Visitor pet peeves

[alayne926]

Any rude visitor stories?

Today as I was getting DS ready to run errands with DH to give me and dd a little break DH's friend RINGS.THE.DOORBELL! We had NO idea he was coming over. He tried calling, but DH was on the other line, so he just decided to show up.

So, here I am...1 week pp, in my sweats and long sleeved shirt, hair in a messy bun and boobs huge since I'm waiting to dry up and I have to make small talk with DH's friend while he finishes up the phone call he was on.

The kicker...he showed no interest in DS until he was like 6 months old when he and his wife met him for the first time...why in God's name would you choose 1 week old to come see the new little one?

Someone else has to have rude stories too, right?

[mrsdee1982]

My inlaws stayed with us for 2 weeks! I have 2 weeks worth of annoying live in visitor stories. The 1st one I can think of is our first real night in the hospital (after the baby was born), they stayed "visiting" us from 3 pm until 10:30 pm. GO HOME PEOPLE! I got no nap or sleep while in the hospital, you know, when I actually had the nurses there to help me.

[billyhorrible]

Other than my MIL staying with us, in our bed, for 2 days longer than she was supposed to. ....

Our next door neighbor came over the first week. Which would have been fine, except he came over while we were eating dinner. And didn't take that as a sign to come back. He stayed, while DH and LBB ate. Meanwhile I was trying to put BH down for the night and after dinner DH wanted to put LBB to bed. DH comes back to the nursery to see if the neighbor can come see the baby. Nope. No he can't. He can come back during daytime hours. Instead he stays for a drink with DH while I take care of the boys so I can have dinner.

[baytosa2013]

No real annoying visitor stories but we live in a new neighborhood where there is still construction going on so we get a lot of solicitors for different home related things. They were ringing the doorbell at least 3 times a day. I finally put s note over the doorbell to not ring it because sleeping baby!!

The only other annoying thing that has happened was that 2 friends invited me to meet them at a park to hang out while their 3yo's played and they were going to get ice cream after. I agreed to just meet them at the park since the older girls would be off playing. Well the time to leave came around (it was 20 mins away) and DD decided she wanted to eat. I text that I might not make it after all because she was eating (they were only planning to play for an hour) and my friend got all butt hurt and was like well if you leave now you can still hang out for like 20 mins. Nope sorry not leaving now, she's EATING!!

[alayne926]

Ugh billyhorrible I would have been livid.

[alayne926]

baytosa2013 I'm considering putting a sign over ours too. Not only do we have a sleeping baby, but a beagle that likes to howl.

[mrsmonogrammed]

DH's cousin's wife who expected me to cover up while BFing comes to mind....I'm sorry but this is MY house. So thanks for dinner but you've overstayed your welcome. I just hid in her nursery until they left. So pissed!

[pghtruelove]

SOs Mom was trying to refuse to leave while visiting at the hospital and I needed to BF the baby. I'm sorry, I don't care if you BFed your two kids, I am new to this and would like my privacy. Also she keeps buying things we don't want/need and her comment when we politely asked her to stop buy us things we aren't going to use she started to cry and say "well I'm the grandparent and I have rights!" to which I finally snapped and said back to her "well we are the parents and we have more rights". We tried being nice about it at first but I can't even anymore. Ugh

[Deleted]

My mother in law came over w my 5 yr old nephew and he had a cold and was wiping his snot everywhere. I asked her to make sure he didn't touch LO and went to the bathroom and that they keep the visit short. I came out and there he was touching her hands. Ugh!! By the next few days our whole family including LO got head colds.

So the next week DH brother wanted to meet the baby and he came over and brought the same nephew over and our niece who is 3. When they walked in I said sorry we both all have head colds and sore throats so you might not want to hang out that long and his response was' that's ok we are all sick too'. WTF is with DH family members continuously coming over sick and not mentioning it beforehand??

The crazy thing is his wife is a general practice doctor and when their kids were infants she was absolutely adamant about these rules w no sick people around the baby but now that her kids are a bit older she doesn't give a shit. Annoying.

[wormgerm]

My FIL takes over the tv so it's either random boring uverse jazz music station or some random old movie or last time it was a gun auction. We all sit around in our home with the most boring program on TV and time goes sooo slow. Very annoying.

[alayne926]

@poppyc8, I would be so mad!

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Joolschweets
The your not up and dressed comment is so bizarre!

[wormgerm]

Joolschweets yay for nurses getting stuff done. People are so dense sometimes

[jcprn]

A few days after I came home SIL, BIL, and their 2 unruly kids wanted to see the baby. Ok fine. We'll my MIL decided she was going to come too without coordinating with anyone. Luckily it was at the same time. But people don't understand that there are certain times it's OK to come but we will dictate that. If it's time for him to eat I'm going to go into the nursery alone with him so he can eat. At his leisure. I'm certainly not going to rush him off the boob for anyone else's sake.

Then our 10 year old niece literally cannot keep her hands off of G, touching him, kissing him all over, and insisting on holding him. Which would all be fine if she weren't so freaking intense about it. Then or 7 year old nephew nearly sat on him because he wasn't paying attention. And my MIL hogs him no matter who else is there.

Since then I've had similar complaints that a lot of you have mentioned before. Visitors coming and not getting the hint that baby needs to sleep or baby is fussy because he needs to eat. No amount of you rocking him is going to help. Sorry.

People are so clueless.

[mcp6286]

Jul 1, 2015 12:57:17 GMT -5 @poppyc8 said:

My mother in law came over w my 5 yr old nephew and he had a cold and was wiping his snot everywhere. I asked her to make sure he didn't touch LO and went to the bathroom and that they keep the visit short. I came out and there he was touching her hands. Ugh!! By the next few days our whole family including LO got head colds.

So the next week DH brother wanted to meet the baby and he came over and brought the same nephew over and our niece who is 3. When they walked in I said sorry we both all have head colds and sore throats so you might not want to hang out that long and his response was' that's ok we are all sick too'. WTF is with DH family members continuously coming over sick and not mentioning it beforehand??

The crazy thing is his wife is a general practice doctor and when their kids were infants she was absolutely adamant about these rules w no sick people around the baby but now that her kids are a bit older she doesn't give a shit. Annoying.

that is awful. Seriously so inconsiderate, I'm livid on your behalf. What kind of jerks come over sick when there's a brand new baby they could infect? I'd feel SO terrible if I ever passed on an illness to a newborn!

[mrsmonogrammed]

Jul 1, 2015 15:12:25 GMT -5 Joolschweets said:

Jul 1, 2015 12:22:56 GMT -5 mrsmonogrammed said:

DH's cousin's wife who expected me to cover up while BFing comes to mind....I'm sorry but this is MY house. So thanks for dinner but you've overstayed your welcome. I just hid in her nursery until they left. So pissed!

Wtf?! I'm a very modest BF-er but I would've been totally tempted to just whip my baps out and just sit there eyeballing her until she felt too uncomfortable to stay! Seriously though, that is really shitty.

And as for sick visitors, I just can't understand why they'd think that was acceptable...

Right?! I mean I totally was going to use a cover as I'm also a very modest BF-er, but it was just the fact that she said it before she even knew what I was going to do! In MY house!

[mrskblack11]

I was BFing when my FIL decided to finally leave. I had a muslin blanket draped over us. FIL rubs LO's head to say good bye, then rubs my knee then rubs my head and touches my nose. WTF. CREEPY MAN GET YOUR HANDS OFF OF ME.

[jcprn]

Jul 1, 2015 18:09:08 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

I was BFing when my FIL decided to finally leave. I had a muslin blanket draped over us. FIL rubs LO's head to say good bye, then rubs my knee then rubs my head and touches my nose. WTF. CREEPY MAN GET YOUR HANDS OFF OF ME.

Oh wow. This creeped me out reading it.

[theBeeMama]

I just had an awkward visitor moment, but I think it was my bad... A friend of mine from church brought us dinner and when she walked in the door the first thing she said was that she couldn't stay long, and DD was nursing, then by the time baby was finished, the girl's two year old was running around with my DS (which was totally fine) but things just got kinda crazy for a second, and then she just kept saying "alright..." Over and over and then finally left. Right as she walked out the door I realized that I think she wanted to hold DD, but I never offered because she said she was in a hurry... Lol. Now I feel bad!! Oh well.

[alayne926]

theBeeMama, if she's not going to use her words (as I tell my 2 year old) then it's not your fault.

[dogmama22]

Jul 1, 2015 18:09:08 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

I was BFing when my FIL decided to finally leave. I had a muslin blanket draped over us. FIL rubs LO's head to say good bye, then rubs my knee then rubs my head and touches my nose. WTF. CREEPY MAN GET YOUR HANDS OFF OF ME.

Eww I hate being touched so this totally gave me the heebie jeebies!!

[dmoney]

Jul 1, 2015 18:09:08 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

I was BFing when my FIL decided to finally leave. I had a muslin blanket draped over us. FIL rubs LO's head to say good bye, then rubs my knee then rubs my head and touches my nose. WTF. CREEPY MAN GET YOUR HANDS OFF OF ME.

This made me uncomfortable just reading this.  I hope you told your husband.

[dmoney]

I was upstairs pumping anddh came into the nursery to change DD.Her feet turned pimple and I freaked out. His mom happened to be downstairs, and I said get your mom and ask her. She comes into the nursery and looks at me and says I've never seen anyone pump before, and them continue to stare at me.. stop looking at my boons and look at my child's feet... she also likes to stare at me anytime she is over and I happen to be BFing. Makes it super uncomfortable in my own house.

[alayne926]

Ugh dmoney, sooo awkward!

[dmoney]

Jul 4, 2015 20:24:11 GMT -5 alayne926 said:

Ugh dmoney, sooo awkward!

I can be in front of my father and now even have to cover up, but in front if her I do. I'm currently having supply issues which she knows,  the other day she came over and said she was planning in staying until she was done eating so she could see her again. i flat out said it would be a whole do she left. But come on woman, you know I'm a first time mom, give me some space. 

100% off topuc, I hate when she asks me if she wants me to keep my LO so I can go run an errand. You aren't keeping my child you are watching her.n please use the correct terminology. 

[billyhorrible]

More awkward than rude, but we have my neighbors over for the fourth, so I was breastfeeding BH in my carrier with a cover. He pulled off and started to fuss, so one of my neighbors comes over and peers down my cover as I'm relatching him. Geeze lady, heard of personal space? Enjoy the eyeful of breast?

[leenziepops]

Shoes inside my house i will tolerate because it's all floorboards or tiles. But drives me crazy when people where shoes on my rug.
Another pet peeve is the tea cups. Please just put it in the dishwasher yourself. Close enough to visit thus early, then close enough to clean up after yourself.

[ravinraven216]

@imapenguin - What the actual hell? That's one of the most abominably rude things I've ever seen.

DH is much more of an extrovert and keeps inviting people over. We did a Fourth of July cookout with friends that our house is still recovering from and yesterday he invited his parents to come up Thursday - he didn't even ask if it was okay with me. I get fussed about my housekeeping, especially when my IL's visit and this tiny human siphoning mylife forces makes cleaning doubly difficult.

[wormgerm]

@imapenguin that's so beyond rude

My MIL constantly shusing baby when he cries. Can't. Fucking. Stand. It. He's FIIIIIIINE! That's his only way of communicating and right now he's saying "I hate having my diaper changed" or "milk NOW!" He isn't just fussing needing to be soothed. He's talking. The crying doesn't bother me but the incessant shusing drives me up a wall.

[carolyngrace]

Jul 7, 2015 7:21:53 GMT -5 wormgerm said:

@imapenguin that's so beyond rude

My MIL constantly shusing baby when he cries. Can't. Fucking. Stand. It. He's FIIIIIIINE! That's his only way of communicating and right now he's saying "I hate having my diaper changed" or "milk NOW!" He isn't just fussing needing to be soothed. He's talking. The crying doesn't bother me but the incessant shusing drives me up a wall.

My sister immediately shushes too, and it drives me crazy. I get that it works for fussy babies, but maybe mine has something else he needs right now!