no idea of the politics involved. It unfortunate yes. We shouldn't risk getting out patients sick, but it's not realistic and neither are the demands placed on nudes backs. Try calling in sick, only to come in the next day to find out they didn't replace you and your team worked short and had a terrible shift because. The guilt I feel when I call in is tremendous.
As for the codes, I've totally given up CPR and chest compressions. I'll do everything else.
I'll be the recorder!!! Out of the way. That I can do. Fuck no to compressions.
Specifically cupcakes? How about a slice of cake? A muffin? It's like you're not speaking my language.
Haha I don't really like cake either. Muffins, yes!
Yep. I don't like very many cakes either. Although I dreamed about CALEO's lemon cake and I could eat an entire german chocolate cake by myself. But most birthday-style cakes I just don't like. They're just blah to me. But I love muffins!
Haha I don't really like cake either. Muffins, yes!
Yep. I don't like very many cakes either. Although I dreamed about CALEO's lemon cake and I could eat an entire german chocolate cake by myself. But most birthday-style cakes I just don't like. They're just blah to me. But I love muffins!
Cake, pie, muffins, strudel, cupcakes, brownies, cookies, candy, fudge...I don't discriminate. I love icing. And frosting and glaze and ganache. Ohhhhhhh my god. Time to stop.
One more UO: I don't like Pinterest. I think it is overdone and has turned things like weddings and baking into over the top cutesy contests. I work in merchandising so I basically have to have a board or I'll be ostracized at work, but I never use it for personal things.
One more UO: I don't like Pinterest. I think it is overdone and has turned things like weddings and baking into over the top cutesy contests. I work in merchandising so I basically have to have a board or I'll be ostracized at work, but I never use it for personal things.
And birthday parties. I refuse to be a Pinterest party planner. Party America FTW! I'm just glad I got married before that shit was popular.
One more UO: I don't like Pinterest. I think it is overdone and has turned things like weddings and baking into over the top cutesy contests. I work in merchandising so I basically have to have a board or I'll be ostracized at work, but I never use it for personal things.
I massively loved pinterest for years and the past year it's just...blah. Everything is so overdone and perfect. I love house porn so me not logging in for months is kind of huge.
In response to the few people who talked about living with parents....I went to college 2 hours from home immediately following high school. Never moved back in with my parents, and I refuse to take money from them because I want to be independent and support myself. SO and I were doing the long distance thing, and I chose to move in with him so we could have a consistent supportive home for our child. The home in question: his mother's. He's an MMA fighter, and moved back in with his mom last year to save money during training camps when he has an inflexible schedule that didn't work with typical 9-5 hours. I am struggling so hard with our living situation because I feel like an absolute failure, but with only one solid income (which is changing in February), it's our only option for the moment. I hate it, but I feel like I need to defend my situation too. So I guess my UO is, sometimes it's okay to (TEMPORARILY, dear god I hope it's not for much longer) live under a parent's roof as an adult.
One more UO: I don't like Pinterest. I think it is overdone and has turned things like weddings and baking into over the top cutesy contests. I work in merchandising so I basically have to have a board or I'll be ostracized at work, but I never use it for personal things.
I hate Pinterest. I have a friend that is the Pinterest queen. Any party she throws, she gets all of these creative ideas from the site and then posts how successful they are on FB. Bitch.
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