Post by cynthia2007 on Jul 26, 2015 19:40:58 GMT -5
A asked to go pee pee on the potty twice today and each time she had just gone. I'm hoping in the next few weeks she'll magically start telling me BEFORE she goes
A asked to go pee pee on the potty twice today and each time she had just gone. I'm hoping in the next few weeks she'll magically start telling me BEFORE she goes
I don't always wait for KJ to tell me she has to go. I just take her about 30 minutes after she drinks anything even if she says she doesn't have to go. I think waiting for them to ask is stage 2. With KJ I just got her used to going regularly for a while. Now she can tell me before she has to go but sometimes I still just take her when I think it's time. And she can hold it for a while now so I don't have to do it as often but it makes me feel better that she won't have an accident.
A asked to go pee pee on the potty twice today and each time she had just gone. I'm hoping in the next few weeks she'll magically start telling me BEFORE she goes
I don't always wait for KJ to tell me she has to go. I just take her about 30 minutes after she drinks anything even if she says she doesn't have to go. I think waiting for them to ask is stage 2. With KJ I just got her used to going regularly for a while. Now she can tell me before she has to go but sometimes I still just take her when I think it's time. And she can hold it for a while now so I don't have to do it as often but it makes me feel better that she won't have an accident.
When we did naked weekend, I was taking her every hr and still no go. We weren't trying today, it was just funny that she would run to me and say "hurry, hurry I pee pee in the potty" and she'd already gone. We're going to try again in a few weeks but if she asks I've put her on the potty.
That does sound like progress cynthia2007. Is daycare supporting too?
Yes and no. They said they would but I'm not sure how much effort they put in. They've got 22 other kids in there so I doubt they'll put her on the potty every hour. They definitely put her on the potty if it's time to change her and she's dry or when she wakes up from nap time. I need to take off on a Friday, do the naked weekend again and pray for a miracle!
Re: Depression. I think i struggle with the idea of someone being able to fix the problem/feelings im having just by talking to them about it. Is it possible to fix depression without meds? Im not 100% against taking them but im not excited about taking them either.
H has been wearing Aspen cologne since the 90s and it is getting hard to find. I love it on him.
Tonight our 20ish year old sandwich artist dude at Subway asked H what he was wearing because it was nice. He said Aspen and the dude of course hadn't heard of it. He asked where to buy it and without thinking I said "1995!"
H thought I was picking on him and I felt bad.
Aweeee i lol'ed at your answer but aweeees for your hubby!
Re: Depression. I think i struggle with the idea of someone being able to fix the problem/feelings im having just by talking to them about it. Is it possible to fix depression without meds? Im not 100% against taking them but im not excited about taking them either.
I don't know your specifics but basically if a person can get themselves to be active & productive this should help depressed feelings. With me I got physically healthy, attended therapy regularly and was being productive in my hobbies and at work but still was depressed so it's a chemical thing for me that needs to be treated medically. My brain just doesn't produce what it needs to without my meds. I still see a therapist as well, just not as often now that I am in a habit of a more healthy routine and lifestyle. Meds will most likely be a forever thing for me but that's certainly not the case for everyone. Some go on them so they can feel good enough to to be active & productive which then "cures" the depression and then meds can be slowly taken away (under the supervision of a dr of course).
Post by mommycoffee on Jul 26, 2015 21:51:09 GMT -5
Please know that I'm not saying you are not being active & productive because I certainly don't know your specifics cl8badb
Active & productive = what I viewed as being needed in my life to define myself as doing everything I could to be well & not depressed. Hope that makes sense & that my experience provided you some info you were looking for.
Post by heelibrarian on Jul 26, 2015 21:56:07 GMT -5
cl8badb Again, big hugs. Like mommycoffee, I'm certain my chronic depression is a chemical imbalance. I've made my peace with that; I tried to get off meds once and found out quickly that it wasn't going to work. Maybe you need to talk to someone initially to see if you can make progress that way, and be open to other things as well (exercise etc). Know that you may have to try different kinds of treatment to see what happens (especially with meds, should you go that route). We're here for you regardless! Lean on us!
Re: Depression. I think i struggle with the idea of someone being able to fix the problem/feelings im having just by talking to them about it. Is it possible to fix depression without meds? Im not 100% against taking them but im not excited about taking them either.
Talking helps you fix you. And many therapy models involve more than just talking. You will have to actually do things like homework (so many different things depending on your issues) and talk about things you probably normally ignore or avoid. That's what makes therapy good and hard. Facing feeling and issues that you don't want to talk about are explored. That's what helps you heal. I hope you will at least give it a try.
Please know that I'm not saying you are not being active & productive because I certainly don't know your specifics cl8badb
Active & productive = what I viewed as being needed in my life to define myself as doing everything I could to be well & not depressed. Hope that makes sense & that my experience provided you some info you were looking for.
This kind of feels like me. Most mornings i wake up very "seize the day" but by the time Js nap time rolls around my motivation is gone. I sit on the couch, order lunch, nap and put off things until tomorrow.
I feel amazing on the days that i actually do things. I think "wow, i need to do this every day!" But then the next day comes and im on the couch. Losing the motivation gets me down. I beat myself up for being lazy which makes me feel even less motivated. I wish i could just stay in the morivated stage. Its like i forget how good being productive feels. I try to push myself but sometimes i just cant.
Re: Depression. I think i struggle with the idea of someone being able to fix the problem/feelings im having just by talking to them about it. Is it possible to fix depression without meds? Im not 100% against taking them but im not excited about taking them either.
I think there are definitely ways to cope without meds. I've never talked about it, but I've suffered with a certain type of OCD over the years that is brought on by stress and I get extreme anxiety along with it. I haven't seen a therapist since my early 20's (when I had the hardest time) but I never took meds. I was scared how they would make me feel. I knew it was an option if I wanted it down the road but found it comforting to validate what I was going through with someone, and to work through certain mental exercises that helped me cope. In fact, none of the therapists I even worked with would have been able to write me a prescription if I wanted it. There's so many different types of therapy out there. I really encourage talking to someone.
I have a few OCD issues and i definitely have anxiety issues too. I try to stop and work through it but sometimes its hard.
Post by cynthia2007 on Jul 26, 2015 22:50:03 GMT -5
I feel terrible. Put A to bed around 9 and I thought she was out but she woke up at 10 wide awake. I brought her in our bed bc she was crying to come get her. She's sang every song she knows and rolled all over the place. She just fell asleep. Morning is going to suck big time. Lesson learned for sure
Post by cynthia2007 on Jul 26, 2015 22:53:58 GMT -5
Hugs cl8badb. I hope you can see someone to get you the help you seek. It's hard but I know so many people who have positive experiences with therapy w/ and w/o meds
I know I need to see someone to help process a lot of things going on right now especially with my parents and my constant feeling of being a failure at many aspects of my life but I can't bring myself to do it.
Please know that I'm not saying you are not being active & productive because I certainly don't know your specifics cl8badb
Active & productive = what I viewed as being needed in my life to define myself as doing everything I could to be well & not depressed. Hope that makes sense & that my experience provided you some info you were looking for.
This kind of feels like me. Most mornings i wake up very "seize the day" but by the time Js nap time rolls around my motivation is gone. I sit on the couch, order lunch, nap and put off things until tomorrow.
I feel amazing on the days that i actually do things. I think "wow, i need to do this every day!" But then the next day comes and im on the couch. Losing the motivation gets me down. I beat myself up for being lazy which makes me feel even less motivated. I wish i could just stay in the morivated stage. Its like i forget how good being productive feels. I try to push myself but sometimes i just cant.
I rambled a bit. ^^^
I've only read the last couple of pages, so I'm not caught up, but this sounds like me! :-) But, I think I'm lazy, not depressed. A lot of times I just don't feel up to the hassle of getting both boys ready and out the door to do something. And then when I'm home, I feel guilty for not spending that time working with P on something like his letters or numbers or whatever. It does feel good when we do get out though. And when I make the effort to put on 'real' clothes. It's helped since I've started try to take P to some weekly activities like story time at the library. And play dates.
ETA: I don't want it to seem like I'm making light of your feelings. I just wanted to comment that that is what my day sounds like too sometimes.
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