Post by huckleberry08 on Jul 27, 2015 1:40:48 GMT -5
I am sharing a room with LO on this trip. DH is in another room so one of us gets a decent rest. It has been going fine til tonight. LO is talking constantly in his sleep. He just sat up and said, "Mama," and I found him just staring at me while swaying in his crib. I think he has a fever, but he laid down again before I could get Motrin in him. He is literally lying there, all turtled up, saying in a regular voice, "Ohh, water! Big truck!... No, water. No." It would be cute if I wasn't so worried. And tired.
Post by everydayimshuffling on Jul 27, 2015 2:46:27 GMT -5
cl8badb I think everyone has already covered it I just wanted to say that I hope you find someone to talk to and just see where it goes. It's amazing what "just talking" can really do. Sometimes it takes a few times to find a therapist that you work well with, but when you do it's worth its weight in gold!
Post by everydayimshuffling on Jul 27, 2015 3:01:07 GMT -5
I just got up to feed O and had to laugh. I steeled myself last night for a night of hellish sleep training with O. I put him down drowsy, he cried. Did the three minute check and then buddy boy passed out. I knew his issue was being able to stay asleep so I just waited for the really tough part to start. I even poured my H and I a big glass of wine each in preparation. And the kid slept until 4:30!! In his crib!! Unswaddled!! We just sat there drinking our wine like "Huh. That was anticlimactic". While I'm ecstatic I can't figure out if this is some kind of joke or fluke and I just got punk'd or what. I'm waiting for some camera crew to come out and tell me this was the longest one they ever did. I am hoping this is not a fluke and am about to put him back down now so we will see how it goes. I mean, really. You guys know what this kid has done to me for the past 5 months when it comes to sleep. He has fought sleep like nobody's business! I have tried putting him down drowsy so many times. I'm just so friggin' confused. And he just went down without a peep. WTF. In a good way. Night y'all.
Post by subliminalrabbit on Jul 27, 2015 4:43:24 GMT -5
cl8badb, I'd like to ask -- and you can decide not to answer -- but, did you feel this way before you started to SAH with J?
I ask because you described exactly how I felt after a couple of months of SAH. I didn't really talk about it here because I felt so blessed to have the time with him. But I realized that I personally do need to work a little bit to feel good. I enjoy what I do; I really just hated the circumstances under which I used to do it. I actually missed it and it took me a while to admit that to myself and I got pretty depressed in the meantime.
And just so no one thinks I'm knocking SAH: I don't. I wish desperately it was for me. But it really just wasn't.
cl8badb so I could hire you out to do a few more projects for me! I'll pay you in products!! I don't like that you feel so down. Message me at nap time if you ever need to! I swear by exercise as a great way to keep your energy level up! Think about lunch hour at work... You work all morning feeling great, kicking butt and taking names.... You sit down for 30 min to an hour so you can. For me... That is the dagger that kills my energy. I can't sit for too long otherwise I'm done but at work you are forced into having to get back at it and finish out your day. At home there's a little more flexibility to put things off, plus at home I feel like there is SO much to accomplish that it seems daunting and it's hard to motivate yourself to want to do it. Does this sound crazy? I feel crazy now.
cl8badb, I'd like to ask -- and you can decide not to answer -- but, did you feel this way before you started to SAH with J?
I ask because you described exactly how I felt after a couple of months of SAH. I didn't really talk about it here because I felt so blessed to have the time with him. But I realized that I personally do need to work a little bit to feel good. I enjoy what I do; I really just hated the circumstances under which I used to do it. I actually missed it and it took me a while to admit that to myself and I got pretty depressed in the meantime.
And just so no one thinks I'm knocking SAH: I don't. I wish desperately it was for me. But it really just wasn't.
I like how you put it, and I'm very much the same way. Totally not knocking anyone's choice in the slightest, but my mood picked up drastically when I returned to work. When at home I always struggled to get the momentum going. I never knew if it was because I'd sleep deprivation with newborns each time, a bit of PPD (I definitely know there was some of this in the mix after K), or just that I do very well with lots of structure and social interaction.
And my video monitor is finally totally broken. Time to replace it... What have you, ladies? I have a Motorola.
I have 2 Motorolas, one for each. My monitor for K is starting to go (picture is getting fuzzy) but I still loved it and bought a newer model for O. It helped that I got it marked way down at Target's going out of business sale here.
Post by subliminalrabbit on Jul 27, 2015 5:47:53 GMT -5
violet, we have a Dropcam (now Nestcam) and since its acquisition by Nest I would NOT recommend it. It's super picky about internet speed now and goes down all. the. time.
I'm going to look at the suggestions that you all provided for a monitor too. We currently just have an audio only one and the display on the parent unit doesn't work anymore. DS loves to play with the buttons and I'm afraid he's going change a setting that I won't be able to change back
Hugs, violet. *highfive* everydayimshuffling!! I hope it wasn't a fluke and O is just ready to sleep appropriately now. Moved M's mattress out from under the ac vent (duh), but she kept rolling off it. I may try to put it back in the crib for naps today and see how that goes. I'm nervous about putting a pool noodle or towel rolled up under her sheet. That seems like a suffocation risk.
Post by huckleberry08 on Jul 27, 2015 6:57:56 GMT -5
Sorry about the rough morning @theformerwren. It is so hard when they cry for us but we can't stay. I bet she isntotally fine now and it sounds like she is in very good hands.
everydayimshuffling I am sitting here grinning like an idiot about O's sleep!! Yes!!
subliminalrabbit I am so glad that you get to see your sister in just a few hours.
cl8badb There are lots of ways to treat depression, often depending on the patient's preferences and if something specific seems to be causing it. You've gotten a lot of awesome advice. I hope it's helpful and that you are feeling more like yourself soon.
Post by huckleberry08 on Jul 27, 2015 6:59:03 GMT -5
We just got a Summer Infant video monitor but have not started using it yet. we will use our vtech audio with the new baby and put this one in D's room.
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