I am not sure I would call it arguing. I am just avoiding him because everything he does is annoying me. He talks and I want to throat punch him, he breathes at night and I want to smother him with a pillow, he's sleeping blissfully while I wake every two hours to nurse and then he starts snoring and it is all I can do to not be the next storyline on Snapped. So lately I haven't been talking to him much for fear that I will make it on the show.
For as much as this kid has been eating- he does not poop enough!! Anyone else have problems with their LOs not pooping? We go see the pedi Thursday morning and I plan on bringing it up to him. +1 for everyone who says they feel like a dairy cow. Cole has been camped out on my boobs for almost 2 hours. Of course he falls asleep (but he's still sucking and swallowing) and when I try to gently remove him, it's the end of the world.
For as much as this kid has been eating- he does not poop enough!! Anyone else have problems with their LOs not pooping? We go see the pedi Thursday morning and I plan on bringing it up to him. +1 for everyone who says they feel like a dairy cow. Cole has been camped out on my boobs for almost 2 hours. Of course he falls asleep (but he's still sucking and swallowing) and when I try to gently remove him, it's the end of the world.
Our pediatrician said today that it's perfectly fine for them to go a couple of days without pooping as long as there's no blood in their stool or their not having a hard time with big hard poops. I guess for breastfed babies it's way more common then formula fed too.
Post by missjenniebean on Jun 9, 2015 22:54:00 GMT -5
My hospital gave me breastfeeding and infant care book before we left and it says sometimes breastfeeding babies don't poop often because everything the body needs it takes and there is so little left to poop out. As long as they are peeing they are hydrated and everything I good. Unless they are jaundice. Then they want poop and pee. Ja. Vera only has one so often. A little one a day or slips a day or two but always makes up for it. Ha. Pedi didnt seem concerned when I said something.
She hiccups so much. Also. Anyone know a way to keep a newborn asleep so I cannot have a mental break down in the middle of the night?
My hospital gave me breastfeeding and infant care book before we left and it says sometimes breastfeeding babies don't poop often because everything the body needs it takes and there is so little left to poop out. As long as they are peeing they are hydrated and everything I good. Unless they are jaundice. Then they want poop and pee. Ja. Vera only had one a day if not one every two days...and when she skips a day she certainly makes up for it the next. Pedi didnt seem too concerned when I said something.
She hiccups so much. Also. Anyone know a way to keep a newborn asleep so I cannot have a mental break down in the middle of the night?
My hospital gave me breastfeeding and infant care book before we left and it says sometimes breastfeeding babies don't poop often because everything the body needs it takes and there is so little left to poop out. As long as they are peeing they are hydrated and everything I good. Unless they are jaundice. Then they want poop and pee. Ja. Vera only had one a day if not one every two days...and when she skips a day she certainly makes up for it the next. Pedi didnt seem too concerned when I said something.
She hiccups so much. Also. Anyone know a way to keep a newborn asleep so I cannot have a mental break down in the middle of the night?
That's what concerns me- Cole is jaundice.
Are you in the hospital? If so they have a way to make him poop if he doesn't in their alloted time frame. They just want them to poop and pee as much as possible because it helps rid the jaundice.
If you are home, I wouldn't worry too much but you can always ask the pediatrician when you go.
missjenniebean My little one hiccups hard after almost every meal. Sounds painful. When she's not gassy, she's starting to stretch her sleeping time out at night from every 2.5-3 hours to almost 4. The first time she did that, I panicked worried that something was wrong. But she was just snoozing away!! They'll get there.
My hospital gave me breastfeeding and infant care book before we left and it says sometimes breastfeeding babies don't poop often because everything the body needs it takes and there is so little left to poop out. As long as they are peeing they are hydrated and everything I good. Unless they are jaundice. Then they want poop and pee. Ja. Vera only has one so often. A little one a day or slips a day or two but always makes up for it. Ha. Pedi didnt seem concerned when I said something.
She hiccups so much. Also. Anyone know a way to keep a newborn asleep so I cannot have a mental break down in the middle of the night?
Eta BC words are hard when tired
I've had a few breakdowns. Like, "Why did I think I could handle three kids?" and "How am I going to nurse my kid when I have to wipe blood off his face every time?" and "OMG I can't do this!" No sleeping advice, except for feed them again. And keep kleenex handy.
My hospital gave me breastfeeding and infant care book before we left and it says sometimes breastfeeding babies don't poop often because everything the body needs it takes and there is so little left to poop out. As long as they are peeing they are hydrated and everything I good. Unless they are jaundice. Then they want poop and pee. Ja. Vera only has one so often. A little one a day or slips a day or two but always makes up for it. Ha. Pedi didnt seem concerned when I said something.
She hiccups so much. Also. Anyone know a way to keep a newborn asleep so I cannot have a mental break down in the middle of the night?
Eta BC words are hard when tired
Have you sponge bathed? I did it tonight before bed and it helped!
Are any of you using a nipple shield? Sorry if it has already been brought up (didn't look through all posts). My breasts are so full and engorged that she just couldn't latch and would get frustrated so my husband got me a nipple shield and it's been aaawesome. A little painful but it's getting the job done. She is fuller and sleeping longer now. It was a life saver with my other two children as well. I know they say to only use it when needed but honestly, I use it 80% of the time.
Are any of you using a nipple shield? Sorry if it has already been brought up (didn't look through all posts). My breasts are so full and engorged that she just couldn't latch and would get frustrated so my husband got me a nipple shield and it's been aaawesome. A little painful but it's getting the job done. She is fuller and sleeping longer now. It was a life saver with my other two children as well. I know they say to only use it when needed but honestly, I use it 80% of the time.
I'm currently using one 95% of the time. When I got discharged from the hospital I only had to use it on the right side due to a flat nipple. Unfortunately we didn't get the whole latch thing down very well and are still struggling so now I also use it on my left side because quite frankly it's a lot easier and quite a bit less painful. I have an appointment with an LC next Tuesday to try and stop using it and improve her latch.
We had a perfect latch from the start but once my milk came in and I got my porn star boobs it's just not happening. Even with the sheiks I have to try to express some, otherwise my nipples bleed.
I feel like I am emotionally struggling a lot with this enormous change in my life. I am feeling overwhelmed by the inability to do things on my own timetable (sleep, go to the bathroom, eat), and am really struggling with being so exhausted all of the time. I am hoping that now that my milk has come in and I am better able to satiate the baby that things will feel a little more manageable and doable. H has been so incredibly supportive, and has been getting us out of the house on small errands throughout the day, which is so helpful. I keep reminding myself that this is new and it's only day 4, and everyday we learn a little more about him and how to make things work for us.
budders I'm there too. We prayed for so long for this. TTC ever since we got married and here I am struggling with adjusting to all of this. I cried in the shower for like half an hour while my mother watched the LO for me. We will adjust I'm sure.
At our shower people wrote on diapers so we read a little message every time we use one. One said "today is not forever". So the past couple days DH and I remind each other of that. It usually results in me sobbing for a few minutes... It's helpful to remind each other and myself to take things moment to moment. It's way harder than I ever imagined! Sorry you're both struggling too.
Yes. Especially since mine returned to work. We both acknowledged that we really have nothing to give each other at the end of the day. We're in the biggest adjustment of our lives.
Are any of you using a nipple shield? Sorry if it has already been brought up (didn't look through all posts). My breasts are so full and engorged that she just couldn't latch and would get frustrated so my husband got me a nipple shield and it's been aaawesome. A little painful but it's getting the job done. She is fuller and sleeping longer now. It was a life saver with my other two children as well. I know they say to only use it when needed but honestly, I use it 80% of the time.
They had me use one in the hospital when I was in BC she was having a hard time latching on side and my other side was so torn up it was bleeding....after that she still won't latch on the left and it's hit and miss on the right. So it is used a lot of the time. I feel as if we regressed after all the progress from the first four days. -.-
Are any of you using a nipple shield? Sorry if it has already been brought up (didn't look through all posts). My breasts are so full and engorged that she just couldn't latch and would get frustrated so my husband got me a nipple shield and it's been aaawesome. A little painful but it's getting the job done. She is fuller and sleeping longer now. It was a life saver with my other two children as well. I know they say to only use it when needed but honestly, I use it 80% of the time.
They had me use one in the hospital when I was in BC she was having a hard time latching on side and my other side was so torn up it was bleeding....after that she still won't latch on the left and it's hit and miss on the right. So it is used a lot of the time. I feel as if we regressed after all the progress from the first four days. -.-
I felt the same way, but you know what...they're getting fed and it's helping with the pain. 2 nights ago I was literally crying because I was in so much pain and yesterday we were both frustrated because she couldn't latch for long no matter what I did and we tried for hours. I used it all the time with my other two and was eventually able to go without it but I think I would've gave up on breast feeding if I had to do it without it. So no regressions, we are doing great!
Are any of you using a nipple shield? Sorry if it has already been brought up (didn't look through all posts). My breasts are so full and engorged that she just couldn't latch and would get frustrated so my husband got me a nipple shield and it's been aaawesome. A little painful but it's getting the job done. She is fuller and sleeping longer now. It was a life saver with my other two children as well. I know they say to only use it when needed but honestly, I use it 80% of the time.
My LC gave me one to use in the hospital because my nipples were too flat for Cole to get a good latch. She never said anything about eventually stopping (or using only when needed.). Occasionally I try w/o and he has a hard time. It's not worth the frustration on my end.
Eta: I think I would have given up in nursing if I didn't have the shields (I've since gone out and bought 2 more so I can rotate them and keep one in the diaper bag)
Yes. Especially since mine returned to work. We both acknowledged that we really have nothing to give each other at the end of the day. We're in the biggest adjustment of our lives.
Yes! You are correct with the "biggest adjustment of our lives."
There has been some hostility since he has returned to work. I'm exhausted from the late night/ early morning feedings. He sleeps in a different room, so that he can get some rest for work. We have fought over his work schedule. He continues to go in late and work late, which is not conducive to having a family, especially when I need a break by the time he gets home. My husband is a great dad but I think it will take him longer for everything to " click". There has been some choice words exchanged between the two of us.
it doesn't help that my mom is staying with us and adds fuel to the fire by telling me all that he is doing wrong.
Are any of you using a nipple shield? Sorry if it has already been brought up (didn't look through all posts). My breasts are so full and engorged that she just couldn't latch and would get frustrated so my husband got me a nipple shield and it's been aaawesome. A little painful but it's getting the job done. She is fuller and sleeping longer now. It was a life saver with my other two children as well. I know they say to only use it when needed but honestly, I use it 80% of the time.
My LC gave me one to use in the hospital because my nipples were too flat for Cole to get a good latch. She never said anything about eventually stopping (or using only when needed.). Occasionally I try w/o and he has a hard time. It's not worth the frustration on my end.
Eta: I think I would have given up in nursing if I didn't have the shields (I've since gone out and bought 2 more so I can rotate them and keep one in the diaper bag)
I didn't even talk to the LC this time because I know it's worked for us in the past. I also know that they'd like a follow up apt to see how it's going and to get her off of it. I don't really remember why they didn't want me using it all the time.
Yes. Especially since mine returned to work. We both acknowledged that we really have nothing to give each other at the end of the day. We're in the biggest adjustment of our lives.
Yes! You are correct with the "biggest adjustment of our lives."
There has been some hostility since he has returned to work. I'm exhausted from the late night/ early morning feedings. He sleeps in a different room, so that he can get some rest for work. We have fought over his work schedule. He continues to go in late and work late, which is not conducive to having a family, especially when I need a break by the time he gets home. My husband is a great dad but I think it will take him longer for everything to " click". There has been some choice words exchanged between the two of us.
it doesn't help that my mom is staying with us and adds fuel to the fire by telling me all that he is doing wrong.
Ooh, that would be tough (having your moms opinion on what he's doing). My sister and mom are always slightly judgmental of my DH and it would be bad if they were staying with us now..
I'm letting my DH sleep all night, too since he has to work, but it's hard not to feel resentful. And of course when he gets home he's all stressed and tired from work and doesn't want a baby thrust at him right away.
Is your mom being helpful? Maybe she could take on a more active role in the few hours before your DH gets home so you can rest up and not need him immediately when he walks in the door? Anyway I'm sure you'll find something that works eventually. Trying to stay on the same team (Us against this huge adjustment) instead of vying for who has it worse is helping my DH and I.
budders, carolyngrace, My mom has been very helpful, but sometimes the comments get to be too much for me. I say something, she gets upset, I get upset, so basically I am learning to keep my mouth shut. I am grateful for her help, but the comments about DH are unnecessary.
So I took Cole to the pediatrician today, apparently he's lost weight so we are back to supplementing with formula after each nursing session. My problem is he always wants to sleep (he's jaundice). I can change his diaper and strip him down but he still falls asleep. Anyone have any good tricks/tips?
So I took Cole to the pediatrician today, apparently he's lost weight so we are back to supplementing with formula after each nursing session. My problem is he always wants to sleep (he's jaundice). I can change his diaper and strip him down but he still falls asleep. Anyone have any good tricks/tips?
Something cold in the armpit (like, tube of chapstick). Like when the nurse takes his temp. Works on mine.
So I took Cole to the pediatrician today, apparently he's lost weight so we are back to supplementing with formula after each nursing session. My problem is he always wants to sleep (he's jaundice). I can change his diaper and strip him down but he still falls asleep. Anyone have any good tricks/tips?
Something cold in the armpit (like, tube of chapstick). Like when the nurse takes his temp. Works on mine.
We used a damp, cold washcloth... on the head, on the back of the neck... tickled feet... blow on face... it really took 2 of us sometimes.
I don't have an outside baby yet, but reading this today made me think of all of you ladies who do and are going through the thick of things! I hope it can brighten someone's day just a little! www.scarymommy.com/the-moment-i-tell-new-moms-to-hang-on-for/
I don't have an outside baby yet, but reading this today made me think of all of you ladies who do and are going through the thick of things! I hope it can brighten someone's day just a little! www.scarymommy.com/the-moment-i-tell-new-moms-to-hang-on-for/
Thank you for sharing!! I love Scarymommy and this article is amazing.
My daughter seems to have her times mixed up. What can e do to change it? She has been asleep for almost 3 hours n we can't wake her up. She just stretches n grunts. But at night she won't stay asleep for more than 30 minutes.
So I took Cole to the pediatrician today, apparently he's lost weight so we are back to supplementing with formula after each nursing session. My problem is he always wants to sleep (he's jaundice). I can change his diaper and strip him down but he still falls asleep. Anyone have any good tricks/tips?
You should try to pump to collect milk to use for supplementing. That way your milk supply knows to increase to meet baby's needs accordingly. Giving formula is nice for the volume, but if you give formula and don't pump your breasts don't know they need to make more milk, they think you are happy with the amt of milk baby is taking in at the breast.
A sleepy jaundiced baby is hard to wake up. Tickle toes, cool washcloth on toes and back of the neck, rub the bridge of the nose and the edge of the collarbone with your finger or thumb, sit baby up at the waist, change diapers, switch sides you are nursing baby on, use breast compressions and massage to speed the flow of milk so they'll eat more milk in less amt of time at the breast before they conk out. Keep them unswaddled and often if you lay them down on the changing table or crib mostly nakey that will wake them up. Also dads don't smell right[like moms], so baby may wake up more if dad hold them.
Take them outside to get daylight which is good to clear the jaundice. let them hang out in a diaper near a window to get some extra filtered sunlight.
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