Hey everyone , I know I've not posted & this may seem drive-by but I've been very busy with little Max. I need to talk to someone. At day 13 we are currently in NICU, due to LO losing 13.9% of his birth weight. I've been in hospital since Friday & he has gained a little but not much, currently on a feeding plan, just been moved to a mother & baby room as the other ward I was in was only for short stays and they weren't listening to me. They felt they knew what was best for Max & had me force feeding him when he wasn't wanting it & vomiting after every feed. I know these details are vague but I'll post more info if you are all wanting to know along with a short birth story. I hope you are all okay, I've missed you. It's hard & I have so much to tell you all. The way I was treated in other ward was awful & the paediatric doctors can't figure out what is causing this as he is healthy in every other way, they say he's just gaining slower than other babies. I'm on the brink of breakdown, the last 4 days have been rough. I know this may seem vague & confusing but I'll elaborate if I get time & I also don't want to overload you as there's so much that has gone on & the post would go on forever.
So sorry you are dealing with some health issues with Max. Prayers for a speedy recovery!
So baby girl has to get her frenulum clipped tomorrow. Has anyone had any experience with this? They seem to think that this will make nursing so much easier, as her tongue isn't able to extend as much as it should. They assured me it's fairly non-invasive, but this momma is still worried.
Hey everyone , I know I've not posted & this may seem drive-by but I've been very busy with little Max. I need to talk to someone. At day 13 we are currently in NICU, due to LO losing 13.9% of his birth weight. I've been in hospital since Friday & he has gained a little but not much, currently on a feeding plan, just been moved to a mother & baby room as the other ward I was in was only for short stays and they weren't listening to me. They felt they knew what was best for Max & had me force feeding him when he wasn't wanting it & vomiting after every feed. I know these details are vague but I'll post more info if you are all wanting to know along with a short birth story. I hope you are all okay, I've missed you. It's hard & I have so much to tell you all. The way I was treated in other ward was awful & the paediatric doctors can't figure out what is causing this as he is healthy in every other way, they say he's just gaining slower than other babies. I'm on the brink of breakdown, the last 4 days have been rough. I know this may seem vague & confusing but I'll elaborate if I get time & I also don't want to overload you as there's so much that has gone on & the post would go on forever.
So sorry you are dealing with some health issues with Max. Prayers for a speedy recovery!
So baby girl has to get her frenulum clipped tomorrow. Has anyone had any experience with this? They seem to think that this will make nursing so much easier, as her tongue isn't able to extend as much as it should. They assured me it's fairly non-invasive, but this momma is still worried.
I haven't personally but several friends have and it helped a great deal!
Hey everyone , I know I've not posted & this may seem drive-by but I've been very busy with little Max. I need to talk to someone. At day 13 we are currently in NICU, due to LO losing 13.9% of his birth weight. I've been in hospital since Friday & he has gained a little but not much, currently on a feeding plan, just been moved to a mother & baby room as the other ward I was in was only for short stays and they weren't listening to me. They felt they knew what was best for Max & had me force feeding him when he wasn't wanting it & vomiting after every feed. I know these details are vague but I'll post more info if you are all wanting to know along with a short birth story. I hope you are all okay, I've missed you. It's hard & I have so much to tell you all. The way I was treated in other ward was awful & the paediatric doctors can't figure out what is causing this as he is healthy in every other way, they say he's just gaining slower than other babies. I'm on the brink of breakdown, the last 4 days have been rough. I know this may seem vague & confusing but I'll elaborate if I get time & I also don't want to overload you as there's so much that has gone on & the post would go on forever.
So sorry you are dealing with some health issues with Max. Prayers for a speedy recovery!
So baby girl has to get her frenulum clipped tomorrow. Has anyone had any experience with this? They seem to think that this will make nursing so much easier, as her tongue isn't able to extend as much as it should. They assured me it's fairly non-invasive, but this momma is still worried.
I've heard of quite a few babies who have had this done and it's been very uneventful. Just to prepare you though, usually they have mom hold the baby down while they do it, which I'm sure is traumatic. Like most things though, I think it's harder on us to see them upset than it really is for them being upset.
Post by daydreamernyc on Jun 16, 2015 12:43:57 GMT -5
My 2 week old will be in a dead sleep and then suddenly wake up screaming. Literally goes from fully asleep to screaming. Any ideas on what it could be? I'm breastfeeding. Is she allergic to something I'm eating? Or is this totally normal? (I burp her regularly)
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January & February: 2 IUIs, BFN
March: IUI, ectopic, 2 surgeries with 1 tube removed
May - July: 3 more IUIs, all BFN, on to IVF
August: IVF#1, BFN
September: FET#1, BFP!!!
It's a girl!!!
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My 2 week old will be in a dead sleep and then suddenly wake up screaming. Literally goes from fully asleep to screaming. Any ideas on what it could be? I'm breastfeeding. Is she allergic to something I'm eating? Or is this totally normal? (I burp her regularly)
It does sound like gas. If you pick her up will she burp or poop soon afterwards? My babe has only done that a couple times and he had to poop.
Saw an LC today. I feel so much better and more confident about breast feeding. For any mom here struggling I cannot recommend it enough. I think the time I had in the hospital with an LC didn't' even come close to what I needed to be set up for success. I now have so much more information and tools after a one on one 75 minute session. Worth every cent!!!
Yes! The LC help you get in the hospital is usually short cutted basics and not often enough to really help. It also doesn't give you the info you need and evaluation of latch once milk comes in and everything changes. So if you are struggling try really hard to get to an LC in person for assistance or call LLL leader etc.
My 2 week old will be in a dead sleep and then suddenly wake up screaming. Literally goes from fully asleep to screaming. Any ideas on what it could be? I'm breastfeeding. Is she allergic to something I'm eating? Or is this totally normal? (I burp her regularly)
Unlikely to be any issue with breastfeeding or allergy without a lot of other symptoms.
more likely to be stuck air bubble needing to burp or need help pooping.
Or waking themselves up with the startle reflex and then being scared.
or that they are signaling with early hunger signs, grunting fussing in sleep, knowing on fist, licking lips and barely awake and you don't notice so they seem to go from zero to starving screaming in no time flat
V has had a gunky eye all day. The eye itself doesn't look red, but there has been goopy yellowish discharge coming from it all day. Should I try to get him into the doctor tomorrow? I don't want to be over-paranoid new mom, but I also don't want to ignore an infection if that's what it is.
DD had this last week. The pedi told me to literally squirt breastmilk from a bottle or your boob into the eye either closed or open and then w clean hands you can massage it around the eyelid if the eye is closed. Do this every feed so every 2 hours for 2 days. If it doesn't clear up then they said to bring her in. You can also take a cotton ball w breast milk on it to gently clean the gunk from the eyelid
Hey everyone , I know I've not posted & this may seem drive-by but I've been very busy with little Max. I need to talk to someone. At day 13 we are currently in NICU, due to LO losing 13.9% of his birth weight. I've been in hospital since Friday & he has gained a little but not much, currently on a feeding plan, just been moved to a mother & baby room as the other ward I was in was only for short stays and they weren't listening to me. They felt they knew what was best for Max & had me force feeding him when he wasn't wanting it & vomiting after every feed. I know these details are vague but I'll post more info if you are all wanting to know along with a short birth story. I hope you are all okay, I've missed you. It's hard & I have so much to tell you all. The way I was treated in other ward was awful & the paediatric doctors can't figure out what is causing this as he is healthy in every other way, they say he's just gaining slower than other babies. I'm on the brink of breakdown, the last 4 days have been rough. I know this may seem vague & confusing but I'll elaborate if I get time & I also don't want to overload you as there's so much that has gone on & the post would go on forever.
Tag me if you want to talk about the breastfeeding part,
and there are a bunch of moms dealing with low weight gain that can support you in that struggle.
You aren't alone.
Glad you are sticking up for you and for baby, it's hard when docs don't listen to the mom.
Post by mrsmonogrammed on Jun 16, 2015 18:54:07 GMT -5
Seriously new baby over here (1day old) but she went 5 hours without eating today....I tried offering but she would just get pissed and then finally put her mouth around my nipple but not suck and then fall asleep. Tried all the old tricks-naked baby, tickling, etc.
She ate for 10 minutes around 5 so I'm hoping it turns around by 8 when she "should" be ready to eat again:/
My 2 week old will be in a dead sleep and then suddenly wake up screaming. Literally goes from fully asleep to screaming. Any ideas on what it could be? I'm breastfeeding. Is she allergic to something I'm eating? Or is this totally normal? (I burp her regularly)
It does sound like gas. If you pick her up will she burp or poop soon afterwards? My babe has only done that a couple times and he had to poop.
Thanks. She hasn't burped or pooped shortly after. Patting her back is how I get her to go back to sleep (and rocking at the same time). Maybe I'm not being an efficient/effective burper???
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January & February: 2 IUIs, BFN
March: IUI, ectopic, 2 surgeries with 1 tube removed
May - July: 3 more IUIs, all BFN, on to IVF
August: IVF#1, BFN
September: FET#1, BFP!!!
It's a girl!!!
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Seriously new baby over here (1day old) but she went 5 hours without eating today....I tried offering but she would just get pissed and then finally put her mouth around my nipple but not suck and then fall asleep. Tried all the old tricks-naked baby, tickling, etc.
She ate for 10 minutes around 5 so I'm hoping it turns around by 8 when she "should" be ready to eat again:/
My baby was super sleepy the first two days as well. Consequently (at least partially) he lost a bit too much weight. But after my milk came in he got right back on track. Don't stress too much. If just keep her awake and eating as long as you can when she DOES wake to eat. When they're deep asleep it can feel nearly impossible to wake them!
My 2 week old will be in a dead sleep and then suddenly wake up screaming. Literally goes from fully asleep to screaming. Any ideas on what it could be? I'm breastfeeding. Is she allergic to something I'm eating? Or is this totally normal? (I burp her regularly)
My girl does this. Normally she has to spit up or already has and is laying in it and isn't happy. Or hungry and I was asleep and didnt wake up to my alarm...usually happens at night when I dont take the time to burp her properly BC im tired and impatient.
Seriously new baby over here (1day old) but she went 5 hours without eating today....I tried offering but she would just get pissed and then finally put her mouth around my nipple but not suck and then fall asleep. Tried all the old tricks-naked baby, tickling, etc.
She ate for 10 minutes around 5 so I'm hoping it turns around by 8 when she "should" be ready to eat again:/
Did you get at least one diaper change today, wet or poopy? Then you are fine.
They are often really really tired right after being born and need to sleep a bit extra. Just keep nagging every 2 hours or so, and look for early signs of hunger like licking lips, smacking lips, grunting, rooting, etc.
I am so glad to hear re: nursing. She latched on a bit after birth, once at like 4 am, and a teeny bit this afternoon (2 sucks really). We tried again tonight and there were tears on both ends - she seems to want to eat (she roots and opens her mouth) but won't latch or will latch and not suck. The lactation consulant got pissed a nurse gave me a pump but when I tried tonight I did get a few drops of colostrum for her! Everyone kept telling me she's just sleepy but we were nervous - h wanted to give her a bottle. She only lost 4.5% of her weight, so I'm hoping that continues tonight!
Eta: we've had three poopy diapers and two wets so I know logically she's fine!
I am so glad to hear re: nursing. She latched on a bit after birth, once at like 4 am, and a teeny bit this afternoon (2 sucks really). We tried again tonight and there were tears on both ends - she seems to want to eat (she roots and opens her mouth) but won't latch or will latch and not suck. The lactation consulant got pissed a nurse gave me a pump but when I tried tonight I did get a few drops of colostrum for her! Everyone kept telling me she's just sleepy but we were nervous - h wanted to give her a bottle. She only lost 4.5% of her weight, so I'm hoping that continues tonight!
Eta: we've had three poopy diapers and two wets so I know logically she's fine!
alternate keeping her skin to skin with you to increase her instinct to nurse
with handing her to dad who doesn't smell and sound like the mom to try to wake her up. lol
try to get nipple pointed more toward roof of mouth when you latch to encourage sucking action.
I am so glad to hear re: nursing. She latched on a bit after birth, once at like 4 am, and a teeny bit this afternoon (2 sucks really). We tried again tonight and there were tears on both ends - she seems to want to eat (she roots and opens her mouth) but won't latch or will latch and not suck. The lactation consulant got pissed a nurse gave me a pump but when I tried tonight I did get a few drops of colostrum for her! Everyone kept telling me she's just sleepy but we were nervous - h wanted to give her a bottle. She only lost 4.5% of her weight, so I'm hoping that continues tonight!
Eta: we've had three poopy diapers and two wets so I know logically she's fine!
I agree with the pp, do as much skin to skin contact as you can.
Have you tried helping her open her mouth wide enough? I find that if you gently put your finger on her chin and then push open her mouth. Once fully open (like as open as if she was yawning) then place her mouth on your nipple. She might just hang out or she might start to suck, either way you are making it as easy as possible for her. She only has one step to take Does that make sense?
Definitely think twice about using a bottle. Everything that I've read says that it "could" make breastfeeding more difficult (could but not always). 4.5% is not much, we were told that 10-15% is normal. Find another LC if this one isn't working for you.
Also, make sure you are using cream as well for your own sake. They will get really sensitive and I would hate for the situation to be compounded with pain as well.
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January & February: 2 IUIs, BFN
March: IUI, ectopic, 2 surgeries with 1 tube removed
May - July: 3 more IUIs, all BFN, on to IVF
August: IVF#1, BFN
September: FET#1, BFP!!!
It's a girl!!!
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Yeah, she'll open wide. Some of her issues seem to be she's just super sleepy, so she'll latch and then fall asleep or she'll get so worked up over being unwrapped she'll arch back. She opens wide and roots well. The nurse helped a lot last night and calmed my fears over her not eating. We're still trying! I'm sure soon enough I'll be wishing I had a sleepy baby.
So BF-ing is going better than I expected - but still very challenging!
So frustrated this morn tho, he's had such a good latch so far but last night in 1 frenzied feeding he managed to destroy my right nipple. In his rage at me unlatching him to relatch comfortably he also managed to grab a fistfull of nip. I actually howled. (DH thought this pretty amusing!)
It is so bloody painful the thought of feeding today is leaving me terrified. I'm trying lanolin and breast milk but its not like it has any time to heal between feeds. He's like a barracuda since my milk came in yest. It huuuuuurts
I had to pep talk myself into feeding too. Same pain coping skills as labor, breathe through it! On day 12 here, and it started getting better around day 7 (and then it got shitty cuz I got mastitis, but nm that). I used a triple antibiotic cream with a painkiller after each feeding, and let your nipples have as much air dry time as you can.
Thank you carolyngrace, for starting this. I'm just getting around to coming back to the board because things are just crazy.
Breastfeeding is hit or miss. I know she isn't latching properly and I'm using a shield on both sides. For some reason I have major guilt over using the shield but it helps immensely. I need to step away from google about all the dumb reasons shields are bad. Looking to reach out to a local lactation consultant tomorrow. The LC in the hospital was AMAZING but it's a whole new ball game when you get home. My milk finally came in yesterday and tackling the engorgement is the new challenge. Keeping her awake during feedings is also a challenge. I literally have to stimulate her the entire time.
LO is also jaundice and this has been the biggest part of the roller coaster. We've been every day for the last 4 days to have her bilirubin levels checked and started her on a biliblanket at home on Friday night - the day her level was 15. Saturday she came down to 13.9 and today 13.2. I'm incredibly disappointed that it didn't come down more but the pediatrician on call felt good about it and even told us to stop using the blanket and follow up tomorrow for what will probably be another lab draw to check her level. I just hate the not knowing if she's ok or if things are going to get worse. I can't sleep because I'm anxious to make sure she's is ok and on top of that having to feed every 2 hours leaves me with little to no sleep. Pretty sure I'm functioning on 3-4 hours of broken sleep since we've been home. Oh and she's lost 10% of her birth weight which I attribute to my previous lack of milk and latching issues in the hospital and her desire to sleep through every feeding. Hoping we are making progress.
On the plus side H has been AMAZING. I'm just so grateful. My mom has also been so incredibly helpful but she left today and I can't stop crying about it. Holy hormones.
I'm in the same boat to a slightly lesser extent but I understand where you're coming from. The night before go home day, the pediatrician told us she was on the very high end of the jaundice chart and needed to stay under bililights and be under the biliblanket for at least a day. She was at a 10 at less than 24 hours old. Turns out we have different blood types and since I'm O, the red blood cell attacks are stronger. Feeding was stressful enough as you know well. Then we got kicked out of our room because the PP floor filmed up so we got sent to the PICU. Every two hours I had to trek down the hall, go up a floor and sit in a desk chair in the bassinet storage room and take my 30 alloted minutes to try and get her to latch. It broke my heart to leave her every time. She also lost 10% of her weight as of today. We had our first dr. Appt today to check her bilibutin levels, I'm still waiting to hear back. My milk finally came in though so hopefully we can take care of the weight business now. Best of thoughts to you and your itty-bitty!!
Yay, nipple shields helped us get a great feed in! My nipples are killing me, but I'm so happy she really ate I could cry.
Nipple shields can be a useful tool. Just don't rely on them to fix a latch problem. They just provide a layer of padding between you and baby and give baby something harder to latch onto. Keep working with an LC or a different LC to get her nursing without the shield. Sometimes shields begin to interfere with milk transfer if the underlying latch issue isnt fixed.
Be sure you are holding nipple closer to her nose when trying to latch so she reaches up and the top of her head tilts back as she opens wide and nipple aims toward top of mouth. That increase instinct to latch to have something at roof of mouth.
Thank you carolyngrace, for starting this. I'm just getting around to coming back to the board because things are just crazy.
Breastfeeding is hit or miss. I know she isn't latching properly and I'm using a shield on both sides. For some reason I have major guilt over using the shield but it helps immensely. I need to step away from google about all the dumb reasons shields are bad. Looking to reach out to a local lactation consultant tomorrow. The LC in the hospital was AMAZING but it's a whole new ball game when you get home. My milk finally came in yesterday and tackling the engorgement is the new challenge. Keeping her awake during feedings is also a challenge. I literally have to stimulate her the entire time.
LO is also jaundice and this has been the biggest part of the roller coaster. We've been every day for the last 4 days to have her bilirubin levels checked and started her on a biliblanket at home on Friday night - the day her level was 15. Saturday she came down to 13.9 and today 13.2. I'm incredibly disappointed that it didn't come down more but the pediatrician on call felt good about it and even told us to stop using the blanket and follow up tomorrow for what will probably be another lab draw to check her level. I just hate the not knowing if she's ok or if things are going to get worse. I can't sleep because I'm anxious to make sure she's is ok and on top of that having to feed every 2 hours leaves me with little to no sleep. Pretty sure I'm functioning on 3-4 hours of broken sleep since we've been home. Oh and she's lost 10% of her birth weight which I attribute to my previous lack of milk and latching issues in the hospital and her desire to sleep through every feeding. Hoping we are making progress.
On the plus side H has been AMAZING. I'm just so grateful. My mom has also been so incredibly helpful but she left today and I can't stop crying about it. Holy hormones.
I'm in the same boat to a slightly lesser extent but I understand where you're coming from. The night before go home day, the pediatrician told us she was onthe very high end of the jaundice chat and needed to stay under bililights and be under the biliblanket for at least a day. She was at a 10 at less than 24 his old. Turns out we have student blood types and since I'm O, the red blood cell attacks are stronger. Feeding was stressful enough as you know well. Then we got kicked or if our room because the PP floor filmed up so we got sent to the PICU. Every two hours I had to trek down the hall, go up a floor and sit in a desk chair in the bassinet storage room and taker my 30 alloted minutes to try and bet get to latch. It broke my heart to leave her every time. She algal lost 10% of her weight as of today. we had our first dr. Appt today to check her bilibutin levels, I'm still waiting to hear back. My milk finally came in though so hopefully we can take care of the weight business now. Best of thoughts to you and your itty-bitty!!
Push nursing as much as you can. Use breast compressions and massage to speed the flow of milk and you can even hand express extra milk to give by cup spoon eye dropper syringe or finger feeder to get more volume of milk in baby.
They have to poop out the excess bilirubin and they needles of milk to encourage that pooping. Formula is often used/pushed. It formula takes longer to digest so some will poop less on formula even with higher volume of milk. Colostrum and early breastmilk digests very fast and can seem like a laxative so just try to get as much in as you can so you can get as much out as possible.
Good luck. jaundiced a breastfed baby is pretty normal and it will soon pass. Hugs
So BF-ing is going better than I expected - but still very challenging!
So frustrated this morn tho, he's had such a good latch so far but last night in 1 frenzied feeding he managed to destroy my right nipple. In his rage at me unlatching him to relatch comfortably he also managed to grab a fistfull of nip. I actually howled. (DH thought this pretty amusing!)
It is so bloody painful the thought of feeding today is leaving me terrified. I'm trying lanolin and breast milk but its not like it has any time to heal between feeds. He's like a barracuda since my milk came in yest. It huuuuuurts
They dont realize what they are doing with their hands. They do t quite get the cause and effect thing so hold hand trap one in your armpit or saddle hands down to avoid middle of the night grabs.
Nights are frantic at first. they usually have days and nights mixed up so they want to bulk of their eating at night when you are tired and not quite awake. So be a bit pushy with daytime feeds close together every 2-3 hours in the hopes there eventually won't be so many hard middle of the night nursing frantically.
To help with healing and with pain Before feeds do warm water soak of nipple. That helps with let down and speeds circulation to speed healing. Take Motrin for swelling and pain. Check and recheck latch. Make sure it's deep. When unlatching to fix latch be sure you are breaking suction with pinky in corner of babies mouth.
Try a different position every time baby nurses so a different side of the nipple gets brunt of it. So one spot doesn't get so sore. Make sure baby gets all they want from side one before offering side two as dessert. If they don't always want side two that gives that side time off duty to heal.
After nursing rub breastmilk into nipple and dry with hairdryer on low. The. Slather nipple cream on top. You can short term use bacitracin or Neosporin to help heal. Just wipe off any excess before next nursing session. Then use cool compresses like a bag of peas in your bra to help with pain Swelling and inflammation between feeds.
It will get better. Get help in person with latching if you can and/ or watch latching videos online to see if there is something you are missing.
Most babies actually don't react much to mom's diet, that's more of an old wives tale than we like to admit. Some foods can make baby a bit cranky like excess caffeine, but most are just normal baby gassiness or fussiness.
Of course they could have a milk soy protein intolerance and even that may be overdiagnosed in my opinion. An offensive food would often present with baby having green mucousy stool often with tinges of blood. Or Baby could have reflux which may need meds. Reflux can be made worse if mom is eating a lot of dairy products and so lowering that food in mom's diet may help baby to improve.
It's more likely to be that mom has a very high supply and baby is getting a ton of milk fast, and taking in a lot of air with gulping. Then the air bubbles come up and the milk comes up with the air bubbles due to the immature sphincter at the bottom of the esophagus that usually keeps food down. An oversupply with foremilk and hindmilk imbalance can also lead to a lot of spit up, as baby just spits up all the excess foremilk they take in.
If it's true projectile vomiting, then it needs to be evaluated by pediatrician as they may need intervention to prevent weight gain issues.
The diary is the culprit. I had a little bit of ice cream the other night, peanut had the worst green poops, awful gas and projectile spit up. I haven't had dairy since and all is back to normal. I shouldn't be surprised because up until I got pregnant, I cousins tolerate dairy.
FYI Adults[like yourself] often can't tolerate dairy cause they are lactose intolerant, they don't produce the enzyme anymore that breaks down the lactose in dairy (or in breastmilk).
Babies have lots of that enzyme since breastmilk is full of lactose, so it's not lactose intolerance per se.
But the dairy protein is very hard to digest. and it likes to piggy back onto the breastmilk protein.
If mom has really high supply with lots of foremilk, baby may have a fast running digestive system, so it doesn't have time to break down the hard to digest dairy protein and you see green poopies. The fats in hindmilk can slow digestion down and make it easier to digest those dairy proteins.
Limiting dairy may be all it takes, rather than full elimination diet. Since dairy is in so.many.foods especially processed foods in some form, usually that kind of dairy is tolerated. But if it continues you can look into all the different names of dairy products and fully remove them all from your diet. Caution, if dairy is the problem, soy may also be a problem, cause it's similarly hard to digest. so don't just switch from cow's milk to soy milk. There are moms on bfing board with more experience with a milk soy protein intolerance if you find you need more support or info.
Post by ombradellarosa on Jun 18, 2015 0:15:24 GMT -5
Having a hard time tonight. I allowed a friend of the family who is a nurse to talk me into introducing a pacifier already. I was planning to wait until one month to avoid nipple confusion, but she said the baby can tell which one gives milk so she won't get confused. Not to mention I recently read that what is called "nipple confusion" really means that bottles tend to be easier to drink from so baby prefers them to the breast. That not being an issue, I kind of let go. I know another problem is that sucking on a pacifier burns calories but doesn't bring any in. However, at her one-week checkup E was not only back to birthweight but had gained an additional 4 ounces. And I'm not planning to let her suck on one all the time, only after she's already eaten and sleepy but won't settle down. I was panicked about feeding her when she's hungry, but I made sure to feed her first, it was about 20 minutes so I'm pretty sure she got enough, plus she self-detached. My nurse friend said E won't accept the pacifier if she's still hungry. Earlier when all this went down I about cried in relief that I could get baby to sleep and get some sleep myself instead of having her attached to me 24-7. I was also crying because she seemed so much older with a pacifier.
Tonight is a different story. I was crying because I can't tell what she needs. I changed her, fed her, burped her, and swaddled her. She was screeching. She took the pacifier and fell to a peaceful sleep. I cuddled her for a bit before laying her down in the bassinet. But I feel so guilty for giving her a pacifier ahead of schedule. I feel like I failed somehow. Please someone reassure me that I haven't. I am a guilt machine and incredibly fragile in my self-image right now.
Having a hard time tonight. I allowed a friend of the family who is a nurse to talk me into introducing a pacifier already. I was planning to wait until one month to avoid nipple confusion, but she said the baby can tell which one gives milk so she won't get confused. Not to mention I recently read that what is called "nipple confusion" really means that bottles tend to be easier to drink from so baby prefers them to the breast. That not being an issue, I kind of let go. I know another problem is that sucking on a pacifier burns calories but doesn't bring any in. However, at her one-week checkup E was not only back to birthweight but had gained an additional 4 ounces. And I'm not planning to let her suck on one all the time, only after she's already eaten and sleepy but won't settle down. I was panicked about feeding her when she's hungry, but I made sure to feed her first, it was about 20 minutes so I'm pretty sure she got enough, plus she self-detached. My nurse friend said E won't accept the pacifier if she's still hungry. Earlier when all this went down I about cried in relief that I could get baby to sleep and get some sleep myself instead of having her attached to me 24-7. I was also crying because she seemed so much older with a pacifier.
Tonight is a different story. I was crying because I can't tell what she needs. I changed her, fed her, burped her, and swaddled her. She was screeching. She took the pacifier and fell to a peaceful sleep. I cuddled her for a bit before laying her down in the bassinet. But I feel so guilty for giving her a pacifier ahead of schedule. I feel like I failed somehow. Please someone reassure me that I haven't. I am a guilt machine and incredibly fragile in my self-image right now.
But at least I am going to sleep!
You are doing amazing! I know introducing the pacifier early wasn't part of the plan, but show me a newborn that can follow any kind of schedule or itinerary. You are kicking ass at this, just try to go with the flow instead of planning it out. Hugs to you!
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