TC: Sometimes I miss the bump. I liked how our board grew and changed, even though there was some serious drama and BSC people along the way. The BMB for #2 is so too-cool-for-school. The last two days a chick got flamed for asking about stretch marks because she was scared to get them. There's so much post-it talk already and I'm like, there are only 80 different people on this board and almost 0 are newbs. How many post-it's do you need?
My FC - we drove overnight last night to get home from our vacation, and may have had some fun quickly in the car at a rest stop at 3 am because we were falling asleep and needed to wake ourselves up... While the kids were passed out in the back (both rear facing).
Hahaha...I like how you included this detail. Now if they were FF, I'd be side-eying you. JK :-)
I would have been too worried about DS waking up if he wasn't! No idea when he will start remembering things into adulthood, but that doesn't need to be one of his first memories! Haha
Sometimes I get these feelings of intense frustration and almost rage. I feel like everyone needs something from me and I just want 10 minutes by myself.
Here's an example. I'll have just put Dylan down for a nap, taken the dogs out, and bounced Paige to sleep. I do some chores because the house seems a mess to me. I'm about to do something for myself, maybe try to exercise for 10 minutes, when P wakes up crying when I'd been expecting her to sleep for much longer. While she is crying, I feel anger towards her. I have even cursed at her before (and I'm not a swearer!). I don't feel this way towards D, I think because he is so much more independent and can communicate with me. I don't feel this way often, just those moments when I think I'm getting a break and then I'm off to be mom again. I also have so much less patience for our dogs, often thinking they're in the way when really, they are just wanting attention. I'm ashamed of this little part of me.
I think having some designated me time would help me, but it seems there aren't enough hours in the day. I remember having similar feelings when D was a baby, but with time and as he has become more of a little person, they went away.
Can anyone else relate? I feel vulnerable sharing this.
I went through the same thing. Honestly, I still have these feelings every once in awhile. I feel so overwhelmed and I snap. I feel terrible and it's something I'm really trying to work on. You're not alone in this struggle for balance!
Post by xanthepants on Jul 4, 2015 11:15:57 GMT -5
We'll if it's any consolation my nosy neighbors called me out on me yelling at Cosette the other night. They always seem to come by right at bedtime anyway for an evening chat which is by far our most challenging part of the day. Anyway after 1+ hours of trying to get her down I yelled and left the room! which by the way is sometimes the only way to get thru! I go back in a couple minutes and then she is ready to go to bed. Anyway called me out that he was over, heard me and ran away after hearing me yelling. Great. Now he thinks I'm an ogre. Sigh.
Post by somethingcleverer on Jul 4, 2015 12:09:31 GMT -5
xanthepants does he have kids? He should understand!
I have the opposite type of neighbor. They dislike us. Well maybe it's Tim. I can't figure out what their problem is. They have three umbrellas on their deck so we can't look into their yard lol. I took this picture as a in progress pic of my garden and you can see the tree, trellis and 2 of their umbrellas. I feel like we are the white trash neighbors.
We'll if it's any consolation my nosy neighbors called me out on me yelling at Cosette the other night. They always seem to come by right at bedtime anyway for an evening chat which is by far our most challenging part of the day. Anyway after 1+ hours of trying to get her down I yelled and left the room! which by the way is sometimes the only way to get thru! I go back in a couple minutes and then she is ready to go to bed. Anyway called me out that he was over, heard me and ran away after hearing me yelling. Great. Now he thinks I'm an ogre. Sigh.
This is exactly how I have to get Emma to sleep most naps/nights. Just Go To Sleep!!
Post by xanthepants on Jul 4, 2015 17:41:24 GMT -5
I don't know what it is with her! It is like she needs to be brought to tears to know we are serious or something. Otherwise she will just talk and talk and talk. Nothing will stop her fidgeting. So we get fake mad or actual mad and walk out, only to go back in while she is crying , calm her down and then she will sleep. That is what he heard. Whatever. Nothing I can do about it. Except keep the windows closed I guess and know everyone yells.
I don't know what it is with her! It is like she needs to be brought to tears to know we are serious or something. Otherwise she will just talk and talk and talk. Nothing will stop her fidgeting. So we get fake mad or actual mad and walk out, only to go back in while she is crying , calm her down and then she will sleep. That is what he heard. Whatever. Nothing I can do about it. Except keep the windows closed I guess and know everyone yells.
Ah f them. Tommy is like that too. He doesn't get that we're serious until we get stern.
I don't give 2 shits what holiday it is or if its a weekend. If you're in my cul-de-sac making noise at 10pm, I'm calling the friggin cops. I have the countdown going right now!
I don't get the appeal of fireworks? They don't really seem all that fun to me. They are loud and fire is scary. Big professional ones I like to watch from a safe distance, but I don't want to watch someone set off a bottle rocket.
Oh good, a new law in GA states you can do fireworks until 2am! WHO THE FUCK THOUGHT THIS WAS A GOOD IDEA?! Click for brief article
People have no courtesy and I hope every single person doing fireworks right now loses a limb in a fireworks-related accident. Fuck them. My cul-de-sac sounds like a fucking warzone and I'm PISSED. I actually went out there to say something...most people were nice but 1 bitch was like "ITS OUR RIGHT UNTIL 2AM!" Fuck you and your rights. It'll be MY right to sit in front of your house at 4am blaring my car horn.
I also hope a bunch of people sit outside the state representative's house at 2am and lights off a bunch. Maybe start at 1am and go for an hour. Lets see how HE likes it!!
I hope every single person doing fireworks right now loses a limb in a fireworks-related accident. Fuck them.
Seriously? That's fucked up.
I do get that it can be annoying for sure, buuut honestly I could hardly hear them last night when we shut our windows, had our air on and the girls slept right through them with their sound machine on. It wasn't a big deal really. AND it is illegal in our state but we just figure It was one night, let them have their fun.
Also, I would much rather our cops be busy keeping the drunk drivers off the road than running around trying to find out who is shooting off fireworks
Post by bantyrooster on Jul 5, 2015 19:59:54 GMT -5
We were told once when we called on a random January day and our drunk neighbor, who was renting, was lighting them off. That even if it is an approved firework time you can at anytime make a noise complaint. So if if its 10:00 on July 4th you could technically make a noise complaint. I was so glad he didn't rent long. He was an ass.
We were told once when we called on a random January day and our drunk neighbor, who was renting, was lighting them off. That even if it is an approved firework time you can at anytime make a noise complaint. So if if its 10:00 on July 4th you could technically make a noise complaint. I was so glad he didn't rent long. He was an ass.
I'm going to try this. There's more fireworks tonight, ARGH! There was a LOT of drinking and stupidity last night. The cul-de-sac is a mess, they didn't even clean up! I'm sick and tired of cleaning up my yard, etc because people are assholes.
We wouldn't need the cops to come out if people had respect for their neighbors: bring it in at a reasonable hour, don't go overboard, keep fireworks off other peoples' property (because god forbid you start a fire!) and clean up after yourselves. THIS is why we need laws and cops. Drunk people and explosives don't mix.
mightybee - I know everyone else weighted in, but you are definitely not alone. I've been struggling with the same thing. There are so many times where I get upset/crabby because I just need some down time. Kayleigh and Andrew rarely nap at the same time, plus Andrew usually only naps for 30 minutes at most. It's rough since I never have any me time. I will sometimes try to put Andrew in the jumperoo and let Kayleigh watch some tv. Then it seems like the minute I try to do something like cook dinner (I like to cook so I consider it some me time), Andrew has to start fussing, Kayleigh wants something to eat/drink, etc. I used to love the time I had pumping at work because I had some me time to just stop and read my book. Now that Andrew is weaned, I literally have no more time to read. In the evenings, after I get everything ready for the next day, H makes me feel guilty for sitting down to watch tv, read, etc because he wants time to hang out. It's exhausting. When it was just Kayleigh, it was so much easier. I used to just pass her off to H to do her bedtime routine and I would go out to do some shopping. It's so much harder with 2 to do that now. Actually, I guess I just feel guilty doing that. At least once a week I have to do bedtime for the 2 of them by myself. Last night was my last night bfing Andrew before bed, so H should now be able to do Andrew's bedtime.
sarasansh - I tried getting in on the D14 board when I was pregnant with Andrew while we were still on the Bump. They were literally jumping down everyone's throat for practically every post. I just couldn't take it and stopped following. I couldn't help thinking about the poor girls who were asking what I thought were normal questions. The second (or more) timers were just so aweful to the first-timers. I just kept remembering what it was like to be going through it the first time and just am so grateful for the awesome ladies on our board.
I never get on a computer on the weekends and I hate the phone app, so I'm catching up now...
mightybee I feel that way all the time. For me, it's really frustrating right now because they both want to sit in my lap. At the same time. And they wrestle it out. IN MY LAP. I get so frustrated and just want to hurl them both off of me and I've actually told them before "Just stop touching me for 5 freaking minutes!!!" And then of course I feel guilty because I don't want them to think I don't want to snuggle or to hold them, and I know one day they won't want to come near me and I'll be desperate to cuddle. Sigh. This parenting thing - so much harder and more complicated than I ever dreamed it could be.
Re: fireworks - if you're shooting them off at 1AM on a random night - I'll be pissed. But on the 4th of July? Have at it. Wishing harm to people celebrating on the 4th with fireworks - that's super shitty MissMusic I know you probably give zero fucks, but you and your child being woken up one night of the year is no reason at all to wish harm to your neighbors for participating in completely legal and reasonable celebration. You need to get over yourself and get a little perspective.
Re: fireworks - if you're shooting them off at 1AM on a random night - I'll be pissed. But on the 4th of July? Have at it. Wishing harm to people celebrating on the 4th with fireworks - that's super shitty MissMusic I know you probably give zero fucks, but you and your child being woken up one night of the year is no reason at all to wish harm to your neighbors for participating in completely legal and reasonable celebration. You need to get over yourself and get a little perspective.
I wish it was only one night a year but the law says they can do it on holidays and days leading up to it until 2 a.m. I'm sorry but that's just not okay. People work, people have kids, people are sick etc. I will not get over myself when people are being ridiculous. I'm not asking them to stop the celebration I'm asking them for some courtesy which obviously people with your opinion do not have. Just because you can go to 2 a.m. doesn't mean you should. And it's much more than being woken up. It's the mess in your yard, it's a mess in your street, it's the property damage and everything that goes along with it. So yes I will get on my high horse and I won't get off.
Edit: we also can do fireworks any day of the week now. So we had fireworks July 3rd, 4, 5, and now today this morning before lunch. Try living here for a week, it gets old real quick. As for my angry response which was the equivalent of telling someone to go jump off a bridge but I guess everyone here took it too far, I now have no remorse because I see how the opinions fall. I guess ridiculous behavior gets a ridiculous response from me, and then ridiculous responses from everyone else. So, no f**** given.
There's going to be a story on the news about it tonight actually, because so many people are pissed.
Re: fireworks - if you're shooting them off at 1AM on a random night - I'll be pissed. But on the 4th of July? Have at it. Wishing harm to people celebrating on the 4th with fireworks - that's super shitty MissMusic I know you probably give zero fucks, but you and your child being woken up one night of the year is no reason at all to wish harm to your neighbors for participating in completely legal and reasonable celebration. You need to get over yourself and get a little perspective.
I wish it was only one night a year but the law says they can do it on holidays and days leading up to it until 2 a.m. I'm sorry but that's just not okay. People work, people have kids, people are sick etc. I will not get over myself when people are being ridiculous. I'm not asking them to stop the celebration I'm asking them for some courtesy which obviously people with your opinion do not have. Just because you can go to 2 a.m. doesn't mean you should. And it's much more than being woken up. It's the mess in your yard, it's a mess in your street, it's the property damage and everything that goes along with it. So yes I will get on my high horse and I won't get off.
Edit: we also can do fireworks any day of the week now. So we had fireworks July 3rd, 4, 5, and now today this morning before lunch. Try living here for a week, it gets old real quick. As for my angry response which was the equivalent of telling someone to go jump off a bridge but I guess everyone here took it too far, I now have no remorse because I see how the opinions fall. I guess ridiculous behavior gets a ridiculous response from me, and then ridiculous responses from everyone else. So, no f**** given.
There's going to be a story on the news about it tonight actually, because so many people are pissed.
First - your post was written ON July 4th and specifically said you didn't care that it was a holiday.
Second - you seem to think that your neighborhood in your town is the only one in the country where people shoot off fireworks. I had fireworks wake me up in the middle of the night on the 4th. I heard fireworks going off all weekend. I saw debris scattered about throughout the neighborhood as I went for my run yesterday. But you know what I didn't do? I didn't say "I hope every single person doing fireworks right now loses a limb in a fireworks-related accident. Fuck them." People are not ridiculous for shooting fireworks on the 4th of July. Every city in the entire country is full of people shooting fireworks on the 4th of July. What is ridiculous is ranting that you hope they get injured doing it.
Third - there have been countless stories on the news about how many people are pissed about the SCOTUS ruling. It doesn't make them any less bigoted and ignorant just because they get their 15 minutes of fame on the local news.
I wish it was only one night a year but the law says they can do it on holidays and days leading up to it until 2 a.m. I'm sorry but that's just not okay. People work, people have kids, people are sick etc. I will not get over myself when people are being ridiculous. I'm not asking them to stop the celebration I'm asking them for some courtesy which obviously people with your opinion do not have. Just because you can go to 2 a.m. doesn't mean you should. And it's much more than being woken up. It's the mess in your yard, it's a mess in your street, it's the property damage and everything that goes along with it. So yes I will get on my high horse and I won't get off.
Edit: we also can do fireworks any day of the week now. So we had fireworks July 3rd, 4, 5, and now today this morning before lunch. Try living here for a week, it gets old real quick. As for my angry response which was the equivalent of telling someone to go jump off a bridge but I guess everyone here took it too far, I now have no remorse because I see how the opinions fall. I guess ridiculous behavior gets a ridiculous response from me, and then ridiculous responses from everyone else. So, no f**** given.
There's going to be a story on the news about it tonight actually, because so many people are pissed.
First - your post was written ON July 4th and specifically said you didn't care that it was a holiday.
Second - you seem to think that your neighborhood in your town is the only one in the country where people shoot off fireworks. I had fireworks wake me up in the middle of the night on the 4th. I heard fireworks going off all weekend. I saw debris scattered about throughout the neighborhood as I went for my run yesterday. But you know what I didn't do? I didn't say "I hope every single person doing fireworks right now loses a limb in a fireworks-related accident. Fuck them." People are not ridiculous for shooting fireworks on the 4th of July. Every city in the entire country is full of people shooting fireworks on the 4th of July. What is ridiculous is ranting that you hope they get injured doing it.
Third - there have been countless stories on the news about how many people are pissed about the SCOTUS ruling. It doesn't make them any less bigoted and ignorant just because they get their 15 minutes of fame on the local news.
Again: Its not the holiday itself, its the lack of respect which you are so nicely demonstrating. I expect fireworks on the 4th, not every day before & after and not in the wee hours. Why is self control and respect for others such a hot button issue?! My rant was the equivalent of telling someone to go jump off a bridge, but ok lets take it farther. So now I care even less about how it came across. I never said I thought my town was the only town with fireworks. Clearly its not, but who you live next to makes all the difference, because some people can have fun without being obnoxious and some can't. Finally, I'm glad its on the news. The law is poorly written, inconsiderate, and quite frankly its ambiguous. Since it just passed, NOW is the best time to try to get it changed or re-written. So good, I'm glad some attention is being brought to it. Comparing this with gay rights is like apples & oranges.
Post by snickers4everyone on Jul 6, 2015 13:26:35 GMT -5
@mightbee, I know I'm late but I wanted to say I've been there. It sucks, and it seems like one of those things that no one talks about so it's hard to tell if you're alone. As you see from the other posts, you are NOT alone. I still feel horrible guilt because when Emmy was just a month or two old, I actually told her I hated her. I never felt like I had time even to bathe, and as soon as I closed my eyes, it seemed she was immediately up and screaming. I was over tired, dealing with untreated PPD, and generally in a bad state of mind, but I still feel the shame of that night. And after Nicky was born, I felt pulled in so many directions. Two kids, two dogs, family obligations, a husband who works an odd schedule...sometimes it's overwhelming. I still often feel disconnected with who I am outside of "mom" or "wife." I'm honestly just now trying to rediscover myself and do things just because it's what I need for me. Try to be kind to yourself, OK? I know how hard you try to be a good everything for everybody. Of course you are going to get frustrated and angry. It will get better. Love and hugs to you, lady.
Post by snickers4everyone on Jul 6, 2015 13:47:38 GMT -5
MissMusic I feel you on the fireworks annoyance. It sounded like mortar fire outside of Emmy's closed window. I couldn't help but laugh at myself for being irritated though, because I know in the next year or so we will be part of the crowds watching them. It's just hard when every time your kid is juuuuuust about to fall asleep, a big boom goes off. And I know you didn't literally want everyone to lose a limb. Just maybe singe an eyebrow or two.
I must really live in a small neighborhood or one that's nice because none of the fireworks have ever woken up my kids. And yes they have been let off late at night, and even a week before the 4th. We keep our house pretty tight with the air on so maybe that's part of it.
I agree roo1582--there seems like no extra time with 2 kids. How do people do 3, 4, or more??? But this phase will be short-lived. Thought I am dreading my H going out of town at the end of the month--24/7 kids for a week??! Aah!!! I think I will need back up. Hahaha.
jodielyn10 the touching. I just can't sometimes either. Hahaha.
Thanks for the kind words snickers4everyone. I know what you mean about finding yourself. I feel like I lost fragments of myself when D was first born and as I was getting them back into place, things got flipped around again with P. But I know that I will get there again and I know that I'm becoming a different person in the process and that my fragments might not fit together exactly as they once did. Well, that got rambly.
Thanks mightybee It is harder this time just knowing its really the end. But at the same time, I know its the right decision too. He just wasn't really getting anything anymore. After his bottle, he seemed much more content to just go to bed than he has in a little while. I didn't BF him at all yesterday and I'm still not engorged or uncomfortable.
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