Wow it's Wednesday

[MsNicole06]

Anything good going on ladies?

[jjh1119]

We have our parents as teachers educator coming in about five minutes. We are going to discuss general safety, milestones and play an activity with her.

Then off to the cape since we didn't go yesterday. Lobster Roll FTW

[nerdalert]

Going swimming this afternoon at my parents' pool! LO has not been a huge fan the past 2 times, so I hope she's more into it today!

[wildflower810]

We're off to the zoo here soon! It'll be M's first time!

[wicked22]

So I had to bail baby dad out of jail last night. He was supposedly disturbing the peace because he may have accidently creeped out some lady with her 10 month old. The best part was he was able to get the money from someone I just had to pick it up, However when I got to the jail I was 100 short because of an error within the jail. I would have left him sit but I was looking out for my own interest which mean it's better if he's out than in for something stupid. Now if he actually screwed up I would have told him to call someone who cares.

[MsNicole06]

wicked22 glad he got the money from someone else. Hopefully he gets everything taken care of.

So far I've done some laundry and am working on folding baskets of clothes. I'm not sure how little girl can have so many clothes since DH and I haven't bought any. She's got drawers full of 9 month clothes which she doesn't fit into yet. MIL wants to go take a day shopping to buy DD clothes and she doesn't get that we barely mange to wear all of them before she out grows them. Anyone else experience over zealous grandparents with gift giving? I think my living room look like a toy store too.

Ladies who are getting out of the of house enjoy.

[jac409]

MsNicole06, yes, my husband's parents go overboard on the clothes and toys for my kids. But, my husband is an only child, so my kids are the only grandchildren they will ever have. They both have more clothes than they can wear. I am grateful, but sometimes I wish they would just put the money in a college fund or something instead.

I posted the other day that I went to get a Zantac prescription for LO to see if it would help him sleep better. We have gotten two five hour stretches of sleep at night since he started! Yay!

[nerdalert]

MsNicole06 I am pretty fortunate that my family is very generous, but in a thoughtful way. Like, my mom asks me what we need and buys useful things (and it's never clothes). My grandparents occasionally give us an outfit. So I am basically the sole purchaser of LO's clothes, and I keep it pretty minimalist. In the size she's in now, I have 3 sleepers, 6 onesies, 6 rompers/dresses, a swimsuit, and a jacket. It's so easy and refreshing to just have a few things and actually use all of them. I had drawers full of 3 month clothes from my shower, and while I appreciated the gifts, I didn't like wasting all the space and never using half of it.

Maybe you could thank her for her generosity and let her know that you have plenty of clothes, but you could really use diapers/teethers/bath supplies/whatever else?

[littleapplemom]

Jun 10, 2015 10:09:23 GMT -5 MsNicole06 said:

wicked22 glad he got the money from someone else. Hopefully he gets everything taken care of.

So far I've done some laundry and am working on folding baskets of clothes. I'm not sure how little girl can have so many clothes since DH and I haven't bought any. She's got drawers full of 9 month clothes which she doesn't fit into yet. MIL wants to go take a day shopping to buy DD clothes and she doesn't get that we barely mange to wear all of them before she out grows them. Anyone else experience over zealous grandparents with gift giving? I think my living room look like a toy store too.

Ladies who are getting out of the of house enjoy.

Share my pain with me....when I send LO to my parents with a "mommy" shirt on (like mommy's prince charming or mommy's buddy) he mysteriously spits up or pees or poops through it and comes home in a "grammy" shirt.

[MsNicole06]

littleapplemom DD always ends up in a grandma bib covering up what she's wearing at my moms.

nerdalert my MIL regularly buys formula and diapers. She just won't stop buying things. We had to talk her out of the 18 month plus swing/tunnel/slide play place since we are only 7 months. I really appreciate her generosity I just wish she would slow down and put the money towards DDs 529 plan or savings account like she originally talked about doing. It just doesn't seem to be happening and they are always going to get around to it.

MIL's love language is gifts and she's always been way generous with over the top Christmas budgets & big gifts when she gets her bonus in March. I'm really trying to be grateful it just seems like a waste to buy so many things that we out grow quickly. DH always says it's her money and we just smile and say thank you because otherwise feelings get hurt.

[songbirdsinging55]

jjh1119- I think that is the one thing I wish I had. Progress report type meetings but I know we will find him a center when he is a little older.
nerdalert-yay swimming! My brother just bought a house with a pool up the street from us. He says once it is clean to come by anytime.
wicked22- good thing he was able to post bail.
MsNicole06 - oh yes overzealous! MIL buys him a new toy or outfit every week. Many times she has bought clothes that are way too big. She also weirdly has been buying me tops. They aren't too bad at all.
jac409- yay for sleep!

[jjh1119]

My mother in law always gets clothes but barely see him or even asks what size he is. He blew through 0-3 months without being able to wear anything. I told her after my shower that 0-3 was covered. By Christmas he was already outgrowing that size and she got him like 9,000 0-3 month outfits. But like button ups and bow ties. Seriously lady, this kid wears pjs. I'm not going to fuss with that crap. Most were donated because I will not be putting any of my newborns in fussy clothes. Sleep and play all the way.

My mother always asks what we need and usually listens. I may not love everything she picks but I can't complain because the most important thing to me is comfort and she usually gets soft easy on/off clothing and sleep and plays.

[jjh1119]

songbirdsinging55 have you checked the parents as teachers website? It's national and in sync with our school district. We won't have a meeting for July or August because of summer break but will start back up in September

[songbirdsinging55]

Jun 10, 2015 11:52:09 GMT -5 jjh1119 said:

songbirdsinging55 have you checked the parents as teachers website? It's national and in sync with our school district. We won't have a meeting for July or August because of summer break but will start back up in September

Ooh! Tell me more!

[songbirdsinging55]

So I made an appointment with a dietician! It is actually a local practice and not only do they help you figure out your needs, they also offer pharmafoodie classes. Cooking classes! I meet with them next Wednesday.
Also, there is some serious family drama going on and I don't know who to talk to. I can usually talk to DH because he is my best friend too but I can't yet because I don't know what the story is. Not to mention it is his family and I don't know how he will take it. It's so big that I just am completely at a loss.

[MsNicole06]

songbirdsinging55 tell us if you feel comfortable. You can always delete after.

[jjh1119]

Jun 10, 2015 11:54:28 GMT -5 songbirdsinging55 said:

Jun 10, 2015 11:52:09 GMT -5 jjh1119 said:

songbirdsinging55 have you checked the parents as teachers website? It's national and in sync with our school district. We won't have a meeting for July or August because of summer break but will start back up in September

Ooh! Tell me more!

Our teacher, Miss Sarah, comes once a month with some homemade toys with a theme. Today was cause and effect. So a bowl with balls in it. She just lets him play and observe. She brings a few different options in case he doesn't like the toy or whatever. His motor skills are on point/ "advanced". She points out things that he is doing during play that are developmental. His pincer grasp is really good and he really enjoys playing with all her stuff. She gives me handouts about certain things to look out for. Safety recs, etc.

Then she does two types of questionnaires. To see where he is developmentally and then a social one for red flags for sensory disorders.

There are also field trips and library story time. A couple weeks back was a nutrition workshop. Next week we are going to a local farm. All free

[jjh1119]

@songbirdsinging I agree with MsNicole06. If you want/are comfortable. When you're ready.
I love titted for the dietitian. Sounds like you found a good one

[songbirdsinging55]

Jun 10, 2015 12:05:02 GMT -5 MsNicole06 said:

songbirdsinging55 tell us if you feel comfortable. You can always delete after.

That is true!

[songbirdsinging55]

Will probably delete later:
The reason for our relationship with MIL being so rocky is because of my husband's childhood. She told alot of lies. Up until he was 8 he thought he knew his Dad. Only to find out one day that his real father had passed away and she was lying. He found out by her receiving money in his will. Long story short, he grew up never knowing his father. Without a father at all.
The other day I happened to find a message on FB from a guy, he claims to be DH'S half brother. He says his father is alive. He also says that MIL has been sending his father photos and updates over the years about him. He even knows about our son! He says he wants him to know his father and that he is not giving up on him. Now DH doesn't know that I saw this or that I know. He ignored it. I don't know what to do. If you receive something in a will, doesn't there need to be definite proof? I would not put it past her.

[jjh1119]

Oh man songbirdsinging55. Since you are planning on deleting I will be vague.

I wonder if she lied about the will? Maybe came across some money and figured it would be better closure to continue to lie and just say oh he died? I don't know. Since he ignored the message not sure how you could even bring it up.

[songbirdsinging55]

Jun 10, 2015 12:21:22 GMT -5 jjh1119 said:

Oh man songbirdsinging55. Since you are planning on deleting I will be vague.

I wonder if she lied about the will? Maybe came across some money and figured it would be better closure to continue to lie and just say oh he died? I don't know. Since he ignored the message not sure how you could even bring it up.

I am not sure what to think. I asked for a photo because DH'S actual brother who also has a different father, had to find out who his real father was because she did not know.

[MsNicole06]

Oh man songbirdsinging55 that's so rough. Part of me wonders if she lied about the death since she has a history f lies. I feel like as your DH I would want to explore it more but then I think I'd be hurt that potentially my father just didn't make an effort to contact me.

[songbirdsinging55]

Jun 10, 2015 12:28:49 GMT -5 MsNicole06 said:

Oh man songbirdsinging55 that's so rough. Part of me wonders if she lied about the death since she has a history f lies. I feel like as your DH I would want to explore it more but then I think I'd be hurt that potentially my father just didn't make an effort to contact me.

That's just it, he says that he has been trying to contact him but she just gives him photos. Which is weird. Why would she send him pics of our wedding and stuff?

[jjh1119]

Could this dude think he is contacting your Hs brother and that the man is his brother's father? songbirdsinging55?

[songbirdsinging55]

Jun 10, 2015 12:43:42 GMT -5 jjh1119 said:

Could this dude think he is contacting your Hs brother and that the man is his brother's father? songbirdsinging55?

I thought that too but no. DH'S brother's father did really pass away. DNA proof recently.

[jax1182014]

@songbirdsinginb55 wow what a situation. I don't even know what to say

[jjh1119]

songbirdsinging55 so sorry this sounds like a hot mess. I wish I had more to say

[songbirdsinging55]

I am definitely in over my head. I will be talking to DH somehow. I can't hide it from him. We talk about everything!

[pixie523]

songbirdsinging55, i hope your talk goes well. I don't want to give you unsolicited advice, but, I think not telling your H would be harder and have more consequences! vague for vaguing.