UO/FC

[summergirl1211]

I hope you ladies don't mind, but I was going to combine these today with the holiday coming up and people being out of town. So spill! 

[summergirl1211]

I'm not sure what category this falls into, but while I completely agree with the article posted in Chat Stew about not lying on FB, I also don't want to be complaining about my life all the time on there either. I mean, what's the balance between sweet pictures and updates and complaining about my life? I guess no matter what, people will be offended/irritated by FB.

[jennmm]

Jul 2, 2015 8:24:28 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

I'm not sure what category this falls into, but while I completely agree with the article posted in Chat Stew about not lying on FB, I also don't want to be complaining about my life all the time on there either. I mean, what's the balance between sweet pictures and updates and complaining about my life? I guess no matter what, people will be offended/irritated by FB.

It's a hard line to find. I have FB friends who do nothing but complain and some who do nothing but brag about how wonderful their life is. It's equally annoying. Personally, I try to keep it real. Life isn't all rainbows and unicorns. It shouldn't completely suck either.

[starfishy]

Jul 2, 2015 8:24:28 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

I'm not sure what category this falls into, but while I completely agree with the article posted in Chat Stew about not lying on FB, I also don't want to be complaining about my life all the time on there either. I mean, what's the balance between sweet pictures and updates and complaining about my life? I guess no matter what, people will be offended/irritated by FB.

I hear you and agree. I post what makes me happy and think will make others smile or they will be interested in.

My sister does my biggest Facebook pet peeve. My mom brings the kids somewhere, sends my sister a picture and then my sister posts it on Facebook like she was there. Which brings me to my confession- my sister can be a pretty crappy parent. I get she is a single parent, but my mom really does everything and my sister hardly spends anytime with the kids. There is always a babysitter there. It's sad. And basically she acts like she's such a good parent on Facebook and everyone is all "omg, you're so strong." No it should be "omg your parents are a godsend"

[jennmm]

I'm tired and exhausted by the lack of tolerance in the world. I wish people would stop trying to get everything they don't like banned and just focus on what makes them happy. My FB feed looks like a nonstop banning/boycotting mess. I think, as much as we preach tolerance, many of us aren't very.

[bliz1712]

I find it annoying when I'm on with someone at work regarding business and they refer to me as "sweetie" or "honey". Do I sound like a child on the phone maybe? Either way, it's not appropriate in a business atmosphere and to me it rubbed me the wrong way. It felt like she was talking down to me.

[jennmm]

Jul 2, 2015 8:58:28 GMT -5 bliz1712 said:

I find it annoying when I'm on with someone at work regarding business and they refer to me as "sweetie" or "honey". Do I sound like a child on the phone maybe? Either way, it's not appropriate in a business atmosphere and to me it rubbed me the wrong way. It felt like she was talking down to me.

I've gotten "baby" and "little lady". Very unprofessional and often seems condescending.

[summergirl1211]

Jul 2, 2015 8:58:28 GMT -5 bliz1712 said:

I find it annoying when I'm on with someone at work regarding business and they refer to me as "sweetie" or "honey". Do I sound like a child on the phone maybe? Either way, it's not appropriate in a business atmosphere and to me it rubbed me the wrong way. It felt like she was talking down to me.

A woman referred to you as that? Was it someone you were talking to for the first time or someone you're familiar with? Maybe she calls everyone sweetie? 

[summergirl1211]

Okay, here's my confession. I was planning on taking today off as a vacation day because it's slow at work and I could really use a longer weekend (we have tomorrow off for the holiday and I took Monday off too). But instead I'm "working from home" and doing the bare minimum. #1 employee right here!

[bliz1712]

Jul 2, 2015 9:02:07 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

Jul 2, 2015 8:58:28 GMT -5 bliz1712 said:

I find it annoying when I'm on with someone at work regarding business and they refer to me as "sweetie" or "honey". Do I sound like a child on the phone maybe? Either way, it's not appropriate in a business atmosphere and to me it rubbed me the wrong way. It felt like she was talking down to me.

A woman referred to you as that? Was it someone you were talking to for the first time or someone you're familiar with? Maybe she calls everyone sweetie? 

It was a business rep from a local phone carrier at one of our locations.  I asked if it would affect our Long distance and she responded using those both.  Even if I do sound young, if I have the authority to change carriers or stuff for a company it's kind of rude to talk to someone like that.

Our owner refers to me as kiddo and I laugh it off. Mainly because he could be my Dad and he's just the type that would do that and it's in person so I know it's not meant in a mean way.  Also, because I think he always forgets my name and it's not the easiest to pronounce so he says it to cover his butt for saying it wrong.

[mommymadness]

Jul 2, 2015 8:58:28 GMT -5 bliz1712 said:

I find it annoying when I'm on with someone at work regarding business and they refer to me as "sweetie" or "honey". Do I sound like a child on the phone maybe? Either way, it's not appropriate in a business atmosphere and to me it rubbed me the wrong way. It felt like she was talking down to me.

My bil calls me things like that a lot and I find it weird but have just accepted that's how he talks. Lol
Once my friends mom reamed a girl out, she was a clothing store worker, for calling her dear, I think t was. She said she was her elder and she shouldn't be calling her that. It was awkward and bitchy. I highly doubt the young girl said it to offend her.

[bliz1712]

summergirl1211, haha I've been doing the bare minimum since last Friday. It's a slow time and my boss has been gone.

[aylafsu1881]

summergirl1211, I agree with you there. It is a fine line between always bitching and the over the top stuff. What gets me is the sappy, gloating, over the top posts that just seem to glorify stuff. The one Laurski posted about cooking pancakes for breakfast was a perfect example. So you H actually made food? Umm he should be able to cook and feed himself at that age.

[starfishy]

Jul 2, 2015 9:28:17 GMT -5 aylafsu1881 said:

summergirl1211, I agree with you there. It is a fine line between always bitching and the over the top stuff. What gets me is the sappy, gloating, over the top posts that just seem to glorify stuff. The one Laurski posted about cooking pancakes for breakfast was a perfect example. So you H actually made food? Umm he should be able to cook and feed himself at that age.

I once had a Facebook friend say "thank you to my wonderful husband who gave the girls a bath tonight."
If you have to publicly thank your husband for giving your kids a bath than you might want to rethink how things go down in your house.

[somethingcleverer]

I have a lot of patients call me honey, sweetie etc at work. For a lot of them it's just an expression they say all the time. I know one elderly lady calls everyone baby. The tech I'm always complaining about gets mad about men calling her honey or sweetie but in my experience most of them don't mean it in a derogatory way.

I can see it being worse in bliz1712 situation though because she is talking to a peer about work and not making small talk while ringing out a prescription.

[cbear]

I was going to post the same thing summergirl1211! Ya I have shit days, fights with my husband and want to pull my hair out a lot of the time. BUT that's life and i don't want to air my dirty laundry. I haaaaate when people post those passive aggressive comments that are vague but indicate something is wrong, basically just wanting attention. SO I stick with the happier posts and things that my family who aren't near can catch up on and smile about. And yes the occasional my toddler is cray cray post lol!

[xanthepants]

I spend the better part of my days wondering how to plot to get my husband to buy a house I want with very little regard to what he wants in a house at this point. How selfish is that? Because mainly he won't say what he wants, and I know it's because he is dragging his feet because if he slows the process down so much he won't have to move at all and I'm tired of it.

[roo1582]

I was going to take down the rainbow profile pic from my FB account after a few days but my mom is still posting articles and other stuff regarding the whole supreme court ruling so I'm leaving it up just because I know it bothers her.

[summergirl1211]

Jul 2, 2015 9:42:12 GMT -5 xanthepants said:

I spend the better part of my days wondering how to plot to get my husband to buy a house I want with very little regard to what he wants in a house at this point. How selfish is that? Because mainly he won't say what he wants, and I know it's because he is dragging his feet because if he slows the process down so much he won't have to move at all and I'm tired of it.

I don't blame you one bit xanthepants! At this point it seems like he wants to stay at your current house regardless of your feelings on the matter so you're no worse than he is! 

[junkytrunk]

Jul 2, 2015 10:00:37 GMT -5 roo1582 said:

I was going to take down the rainbow profile pic from my FB account after a few days but my mom is still posting articles and other stuff regarding the whole supreme court ruling so I'm leaving it up just because I know it bothers her.

It's funny I saw an article about those rainbow profile pictures and it was all "this was a social experiment to see how people react to what other people are doing. Also, when will people decide it's ok to change their profile picture back to normal?" I thought that was interesting.

[roo1582]

Jul 2, 2015 10:12:56 GMT -5 junkytrunk said:

Jul 2, 2015 10:00:37 GMT -5 roo1582 said:

I was going to take down the rainbow profile pic from my FB account after a few days but my mom is still posting articles and other stuff regarding the whole supreme court ruling so I'm leaving it up just because I know it bothers her.

It's funny I saw an article about those rainbow profile pictures and it was all "this was a social experiment to see how people react to what other people are doing. Also, when will people decide it's ok to change their profile picture back to normal?" I thought that was interesting.

My whole plan was to just show my support for a couple days then take it down.  I'm happy it happened, now I'm ready to move on.  But it seriously irks my mom and I'm kind of enjoying stirring the pot at this point.  I'll probably take it down later today.

[bliz1712]

I wish everyone would change it back at this point too. Not because I don't like the reasoning behind it but because it makes everyone's profile picture look the same. When I'm in my groups or FB chats I have to actually place someone by their name first versus their profile picture.

[jodielyn10]

Jul 2, 2015 8:24:28 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

I'm not sure what category this falls into, but while I completely agree with the article posted in Chat Stew about not lying on FB, I also don't want to be complaining about my life all the time on there either. I mean, what's the balance between sweet pictures and updates and complaining about my life? I guess no matter what, people will be offended/irritated by FB.

My issue with that article is this: I don't share every moment of my lyfe on FB. I don't feel the need to give a rundown of my day eeeerrrrryyyy day. I only post something when I feel it's "post worth" i.e. a particularly cute picture or a special event. So no, it's not the real life stuff when I post it - but that's the point. I'm not going to post a picture of my kids still in pj's at 10 am having a snack with messy hair and dishes still in the sink just to be "real". If my husband does happen to make a fantastic meal that the kids love and I feel like sharing - then I consider that share worthy.

ETA:  I mention the meal bit because my husband made this whole fish baked in sea salt a while back and it was to die for and I shared it on FB.  I don't feel the need to post a glowing compliment to my husband when he makes them scrambled eggs for breakfast.  That's called parenting.

[summergirl1211]

Jul 2, 2015 10:55:49 GMT -5 jodielyn10 said:

Jul 2, 2015 8:24:28 GMT -5 summergirl1211 said:

I'm not sure what category this falls into, but while I completely agree with the article posted in Chat Stew about not lying on FB, I also don't want to be complaining about my life all the time on there either. I mean, what's the balance between sweet pictures and updates and complaining about my life? I guess no matter what, people will be offended/irritated by FB.

My issue with that article is this: I don't share every moment of my lyfe on FB. I don't feel the need to give a rundown of my day eeeerrrrryyyy day. I only post something when I feel it's "post worth" i.e. a particularly cute picture or a special event. So no, it's not the real life stuff when I post it - but that's the point. I'm not going to post a picture of my kids still in pj's at 10 am having a snack with messy hair and dishes still in the sink just to be "real". If my husband does happen to make a fantastic meal that the kids love and I feel like sharing - then I consider that share worthy.

Exactly. 

[junkytrunk]

I also only post good updates. No one needs to know I'm having a bad day, I don't need anyone's pity. (Except here of course ) I think the problem most people have is when some people post things to glorify themselves like "look at the 12 freezer meals I made all while playing catch with my 2 year old and making a wreath for the front door."

[xanthepants]

SH%$ guys. I can't tell if I annoy the piss out of you on FB or you love me. Hahahahaha. I'm just going to keep on keeping on.

[starfishy]

None of you peeps are annoying Facebook people at all. I have like 5 "friends" I can name off of my head. 2 I keep just for the entertainment value of spreading their nonsense to you.

[jodielyn10]

So to beat this dead horse just a little more: I think the "perfect" FB posts we all hate are the ones that are bragging. "My kid picked carrots over candy! Parenting WIN!!" Shit. If my daughter picked carrots over candy I wouldn't be posting about it on FB because I'd be busy hauling ass to the ER because something would clearly be wrong!

There's a difference in highlighting a particularly nice thing that happened and posting every day about how perfect you life is cause that's just how you roll.

[starfishy]

Jul 2, 2015 11:39:50 GMT -5 jodielyn10 said:

So to beat this dead horse just a little more: I think the "perfect" FB posts we all hate are the ones that are bragging. "My kid picked carrots over candy! Parenting WIN!!" Shit. If my daughter picked carrots over candy I wouldn't be posting about it on FB because I'd be busy hauling ass to the ER because something would clearly be wrong!

There's a difference in highlighting a particularly nice thing that happened and posting every day about how perfect you life is cause that's just how you roll.

You are awesome.

Who is the person that knew the kid named Stone that could speak French and make awesome towers. Every time T builds a Lego tower I think about him. Because seriously guys my kid is the best Lego-er EVA!

[origamimommy]

starfishy, it was bubbajug. And lewispm called her out on it once (the girl with the kid named stone, not bubbajug) and it was fucking hilarious.


Also, my FC is that H and I have been working hard on us. I still want to leave, but I am giving one more all or nothing shot before I do. Anyway, he thinks having sex = no more problems. So we aren't having sex right now. JFC I NEED THE SEX. I WANT TO DO THE SEX. SO BADLY.