Newborn support chat

[gilder40]

@amyg You're a wealth of information!! I know I appreciate all your advice and support. Thank you!!

[redlipz]

Question- how long did it take for LOs umbilical cord to fall off? My daughters fell off on the 4th day, I thought that was super soon.

[mrskblack11]

redlipz his fell off in less than a week. May have been the 5th or 6th day

[redlipz]

Ok cool, not too soon then. It took over a week for my other two.

[gilder40]

My little one's cord took almost 3 weeks to come off. It didn't come off until like a week after she got out of the NICU.

[tulips114]

My girls' cords both fell off in less than a week. This is day 8 for this little guy and his is still hangin on. He just doesn't want to do anything the same way his sisters did. LOL.

[dogmama22]

budders my little guy usually hates to be swaddled, but he sleeps ok without it in his PnP, so I don't push it. Sounds like it may help your LO stay asleep a bit longer, though. I would probably worry about the strap too, but I'm pretty sure it's not that big of deal to not use it. They sit really low in there.

[laurenlou83]

Jun 14, 2015 19:20:46 GMT -5 budders said:

So, we haven't been swaddling V since he started sleeping in the RnP since we like to have him buckled in, and I'm thinking about starting to try again. He hasn't been letting me put him down for long, and I'm thinking the swaddle might help. Anyone else swaddling and using the RnP? Has anyone else not been swaddling? I feel like I dropped the ball on this, and need to start committing to it again if it's going to help him.

I really wish babies came with instruction manuals.

Our LO sleeps in the RnP every night and we swaddle him - we don't strap him in. I was nervous not to do so at first, but he's a little peanut (just under 7lb) and with the swaddle and how he's tucked in it there, I don't foresee him rolling or getting out of the RnP at all!

[missjenniebean]

budders we swaddle and let her sleep there too. She sleeps so soundly in there I dont worry. It is when she not swaddled I worry. Sometimes I dont swaddle her but she certainly sleeps better swaddled.


Eta: +1 on instruction manuals. Just told SO this the other day. Ha.

[carolyngrace]

Jun 14, 2015 19:20:46 GMT -5 budders said:

So, we haven't been swaddling V since he started sleeping in the RnP since we like to have him buckled in, and I'm thinking about starting to try again. He hasn't been letting me put him down for long, and I'm thinking the swaddle might help. Anyone else swaddling and using the RnP? Has anyone else not been swaddling? I feel like I dropped the ball on this, and need to start committing to it again if it's going to help him.

I really wish babies came with instruction manuals.

Swaddling keeps my babe asleep at least an hour longer.. I found a YouTube video for the miracle swaddle and I do his arms like that now (I use a separate blanket and tuck it underneath him, totally securing arms to his sides). He got out of the regular way too easy.

[carolyngrace]

Jun 15, 2015 2:04:11 GMT -5 budders said:

Jun 14, 2015 23:47:55 GMT -5 @badwolf321 said:

FX budders. I'm at my parents and mom goes back to work tmw. Same boat.

Hope things are going okay for you! I've gotten 3 hours of sleep already, which is a huge improvement. 

I've gotten two 2-hour stretches of sleep tonight which feels pretty good. Nursing now and hoping for one more stretch.. Good luck for the rest of the night.

Oh, also on my own tomorrow for the first time. Feeling anxious about it!

[a5swanson]

+1 for being on own tomorrow. Yikes...

[ajm11]

Jun 14, 2015 19:20:46 GMT -5 budders said:

So, we haven't been swaddling V since he started sleeping in the RnP since we like to have him buckled in, and I'm thinking about starting to try again. He hasn't been letting me put him down for long, and I'm thinking the swaddle might help. Anyone else swaddling and using the RnP? Has anyone else not been swaddling? I feel like I dropped the ball on this, and need to start committing to it again if it's going to help him.

I really wish babies came with instruction manuals.

We have swaddled both kids in the RnP, and it has resulted in the longest stretches of sleep in my experience.

[dogmama22]

Jun 15, 2015 5:04:46 GMT -5 Joolschweets said:

So...Night 2 is hard, eh? Wow never imagined a baby could be at the boob for this long straight! When will you sleep, little man?!

Yep - night two was definitely not fun! We were still in the hospital that night and they finally came and took him to the nursery for me so I could sleep for an hour. He's been great ever since, though so FX your little one does better for you tonight!

[shahoi]

Oh my gosh... I love you ladies!! We tried swaddled in the RnP last night. I fed at 10, again at 2:30, and at 7. She was just snoozing away. But even as exhausted as I am/was, I still didn't get much sleep. I'm just on alert all night. Every grunt, squeak, squeal she makes I'm checking on her. I need to stop, but it's so hard.

[a5swanson]

Jun 15, 2015 8:12:30 GMT -5 budders said:

Jun 15, 2015 7:26:10 GMT -5 shahoi said:

Oh my gosh... I love you ladies!! We tried swaddled in the RnP last night. I fed at 10, again at 2:30, and at 7. She was just snoozing away. But even as exhausted as I am/was, I still didn't get much sleep. I'm just on alert all night. Every grunt, squeak, squeal she makes I'm checking on her. I need to stop, but it's so hard.

We had a better night swaddled, too. Same with the sleep quality, though: I am just constantly waiting for him to fuss or spit up or make a noise, so sleep is definitely not uninterrupted. I managed to piece together about 5 hours, though, which is better than usual.

The first two nights I had LO in the pack n okay in our room and all of her noises were keeping me up. Since then, I've put her in her crib at night and I've gotten so much better sleep.

My upstairs is super tiny, so I don't have to go far to feed her but putting her in her own room has been a lifesaver. Something to think about if you'd feel comfortable trying it.

[baytosa2013]

Jun 15, 2015 8:55:27 GMT -5 budders said:

Jun 15, 2015 8:49:12 GMT -5 a5swanson said:

The first two nights I had LO in the pack n okay in our room and all of her noises were keeping me up. Since then, I've put her in her crib at night and I've gotten so much better sleep.

My upstairs is super tiny, so I don't have to go far to feed her but putting her in her own room has been a lifesaver. Something to think about if you'd feel comfortable trying it.

Eventually I will, but don't feel comfortable now. He can't/won't lay flat due to reflux and spit up, and to leave him in the RnP in a different room doesn't feel safe to me.

We have had LO in the bouncy seat on the PNP since night one home as well.  I've laid her flat for a nap a couple times but her breech legs kind of make her roll to the side and she won't sleep.  I also don't feel comfortable having her in the other room just yet.  Luckily for us she has been on a pretty good "schedule" of feeding at 11:30, 2:30, and 5:30 since we brought her home and only grunts and snorts when she's starting to wake.  From reading all the posts we are EXTREMELY lucky to have been getting 3 hours of sleep between each feeding every night. I'm knocking on wood because I'm afraid to jinx it!

[junch817]

How long do you let your baby nap for during the day? I've let him sleep at night but get nervous during the day about the really long naps and no feeding. I nursed around 8:30 and its 11-40 now and he's still sleeping in his RNP. I hate to wake him up and make him mad.

[maddib]

Anyone else dealing with the sweats and cold chills at night? It's every single night and I am getting tired of waking up soaking wet and trying to change things or out a towel down in between feedings.

[carolyngrace]

Jun 15, 2015 8:49:12 GMT -5 a5swanson said:

Jun 15, 2015 8:12:30 GMT -5 budders said:

We had a better night swaddled, too. Same with the sleep quality, though: I am just constantly waiting for him to fuss or spit up or make a noise, so sleep is definitely not uninterrupted. I managed to piece together about 5 hours, though, which is better than usual.

The first two nights I had LO in the pack n okay in our room and all of her noises were keeping me up. Since then, I've put her in her crib at night and I've gotten so much better sleep.

My upstairs is super tiny, so I don't have to go far to feed her but putting her in her own room has been a lifesaver. Something to think about if you'd feel comfortable trying it.

I've also switched to putting DB in his crib in the nursery to sleep. It's like 5 steps from our room so I can easily hear him cry, but now I can't hear all the sighs, grunts etc that we're keeping me on edge. So much better!

[carolyngrace]

Jun 15, 2015 10:45:25 GMT -5 budders said:

Jun 15, 2015 10:42:18 GMT -5 junch817 said:

How long do you let your baby nap for during the day? I've let him sleep at night but get nervous during the day about the really long naps and no feeding. I nursed around 8:30 and its 11-40 now and he's still sleeping in his RNP. I hate to wake him up and make him mad.

For weight gain/milk supply, I don't let my guy sleep more than 2.5-3 hours. I usually start trying to wake him up around then so that we can feed successfully.

+1 for 3 hours. Though I have let him go longer once or twice.

Eta: there are also times during the day where he eats every hour. So I feel like it balances out. If you didn't have those times I would be a little more strict about waking him up.

[missk0411]

Jun 15, 2015 11:51:29 GMT -5 @badwolf321 said:

Jun 15, 2015 11:21:05 GMT -5 maddib said:

Anyone else dealing with the sweats and cold chills at night? It's every single night and I am getting tired of waking up soaking wet and trying to change things or out a towel down in between feedings.

I have night sweats. You're breast feeding right? I asked my OB about this and she says because of breastfeeding your metabolism is spiking. I'm now usually running a 99.9 temperature. This results in me sweating like crazy all the time. 

Yep, I had this with DD.  It's also your hormones getting back to normal.  I think it lasted a few weeks. But yeah, it was a pain.  Nothing to do but keep dry clothes around.

[redlipz]

+1 for sweats. And my feet are ALWAYS sweating. It's so gross. I feel like they're dripping almost.

[missjenniebean]

Another +1 for the sweats. Booo.

[Deleted]

Jun 15, 2015 11:51:29 GMT -5 @badwolf321 said:

Jun 15, 2015 11:21:05 GMT -5 maddib said:

Anyone else dealing with the sweats and cold chills at night? It's every single night and I am getting tired of waking up soaking wet and trying to change things or out a towel down in between feedings.

I have night sweats. You're breast feeding right? I asked my OB about this and she says because of breastfeeding your metabolism is spiking. I'm now usually running a 99.9 temperature. This results in me sweating like crazy all the time. 

I had this the first 2 weeks postpartum and now I'm back to normal. Kept waking up in the cold sweats

[laurenlou83]

+1 for night sweats! It's been almost 3 weeks... I'm hoping they end soon!

[cnumbers]

Hey everyone , I know I've not posted & this may seem drive-by but I've been very busy with little Max. I need to talk to someone. At day 13 we are currently in NICU, due to LO losing 13.9% of his birth weight. I've been in hospital since Friday & he has gained a little but not much, currently on a feeding plan, just been moved to a mother & baby room as the other ward I was in was only for short stays and they weren't listening to me. They felt they knew what was best for Max & had me force feeding him when he wasn't wanting it & vomiting after every feed. I know these details are vague but I'll post more info if you are all wanting to know along with a short birth story. I hope you are all okay, I've missed you. It's hard & I have so much to tell you all. The way I was treated in other ward was awful & the paediatric doctors can't figure out what is causing this as he is healthy in every other way, they say he's just gaining slower than other babies. I'm on the brink of breakdown, the last 4 days have been rough. I know this may seem vague & confusing but I'll elaborate if I get time & I also don't want to overload you as there's so much that has gone on & the post would go on forever.

[sabrinaml]

Jun 15, 2015 17:59:24 GMT -5 budders said:

V has had a gunky eye all day. The eye itself doesn't look red, but there has been goopy yellowish discharge coming from it all day. Should I try to get him into the doctor tomorrow? I don't want to be over-paranoid new mom, but I also don't want to ignore an infection if that's what it is.

Cole has the same thing. I asked his pediatrician and he said it was a clogged tear duct. It's very common in newborns. You can try a warm compress in it, but it should eventually clear up on its own. I apply a warm compress once or twice a day and then use a clean burp cloth to wash rag to wipe out the gunk as it collects throughout the day

[carolyngrace]

cnumbers, sorry to hear that you and DB are struggling with feeding! It's probably a good thing they have you in the hospital until you get back on track. Did they have you try supplementing with formula or anything? Or have you just been trying to BF this whole time?

Feel free to reach out to us as much as you need. I know it's probably hard to see now, but it will get better!

[Deleted]

Jun 15, 2015 17:59:24 GMT -5 budders said:

V has had a gunky eye all day. The eye itself doesn't look red, but there has been goopy yellowish discharge coming from it all day. Should I try to get him into the doctor tomorrow? I don't want to be over-paranoid new mom, but I also don't want to ignore an infection if that's what it is.

DD had this last week. The pedi told me to literally squirt breastmilk from a bottle or your boob into the eye either closed or open and then w clean hands you can massage it around the eyelid if the eye is closed. Do this every feed so every 2 hours for 2 days. If it doesn't clear up then they said to bring her in. You can also take a cotton ball w breast milk on it to gently clean the gunk from the eyelid